FabSwingers.com forum: Pinch of salt

By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Taking what people say on here with a pinch of salt now....

Talking to a guy for a while, couldn't stress enough he was single, we met, we had fun and tho and behold in my job I happened to meet his wife and daughter......the look on his face was priceless

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Taking what people say on here with a pinch of salt now....

Talking to a guy for a while, couldn't stress enough he was single, we met, we had fun and tho and behold in my job I happened to meet his wife and daughter......the look on his face was priceless

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You mean you didn't before?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

...and the tar brush hits us genuine singles too because of him

What a bloody twat.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Taking what people say on here with a pinch of salt now....

Talking to a guy for a while, couldn't stress enough he was single, we met, we had fun and tho and behold in my job I happened to meet his wife and daughter......the look on his face was priceless

You mean you didn't before?"

To a certain degree yes but I guess I'm just to trusting for my own good...

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"...and the tar brush hits us genuine singles too because of him

What a bloody twat. "

Not at all x

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Taking what people say on here with a pinch of salt now....

Talking to a guy for a while, couldn't stress enough he was single, we met, we had fun and tho and behold in my job I happened to meet his wife and daughter......the look on his face was priceless

Devious toad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh met lots of married women on here playing behind there fellas back naughty naughty very very naughty haha

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines

"Devious toad.

Great phrase

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By *om Tom 1969Man
over a year ago

liverpool

I think its best to assume that everyone on here has some sort of 'baggage' for want of a better word. most people are of an age when they must (I know, I know, not necessarily) had some sort of relationship. Having said that, I don't agree that anybody should have to lie about who or what they are, and sometimes the truth may prevent a meet, but that is the case in every potential relationship, be it brief, on here, or long term

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By *ike4362ukMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt

"Yeh met lots of married women on here playing behind there fellas back naughty naughty very very naughty haha

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Aye, but given that there are sufficient randy fellas on here, it's easier for women on here to admit they are fooling around. Blokes in the same position are more likely to be ignored, hence the number of them that are 'economical with the truth'.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Its the internet, its forums. Why wouldn't you take things with a pinch of salt in the first place?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Believe half of what you see and something and nothing of what you hear, so said the late, great Marvin Gaye in my favourite song of all time

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth

For better or for worse just tell the truth I say - on here at least even if you are not at home....

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Personally I don't see the point in lying, at the end of the day each to their own and I guess just because I don't feel the need to lie I shouldn't expect other to do the same...... I did find it rather amusing though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Taking what people say on here with a pinch of salt now....

Talking to a guy for a while, couldn't stress enough he was single, we met, we had fun and tho and behold in my job I happened to meet his wife and daughter......the look on his face was priceless

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Yes I do that too after meeting a liar here who really had me fooled and now I find it hard to trust what people say , Its sad but true and I know people are different but when you don't know people well in this cyber land they can be who ever and say what ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take my chips with a pinch of salt

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By *om Tom 1969Man
over a year ago

liverpool

I am may be saying the wrong thing here, but do some women hide behind what is said to them and take it as the truth, because it is what they have been told, assuming that it is the man who is lying of course. "Well he told me he was single!!"

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

"For better or for worse just tell the truth I say - on here at least even if you are not at home.... "

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a few women do this too...

its fairly easy to sort out who's attached in most cases I would say...before it even has to get to one of those bumping into the spouse accidental things.

not being rude OP, but there are some more easily gullible people out there...probably just as much as there are 'devious toads' lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep saying it, but the number of single, handsome, charming, articulate, fit, toned, well endowed, well presented guys here particularly around the 30 to 50 age group is surprising.

I'd have thought they were absolutely prime husband or boyfriend material at that age and with those qualities. Really surprising that so many like that are single.

Obviously there will be people that genuinely fit that category and are genuinely single for very valid reasons (through choice or circumstance) I'm not denying that.

I prefer to be up front in my profile so people can make an informed choice about meeting.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"a few women do this too...

its fairly easy to sort out who's attached in most cases I would say...before it even has to get to one of those bumping into the spouse accidental things.

not being rude OP, but there are some more easily gullible people out there...probably just as much as there are 'devious toads' lol "

Not rude at all......I agree there are easily gullible people out there to but what annoyed me was the fact I'd been to 'his' house...which obviously wasn't, sort of makes me wary of future meets!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

This begs the question, how did you know it was his wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry im late OP, what can i do for you?

