FabSwingers.com forum: Clique

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nooooooooo

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

yes there is. There are cliques in any large group of people its human nature.

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Not that I have ever noticed.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Yes there's one running now....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(?°?°)?? ???

a bit yeah. people have friends, they like their friends better than their not friends, so cliques are going to happen. it's normal.

not like they exclude anyone or anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its cliquity clique I do know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nooooooooo"

I've got a clique of one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to shag someone to get in one

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?"

I believe there probably is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?"

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, I have the cliques decoding ring to for decrypting the hidden messages in the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

I believe there probably is."

Seems that way, doesn't it? Disagree with someone, fair enough. Disprove with facts and figures, even more so. Mud sling and disparage? No. Too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there is. Those in the clique either say there isn't, or genuinely don't actually realise that there is!

But it's definitely there, live and kicking!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

I believe there probably is.

Seems that way, doesn't it? Disagree with someone, fair enough. Disprove with facts and figures, even more so. Mud sling and disparage? No. Too much "

No, it doesn't seem that way at all.

If someone slings mud and you feel disparaged remember they are an individual not 'the forum'

Report them or ignore them and enjoy what you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are regular posters . . But that does not make a clique. . Get involved and you'll find you are welcome. Post something contentious that may look like a veiled criticism of people, and the response won't be great . If several people don't agree with you. . It's not ganging up, it's a general opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't care.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I really don't care. "

Really , really , really ?

or just really ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't care.

Really , really , really ?

or just really ?"

Good point...

Really, really, really, reeeeeeaaally

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Me neither.

There's too much caring about rubbish stuff.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"There are regular posters . . But that does not make a clique. . Get involved and you'll find you are welcome. Post something contentious that may look like a veiled criticism of people, and the response won't be great . If several people don't agree with you. . It's not ganging up, it's a general opinion "

This. Quite a few forum users have been posting for a long time and have gotten to know each other foibles to a certain degree so will tend to post on the same thread. Not a clique, just regulars.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

This. Quite a few forum users have been posting for a long time and have gotten to know each other foibles to a certain degree so will tend to post on the same thread. Not a clique, just regulars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me neither.

There's too much caring about rubbish stuff. "

Exactly.

I have friends on here and people I enjoy interacting with. Does that make me part of a clique? I dunno and I certainly don't care if someone feels butt hurt because they can't interact on the same level as me or other people. I'm sure if they made as much effort to join in as they do complaining then they'd be fine.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

and some say things twice

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

and some say things twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This. Quite a few forum users have been posting for a long time and have gotten to know each other foibles to a certain degree so will tend to post on the same thread. Not a clique, just regulars. "

You've just described a clique

"In the social sciences, a clique (CanE, UK /'kli?k/ or US /'kl?k/) is a group of people who interact with each other more regularly and intensely than others in the same setting.[1]"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Does your definition include :- exclusion and ridicule toward non cliquettes ?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I wouldn't want to be part of any clique that would want me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There sure is!

I get ignored all the time on forums, if I'm not being ignored my posts are being ripped apart as it's just not what they agree with!

However I've grown up and moved out of the primary age of

'I'm better then you' and making other people feel shit about themselves, shame that it seems others haven't..

I'm sure this post will get lots of negative feedback too!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter"

Why is it that when the majority of replies go against someone's opinion that the 'c' word always rears it's head?

Is it not perfectly possible that people simply don't agree with you?

If they all agreed and said "yes, you're 100% right!" Would the same accusation be there?

I somehow doubt it!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Where is Fabio and his pub analogy.

I'm a self confessed regular, with friends I have made on the forum and then gone on to meet.

Cliques are normal. As a regular, even with those friends, I get unfavourable responses, ignored, abuse (this bit not from the friends) and support. How you respond and deal with it is the issue.

As people get to know you and your style you'll find yourself in a clique. It may be the clique of people who moan about a clique but it's no less a clique than the phantom one that is, apparently, everyone else on the forum.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I post what I want and when I want, if others dont like my posts or disagree that's fine I'll still post what I want when I want and everyone else can do the same (although some of the married guys might want to check with their wives first,,, saves an argument

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes of course they are. mostly are perfectly fine but I have encountered some that just use it as a way to bully people. now that isn't on!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Clique membership only comes with the Platinum Site Supporter upgrade.

This can only unlocked by having sexual congress with at least 6 members of the clique and paying a tribute to the Grand Imperial Wizard of the Forum Clique.

I could tell you more but then I'd have to kill you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter

Why is it that when the majority of replies go against someone's opinion that the 'c' word always rears it's head?

Is it not perfectly possible that people simply don't agree with you?

If they all agreed and said "yes, you're 100% right!" Would the same accusation be there?

I somehow doubt it!

