FabSwingers.com forum: 'I had no idea you felt this way?'

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How often in your life have you known someone for a long while (ie several years), before your relationship with them turned sexual? Were you sexually attracted to them immediately, and held back because you weren't sure if they felt the same way (or they weren't available), or did your feelings for them grow over time before you made your move - either way, when you finally did (or them on you), what was their reaction, and assuming they felt the same way, how was the experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Few times.

Currently struggling terribly with the fact I've developed incredibly strong feelings for someone I've known as a dear friend for five years.

It kinda developed unexpectedly and it's grown and grown. Have confessed to it, but she loves someone else.

It's hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of, I knew a guy for many many years he was married to a friend, new saw him as anything other than a friend and I didn't think he saw me as anything but a friend, him and his wife split up after several years of marriage and after a few weeks he started texting me, innocent things at first but eventually he asked me out and told me he had had a bit of a crush on me for years

i had no idea, he never came onto me while he was married I have to give him that, could have knocked men down with a feather, I didn't feel the same towards him though so it never went anywhere and sadly the friendship was never the same after

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Once, a college friend, there was always chemistry but one or other of us was never free............. for nine years!

And yes. .. it was electric! !

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Yes, it has happened and recently. It's a bit confusing really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My deeper threads seem to have a lot more trouble getting going than my 'who would you have sex with?' or 'WOW my cock is HUGE!!!' topics

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"My deeper threads seem to have a lot more trouble getting going than my 'who would you have sex with?' or 'WOW my cock is HUGE!!!' topics

Smaller target audience?

To answer your original question - never.

To answer the other two - lots of people, and seen bigger!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I don't think this has ever happened to me. I do tend to keep friends firmly in the friend zone though.

There have been a few who've been upfront with their interest but I've not felt the same and we've become, and remained, friends. I've only regretted not taking things further once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My deeper threads seem to have a lot more trouble getting going than my 'who would you have sex with?' or 'WOW my cock is HUGE!!!' topics

you really started a 'WOW my cock is HUGE thread'?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My deeper threads seem to have a lot more trouble getting going than my 'who would you have sex with?' or 'WOW my cock is HUGE!!!' topics

you really started a 'WOW my cock is HUGE thread'?

Well no, but had I have done I'm sure it would have been a hit

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I know a lady who I counted as just a friend, one of the gang on our univesity course. We were friends for a while without thinking about sex with each other. (I had my sights elsewhere, and thank god (and my ugly face) I failed!)

Perhaps that's why we just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary...

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After my first marriage broke up i became great friends with a gf of my mate. We shared similar sense of humours very wicked sometimes sarcastic but never anything more.

My friend never felt threatened by it and we got along fine.

Sadly they parted on good terms but my friendship with her continued even when she met a new guy.

The new guy didnt last long and soon ended.

After this we started socialising alot more like good friends would going to see bands nightclubs or just the pub.

When she was at home as she worked shifts i would always visit for a coffee and a chat, however on one particular day i called as usual she made us a coffee but was in her nightie and asked me to bring it into the bedroom as she was having a lay in.

She gat on the bed i pulled a chair next to her and we chatted as normal.

Out of the blue she just asked me to fuck her as she was feeling very horny.

I said i couldnt as she was a great friend and i didnt want to ruin what we had.

Sadly a bad mistake, although we still went out and got on well things were never the same and we drifted apart.

I sometimes wish i had fucked her as we may of developed into a great relationship. Ill never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh shit id better just clarify that was years ago before Bev and I met.

Bev is the best thing that ever hsppened to me. And im so thankful i met her.

Phew think i got aeay with that one.

Love you Bev if you read this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an amazing female friend who I used to give man advice to and she would go on dates with guys as I would with women. I then met a girl, went on a few dates, enthusiastically told my female friend about her and said we were going on another date that night(Saturday) Female friend text on the Saturday afternoon asking if I fancied a quick drink. Met her and she said "I don't want you to go on your date tonight" I said "why not" she said because I have feelings for you and the way you talk about this girl, I think you're going to end up in a relationship,

Long story short, I went on the date, had a relationship with the girl for 2 years but I never saw my female friend again.

She was my best buddy too so I miss her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know someone back in Cape Town and we are good friends. I've felt myself sexually drawn to him but prefer to have his friendship than possibly jeopardise it by making advances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had an amazing female friend who I used to give man advice to and she would go on dates with guys as I would with women. I then met a girl, went on a few dates, enthusiastically told my female friend about her and said we were going on another date that night(Saturday) Female friend text on the Saturday afternoon asking if I fancied a quick drink. Met her and she said "I don't want you to go on your date tonight" I said "why not" she said because I have feelings for you and the way you talk about this girl, I think you're going to end up in a relationship,

Long story short, I went on the date, had a relationship with the girl for 2 years but I never saw my female friend again.

She was my best buddy too so I miss her

Oh that's sad. You were her wingman. I've had one or two...great buds!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes lusciouslips......I was her wingman and buddy. Shame but I couldn't give her what she wanted. She felt like a sister

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