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"This begs the question, how did you know it was his wife? "

They came to me for a quote, he didn't know where I worked...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This begs the question, how did you know it was his wife?

They came to me for a quote, he didn't know where I worked...

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I hope he said he was sorry he lied to you .?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its very difficult to tell sometimes,you can only go with your instincts,at least this isn't a dating site so as annoying as it is there should be no heart break about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry im late OP, what can i do for you?"

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"This begs the question, how did you know it was his wife?

They came to me for a quote, he didn't know where I worked...

I hope he said he was sorry he lied to you .? "

He sent me a message afterwards to say he was sorry about it but said I'd probably say no to meeting him had I known he was married.....I told him that I'd rather make that decision for myself, shame because he was a really nice guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This begs the question, how did you know it was his wife?

They came to me for a quote, he didn't know where I worked...

I hope he said he was sorry he lied to you .?

doubt his wife would say so if she knew lol

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By *om Tom 1969Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"This begs the question, how did you know it was his wife?

They came to me for a quote, he didn't know where I worked...

I hope he said he was sorry he lied to you .?

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A really nice guy, who told you a blatant lie,,,,,very nice!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Believe half of what you see and something and nothing of what you hear, so said the late, great Marvin Gaye in my favourite song of all time

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"This begs the question, how did you know it was his wife?

They came to me for a quote, he didn't know where I worked...

I hope he said he was sorry he lied to you .?

That's the problem isn't it....apart from the fact that they're deceiving someone who probably loves them they're really nice. I do hope he felt damn uncomfortable.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Believe half of what you see and something and nothing of what you hear, so said the late, great Marvin Gaye in my favourite song of all time

I must get my cd out and play it LOUD.

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By *om Tom 1969Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"This begs the question, how did you know it was his wife?

They came to me for a quote, he didn't know where I worked...

I hope he said he was sorry he lied to you .?

That's the problem isn't it....apart from the fact that they're deceiving someone who probably loves them they're really nice. I do hope he felt damn uncomfortable."
There are lots of people on here who are deceiving their other halves, which is entirely up to them; what they shouldn't do is continue that on here, as somebody said earlier, be truthful about what you are doing and let your potential meet make thee decision on whether they want to meet you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

That's the problem isn't it....apart from the fact that they're deceiving someone who probably loves them they're really nice. I do hope he felt damn uncomfortable. There are lots of people on here who are deceiving their other halves, which is entirely up to them; what they shouldn't do is continue that on here, as somebody said earlier, be truthful about what you are doing and let your potential meet make thee decision on whether they want to meet you"

I agree. It was the fact that despite him lying to two women to get sex he is still counted as a nice guy. Don't get that myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...and the tar brush hits us genuine singles too because of him

What a bloody twat. "

LOL, says the 'single' man who, surprise surprise, cant accommodate.

It is stunning how many single people on here cant accommodate. The housing shortage in this country is truly appalling the number of 40 year old men who don't have a place of their own, its a national scandal. Broken Britain

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"...and the tar brush hits us genuine singles too because of him

What a bloody twat.

LOL, says the 'single' man who, surprise surprise, cant accommodate.

Maybe he doesn't want.strangers in his home. He might have his children living with him, there are loads of reasons why men can't accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yet again, a thread based on an idle musing turns into a hot bed of bashing of various different groups.

Lets all try to get along and respect everybodys opinions shall me?

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I agree. It was the fact that despite him lying to two women to get sex he is still counted as a nice guy. Don't get that myself."

By nice guy, I meant his mannerisms and his down to earth attitude, he wasn't up himself or arrogant like some on here.......but I suppose in hindsight.....!!!

Maybe I should start telling a little lie here and there, I fit in then

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"And yet again, a thread based on an idle musing turns into a hot bed of bashing of various different groups.

Lets all try to get along and respect everybodys opinions shall me?"

I'm not bashing anyone, I'm sure some women are just as bad as the men. Think your pushing it a bit re the respect on here lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I agree. It was the fact that despite him lying to two women to get sex he is still counted as a nice guy. Don't get that myself.

By nice guy, I meant his mannerisms and his down to earth attitude, he wasn't up himself or arrogant like some on here.......but I suppose in hindsight.....!!!