The forum would be a lot better place If all types of people were welcome on all types of threads, as st end of the day it is a forum it isn't a place for private conversations between friends on here, we should all be allowed opinions and to not have our opinions berated.

You are quite lucky on here as I noticed you are well liked by the 'regulars' so I imagine you could do no wrong!

The rest of us lower people are quite as accepted!

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

There are many who post very regularly on a wide variety of subjects and have been doing for quite some time, they have there views and opinions and they share them far and wide, nothing at all wrong with this, that is what the forum is for.

However the clique comes from the ones that constantly hi jack threads by starting there little conversations between eachother that only they no what its about and is nothing to do with the op, or they will contradict themselves by giving 1 person a bit of advice but giving someone else the total opposite advice simply because 1 op was a relative newby and the other was 1 of there own.

there is a clique there 100%, most the time its irrelevant, some of the time it can very annoying to see it, and on a few occasions its horrible to see 1 disagree with a post and a lot of others jump on the post without actually reading it properly.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"There sure is!

I get ignored all the time on forums, if I'm not being ignored my posts are being ripped apart as it's just not what they agree with!

However I've grown up and moved out of the primary age of

'I'm better then you' and making other people feel shit about themselves, shame that it seems others haven't..

I'm sure this post will get lots of negative feedback too!

What is negative feedback? Is it a response that doesn't agree with your post?

Yes, humans are judgemental and some choose to expose their judgements with less sugar than others.

When there are a flurry of posts all saying more or less the same thing it's individuals posting not a group post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me neither.

There's too much caring about rubbish stuff.

Exactly.

the same level being?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post in the forums most days, my opinions, my thoughts, I've only ever met one other regular forumite so I can't possibly be in a clique, and I don't feel that there is a negative clique on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He posts what he wants

Johnnysoda

He posts what he wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter

Why is it that when the majority of replies go against someone's opinion that the 'c' word always rears it's head?

Is it not perfectly possible that people simply don't agree with you?

If they all agreed and said "yes, you're 100% right!" Would the same accusation be there?

I somehow doubt it!

You are quite lucky on here as I noticed you are well liked by the 'regulars' so I imagine you could do no wrong!

The rest of us lower people are quite as accepted!

That's quite ridiculous. Everyone is welcome here, everyone's opinion is valid (as long ad it's not completely ridiculous and blatantly wrong). Join in discussions, get to know people and you'll discover that we're (mostly) a friendly and accepting bunch of perves

Except Obi, he's an 'orrible cunt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There sure is!

I get ignored all the time on forums, if I'm not being ignored my posts are being ripped apart as it's just not what they agree with!

However I've grown up and moved out of the primary age of

'I'm better then you' and making other people feel shit about themselves, shame that it seems others haven't..

I'm sure this post will get lots of negative feedback too!

What is negative feedback? Is it a response that doesn't agree with your post?

Yes, humans are judgemental and some choose to expose their judgements with less sugar than others.

When there are a flurry of posts all saying more or less the same thing it's individuals posting not a group post.

On a forum there's going to be people posting their opinions etc but when it's over something so ridiculously simple and small and someone has to be rude it's a bit beyond fair..

I'm more then happy to listen to people if they don't agree with my views as that's how you keep learning in life and especially in the swinging life.. But without the rudeness..

I'm not moaning about "ohh they don't agree with me, that's so unfair" I'm talking about the politeness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having thought about this a bit more than I have before, I now think there is a clique but it is not a particularly exclusive one. I used to think there wasn't one because I felt accepted as a relative newcomer on the forum, and more established forum users would interact with me. However once I considered the definition of a clique, in a slightly broader sense, it became apparent to me that I think there is one. I think there was a time I may have been part of it. Now? Not so much, although I still tend to interact with some forum members more than the rest, the frequency and intensity has reduced. On the most part I just post crap into the ether and have very few private conversations now

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yes, certain people will ignore your reply and jump to the next persons instead

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"Clique membership only comes with the Platinum Site Supporter upgrade.

This can only unlocked by having sexual congress with at least 6 members of the clique and paying a tribute to the Grand Imperial Wizard of the Forum Clique.

I could tell you more but then I'd have to kill you. "

and here is a perfect example, the op asked a very valid question to gauge peoples views, and someone comes in with this taking the mick, no reason for it and no need for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter

Why is it that when the majority of replies go against someone's opinion that the 'c' word always rears it's head?

Is it not perfectly possible that people simply don't agree with you?

If they all agreed and said "yes, you're 100% right!" Would the same accusation be there?

I somehow doubt it!

You are quite lucky on here as I noticed you are well liked by the 'regulars' so I imagine you could do no wrong!

The rest of us lower people are quite as accepted!

Except Obi, he's an 'orrible cunt!

