FabSwingers.com forum: Messages go cold

By *attitude6 OP Man
over a year ago

Ilkeston

I just wondered, hi by the way folks!

You message someone and they reply and you exchange i dont know a handful of messages and then they just stop replying and delete your message. You message them an hour later of even the next day and they delete your message AT ONCE!. ... Why is this?? is it because you come across as boring lol.. kind of like this message haha!

its even weirder when a person adds you as a friend, in which you then message them, and again same things happen when they dont bother responding anymore.. whats the point??????

Frustrating and common?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Yes it is common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep very commonplace, does mean that sometimes people are being polite, run out of something to say and then decide you are not for them, sorry its a fact of here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just wondered, hi by the way folks!

its even weirder when a person adds you as a friend, in which you then message them, and again same things happen when they dont bother responding anymore.. whats the point??????

Frustrating and common?"

Its a bit like ordering twin steak and kidney puds and double chips from the chippy. When you get them home you decide you have changed your mind and want the fish now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

surprised actually, you are quite good looking apart from the big sweat marks on the front of your shirts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why people stop talking to you, but I stop talking to people if they bore me ie every message, "so met any new subs?"

If they message me the minute I log in, and there's a previous message from them.

If someone else who can string a sentence together writes.

People change their mind: their perogative!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women...Never gonna understand them...Best get a hobby that excludes them...

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"Women...Never gonna understand them...Best get a hobby that excludes them...

He could take up photography and learn how to take pics that don't cast a shadow of the camera and his hand that people mistake for sweat stains!

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By *eclan_and_AimeeCouple
over a year ago

dunblane, stirling

"surprised actually, you are quite good looking apart from the big sweat marks on the front of your shirts

lol, i had to look twice at that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just wondered, hi by the way folks!

its even weirder when a person adds you as a friend, in which you then message them, and again same things happen when they dont bother responding anymore.. whats the point??????

Frustrating and common?"

I keep promising myself NOT to reply on these threads.

You are looking at the message in a very one sided manner.

You think there is YOU and the OTHER person but the OTHER person has OTHERPEOPLE messaging them too and a life outside of messages so to be fair there are a myriad of events taking place that you have absolutely NO knowledge of. Stop trying to work it out and put your energy into someone thaht wants you.

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By *attitude6 OP Man
over a year ago

Ilkeston

i can indeed confirm that it is the shadow of my phone and not sweat dripping from my nipples!!! LOL!!

But errm thanks for the compliment! I dont get compliments so thanks!

and also I see someone also said maybe you became boring etc.. i understand that. Me myself though I am quite chatty on here as you can see by my waffelling on in these messages here, and it does also get a bit frustrating when you write ay i duno 5 setences and the person replys with 5 words lol dearrrrrrry me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just wondered, hi by the way folks!

its even weirder when a person adds you as a friend, in which you then message them, and again same things happen when they dont bother responding anymore.. whats the point??????

Frustrating and common?

Its a bit like ordering twin steak and kidney puds and double chips from the chippy. When you get them home you decide you have changed your mind and want the fish now. "

shuda ave got a kebab then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is what it is...women and couples get so much mail on here, often all they have is time for 5 words.

If you're a single bloke, you've just got to accept the frustrations that come along with this site or decide to leave. Put yourself in their situation and think how you'd deal with all these incoming messages.

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By *ouple4funnewCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

it happens, don't take it personally

people act weird and unpredicitably, just inject a bit of humour into it...sometimes it works in winning people back , sometimes people don't even know what they want and need convincing

never chase after them, always bait your hook with something worth biting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" sometimes people don't even know what they want and need convincing)

Most do: therefore messaging people that clearly are not interested in you will result in you being blocked!

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