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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Something that causes me immense frustration as a single male on here, is that whilst it's not too hard to find a meet with reasonable regularity (depending on what you're looking for), finding someone when you just have that urge to meet a woman, that NEED for sexual affection, when the weather turns dark and wet, you're cold, worn out and want little more than to climb into a nice warm bed with a woman and enjoy some sexual release together, that's when it seems hardest off all to find it. It has nothing to do with desperation, its not that kind of feeling, I suppose it's more than as winter sets in and the daylight hours start to dwindle, that you really start to notice that lack of affection in your life, anyone else feel the same way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean love?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Nah, I just put some porn on and have a wank

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Do you mean love?"

How does above equate to love....you can have all of that without being in love I know I have and never loved him...I cared. I think the winter months do bring a more of a desire for affection...I know I would love a cuddle buddy to wrap up with in the winter months...That does not mean I want to marry the fucker

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you mean love?"

Never ceases to amaze me how few guys on here realise there is an area between full romantic love and emotionless no strings sex.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

My friend you need an fb x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you mean love?

How does above equate to love....you can have all of that without being in love I know I have and never loved him...I cared. I think the winter months do bring a more of a desire for affection...I know I would love a cuddle buddy to wrap up with in the winter months...That does not mean I want to marry the fucker "

Thankyou Cheeky, you get it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean love?

Never ceases to amaze me how few guys on here realise there is an area between full romantic love and emotionless no strings sex."

Thats a bit patronizing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean love?"

Bingo .. sounds like you need a girlfriend or boyfriend.

Or are you describing a Fuck Buddy 'on demand'?

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I think sometimes it's lovely and cosy to just cuddle up with someone.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I think he just needs a full night not just fuck and go which is fine but sometimes its nice to just chill out cwcthed uo on the sofa talking shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read an article on this but for the life of me can't remember the term they used for wanting someone when the weather turns....

It's going to annoy me now until I think of it - also mentioned by the 'guru' Tracey Cox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean love?

How does above equate to love....you can have all of that without being in love I know I have and never loved him...I cared. I think the winter months do bring a more of a desire for affection...I know I would love a cuddle buddy to wrap up with in the winter months...That does not mean I want to marry the fucker "

i personally couldn't do all that cuddling stuff without having feelings for someone.. A quick affectionate cuddle after sex is completely different to what you describe.. Im not saying i need marriage from it but i never have and never will be comfortable in a long embrace with someone i don't have an emotional connection to

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

I know exactly what you mean.. Just the cuddles and affection and some good sex.. Sometimes you just have to stick with Heinz instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I think he just needs a full night not just fuck and go which is fine but sometimes its nice to just chill out cwcthed uo on the sofa talking shit "

So a live in Fuck Buddy or someone to turn up and fuck whenever he NEEDS it on a cold Winter night without the emotional baggage of a girlfriend??

Utopia my friend! Good luck with the search!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me, emotionless no strings sex = Wank, just as satisfying, logistically far less complicated. Nowt wrong with a bit of emotion, makes the extra effort worth it

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys


"No I think he just needs a full night not just fuck and go which is fine but sometimes its nice to just chill out cwcthed uo on the sofa talking shit

So a live in Fuck Buddy or someone to turn up and fuck whenever he NEEDS it on a cold Winter night without the emotional baggage of a girlfriend??

Utopia my friend! Good luck with the search!

"

I love all the snuggles and talking about shit, sex all night long.. Without the ties... It's perfect!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want a wife mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No I think he just needs a full night not just fuck and go which is fine but sometimes its nice to just chill out cwcthed uo on the sofa talking shit

So a live in Fuck Buddy or someone to turn up and fuck whenever he NEEDS it on a cold Winter night without the emotional baggage of a girlfriend??

Utopia my friend! Good luck with the search!

I love all the snuggles and talking about shit, sex all night long.. Without the ties... It's perfect!"

I think some people need to be in relationships, they need someone to wake up with each morning, come home to at night, spend their weekends together...whilst it'd be nice to find someone I could feel that strongly about, I guess I've never felt that need quite as much as so many people I see around me in the real world.

But what I certainly DO need is someone I care about and feel a strong sexual desire toward, someone I love expressing my sexual urges and affections toward and who feels the same way about me. Its not just the feelings of sexual release, it's the feeling of being desired, wanted and accepted, there's only so long you can be on your own before you start wondering 'do I actually have any value in this world?'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I think he just needs a full night not just fuck and go which is fine but sometimes its nice to just chill out cwcthed uo on the sofa talking shit

So a live in Fuck Buddy or someone to turn up and fuck whenever he NEEDS it on a cold Winter night without the emotional baggage of a girlfriend??

Utopia my friend! Good luck with the search!

I love all the snuggles and talking about shit, sex all night long.. Without the ties... It's perfect!"

Sounds damned good to me too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely miss not being able to cuddle up to someone at night during the winter time, especially lately with this blustery wind and heavy rain. I like listening to the weather outside when I'm snuggled up!

