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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Be honest... How much do you average a day or even a week?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How much what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if I'm wearing my tin foil hat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Messages on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,


"How much what?"

The clues in the OP's thread title!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean messages from people I haven't had messages from before?

or just total messages exchanged in a day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots, don't count how many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends if I'm wearing my tin foil hat."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Receiving or sending?

Women and couples will always receive more

Men will generally always send more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 10 a week, just from men saying how good my pics are lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My reason for asking is cause some women and couples page say they get lots of messages and apologise for late reply. So I'm curious it's true or one of those reverse psychology thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends if I'm wearing my tin foil hat. "

Even when I wear that hat... I still hear them when I close my eyes!

Err, messages.... No idea about the total but new people in a day that would like to talk, maybe 4 or so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you mean messages from people I haven't had messages from before?

or just total messages exchanged in a day?"

Recieved per day or week

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By *ranthamThroatMan
over a year ago

Grantham.


"My reason for asking is cause some women and couples page say they get lots of messages and apologise for late reply. So I'm curious it's true or one of those reverse psychology thing"

I sometimes go weeks without getting a message, but other times get lots from different people, but get more if I post pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean messages from people I haven't had messages from before?

or just total messages exchanged in a day?

Recieved per day or week"

Total messages recieved per day is going to be upwards of 50 depending on the day. I like to talk a lot to someone before I meet them, usually.

It's fun to flirt and tease, get the juices going and the mind whirring before we step it up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some days it's hundreds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

61 so far today. From about 4 people, with whom I will speak to 2 on the phone probably and possibly I may even meet someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From people that aren't on my friends 0.

Friends list - depends if i message anyone and get a reply back.

My inbox doesn't see many messages. I need to start messaging though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you mean messages from people I haven't had messages from before?

or just total messages exchanged in a day?

Recieved per day or week

Total messages recieved per day is going to be upwards of 50 depending on the day. I like to talk a lot to someone before I meet them, usually.

It's fun to flirt and tease, get the juices going and the mind whirring before we step it up..."

Lol so you play hard to get?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some days it's lots of new ones some days it's none at all

If I'm chatting to a prospective meet or to someone i know then I could exchange upwards of 50 in an evening with ease

I'm a chatter box shutting me up is the trick

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

I'd say a few per week. I'm not sure if I prefer the meagre level of attention, or having to deal with hundreds per day as a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean messages from people I haven't had messages from before?

or just total messages exchanged in a day?

Recieved per day or week

Total messages recieved per day is going to be upwards of 50 depending on the day. I like to talk a lot to someone before I meet them, usually.

It's fun to flirt and tease, get the juices going and the mind whirring before we step it up...

Lol so you play hard to get?"

I wouldn't call that hard to get I would say that's normal

If someone doesn't want to chat to establish a connection and to build the suspense and excitement I'm not interested

The mind is a powerfully sexual tool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really chat that much to people on here,most of my proper chatting is done with existing friends away from the site

Occassionally I'll be chatting to someone who sparks a massive interest,there are some lovely people on here

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Be honest... How much do you average a day or even a week?"

from friends... 30 to 40 (i have good friends....lol)

from new people... 2 or 3...... (cause i'm luffley!!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 to 3 a day on average from new people. Can be 20 to 30 from people I know depending how talkative im feeling.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you mean messages from people I haven't had messages from before?

or just total messages exchanged in a day?

Recieved per day or week

Total messages recieved per day is going to be upwards of 50 depending on the day. I like to talk a lot to someone before I meet them, usually.

It's fun to flirt and tease, get the juices going and the mind whirring before we step it up...

Lol so you play hard to get?

I wouldn't call that hard to get I would say that's normal

If someone doesn't want to chat to establish a connection and to build the suspense and excitement I'm not interested

The mind is a powerfully sexual tool "

I agree with that but lets be real ... If Charlize Therone approached him or as sexy as her, scenario would be different lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean messages from people I haven't had messages from before?

or just total messages exchanged in a day?

Recieved per day or week

Total messages recieved per day is going to be upwards of 50 depending on the day. I like to talk a lot to someone before I meet them, usually.

It's fun to flirt and tease, get the juices going and the mind whirring before we step it up...