I've tried that but like I've said,I get ignored! Or if I state my opinion it's never right!

I think my pet brick has spoke to me more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes there is. Those in the clique either say there isn't, or genuinely don't actually realise that there is!

But it's definitely there, live and kicking!

Thanks Dan. Was beginning to wonder if others could see it!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter

Why is it that when the majority of replies go against someone's opinion that the 'c' word always rears it's head?

Is it not perfectly possible that people simply don't agree with you?

If they all agreed and said "yes, you're 100% right!" Would the same accusation be there?

I somehow doubt it!

You are quite lucky on here as I noticed you are well liked by the 'regulars' so I imagine you could do no wrong!

The rest of us lower people are quite as accepted!

Liked? I suspect I've pissed off as many folk over the years as I've made friends with.

I've also gotten to know many 'new' posters via the forums.

Does that mean threads I start don't die a death? Nope

Does it mean everyone I've ever met/chatted to will agree with me or I with them? Nope

When it gets to the point where I find myself agreeing for the sake of it, kissing arse or 'ganging up' to fit in - I'll step away.

I use the forums to kill time, express my (note 'my') opinion on all sorts of posts from the serious to the mundane to the plain daft. I couldn't care less about who starts a thread, popularity contests, sycophantic butt kissing and blatant 'chuck in a hand grenade to stir up a fight' posts.

People can use the forums for whatever activities they like within the rules. If that involves banter between friends is that exclusive to others? Is it not easy to ignore? There are thousands of threads started each month - it happens. It always will. But it doesn't stop anyone posting their own views/opinions.

If people post to gain popularity, approval or status then they may well find themselves disappointed.

Just post and be damned. Don't worry if it seems sometimes that your words are ignored. They're not. Not every post will be responded to, quoted or receive a pink thumbs up.

It doesn't mean plenty of people don't actually read them.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Yes, certain people will ignore your reply and jump to the next persons instead"

Don't get me going on that one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter

Why is it that when the majority of replies go against someone's opinion that the 'c' word always rears it's head?

Is it not perfectly possible that people simply don't agree with you?

If they all agreed and said "yes, you're 100% right!" Would the same accusation be there?

I somehow doubt it!

You are quite lucky on here as I noticed you are well liked by the 'regulars' so I imagine you could do no wrong!

The rest of us lower people are quite as accepted!

Except Obi, he's an 'orrible cunt!

I've tried that but like I've said,I get ignored! Or if I state my opinion it's never right!

I think my pet brick has spoke to me more

An opinion cannot be wrong, sometime misguided, but never wrong

Stick with it. There are regular posters that know one another, so that could be considered a clique but that doesn't mean other people are excluded. Sometimes if you share an opinion with several other people your post will be overlooked...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can have a clique without negative connotations - there is most definitely a clique / cliques on here in the purest sense of the word (regular banter partners) and most of the time there is no negativity associated with this.

This thread has been a little sidetracked by exclusion, people with different opinions etc which in itself may or may not be due to the presence of cliques, but going back to the very first opening question by the OP - yes, there most definitely is / are clique(s) here. Just have a general browse on here any night of the week and they become very apparent.

To be absolutely clear though, there's nothing necessarily wrong with that, cliques exist everywhere (I'm part of some) and form part of general human social relationships wherever you go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes there is. Those in the clique either say there isn't, or genuinely don't actually realise that there is!

But it's definitely there, live and kicking!

Thanks Dan. Was beginning to wonder if others could see it!"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Ok then, accepting the premise that there is a fab clique, I should imagine it's not exclusive and people become members of it through time simply by regular posting and joining in. I'd hope so anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter

Why is it that when the majority of replies go against someone's opinion that the 'c' word always rears it's head?

Is it not perfectly possible that people simply don't agree with you?

If they all agreed and said "yes, you're 100% right!" Would the same accusation be there?

I somehow doubt it!

You are quite lucky on here as I noticed you are well liked by the 'regulars' so I imagine you could do no wrong!

The rest of us lower people are quite as accepted!

Except Obi, he's an 'orrible cunt!

I've tried that but like I've said,I get ignored! Or if I state my opinion it's never right!

I think my pet brick has spoke to me more

Feeling ignored is a common theme on the forum. One of the forum regulars had a whole thread on it yesterday. He described himself as invisible. There are now 152 responses on the thread. I think it may have been posted with more than a little irony either deliberate or unintended, but it just goes to show how the forum works. You are certainly not being ignored now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter

Why is it that when the majority of replies go against someone's opinion that the 'c' word always rears it's head?

Is it not perfectly possible that people simply don't agree with you?

If they all agreed and said "yes, you're 100% right!" Would the same accusation be there?

I somehow doubt it!