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys


"No I think he just needs a full night not just fuck and go which is fine but sometimes its nice to just chill out cwcthed uo on the sofa talking shit

So a live in Fuck Buddy or someone to turn up and fuck whenever he NEEDS it on a cold Winter night without the emotional baggage of a girlfriend??

Utopia my friend! Good luck with the

search!

I love all the snuggles and talking about shit, sex all night long.. Without the ties... It's perfect!

I think some people need to be in relationships, they need someone to wake up with each morning, come home to at night, spend their weekends together...whilst it'd be nice to find someone I could feel that strongly about, I guess I've never felt that need quite as much as so many people I see around me in the real world.

But what I certainly DO need is someone I care about and feel a strong sexual desire toward, someone I love expressing my sexual urges and affections toward and who feels the same way about me. Its not just the feelings of sexual release, it's the feeling of being desired, wanted and accepted, there's only so long you can be on your own before you start wondering 'do I actually have any value in this world?'."

Exactly!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I definitely miss not being able to cuddle up to someone at night during the winter time, especially lately with this blustery wind and heavy rain. I like listening to the weather outside when I'm snuggled up! "

I remember once having an outdoor meet in the pouring rain (it was intentional though)and it was interesting, but it was when we returned to her house that I enjoyed the meet best, her bed felt so warm and soft, and when she climbed in next to me and we kissed, the whole experience of coming in from the cold and wet just felt so right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I think he just needs a full night not just fuck and go which is fine but sometimes its nice to just chill out cwcthed uo on the sofa talking shit

So a live in Fuck Buddy or someone to turn up and fuck whenever he NEEDS it on a cold Winter night without the emotional baggage of a girlfriend??

Utopia my friend! Good luck with the search!

I love all the snuggles and talking about shit, sex all night long.. Without the ties... It's perfect!

I think some people need to be in relationships, they need someone to wake up with each morning, come home to at night, spend their weekends together...whilst it'd be nice to find someone I could feel that strongly about, I guess I've never felt that need quite as much as so many people I see around me in the real world.

But what I certainly DO need is someone I care about and feel a strong sexual desire toward, someone I love expressing my sexual urges and affections toward and who feels the same way about me. Its not just the feelings of sexual release, it's the feeling of being desired, wanted and accepted, there's only so long you can be on your own before you start wondering 'do I actually have any value in this world?'."

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I do like a kiss and a cuddle, a bit of spooning and pillow talk.

It's natural really, we aren't islands after all. Part of the experience is connecting and sharing something, so if you can be open about sex then for me, the rest is natural. But I'm naturally affectionate, so maybe that's why. Some folks just aren't and keep that part locked away for someone they feel is special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have that without the staying the night. I like going home to my family and own bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That just comes across as rather selfish as it's about your needs and not the other party, I do get what you mean as I sometimes would like company but mine is more about sex than someone to keep me warm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 21/10/14 18:33:41]"
get yourself a cuddle buddie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 21/10/14 18:33:41]get yourself a cuddle buddie "

Got to find a man who actually wants to meet, let alone get a regular one

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"Do you mean love?

How does above equate to love....you can have all of that without being in love I know I have and never loved him...I cared. I think the winter months do bring a more of a desire for affection...I know I would love a cuddle buddy to wrap up with in the winter months...That does not mean I want to marry the fucker

Thankyou Cheeky, you get it x"

I get it too, dude.

I miss that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah, I just put some porn on and have a wank "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That just comes across as rather selfish as it's about your needs and not the other party"

I did mention that enjoyment of the experience has to be mutual, remember it's affection I seek to both give and receive, I can't be sexually and emotionally satisfied unless we both are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely miss not being able to cuddle up to someone at night during the winter time, especially lately with this blustery wind and heavy rain. I like listening to I the weather outside when I'm snuggled up!

I remember once having an outdoor meet in the pouring rain (it was intentional though)and it was interesting, but it was when we returned to her house that I enjoyed the meet best, her bed felt so warm and soft, and when she climbed in next to me and we kissed, the whole experience of coming in from the cold and wet just felt so right."

That sounds great its nice to take the time sometimes to have a full night of sex and companionship

Curled up in front of a fire playing cwcthing and even just enjoying a but of silence in the company of a naked friend lieing next to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean love?

How does above equate to love....you can have all of that without being in love I know I have and never loved him...I cared. I think the winter months do bring a more of a desire for affection...I know I would love a cuddle buddy to wrap up with in the winter months...That does not mean I want to marry the fucker "

Perfect as always miss cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean love?

How does above equate to love....you can have all of that without being in love I know I have and never loved him...I cared. I think the winter months do bring a more of a desire for affection...I know I would love a cuddle buddy to wrap up with in the winter months...That does not mean I want to marry the fucker "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean love?

Never ceases to amaze me how few guys on here realise there is an area between full romantic love and emotionless no strings sex."

