FabSwingers.com forum: Rejection hurts

By *pice of life 79 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham

I've been turned down before on a meet

Possibly due to fault of my own but still it's not a nice feeling when you've both looked forward to meeting with the build up to it etc

Any one else been turned down and for what reasons ?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

My left foot got turned down along with some bedding when I was having a lie in as a kid and my mum made my bed all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's worse when they turn up and they think you are a minger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would it be your fault?

Sometimes the chemistry just isn't there face to face

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"I've been turned down before on a meet

Possibly due to fault of my own but still it's not a nice feeling when you've both looked forward to meeting with the build up to it etc

Any one else been turned down and for what reasons ? "
I have been turned down. Not bothered as it is totally unrealistic to expect everyone to be attracted to you . Are you attracted to every single member on fab ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I've been turned down before on a meet

Possibly due to fault of my own but still it's not a nice feeling when you've both looked forward to meeting with the build up to it etc

Any one else been turned down and for what reasons ? "

I've had a few chats with couples and it was all 'yeah let's shag' blah de blah message until I sent a face pic. Too ugly to fuck

you have to have a good level of self confidence, self believe and move on.

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By *pice of life 79 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham

"I've been turned down before on a meet

Possibly due to fault of my own but still it's not a nice feeling when you've both looked forward to meeting with the build up to it etc

Any one else been turned down and for what reasons ? I have been turned down. Not bothered as it is totally unrealistic to expect everyone to be attracted to you . Are you attracted to every single member on fab ?"

No I'm not attracted to everyone on fab

But I do think that you know to some extent through pics if your interested enough to meet and think even if your not interested enough to play if someone's travelled a fair distance to see you you should at least have a night out to some extent with that person then leave and stay friends rather than just standing up and leaving that person I'd at least have somekind of night with them if effort has been made on there part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mindset of the average guy on Fab:

"What do you mean you don't want to have sex with me?..that's not fair. I mean, I WANT to have sex with you. I've done my part. What's YOUR problem?"

^Change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's worse when they turn up and they think you are a minger "

yes I know that feeling..its got so bad now that I wear a paper bag over my head on every date and meet I have

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By *pice of life 79 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham

"Mindset of the average guy on Fab:

"What do you mean you don't want to have sex with me?..that's not fair. I mean, I WANT to have sex with you. I've done my part. What's YOUR problem?"

^Change that.

Yes your correct there mate very true

And I agree it shouldn't be an expectation

I just think if distance has been made possibly make some kind of night out of it then leave parting on good terms and enjoy the socializing of the night

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

I like sugar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

I like sugar

Your teeth will fall out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mindset of the average guy on Fab:

"What do you mean you don't want to have sex with me?..that's not fair. I mean, I WANT to have sex with you. I've done my part. What's YOUR problem?"

^Change that.

Lol quality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

A voluptuous bombshell is an acquired taste? I find that particular taste incredibly easy to acquire...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've been turned down a few times....shit happens

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

I like sugar

Your teeth will fall out! "

I'm sure guys won't complain when I give 'em a gum job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. "

I SHOULD have turned you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been turned down a few times....shit happens

your kiddin right..?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I've been turned down a few times....shit happens

your kiddin right..?

Funnily enough....no I'm not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lose the sense of entitlement

Grow some plums

Accept that shit happens

Life will be so much better

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"It's worse when they turn up and they think you are a minger

yes I know that feeling..its got so bad now that I wear a paper bag over my head on every date and meet I have"

I hope you cut eye holes out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been turned down a few times....shit happens

your kiddin right..?

Funnily enough....no I'm not

im shocked..what type of a numpty would turn down a beauty like you..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone.

I SHOULD have turned you down.

Ha ha you mean you shouldn'thave messaged me in the first place Thumper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From reading his op it sounds like they got past the message stage and met in person, then that person rejected him face to face, after he had travelled to see them,

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

I would

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

It happens. I'm gutted for all of five minutes and then make a concerted effort to get over myself. It could be me or it could be any number of reasons. Knowing exactly why or wondering about it won't make it any less of a no. Or at least that's what I tell myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here m8. I just got the silent treatment. Rather just be told but i guess the silence says it all. Plenty more fish in the sea as they say thou.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I've been turned down a few times....shit happens

your kiddin right..?

Funnily enough....no I'm not

im shocked..what type of a numpty would turn down a beauty like you..?