Exactly! If people actually read the other thread I was referring to they would understand. This thread was only started because people disagreed with his opinions, facts and figures on a bareback thread!!

There was no ganging up, it was just that people didn't agree with the OP

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Clique membership only comes with the Platinum Site Supporter upgrade.

This can only unlocked by having sexual congress with at least 6 members of the clique and paying a tribute to the Grand Imperial Wizard of the Forum Clique.

I could tell you more but then I'd have to kill you.

and here is a perfect example, the op asked a very valid question to gauge peoples views, and someone comes in with this taking the mick, no reason for it and no need for it."

Are you part of the 'No Humour on the Forums' Clique??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok then, accepting the premise that there is a fab clique, I should imagine it's not exclusive and people become members of it through time simply by regular posting and joining in. I'd hope so anyway. "

funny you should pop up as I was typing the response above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes there is. Those in the clique either say there isn't, or genuinely don't actually realise that there is!

But it's definitely there, live and kicking!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There sure is!

I get ignored all the time on forums, if I'm not being ignored my posts are being ripped apart as it's just not what they agree with!

However I've grown up and moved out of the primary age of

'I'm better then you' and making other people feel shit about themselves, shame that it seems others haven't..

I'm sure this post will get lots of negative feedback too!

I'm sure you're right! Ask a simple question, as stated at the top of the page, then get the tin helmet out! Lol. Kind of reinforces the suspicion though, doesn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes there is. Those in the clique either say there isn't, or genuinely don't actually realise that there is!

But it's definitely there, live and kicking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter

Why is it that when the majority of replies go against someone's opinion that the 'c' word always rears it's head?

Is it not perfectly possible that people simply don't agree with you?

If they all agreed and said "yes, you're 100% right!" Would the same accusation be there?

I somehow doubt it!

There was no ganging up, it was just that people didn't agree with the OP

I didn't even see that post haha,I love reading bareback threads

me and the hubby cook up some popcorn and enjoy the show!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I've never met Steve.

But I saw him on cam in the chat room once (no - not doing that!!

) so I know he's not invisible.

We occasionally engage in banter on the forums. Doesn't mean we stalk each other and post on every thread that one or the other does. The same I'd true for others I've not met and some that I have.

This scenario is replicated countless times across the forums between other posters.

If that means a clique exists - so be it. Call it what you will.

To me? It's just the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Posting and joining in? Or just agreeing? Is that the way in to the clique that many, above, say exists?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes there is. Those in the clique either say there isn't, or genuinely don't actually realise that there is!

But it's definitely there, live and kicking!

Very true but for us we just post what we want and if we get ignored its not life shattering , we dont moan about it just carry on as per.

As Groucho once said.. I wouldnt want to be in a group where I was a memember

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter

Why is it that when the majority of replies go against someone's opinion that the 'c' word always rears it's head?

Is it not perfectly possible that people simply don't agree with you?

If they all agreed and said "yes, you're 100% right!" Would the same accusation be there?

I somehow doubt it!

There was no ganging up, it was just that people didn't agree with the OP

What didn't you agree with? That there are people on fab who bareback? Or my suggestion that they should admit it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure is ... And all it takes to be a part is to post here ... Your in .. Easy really. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Posting and joining in? Or just agreeing? Is that the way in to the clique that many, above, say exists?"

But what if MY opinion happens to be the same as many others, is it assumed that I'm just following the crowd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There sure is!

I get ignored all the time on forums, if I'm not being ignored my posts are being ripped apart as it's just not what they agree with!

However I've grown up and moved out of the primary age of

'I'm better then you' and making other people feel shit about themselves, shame that it seems others haven't..

I'm sure this post will get lots of negative feedback too!

I'm sure you're right! Ask a simple question, as stated at the top of the page, then get the tin helmet out! Lol. Kind of reinforces the suspicion though, doesn't it?

It sure does hun!

I'm only here for meets so as long as I'm doing OK on that front without needing advice, I'm sure I can survive the Forum.. I hope!?

Though I must add the two gentlemen who quoted me are alright

MrsJ

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clique membership only comes with the Platinum Site Supporter upgrade.

This can only unlocked by having sexual congress with at least 6 members of the clique and paying a tribute to the Grand Imperial Wizard of the Forum Clique.

I could tell you more but then I'd have to kill you.

and here is a perfect example, the op asked a very valid question to gauge peoples views, and someone comes in with this taking the mick, no reason for it and no need for it."

Thank you

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Posting and joining in? Or just agreeing? Is that the way in to the clique that many, above, say exists?"

Far more said it doesn't exist but then people tend to choose the answers they like, that suit their argument and present them as fact.