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely miss not being able to cuddle up to someone at night during the winter time, especially lately with this blustery wind and heavy rain. I like listening to I the weather outside when I'm snuggled up!

I remember once having an outdoor meet in the pouring rain (it was intentional though)and it was interesting, but it was when we returned to her house that I enjoyed the meet best, her bed felt so warm and soft, and when she climbed in next to me and we kissed, the whole experience of coming in from the cold and wet just felt so right.

That sounds great its nice to take the time sometimes to have a full night of sex and companionship

Curled up in front of a fire playing cwcthing and even just enjoying a but of silence in the company of a naked friend lieing next to you "

Then someone farts and its back to reality and all the reasons why you don't want a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean love?

Never ceases to amaze me how few guys on here realise there is an area between full romantic love and emotionless no strings sex."

I know what you mean and sad to say Ive experienced the need for that when I was in previous relationships laying in a bed with a women who didnt get it either.

Happily not a problem I have anymore but I feel were your coming from.

Stu

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Lifes shite sometimes innit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer one offs myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lifes shite sometimes innit."

yup got that right...can only get better though hun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I definitely miss not being able to cuddle up to someone at night during the winter time, especially lately with this blustery wind and heavy rain. I like listening to I the weather outside when I'm snuggled up!

I remember once having an outdoor meet in the pouring rain (it was intentional though)and it was interesting, but it was when we returned to her house that I enjoyed the meet best, her bed felt so warm and soft, and when she climbed in next to me and we kissed, the whole experience of coming in from the cold and wet just felt so right.

That sounds great its nice to take the time sometimes to have a full night of sex and companionship

Curled up in front of a fire playing cwcthing and even just enjoying a but of silence in the company of a naked friend lieing next to you

Then someone farts and its back to reality and all the reasons why you don't want a relationship "

Even worse if they do it INTO the fireplace, I think great sex can be somewhat explosive but not literally.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Prefer one offs myself "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Prefer one offs myself

Me too "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean love?

Never ceases to amaze me how few guys on here realise there is an area between full romantic love and emotionless no strings sex."

I think a fair few of us do.

I have my "friends" on here....some of them regularish meets. I have a fair bit of fun with one offs too.

I also have a very special friend. Genuinely my "best mate". Recently bought a new caravan and moved it to a year round site. We try to spend at least one night a week there on our own (well ok she has a dog too). We will also normally spend at least one night a week cuddled up on one of our sofas.

We do have sex ......but not all the time. A cuddle buddy is good. And yes...we lie in bed and discuss our fab meets too.

It's all variety of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mean love?

Never ceases to amaze me how few guys on here realise there is an area between full romantic love and emotionless no strings sex."

Most do you must be going with the wrong guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I think he just needs a full night not just fuck and go which is fine but sometimes its nice to just chill out cwcthed uo on the sofa talking shit "

so true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That just comes across as rather selfish as it's about your needs and not the other party, I do get what you mean as I sometimes would like company but mine is more about sex than someone to keep me warm "

I get what the OP and others on here mean too, but it does seem to be a case of 'have your cake and eat it'

i.e. All the benefits of a girlfriend without the ties and binds of a girlfriend.. enjoy the sex and companionship (it also comes across as when I need it I want it, in my terms) but only to a point so they can go and do what they want the rest of the time without having to worry about anyone else. And all packaged up as a 'frustration' of being a single guy - my heart bleeds!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Do you mean love?

How does above equate to love....you can have all of that without being in love I know I have and never loved him...I cared. I think the winter months do bring a more of a desire for affection...I know I would love a cuddle buddy to wrap up with in the winter months...That does not mean I want to marry the fucker

i personally couldn't do all that cuddling stuff without having feelings for someone.. A quick affectionate cuddle after sex is completely different to what you describe.. Im not saying i need marriage from it but i never have and never will be comfortable in a long embrace with someone i don't have an emotional connection to "

And that's why we are all different....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I think he just needs a full night not just fuck and go which is fine but sometimes its nice to just chill out cwcthed uo on the sofa talking shit

so true x "

Yup

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That just comes across as rather selfish as it's about your needs and not the other party, I do get what you mean as I sometimes would like company but mine is more about sex than someone to keep me warm

I get what the OP and others on here mean too, but it does seem to be a case of 'have your cake and eat it'

i.e. All the benefits of a girlfriend without the ties and binds of a girlfriend.. enjoy the sex and companionship (it also comes across as when I need it I want it, in my terms) but only to a point so they can go and do what they want the rest of the time without having to worry about anyone else. And all packaged up as a 'frustration' of being a single guy - my heart bleeds! "

And you don't think it's possible that some women may want the same thing?

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sorry Brian I have no advice for you but help you find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get what the op is saying. It is nice to have someone to cuddle up to in a cold winters evening, etc without the total commitment of a full blown relashionship but at the same time have that sexual chemistry. Its something im looking for

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