A man that doesn't find me attractive....There are a few about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From reading his op it sounds like they got past the message stage and met in person, then that person rejected him face to face, after he had travelled to see them,

yes this is what I understood too from the OP. Thankfully I've never got to that stage and been rejected but then I do insist on a thorough "getting to know you" before even agreeing to meet with extensive pic swapping so they do have a fair idea of what I am like/look like before meeting. I'm not saying that this is foolproof, but it has worked so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone.

I SHOULD have turned you down.

Ha ha you mean you shouldn'thave messaged me in the first place Thumper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

A voluptuous bombshell is an acquired taste? I find that particular taste incredibly easy to acquire...

We all like different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been turned down a few times....shit happens

your kiddin right..?

Funnily enough....no I'm not

im shocked..what type of a numpty would turn down a beauty like you..?

A man that doesn't find me attractive....There are a few about

there are some weird ones about...some don't find me attractive either....I reckon they must be gay

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I've been turned down a few times....shit happens

your kiddin right..?

Funnily enough....no I'm not

im shocked..what type of a numpty would turn down a beauty like you..?

A man that doesn't find me attractive....There are a few about

there are some weird ones about...some don't find me attractive either....I reckon they must be gay

I reckon so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i can honestly say Ii have never been turned down on a meet, I've had a few thanks but no thanks on here but everyone I have met in the flesh seemed to be happy with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

Dear god woman you are beautiful not an acquired taste. So far from olives it isn't funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also OP : 14 veris in 10 months ?

I am guessing that there are thousands of single guys here who'd love to know that sort of 'rejection'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No i can honestly say Ii have never been turned down on a meet, I've had a few thanks but no thanks on here but everyone I have met in the flesh seemed to be happy with me"

You're feet look seriously aggressive..I wouldn't even fuck with those feet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been turned down before on a meet

Possibly due to fault of my own but still it's not a nice feeling when you've both looked forward to meeting with the build up to it etc

Any one else been turned down and for what reasons ?

I've had a few chats with couples and it was all 'yeah let's shag' blah de blah message until I sent a face pic. Too ugly to fuck

you have to have a good level of self confidence, self believe and move on.

A thick skin helps. The right people are out there, might just take longer to find them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first meet on this account (we agreed not to leave feedback for each other so it's nobody in my veri's!)

Anyway we'd messaged back and forth and exchanged quite a few pictures so we agreed to a hotel meet somewhere half way for both of us. I didn't have very good signal on my phone so my sat nav was crap and I got lost on the way there, had to ask a taxi driver who let me follow him to the hotel! Anyway met the guy, he wasn't as good looking as his pictures and was a lot smaller, I hadn't seen his dick either he just assured me "it's big enough, I've not had no complaints!"

Anyway it was too dark for me to attempt to find my way back to the m4 so I thought suck it up I've got a bacon and egg sandwich, some crisps and a wispa in my bag, we went to the room, I tried to get in the mood by getting him to give me a back massage but I touched his erect penis and it was less than what I like, I wasn't getting juicy and he could tell I wasn't into it when I asked him if we could just watch X factor on itv plus 1. I stayed the night with him though and we both left in the morning! If it came to a physical fight I could've taken him but it taught me a massive lesson to have the social coffee meets first so we can both see each other in the flesh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

I would

Ha ha it's a date!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a bit on my profile .. No connection nothing else happens... And that goes for whoever im meeting...

I've always been polite when stopping a meet... But guys just leg it, hurl abuse when they get back online and block... Very.mature...

I dont let it bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some you win some you loose unfortunately it's the way of the world .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh well, it's only sex from an interweb site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

Dear god woman you are beautiful not an acquired taste. So far from olives it isn't funny"

Well thank you but I'm not for everyone trust me and nor would I expect to be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the ones who turn me down do it just so they can boast to there friends..? warren beatty and and elvis had the same problem too sometimes iv heard..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No i can honestly say Ii have never been turned down on a meet, I've had a few thanks but no thanks on here but everyone I have met in the flesh seemed to be happy with me

You're feet look seriously aggressive..I wouldn't even fuck with those feet!

luckily for me loads of guys love feet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

Dear god woman you are beautiful not an acquired taste. So far from olives it isn't funny

Well thank you but I'm not for everyone trust me and nor would I expect to be! "

I suspect that the majority would like to find out...

Luckily for me, some people like to take a gamble and find out Marmite isn't as bad as it sounds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

Dear god woman you are beautiful not an acquired taste. So far from olives it isn't funny

Well thank you but I'm not for everyone trust me and nor would I expect to be!

I suspect that the majority would like to find out...

Luckily for me, some people like to take a gamble and find out Marmite isn't as bad as it sounds.