Lol so you play hard to get?"

There's only so far a body can get you, and it's not far in the grand scheme of things.

It's all in the dance...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean messages from people I haven't had messages from before?

or just total messages exchanged in a day?

Recieved per day or week

Total messages recieved per day is going to be upwards of 50 depending on the day. I like to talk a lot to someone before I meet them, usually.

It's fun to flirt and tease, get the juices going and the mind whirring before we step it up...

Lol so you play hard to get?

I wouldn't call that hard to get I would say that's normal

If someone doesn't want to chat to establish a connection and to build the suspense and excitement I'm not interested

The mind is a powerfully sexual tool

I agree with that but lets be real ... If Charlize Therone approached him or as sexy as her, scenario would be different lol"

You are right. but please, allow me to elaborate...

To be approached by someone who could have most men, including the very very top, of even the strictest and reclusive men - that would have my mind going crazy. Not just her beauty, but why... just why is she here with me.

And I'd probably find out that actually, Matthew Mcconaughey was behind me.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Depends on if I have uploaded any new pics

Haven't done that in a while though Plus I have all my filters in place, so they have reduced dramatically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my messages are usually replies or ongoing conversations, I do get women messaging me first from time to time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you mean messages from people I haven't had messages from before?

or just total messages exchanged in a day?

Recieved per day or week

Total messages recieved per day is going to be upwards of 50 depending on the day. I like to talk a lot to someone before I meet them, usually.

It's fun to flirt and tease, get the juices going and the mind whirring before we step it up...

Lol so you play hard to get?

I wouldn't call that hard to get I would say that's normal

If someone doesn't want to chat to establish a connection and to build the suspense and excitement I'm not interested

The mind is a powerfully sexual tool

I agree with that but lets be real ... If Charlize Therone approached him or as sexy as her, scenario would be different lol

You are right. but please, allow me to elaborate...

To be approached by someone who could have most men, including the very very top, of even the strictest and reclusive men - that would have my mind going crazy. Not just her beauty, but why... just why is she here with me.

And I'd probably find out that actually, Matthew Mcconaughey was behind me."

Lool

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts


" I do get women messaging me first from time to time."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No messages from new men as my age range is set at 98 - 99

Ongoing chats with the few men on my friends list is about 20ish a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I do get women messaging me first from time to time.

"

Really, I'm serious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Virtually none anymore. I'm not looking to meet so I don't proactively message new people anymore. My friends have all got better things to do at the moment so we haven't chatted for a while. I had a nice chat a week ago when I received a message on the back of a forum post. But apart from that my last message received was 5 days ago with the Lotto numbers on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My reason for asking is cause some women and couples page say they get lots of messages and apologise for late reply. So I'm curious it's true or one of those reverse psychology thing"

It's true.

My profile is hidden and I am still getting messages. Usually by the same people I ignored previously.

Average about 10-20 people in ten minutes when not hidden, but my profile is in an area that is on the middle of several large towns, and couple of cities nearby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a very select few I speak to reasonably regularly - I always struggle with the right amount of messaging though - I sometimes think I do too much so then cut back. Then hope I'm not sending too few ... ah it's a balancing act isn't it!?! I'm sure I get the mix all wrong!!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I know we are a couple and you only asked men and women, I'm answering anyway.

This week so far we have had 5 messages in total.

3 of them are from the same person who's on our friends list.

1 about a comment I made on a thread.

1 from someone showing interest in a meet.

On average we get 0 - 10 messages per week. After looking at other replies we must come across as miserable unapproachable buggers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guaranteed messages are from two friends daily. I reply to any others I might get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not alot i think we may be doing some thing wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know we are a couple and you only asked men and women, I'm answering anyway.

This week so far we have had 5 messages in total.

3 of them are from the same person who's on our friends list.

1 about a comment I made on a thread.

1 from someone showing interest in a meet.

On average we get 0 - 10 messages per week. After looking at other replies we must come across as miserable unapproachable buggers.

"

On our couples profile we get 0 a week if we just have couples on our 'looking for' list (no men). When I put new pics of us up the other week we got 5 mails in half an hour. Then the tumble started blowing again.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I know we are a couple and you only asked men and women, I'm answering anyway.