If you seriously feel that there are certain people you have to emulate in order to be 'accepted' the only decision to make is whether you wish to disengage with yourself and become a Stepfordised fully cliqued up forumite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"There sure is!

I get ignored all the time on forums, if I'm not being ignored my posts are being ripped apart as it's just not what they agree with!

However I've grown up and moved out of the primary age of

'I'm better then you' and making other people feel shit about themselves, shame that it seems others haven't..

I'm sure this post will get lots of negative feedback too!

I'm sure you're right! Ask a simple question, as stated at the top of the page, then get the tin helmet out! Lol. Kind of reinforces the suspicion though, doesn't it?

What about the posts supporting your position?

If you start with a fixed view and you only accept the 'evidence' that validates your opening position isn't that a clique too?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Posting and joining in? Or just agreeing? Is that the way in to the clique that many, above, say exists?"

No, because most people use the word 'clique' to describe forum regulars. Why would people who have seen most subjects discussed multiple times over the years want sycophants joining in? Just say what you feel and believe, and if you have a point of view that may be considered controversial, don't just pull it out of nowhere. If people are going to post that all women are useless and made of cheese, I'd prefer to see how they get to that opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how it's always the people that can't cope with criticism that say there's a clique.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me neither.

There's too much caring about rubbish stuff. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Posting and joining in? Or just agreeing? Is that the way in to the clique that many, above, say exists?"

Now I can say that I am being ignored. I posted about being criticised and even abused but I didn't get a

or any responses. Does that mean I am in or out of the clique? Which clique? The point is that there are cliques not A/THE clique.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Not for the first time! Hence my question. I'm all for reasoned debate. Ganging up is another matter

Why is it that when the majority of replies go against someone's opinion that the 'c' word always rears it's head?

Is it not perfectly possible that people simply don't agree with you?

If they all agreed and said "yes, you're 100% right!" Would the same accusation be there?

I somehow doubt it!

There was no ganging up, it was just that people didn't agree with the OP

What didn't you agree with? That there are people on fab who bareback? Or my suggestion that they should admit it?"

Not wanting to hijack the thread, or pull it off on a tangent.....I've just read that thread and it's pretty clear what people were disagreeing with. But that's a different thread!

Now back to the matter at hand!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how it's always the people that can't cope with criticism that say there's a clique."

There's criticism but then there's being berated x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a Song to go with this post . lol I feel one coming on ... just picking which one from over the years we all know . lol fab team tune .

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Any social interaction is based on popularity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Any social interaction is based on popularity. "

I guess I've just been pretty tunnel visoned to not of realised, it's a shame though ain't it really? I was never very popular, I think I've got no chance now lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how it's always the people that can't cope with criticism that say there's a clique.

There's criticism but then there's being berated x"

Sometimes the smell of blood is too much for the hounds

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Any social interaction is based on popularity.

I guess I've just been pretty tunnel visoned to not of realised, it's a shame though ain't it really? I was never very popular, I think I've got no chance now lol!

You'll be fine. People are fickle.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Posting and joining in? Or just agreeing? Is that the way in to the clique that many, above, say exists?

Now I can say that I am being ignored. I posted about being criticised and even abused but I didn't get a

or any responses. Does that mean I am in or out of the clique? Which clique? The point is that there are cliques not A/THE clique."

I'd help you out but im ignoring you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Any social interaction is based on popularity.

I guess I've just been pretty tunnel visoned to not of realised, it's a shame though ain't it really? I was never very popular, I think I've got no chance now lol!

Nah. I think you've ben heard and seen now

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Yes, the popularity of cocks, cunts and tits.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Funny how it's always the people that can't cope with criticism that say there's a clique.

There's criticism but then there's being berated x"

That has more to do with the people doing the berating. There are forum regulars I don't like, never agreed with, and never will, but because we've been posting on the forums for a while people will say I am in a clique with those people.

Its an easy way to explain why people might not be successful on the forums, when they haven't considered that maybe their posting style is aggressive and confrontational.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Posting and joining in? Or just agreeing? Is that the way in to the clique that many, above, say exists?

But what if MY opinion happens to be the same as many others, is it assumed that I'm just following the crowd

Apparently so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So as we haven't quite come to a conclusion as to if there is/not/couple/plenty of cliques on here.. Can we be friends now

I am really quite a nice person!

The hubby on the other hands boring

MrsJ

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Yes, the popularity of cocks, cunts and tits.

Shit.. Can my tits be popular please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how it's always the people that can't cope with criticism that say there's a clique."

I've coped with criticism on here pretty well...at least think I have anyway....but I still think there are cliques.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Yes, the popularity of cocks, cunts and tits.

Shit.. Can my tits be popular please?

Shit is also popular. Or do I mean prevalent?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Personally I don't need or crave mass acceptance and popularity. Never have never will. I say what I think and happily stand my ground. I'd rather be liked by 10 people for who I am than 100 for being a dull sycophant.