The cool kids love marmite so it's all tidy!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Knowing what someone looks like doesn't tell you whether there is that chemical attraction. Half an hour with someone you don't really want to be with feels like an eternity.

I state very clearly that no one should travel out of their way for a first meet with me. It will be a short social meet.

I can top your rejection though.

In my early days, before this site and before doing social meets first I had someone come over. We chatted a bit and decided to give it a go. Both naked he looked at me and said, "you have a pretty face but I can't go there" as he looked at my body. He then grabbed his clothes and ran down the stairs dressing as he went and left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Knowing what someone looks like doesn't tell you whether there is that chemical attraction. Half an hour with someone you don't really want to be with feels like an eternity.

I state very clearly that no one should travel out of their way for a first meet with me. It will be a short social meet.

I can top your rejection though.

Hope you said something about his ridiculously small penis, I would've laughed at it and said it looked like a budgies tongue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

I wanna taste u

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Knowing what someone looks like doesn't tell you whether there is that chemical attraction. Half an hour with someone you don't really want to be with feels like an eternity.

I state very clearly that no one should travel out of their way for a first meet with me. It will be a short social meet.

I can top your rejection though.

Hope you said something about his ridiculously small penis, I would've laughed at it and said it looked like a budgies tongue! "

Why lower yourself? Sounds like teenage behaviour to me, both parts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah rejection. Had it through life..

The one that really hurt the most was as a hormonal 12 or 13 yo at school. I was with mates and there was a group of girls scoring us as we walked past - not bad, not bad, not bad, ugh ...

The 'ugh' was for me. That was like a dagger in the back at the time. Since then I tend not to give a fuck, if they don't like me they don't like me - I always make a point of giving everyone a get out opportunity, strictly a social first (if even just a drink before heading back to a room) so they can back out without awkwardness if they get the 'bloody hell what a minger' moment ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would've laughed at it and said it looked like a budgies tongue! "

mwahahahaha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been turned down when we've messaged someone. Can't be everyone's type. I'm am acquired taste and I'm cool with that.

I wanna taste u

Easy tiger we're in public!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Knowing what someone looks like doesn't tell you whether there is that chemical attraction. Half an hour with someone you don't really want to be with feels like an eternity.

I state very clearly that no one should travel out of their way for a first meet with me. It will be a short social meet.

I can top your rejection though.

Hope you said something about his ridiculously small penis, I would've laughed at it and said it looked like a budgies tongue! "

Why would I? He obviously felt embarrassed that he had agreed to get naked with someone he didn't fancy.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"From reading his op it sounds like they got past the message stage and met in person, then that person rejected him face to face, after he had travelled to see them,

What happens in this situation if you realise their personality I rates you on meeting or for some reason you dislike them in general on meeting even though all was fine up to that point? I certainly wouldn't want to carry on an evening with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right up to the point of getting naked I will ask a man if he's ok with it and it doesn't have to happen if he's not happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right up to the point of getting naked I will ask a man if he's ok with it and it doesn't have to happen if he's not happy "

So he can't change his mind once you are both naked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right up to the point of getting naked I will ask a man if he's ok with it and it doesn't have to happen if he's not happy

So he can't change his mind once you are both naked?

of course but the doors well locked by that point

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Not all personalities will connect on meeting. I like certain type of men. Strong confident and assertive. If I meet a guy and he isn't like that in person instead weak childish and shy then it's a no no for me. Regardless of distance travelled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*waits patiently for the cool kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mindset of the average guy on Fab:

"What do you mean you don't want to have sex with me?..that's not fair. I mean, I WANT to have sex with you. I've done my part. What's YOUR problem?"

^Change that.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I've been turned down before on a meet

Possibly due to fault of my own but still it's not a nice feeling when you've both looked forward to meeting with the build up to it etc

No I'm not attracted to everyone on fab

why would someone after saying they and you are not compatible want to have a night out together..?

it would after all be bloody awkward ..

move on it happens, its part n parcel of this aspect..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

different strokes for different folks. Be pretty boring if we all looked the same. Am not everyones cup of tea. But i dont care. Its all good.

i wouldnt let someone down like that though Thats for sure xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Knowing what someone looks like doesn't tell you whether there is that chemical attraction. Half an hour with someone you don't really want to be with feels like an eternity.

I state very clearly that no one should travel out of their way for a first meet with me. It will be a short social meet.

I can top your rejection though.

