FabSwingers.com forum: undecided.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I need your opinion on something folks.

I've known this guy for 3 years, met him from here originally and yes I slept with him once.

I decided to get a new phone as I was bored with the iPhone 5. But stored my numbers in icloud. Sold my phone and got a new phone with a new number.

Logged into icloud to get my numbers, no numbers were saved which I found odd.

He doesn't have facw book, hardly logs on twitter and I canot find his email address(we hardly emailed as we always texted or spoke on the phone)

Anyway I know where he works, I don't know if it'll be stalkerish if I phoned up where he works (he's a manager)

I have some news to tell him, do I phone him up or leave it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is he a daddy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is he a daddy?"

That was my thought too.....

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

It would depend on what the news is. If it's something that won't affect his life then I wouldn't.

But if it's something that will affect his life then I would.

I wouldn't tell him over the phone though, I'd just call and ask to meet for a chat and tell him face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the news concerns him and he needs to know it then you've nothing to lose by calling. If however, its just something you want him to know and it's not really to do with him, then just walk away.

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

"is he a daddy?

That was my thought too.....

Me three

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

"is he a daddy?"

......or maybe he needs a trip to the STI clinic...only joking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's fate. Leave him be

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

ring and meet for coffee or get his number again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write to Dear Diedrie, she knows the answer to everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhhh, I love a good secret!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 20/10/14 17:23:10]

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha if the condom split and if I was pregnant for 28 months, then maybe. But nope.

We are close friends otherwise I wouldn't be particularly bothered about getting in contact with him.

I wanted to let him know my Father passed away and that I given birth to my daughter 4 weeks ago, and no he isn't the dad. My boyfriend is, funnily enough.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Maybe he is THE DADDY - perhaps he's Ray Winstone.

I'd leave it, as it seems a bit invasive, personally. However, without knowing the ins and outs it is hard to say.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Maybe a note with your number and saying you lost his and you would love to catch up... Nothing incriminating just incase its accidentally open by a colleague of his.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe a note with your number and saying you lost his and you would love to catch up... Nothing incriminating just incase its accidentally open by a colleague of his."

The only thing is, he works in London and that's about 3 hours away from me, otherwise I would've handed a note to one of his colleagues to hand it to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha if the condom split and if I was pregnant for 28 months, then maybe. But nope.

We are close friends otherwise I wouldn't be particularly bothered about getting in contact with him.

I wanted to let him know my Father passed away and that I given birth to my daughter 4 weeks ago, and no he isn't the dad. My boyfriend is, funnily enough.

if you arent close leave it

I did this recently past went deleted numbers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Haha if the condom split and if I was pregnant for 28 months, then maybe. But nope.

We are close friends otherwise I wouldn't be particularly bothered about getting in contact with him.

I wanted to let him know my Father passed away and that I given birth to my daughter 4 weeks ago, and no he isn't the dad. My boyfriend is, funnily enough.

if you arent close leave it

I did this recently past went deleted numbers.

We are close aye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do it then.

hes probably back in here anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the news really but if it wasn't important Ide delete the number

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do it then.

hes probably back in here anyway.

I seriously doubt it, he may have gotten a girlfriend at last.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its whom I think it is.

lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My little old granny used to say.. never re-heat soup!

Somethings are best just left in the past.

But now you have the seed of it in your mind, you will probably contact him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My little old granny used to say.. never re-heat soup!

Somethings are best just left in the past.

But now you have the seed of it in your mind, you will probably contact him.

u heard that saying to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If its whom I think it is.

lolol "

'fraid not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha if the condom split and if I was pregnant for 28 months, then maybe. But nope.

We are close friends otherwise I wouldn't be particularly bothered about getting in contact with him.

I wanted to let him know my Father passed away and that I given birth to my daughter 4 weeks ago, and no he isn't the dad. My boyfriend is, funnily enough.

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did he know your father ? And if you are close won't be be in touch with you soon ? Or has your number changed as well ?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

You could possibly figure out his work email if there's a common one they use (like firstname.surname@company) - their website might have a few email links so you can see if there's a commonality. Obviously, I wouldn't send anything risque through it; just an 'I lost your number so feel free to send it in a reply'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha if the condom split and if I was pregnant for 28 months, then maybe. But nope.

We are close friends otherwise I wouldn't be particularly bothered about getting in contact with him.

I wanted to let him know my Father passed away and that I given birth to my daughter 4 weeks ago, and no he isn't the dad. My boyfriend is, funnily enough.

did he know your father ? And if you are close won't be be in touch with you soon ? Or has your number changed as well ? "

good points

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Haha if the condom split and if I was pregnant for 28 months, then maybe. But nope.

We are close friends otherwise I wouldn't be particularly bothered about getting in contact with him.