I don't think that's the case for everyone though

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Funny how it's always the people that can't cope with criticism that say there's a clique.

I've coped with criticism on here pretty well...at least think I have anyway....but I still think there are cliques.

Same here. There are always cliques where more than three people get together. That doesn't mean it's a bad thing or even a good thing...it just is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Yes, the popularity of cocks, cunts and tits.

Shit.. Can my tits be popular please?

Shit is also popular. Or do I mean prevalent?"

Only if it has sweetcorn in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

I don't think that's the case for everyone though"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Yes, the popularity of cocks, cunts and tits.

Shit.. Can my tits be popular please?

Shit is also popular. Or do I mean prevalent?

Only if it has sweetcorn in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hokey Cokey I new theres a song to get us all together and a dance .

You put your left arm in

your left arm out

In, out, in, out,

You shake it all about.

You do the Hokey Cokey and you turn around

That's what it's all about...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how it's always the people that can't cope with criticism that say there's a clique.

I've coped with criticism on here pretty well...at least think I have anyway....but I still think there are cliques.

Same here. There are always cliques where more than three people get together. That doesn't mean it's a bad thing or even a good thing...it just is."

yep the cliques aren't very exclusive. ..they let me in from time to time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Yes, the popularity of cocks, cunts and tits.

Shit.. Can my tits be popular please?

Shit is also popular. Or do I mean prevalent?

Only if it has sweetcorn in it

"
you think that's bad, there's a whole thread on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Yes, the popularity of cocks, cunts and tits.

Some cunts are more popular than others.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Yes, the popularity of cocks, cunts and tits.

Some cunts are more popular than others. "

Bore Da

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Yes, the popularity of cocks, cunts and tits.

Shit.. Can my tits be popular please?

Shit is also popular. Or do I mean prevalent?

Only if it has sweetcorn in it

you think that's bad, there's a whole thread on it

Seriously? A thread literally about shit?

Oh my..

I bet that was a shit thread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aggressive and confrontational ha ha

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

cliques no way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"aggressive and confrontational ha ha "
oooo no we are not . lol don't say oooo yes you all are .. lol could go on and on like in panto here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Yes, the popularity of cocks, cunts and tits.

Some cunts are more popular than others. "

Cunts of a feather flock together

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"I've said it before and I'll say it again, many people who bemoan the perceived existence of a clique do so purely to justify their own lack of popularity or the negative reaction to a thread.

Sureky a swinging site isn't based on popularity?

Yes, the popularity of cocks, cunts and tits.

I've been called all of those,, wasn't popular with that crowd,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"aggressive and confrontational ha ha oooo no we are not . lol don't say oooo yes you all are .. lol could go on and on like in panto here.

oooo yes you all are ,,chrissy is offiacally here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"aggressive and confrontational ha ha oooo no we are not . lol don't say oooo yes you all are .. lol could go on and on like in panto here.

oooo yes you all are ,,chrissy is offiacally here!!"
ooooooo no we are not here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me neither.

There's too much caring about rubbish stuff.

Exactly.

the same level being?"

The same level being??

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

I agree with some of the posts on here from people that have been on the forums for a long time, but some of the comments are from new people, so I don't agree with those...??

Also... Some of the posters in this thread would be perceived to be part of a clique.... I bet it would surprise them to know this.... Example... The "invisible" man...... He always seemed very popular to me.... He doesn't think so....

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Can I apply to join the clique?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I apply to join the clique?

You are in a clique of your own Tina

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?"

Lots of people who are on here have actually met and become friends. Naturally, when they are chatting on here they will reference things that those who have no met them will no understand and will probably see it as some sort of clique.

A definition of a clique is:

"In social sciences, a clique is a group of people who interact with each other more regularly and intensely than others in the same setting. Interacting with cliques is part of normative social development regardless of gender, ethnicity, or popularity. Although cliques are most commonly studied during adolescence and middle childhood, they exist in all age groups."

So, in that sense there is a clique on here as on most forums or message boards. Whether you see that as a negative or not is up to you.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

funny you should pop up as I was typing the response above

Yes, I saw

no intended irony either, I know I post on here a lot. You have SGS to thank for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

A definition of a clique is:

So, in that sense there is a clique on here as on most forums or message boards. Whether you see that as a negative or not is up to you."

ah you looked on Wiki too

Yep I agree with you and you've pretty much said (in your final 2 paragraphs at least) what I did over a couple of separate posts earlier in the thread. Maybe we should form our own little clique in that case?