Wow

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Oh god I've been told ive got a gorgeous face but I'm too fat for them..I feel a bit bleerrgghh for a few minutes but then I think fuck it. I guess ive got a thick skin and moved on from it. As long as I'm happy with myself then that's all that matters. The day I becme unhappy with the way I look then I will look to change what I'm unhappy with. I get far more abuse on a dating site about my size than any other place...the world is s strange place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh god I've been told ive got a gorgeous face but I'm too fat for them..I feel a bit bleerrgghh for a few minutes but then I think fuck it. I guess ive got a thick skin and moved on from it. As long as I'm happy with myself then that's all that matters. The day I becme unhappy with the way I look then I will look to change what I'm unhappy with. I get far more abuse on a dating site about my size than any other place...the world is s strange place

That's the best attitude to have - good for you!

Dating sites are full of trolls, ignore them.

I'm glad you're happy with yourself, their loss and there are PLENTY of guys out there who will appreciate you for exactly who, and what, you are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bollocks to them i say

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"From reading his op it sounds like they got past the message stage and met in person, then that person rejected him face to face, after he had travelled to see them,

And I kind of agree with what he's saying if someone travelled 50 miles to meet us even if there wasn't an attraction there we would still have a night out with them just because there's no sex doesn't mean you can't have a good laugh"
. True but I prefer to be told straight away if there is no attraction. ( though I accept not everyone does ). At least the person you are meeting has the honesty to tell you to your face that you are not their type . Last time it happened to me , I told the couple that there was no need to apologise as his partner would not be attracted to everyone and they thanked me for being so understanding . They even gave me back my bottle of wine . With the benefit of hindsight , it might have helped if I has spoken to the lady on the phone first . I think her partner was trying to talk her into doing a threesome .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been turned down before on a meet

Possibly due to fault of my own but still it's not a nice feeling when you've both looked forward to meeting with the build up to it etc

No I'm not attracted to everyone on fab

Why should you have a night out - to me there has to be a spark there, personality, humour, chatty. I couldn't spend an evening in someone's company if I didn't think the above and they hardly said two words, were nervous - what a great night that would be .... NOT!! I'm by no means everybody's cup of tea and never been stood up or rejected but if I ever am then it's their loss. I won't meet for the sake of it or boredom and certainly travel any long distances. You'll get over it and move on until the next meet but if you can't take rejection then maybe FAB isn't for you!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone encounters rejection, it's part of reality and life. I wouldn't see another way to be but honest. Makes us tougher / self aware / whatever I guess.

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By *pice of life 79 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham

"From reading his op it sounds like they got past the message stage and met in person, then that person rejected him face to face, after he had travelled to see them,

Exactly my point I travelled 2 hours to a town I didn't know or feel comfortable on my own ok I'm a bloke and not quite as vulnerable as a women would be but still the same

I think it was rude to just have only 20 mind with me when in fact conversation was starting to flow

If they had said ok were not keen on fun but you've travelled all this way then we will gladly take you out rather than leave me to norwich on my own

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Mindset of the average guy on Fab:

"What do you mean you don't want to have sex with me?..that's not fair. I mean, I WANT to have sex with you. I've done my part. What's YOUR problem?"

^Change that.

Certainly it's not every man. Probably not even the majority. Still, it sums up some perfectly.

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Nail on the head!!!!! You ain't fat! You have thick skin! Woo hoo I have self diagnosed myself too!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it on the chin, walk out the door with the attitude, " it happens or dont"

I would much rather be told, its not going to happen, than someones " oh ok for the sake of it"

Her

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Take it on the chin, walk out the door with the attitude, " it happens or dont"

I would much rather be told, its not going to happen, than someones " oh ok for the sake of it"

Her

Agreed. I've been turned down too, sometimes in quite hurtful ways but I'd rather that than someone 'going through with it' when they didn't want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right up to the point of getting naked I will ask a man if he's ok with it and it doesn't have to happen if he's not happy

So he can't change his mind once you are both naked?

If he hasn't bolted when I've taken my clothes off I'm assuming he's a stayed

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Right up to the point of getting naked I will ask a man if he's ok with it and it doesn't have to happen if he's not happy

So he can't change his mind once you are both naked?

If he hasn't bolted when I've taken my clothes off I'm assuming he's a stayed

Meh. I'll have him tied down and will be removing his clothes with paramedic shears by that point...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At some point in out life time we all encounter rejection. Whether it be in real life or fab life. Iv encountered it a few times in both. Yes it hurts, but you soon bounce back from it as we all do. We have to in order to move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been turned down a few times....shit happens

your kiddin right..?

Funnily enough....no I'm not

im shocked..what type of a numpty would turn down a beauty like you..?