This week so far we have had 5 messages in total.

3 of them are from the same person who's on our friends list.

1 about a comment I made on a thread.

1 from someone showing interest in a meet.

On average we get 0 - 10 messages per week. After looking at other replies we must come across as miserable unapproachable buggers.

On our couples profile we get 0 a week if we just have couples on our 'looking for' list (no men). When I put new pics of us up the other week we got 5 mails in half an hour. Then the tumble started blowing again.

"

Play a tune for us on your violin while your at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know we are a couple and you only asked men and women, I'm answering anyway.

This week so far we have had 5 messages in total.

3 of them are from the same person who's on our friends list.

1 about a comment I made on a thread.

1 from someone showing interest in a meet.

On average we get 0 - 10 messages per week. After looking at other replies we must come across as miserable unapproachable buggers.

On our couples profile we get 0 a week if we just have couples on our 'looking for' list (no men). When I put new pics of us up the other week we got 5 mails in half an hour. Then the tumble started blowing again.

Play a tune for us on your violin while your at it.

"

The violin's for me/ us because it was a woe is me post.

But as you asked so nicely... here ya go...

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Thanks you...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Be honest... How much do you average a day or even a week?"

Quite a few but they are from friends - not many from people I don't know. 2 a day maybe from peeps I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we have all our 'looking for' boxes unchecked, like now, hardly any. When we have the looking for men box checked, too many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I changed my settings 2 days ago so only 99 year old men can message me. I'm currently now on 348 unread messages but I'm reading 3 day old messages, they'll go up to 4 or 5 days old cos I cleared everything from my inbox Saturday evening.

It's appreciated but makes me feel bad deleting messages, the male to female ratio on here is insane.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My reason for asking is cause some women and couples page say they get lots of messages and apologise for late reply. So I'm curious it's true or one of those reverse psychology thing"
the longer your here the less you get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 or 2 sent, usually to reply to an amusing comment I see etc.

0 received because I've blocked single males.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I get up to 6 messages a day from folk I've never spoken to before...I have lots of filters in place and I will only answer those that send me a joke in their first message...of these, maybe 1 or 2 "could" lead to an eventual meet (depending on circumstances, either pretty soon or I'm still waiting (yes Brightonsteve, I mean you))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how chatty I'm feeling. There's a few people on here I chat to regularly or every now and again. Somedays that can be lots of messaging back and forth, others when I'm tired or don't have much to say, not a lot.

I hardly send approach messages so no replies to wait for. Prefer to go on interest coming my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My reason for asking is cause some women and couples page say they get lots of messages and apologise for late reply. So I'm curious it's true or one of those reverse psychology thing the longer your here the less you get"

True enough. The first few days and weeks for us were a mad flurry, then it dropped off significantly.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"My reason for asking is cause some women and couples page say they get lots of messages and apologise for late reply. So I'm curious it's true or one of those reverse psychology thing the longer your here the less you get

True enough. The first few days and weeks for us were a mad flurry, then it dropped off significantly."

I remember joining and being inundated with messages for a profile with fuck all in it and no photos...however, one of the guys who messaged me was my mate's fella and I remember messaging back to him whilst being on the phone to my mate saying "Here, is your couples profile ******* cos I reckon your bloke's just messaged me"....other than that, yep I got verified on my first weekend on here

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I get up to 6 messages a day from folk I've never spoken to before...I have lots of filters in place and I will only answer those that send me a joke in their first message...of these, maybe 1 or 2 "could" lead to an eventual meet (depending on circumstances, either pretty soon or I'm still waiting (yes Brightonsteve, I mean you)) "

Caz! It was supposed to be a secret!!

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

All of my 'looking for' parameters are purposefully blank at the moment so I don't appear in that many searches. In terms of messages I probably average between 30 and 40 a day back and forth with people I chat to on here regularly. I made the rookie mistake of uploading my Halloween avatar before going away for a few days however and my unread messages are now piling up (I tend to read and respond to new messagers daily on my laptop since I can type better than on my phone plus it also gives you the 'go to next unread' option, which makes life easier). It's currently over 200 unread new contact messages since Monday. This isn't a regular occurrence though so I should get back on top of it when I get home on Friday. I hope.

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