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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Really amazed by the amount of meets some people have... every weekend and a few mid week also, does swinging really consume and take over peoples lives that badly? do these people actually have sex together without being in the presence of others? we enjoy our meets, but every now and again or else it just gets mundane and a matter of routine... discuss!!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Isn't that their business?

Do they have to justify their behaviour to others?

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By *entscotscplCouple
over a year ago

falkirk ish

well we do say each to thier own

we never judge any one

just our opinion lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each ta their own xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes, it is their business and each to their own, but we are talking about lifestyle and not specific individuals!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod

over a year ago

I have never wanted to swing every weekend with loads of different people

Shift work dictates much of the free time we have but I do like to have somethings to look forward to,so will plan in advance

Some have lots more free time and if they want to fill that time up with swinging then Id say go for it if it makes them happy

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Lucky buggers for having the time...and the energy

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Yes, it is their business and each to their own, but we are talking about lifestyle and not specific individuals!!!!"

You think folk have too many meets!

You believe the forums and chatrooms are too cliquey!

Is anyone allowed to do what they want to do without being questioned and have to justify it?

No offence meant, just a question back to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always amazed how many of the same people are in chat day in and day out.

I am not a chat regular but can guarantee the same people will be there.

not judging just stating.

saw a post last week from someone who was with her family on a train going to celebrate her kids birthday and she was still posting on fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Only mentioned it because we find that some couples become very predatory, and guess what... they have feedback running into the 20s...

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"Yes, it is their business and each to their own, but we are talking about lifestyle and not specific individuals!!!!

You think folk have too many meets!

You believe the forums and chatrooms are too cliquey!

Is anyone allowed to do what they want to do without being questioned and have to justify it?

No offence meant, just a question back to you! "

Well said that man!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Some people have more free time than others... and may be fewer other interests.

I'd be less worried about people who let meeting other people take over their lives than the people who let cyberspace take over their lives.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"Only mentioned it because we find that some couples become very predatory, and guess what... they have feedback running into the 20s..."

What does that have to do with you?

Sorry to come across as rude but if you can't stand the heat......you know the next bit I am sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod

over a year ago


"Only mentioned it because we find that some couples become very predatory, and guess what... they have feedback running into the 20s..."

Is that amount of feedback wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, it is their business and each to their own, but we are talking about lifestyle and not specific individuals!!!!

You think folk have too many meets!

You believe the forums and chatrooms are too cliquey!

Is anyone allowed to do what they want to do without being questioned and have to justify it?

No offence meant, just a question back to you! "

Not seeking justification.... just curious about how things work... read our profile!!! only been on here a few months, think it is called learning the ropes and seeking advice!! isnt that what forums are for?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"always amazed how many of the same people are in chat day in and day out.

I am not a chat regular but can guarantee the same people will be there.

not judging just stating.

saw a post last week from someone who was with her family on a train going to celebrate her kids birthday and she was still posting on fab. "

I know who you are meaning with that comment and tbh it really is up to her if she on here then or at anytime!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only mentioned it because we find that some couples become very predatory, and guess what... they have feedback running into the 20s..."

Well we have over 50 feedbacks on our profile (its hidden at the min)and that does not include clubs or second or third meets of the same people but to tell you the truth we really dont meet that often xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"always amazed how many of the same people are in chat day in and day out.

I am not a chat regular but can guarantee the same people will be there.

not judging just stating.

saw a post last week from someone who was with her family on a train going to celebrate her kids birthday and she was still posting on fab.

I know who you are meaning with that comment and tbh it really is up to her if she on here then or at anytime! "

totally agree.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Only mentioned it because we find that some couples become very predatory, and guess what... they have feedback running into the 20s..."

I've played/been played with over 20 people in one night... so what does that mean?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only mentioned it because we find that some couples become very predatory, and guess what... they have feedback running into the 20s...

What does that have to do with you?

Sorry to come across as rude but if you can't stand the heat......you know the next bit I am sure!"

Not rude, slightly patronising, but not rude... we can stand the heat, thats not an issue.. just like to read peoples opinions, no harm in that really

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Only mentioned it because we find that some couples become very predatory, and guess what... they have feedback running into the 20s...