A man that doesn't find me attractive....There are a few about

They're all mad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take it on the chin, walk out the door with the attitude, " it happens or dont"

I would much rather be told, its not going to happen, than someones " oh ok for the sake of it"

Her

Agreed. I've been turned down too, sometimes in quite hurtful ways but I'd rather that than someone 'going through with it' when they didn't want to."
Exactly! Why be someones relief, you will do much better along the way.

I got called a slag in a club not so long ago because i had to say i did not want to, i just thought " oh well little boy" no need for nastiness, no easy way of letting someone down, but being nasty is silly.

Her

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Take it on the chin, walk out the door with the attitude, " it happens or dont"

I would much rather be told, its not going to happen, than someones " oh ok for the sake of it"

Her

Agreed. I've been turned down too, sometimes in quite hurtful ways but I'd rather that than someone 'going through with it' when they didn't want to. Exactly! Why be someones relief, you will do much better along the way.

Her"

It always amuses me when they resort to calling someone a slag for declining sex

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over a year ago

"Take it on the chin, walk out the door with the attitude, " it happens or dont"

I would much rather be told, its not going to happen, than someones " oh ok for the sake of it"

Her

It always amuses me when they resort to calling someone a slag for declining sex

kids, will be kids

Her

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Take it on the chin, walk out the door with the attitude, " it happens or dont"

I would much rather be told, its not going to happen, than someones " oh ok for the sake of it"

Her

It always amuses me when they resort to calling someone a slag for declining sex

kids, will be kids

Her"

It's like 'well you're too fat and ugly for me anyway'. Strange, since I wasn't 10 seconds ago, before I said no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guilty of not opening/replying to messages but state on my profile that if I don't think the person is for me then that's what will happen. I have to agree that if you've been chatting with someone, mutually like each other's face pics but are then ignored it's quite annoying. I have in the past sent a message asking if they're still interested thereby giving the opportunity to restart the chat, as I ask people messaging me to do. But when that message is ignored there is no option to block, forget and move on. Luckily I've never had anyone leave me immediately they saw me for real, I'd likely feel differently if that happened.

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over a year ago

"Take it on the chin, walk out the door with the attitude, " it happens or dont"

I would much rather be told, its not going to happen, than someones " oh ok for the sake of it"

Her

It always amuses me when they resort to calling someone a slag for declining sex

kids, will be kids

Her

It's like 'well you're too fat and ugly for me anyway'. Strange, since I wasn't 10 seconds ago, before I said no.

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lol that amused me as a single female, getting abused for saying no, erm hang on, i was just a sex goddess

Her

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

You would honestly want a night out with someone who did not want to spend time with you? Wow, how awkward would that feel? Honesty is by far the best policy.

And yes, I have had some pretty shitty rejections - fab and real life - the fab one - he drove past me in his car, and then whizzed out of the car park and then texted me there were no parking spaces, and he wasn't going to bother. I'd driven about 30 miles to meet.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"You would honestly want a night out with someone who did not want to spend time with you? Wow, how awkward would that feel? Honesty is by far the best policy.

We have all has rejections but it's part of this lifestyle. Even though you may drive a distance to meet doesn't mean sex is guaranteed. Always have a back up plan xx

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Meant to say a thick skin is required x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"You would honestly want a night out with someone who did not want to spend time with you? Wow, how awkward would that feel? Honesty is by far the best policy.

I had one, many years ago and not from here, pretend to turn gay part way through a meet.

I laughed and told him a simple "sorry, I'm not interested" would have done but at least he'd done it before the tubes stopped running and saved me from night bus hell or a cab fare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been turned down, but never on a meet, surely you would sort that out before you actually meet someone ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next time Skype and arrange a social only first . Hard to tell a connection thru messages and pics .

I would never travel always meet people in a club so if I don't like them I can party on

P.s. You think too much

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Stop stressing.

I frankly don't care what others think of me. I stick with that.

I was commenting on a meet I had where I had stayed and I wish I hadn't. I was trying to show a balance of what could have happened. You weren't that meet. Just to clarify.

Am sure you will pick yourself up and move on with a lesson learnt. I certainly have and had a great meet recently x

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts. Can you please keep your personal disputes off the forums please. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No i can honestly say Ii have never been turned down on a meet, I've had a few thanks but no thanks on here but everyone I have met in the flesh seemed to be happy with me

You're feet look seriously aggressive..I wouldn't even fuck with those feet!

More fool you mate. Liberally apply warm oil, feed thick erection between those now slippery feet of Naughty's and pump away....

A simple process but one I would relish enormously...

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