Or maybe I'm just the invisible man (oh, that was a different thread altogether!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

Yes, it consists of all the people who didn't give you the answer you wanted on your other thread

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes there is definitely a clique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you should have said are there people on here who would never disagree with a friend in public or be extra nice to someone because they want some sexy time with them. The sarcasm clique is getting bigger and bigger

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Maybe you should have said are there people on here who would never disagree with a friend in public or be extra nice to someone because they want some sexy time with them. The sarcasm clique is getting bigger and bigger "

No!! Really??

Sorry, couldn't resist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

funny you should pop up as I was typing the response above

Yes, I saw

no intended irony either, I know I post on here a lot. You have SGS to thank for that. "

SGS? I didn't think the irony was intended but I still enjoyed it

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

no clique just friends IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yes there is definitely a clique"

Only one?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"yes there is definitely a clique

Only one?

SGS....sad git syndrome

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I wouldn't join any clique...

Never understood why people say there's a clique. The forums are for talking. I type something, people either respond or don't.....it's that simple.

The events and meets section is for shagging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?

A definition of a clique is:

So, in that sense there is a clique on here as on most forums or message boards. Whether you see that as a negative or not is up to you.

ah you looked on Wiki too

Or maybe I'm just the invisible man (oh, that was a different thread altogether!)

I think the Wiki definition is a good one, but other definitions have a negative overtone of exclusivity, that causes defensiveness when the word is used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yes there is definitely a clique

Only one?

SGS....sad git syndrome"
Ooh I've got that too...now got a three letter acronym for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't join any clique...

Never understood why people say there's a clique. The forums are for talking. I type something, people either respond or don't.....it's that simple.

The events and meets section is for shagging

I don't think I have ever knowingly joined a clique, but could easily be seen as part of one or more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clique? Swingers Illuminatii?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Clique? Swingers Illuminatii?"

We are actually all reptilian really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clique? Swingers Illuminatii?

We are actually all reptilian really."

lol - anyone remember the t.v. show "V" from the 80s?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clique? Swingers Illuminatii?

We are actually all reptilian really.

lol - anyone remember the t.v. show "V" from the 80s? "

Yeah

was remade recently. I sell snake oil and have been described as a chameleon

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Where the feck is Fabio???

FABIO!!!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Oh lawd here we go again....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure about a clique and I don't really care but there is a bunch of sheep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where the feck is Fabio???

FABIO!!!

Fabio the wikiman?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Clique? Swingers Illuminatii?"
yeah, cos they shag with the lights on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh lawd here we go again....

You put your left arm in

your left arm out

In, out, in, out,

You shake it all about.

You do the Hokey Cokey and you turn around

That's what it's all about... lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh lawd here we go again....

You put your left arm in

your left arm out

In, out, in, out,

You shake it all about.

You do the Hokey Cokey and you turn around

That's what it's all about... lol xxx

Oh no we are not!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure about a clique and I don't really care but there is a bunch of sheep."

Sheep, or people who just happen to have the same opinion

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Don't forget the cults.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Don't forget the cults."

Is that a typo?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't forget the cults."

Sure you didn't spell that wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blah,blah,blah,blah,bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure about a clique and I don't really care but there is a bunch of sheep.

Sheep, or people who just happen to have the same opinion

Sheep

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Where the feck is Fabio???

FABIO!!!

Probably in the pub fine tuning his somewhat accurate analogy!!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Don't forget the cults.

Sure you didn't spell that wrong

No I covered cocks, cunts and tits earlier. You and Ryan must have ignored me.

I mean the cults like Funky bottom cult (I am a devotee) or the Ryan cult. Then there are the women can get away anything cults etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are strange

jim Gimp

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Blah,blah,blah,blah,bollocks

Baa, Baa, baa, baa, bullocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh lawd here we go again....

You put your left arm in

your left arm out

In, out, in, out,

You shake it all about.

You do the Hokey Cokey and you turn around

That's what it's all about... lol xxx

Oh no we are not!!!!

"
oh yes you are Baa, Baa, baa, baa . lol

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

OK Fabio is not coming.

I'll do it.

You see the forum is like a pub and in a pub you wouldn't walk up to the bar, buy a pint of beer and maybe some pork scratchings or cheese & onion crisps. Then if another group of people were there eating another flavour of crisps and maybe drinking wine or a spirit but not beer, you wouldn't go up to them and ask them for a game of pool because the pool table is fucked. I tried last night and lost £3, the landlord wouldn't even refund. Said he would have to call the guy out to look at the mechanism.

Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This. Quite a few forum users have been posting for a long time and have gotten to know each other foibles to a certain degree so will tend to post on the same thread. Not a clique, just regulars.