Is that amount of feedback wrong?"

*sneaks off to hide verifications before the swing police arrive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only mentioned it because we find that some couples become very predatory, and guess what... they have feedback running into the 20s...

I've played/been played with over 20 people in one night... so what does that mean?"

Each to their own

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

It isn't the finding time for meets - it's the finding time to arrange meets

It takes days to get meets sorted - and then you get cancellations - so you have to always have 2nd and 3rd backups just in case - and if they fail then you spend all friday afternoon on meet today..

It can be a full time job and that's just for fortnightly meets

Lord knows how everybody else does it

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Only mentioned it because we find that some couples become very predatory, and guess what... they have feedback running into the 20s...

I've played/been played with over 20 people in one night... so what does that mean?"

Youre a lucky bugger...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I have no desire to meet every week as I like to spend time with vanila friends, my adult children and having me time.

I sometimes meet playmates socially, went to a wedding with one as he didn't want to go alone.

For most that would be a total no no, just as meeting others every other day would be for others.

We all play differently: how others play is their business, not mine!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so the short answer to my question is 50/50.... 50% live their lives by arranging meets and spending their free time in the company of others and 50% swing on a casual 'whenever the mood takes' basis.... inconclusive, but still an answer... thank you all

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"so the short answer to my question is 50/50.... 50% live their lives by arranging meets and spending their free time in the company of others and 50% swing on a casual 'whenever the mood takes' basis.... inconclusive, but still an answer... thank you all "

I thought it was more like 75/25 - 75 being each to their own and the 25 being it is no one elses business!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only mentioned it because we find that some couples become very predatory, and guess what... they have feedback running into the 20s...

I've played/been played with over 20 people in one night... so what does that mean?"

Your a slut!

*skips of to prepare for bible study*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Your a slut!

*skips of to prepare for bible study*"

Na shes an amateur lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"so the short answer to my question is 50/50.... 50% live their lives by arranging meets and spending their free time in the company of others and 50% swing on a casual 'whenever the mood takes' basis.... inconclusive, but still an answer... thank you all

I thought it was more like 75/25 - 75 being each to their own and the 25 being it is no one elses business! "

No, i read it as 50/50... 54/46 at a push but thanks anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really amazed by the amount of meets some people have... every weekend and a few mid week also, does swinging really consume and take over peoples lives that badly? do these people actually have sex together without being in the presence of others? we enjoy our meets, but every now and again or else it just gets mundane and a matter of routine... discuss!!"

How do you know they are meeting every weekend and some weekdays?

Some people assume others meet a lot because they are on "meet today" everyday or have an advert in the Meets section, if they are anything like us thy advertise everyday and actually find a compatible meet every 3 months

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"so the short answer to my question is 50/50.... 50% live their lives by arranging meets and spending their free time in the company of others and 50% swing on a casual 'whenever the mood takes' basis.... inconclusive, but still an answer... thank you all

I thought it was more like 75/25 - 75 being each to their own and the 25 being it is no one elses business!

No, i read it as 50/50... 54/46 at a push but thanks anyway "

It just goes to show that people read what they want to into forum posts and not what is actually written!

Thanks to you too and happy swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only mentioned it because we find that some couples become very predatory, and guess what... they have feedback running into the 20s..."

On our old profile we had 67 feedbacks, we had played with 3 of those couples/singles, the rest we had met at clubs like Chameleons and Utopia, at Erotica in London, at the guest house we used to have for people visiting local clubs, at the swingers hotel I used to manage and at parties, thinking about it I didnt really have that many feedbacks for someone who has been on this site for years

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon


"Lucky buggers for having the time...and the energy "

and the chance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"so the short answer to my question is 50/50.... 50% live their lives by arranging meets and spending their free time in the company of others and 50% swing on a casual 'whenever the mood takes' basis.... inconclusive, but still an answer... thank you all

I thought it was more like 75/25 - 75 being each to their own and the 25 being it is no one elses business!

No, i read it as 50/50... 54/46 at a push but thanks anyway

It just goes to show that people read what they want to into forum posts and not what is actually written!

Thanks to you too and happy swinging! "

Many thanks, i have read everything and digested it all.... its been interesting, thanks

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