I wanted to let him know my Father passed away and that I given birth to my daughter 4 weeks ago, and no he isn't the dad. My boyfriend is, funnily enough.

did he know your father ? And if you are close won't be be in touch with you soon ? Or has your number changed as well ? "

I changed my number. No he didn't know my Dad but as we are close friends he'd want to know as I was very fond of my dad. He's not a typical lad he's quite laid back, down to earth and can be a sensitive person too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you spoke recently to him could you check your phone bill if it's itemised

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If someone I knew tracked me down at work Id go ballistic to be honest.

If we were close enough for me to want to know their family news Id still be in touch with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone I knew tracked me down at work Id go ballistic to be honest.

If we were close enough for me to want to know their family news Id still be in touch with them."

As I said at the beginning I got a new number and thought iCloud saved all my numbers, and when I logged onto iCloud, there were no numbers so I'm basically fucked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But even though I'm close with him, I don't think it would be a good idea to phone him at work...I'll just leave it be.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

If you know where he works, write him a letter and include your new number. Then he can contact you if he wishes.

Drama free advice presented free of charge from Ryan Counselling Services

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

i wouldnt be happy if someone off swingers site contacted me at work

im sure if he wants to keep in touch he will get in touch in due course

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i wouldnt be happy if someone off swingers site contacted me at work

im sure if he wants to keep in touch he will get in touch in due course"

We don't see each other like that, we see each other as friends. It is possible to make friends off this site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you know where he works, write him a letter and include your new number. Then he can contact you if he wishes.

Drama free advice presented free of charge from Ryan Counselling Services

haha, good idea,m I just might.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't need to ask what to do if it was someone I was supposedly that close to.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My close friends male and female know how to get hold of me anytime they need to and vise versa.

Surely if your that close you must have an email address or a home address?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i wouldnt be happy if someone off swingers site contacted me at work

im sure if he wants to keep in touch he will get in touch in due course

We don't see each other like that, we see each other as friends. It is possible to make friends off this site.

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if he was a true friend he would be around ......... I would not call his work if he wished to chat he would some how .

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

You want to tell him about something which happened 4 weeks ago

yep you sound like close friends.

I take it you don't know where he lives.... so sending a card through the post is out.

I would guess a friend who you met on here would know you are still on here and thus know where to find you when he realises your number has changed.

But then again... you say he has twitter and even though he doesn't use it often, you could leave a message for when he does.

So in answer to the question....

If someone I only text messaged... once in a while... left a message at my place of work, I'd probably be changing my number too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were close friends he'd know you'd have had the baby by now. . How long ago did you change numbers ? And if you are friends . . Why would contacting him at work with your new number be a problem ? There is something you've not mentioned that clearly makes this all a bit odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave him alone, if he wanted to be in touch, he would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i wouldnt be happy if someone off swingers site contacted me at work

im sure if he wants to keep in touch he will get in touch in due course"

this

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

contact .. but be tactful .. good news needs an upbeat hi .. serious news needs a we need to talk ... but get him away from work if you can

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Update - we got back in touch and finally got his number

Thanks for the opinions/advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you were close friends he'd know you'd have had the baby by now. . How long ago did you change numbers ? And if you are friends . . Why would contacting him at work with your new number be a problem ? There is something you've not mentioned that clearly makes this all a bit odd "

Oh yeah, and what's that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Update - we got back in touch and finally got his number

Thanks for the opinions/advice."

Was he pleased you tracked him down?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Very, wondered why I ignored his texts

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Personally I would leave it as I wouldn't be happy with someone contacting me through work.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Buggar should have read the replies before I answered....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would leave it be, he's only a bloke off a swinging site, hardly a lifelong friend.

To be honest, if id just given birth, already had a steady partner and grieving over the loss of a parent, a bloke off a swinging site would be the last thing on my mind.

You have other more important priorities.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would leave it be, he's only a bloke off a swinging site, hardly a lifelong friend.

To be honest, if id just given birth, already had a steady partner and grieving over the loss of a parent, a bloke off a swinging site would be the last thing on my mind.

You have other more important priorities."

Lol, right so it's impossible to have friends from this site then? We don't see each other as "swingers" we see each other as friends. Doesn't matter as I got his number.

Not that it's any of your business I don't really have many friends due to different reasons and seeing as I get on well with this bloke from a swinger site, who left the site ages ago, I wanted to stay in contact, and luckily enough he found me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's not anyone's business . . Why post this thread up ? Very odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You posted the thread OP, you asked for comments, I gave you mine.

It is rather odd that you are putting so much effort into finding and being in contact with this bloke off the internet. When I had a 4 week old my only fantasy was getting a full nights sleep.

But great that this guy got in touch with you, seeing that it seemed important to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You posted the thread OP, you asked for comments, I gave you mine.

It is rather odd that you are putting so much effort into finding and being in contact with this bloke off the internet. When I had a 4 week old my only fantasy was getting a full nights sleep. "

I agree

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