You've just described a clique

"In the social sciences, a clique (CanE, UK /'kli?k/ or US /'kl?k/) is a group of people who interact with each other more regularly and intensely than others in the same setting.[1]""

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think a better anology is like the forum being like a bus. Lots of people on it, some sit at the back and snog, others are on the bus running away from something, others are going to see someone, others sit bored and look out the window, others chat to people they sit next to or get up and move to another seat, some get off, some get on, baggage is stored for the journey but sometimes gets looked at, people laugh, people are happy, some are sad and think they are on the wrong bus. People get on the forum bus willingly but it's up to them how they spend their journey time....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When there are lots of threads going at any one time, in lots of different areas, not just The Lounge - you can pick and choose where to post.

I read a lot of threads, that I may not post on. Doesn't mean I don't agree or find it has made me laugh.

Those that have met others or are friends with them, may post something that others don't fully understand. That is normal though, surely no different to any forum - even the likes of faceache. Some people will always say what others want to hear, others will argue until they are blue in the face, doesn't make either of them a bad person.

I just post what I think, I don't get into arguments on here, as I come to Fab for an escape from everyday life. I like a good debate, but after a long day working and dealing with everyday stuff, I usually just want to have a laugh, flirt and chat.

I think you just have to join in, not worry what others think, just be yourself.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

boy... where do i start...

the thing that some people who like to throw out the word "clique" sometimes tend to forget is that some of the time, these are people who have actually met each other at the various socials or clubs across the country.... so there is a sense of familiarity there...

but you do get the sense that is people aren't greeted like norm from cheers where everyone screams their name like a long lost brother, that some people aren't going to be happy....

i think the thing is that if people don't argee with everything that someone says, the "victim mentality" is very quick to come out... and its easy to throw out words like "clique" because it leaves that person blameless and shifts it elsewhere....

but hey... mud sticks.... right?????

i really dont care if people agree with me if i post something, or if they dont...my opinions are big enough and ugly enough to stand on their own.. I am big and ugly enough to be able to debate them... but some are just so fragile they need reassuring at every turn......

which brings you back to my now famous "pub analogy".... you wouldn't scream clique if you went into a pub and no one spoke to you if you'd never been in before.. you wouldn't do it in most facets of life... but the urge to do it behind the screen of a computer is a discussion in its own right....

anyway... i much prefer being a loose cannon, its way more fun this way!!!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"I think a better anology is like the forum being like a bus. Lots of people on it, some sit at the back and snog, others are on the bus running away from something, others are going to see someone, others sit bored and look out the window, others chat to people they sit next to or get up and move to another seat, some get off, some get on, baggage is stored for the journey but sometimes gets looked at, people laugh, people are happy, some are sad and think they are on the wrong bus. People get on the forum bus willingly but it's up to them how they spend their journey time....

Does the bus have wifi? You didn't mention it.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

You forgot the window lickers.

And the rowdy night bus lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple answer, yes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"
Love this and Fab being like a Bus . Yes lifes a journey your right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And if a Bus I am taking over the back seat . lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Steve you hit the nail on the head there young fella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No!! Really??

Sorry, couldn't resist.

Points finger accusingly!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There sure is!

I get ignored all the time on forums, if I'm not being ignored my posts are being ripped apart as it's just not what they agree with!

However I've grown up and moved out of the primary age of

'I'm better then you' and making other people feel shit about themselves, shame that it seems others haven't..

I'm sure this post will get lots of negative feedback too!

Ignore em love!Id love to meet em face to face in a Club one day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple answer, yes x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple answer, yes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There sure is!

I get ignored all the time on forums, if I'm not being ignored my posts are being ripped apart as it's just not what they agree with!

However I've grown up and moved out of the primary age of

'I'm better then you' and making other people feel shit about themselves, shame that it seems others haven't..

I'm sure this post will get lots of negative feedback too!

Ignore em love!Id love to meet em face to face in a Club one day!"

To do or say what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?"
I think if you think there a Clique there is. And if you don't there is a clique there is no clique its all in the mind .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There sure is!

I get ignored all the time on forums, if I'm not being ignored my posts are being ripped apart as it's just not what they agree with!

However I've grown up and moved out of the primary age of

'I'm better then you' and making other people feel shit about themselves, shame that it seems others haven't..

I'm sure this post will get lots of negative feedback too!

Ignore em love!Id love to meet em face to face in a Club one day!

To do or say what?

I think we are supposed to be intimidated by the thinly veiled threat

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Is there a clique on the Forum threads?I think if you think there a Clique there is. And if you don't there is a clique there is no clique its all in the mind .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really matter if a clique, just join in have fun, say your Opinions people will ignore, agree or disagree . Everybody is welcome,some people are in here more than others, some know eachother from meeting at various socials/clubs/partys so they will interact more with those people.some have simalar views so interact with those people.

I personally am not the type to stamp my feet crying clique, I go on whatever thread I like

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