Maybe I should start telling a little lie

here and there, I fit in then

No don't do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...and the tar brush hits us genuine singles too because of him

What a bloody twat.

LOL, says the 'single' man who, surprise surprise, cant accommodate.

Ooo! Harsh lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And yet again, a thread based on an idle musing turns into a hot bed of bashing of various different groups.

Lets all try to get along and respect everybodys opinions shall me?

I'm not bashing anyone, I'm sure some women are just as bad as the men. Think your pushing it a bit re the respect on here lol

I know, but ones reach should be beyond ones grasp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep saying it, but the number of single, handsome, charming, articulate, fit, toned, well endowed, well presented guys here particularly around the 30 to 50 age group is surprising.

I'd have thought they were absolutely prime husband or boyfriend material at that age and with those qualities. Really surprising that so many like that are single.

Obviously there will be people that genuinely fit that category and are genuinely single for very valid reasons (through choice or circumstance) I'm not denying that.

I prefer to be up front in my profile so people can make an informed choice about meeting."

This

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I keep saying it, but the number of single, handsome, charming, articulate, fit, toned, well endowed, well presented guys here particularly around the 30 to 50 age group is surprising.

I'd have thought they were absolutely prime husband or boyfriend material at that age and with those qualities. Really surprising that so many like that are single.

Obviously there will be people that genuinely fit that category and are genuinely single for very valid reasons (through choice or circumstance) I'm not denying that.

I prefer to be up front in my profile so people can make an informed choice about meeting.

This

I'm the same, I don't feel the need to sugarcoat things or lie about them....guess I'm in the minority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know, but ones reach should be beyond ones grasp.

Could you explain that please?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Obviously there will be people that genuinely fit that category and are genuinely single for very valid reasons (through choice or circumstance) I'm not denying that.

I prefer to be up front in my profile so people can make an informed choice about meeting.

This

I'm the same, I don't feel the need to sugarcoat things or lie about them....guess I'm in the minority "

you do lots of us a disservice there.

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By *hrissie1961Woman
over a year ago

dumfries and galloway

Live and let live.....it's no ones business but your own who and why you meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know, but ones reach should be beyond ones grasp.

Could you explain that please? "

If always try to be better than you are, you will always be the best you can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone lies to get whatever they want in life.... Why take it to heart?

It's their lies and their life! No need to trouble yourself if you've done nothing wrong. If you believe some part if your innocence got stolen in the process just check your still breathing and your hearts still pumping and im sure you'll be fine.

Don't worry about small things! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone lies to get whatever they want in life.... Why take it to heart?

Don't worry about small things! xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone lies to get whatever they want in life.... Why take it to heart?

Don't worry about small things! xx"

I'm not worried or broken hearted 'd just rather know the truth!

I know strange demanding bird me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So did you tell his wife? I've known that to happen once, that was some chain reaction....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know, but ones reach should be beyond ones grasp.

Could you explain that please?

If always try to be better than you are, you will always be the best you can be. "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone lies to get whatever they want in life.... Why take it to heart?

Don't worry about small things! xx

I'm not worried or broken hearted 'd just rather know the truth!

I know strange demanding bird me

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You're not strange at all ...... some woman would have gone mad as don't wish to meet married .. its nice to have a choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone lies to get whatever they want in life.... Why take it to heart?

Don't worry about small things! xx"

I think what she's getting at is her choice was taken away.... I'd feel the same, I hate being lied to

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"So did you tell his wife? I've known that to happen once, that was some chain reaction...."

No, I wouldn't do that, it's not my place to tell her...at the end of the day he has to live with it, not me

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If someone lies to get whatever they want in life.... Why take it to heart?

Don't worry about small things! xx"

I'm not taking it to heart and I've no innocence to steal, just annoyed me at the dishonesty of it all

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yup, take it all with a pinch of salt

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Taking what people say on here with a pinch of salt now....

Talking to a guy for a while, couldn't stress enough he was single, we met, we had fun and tho and behold in my job I happened to meet his wife and daughter......the look on his face was priceless

Don't meet single men who can't accommodate. That will filter out a very high percentage of the forgetful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tend not to take too much notice now - but do get a tad rattled when people twist the conversation to make out they are worth more than anybody else - so up their own arses - had a case of this this weekend - shove it we say lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone lies to get whatever they want in life.... Why take it to heart?

Don't worry about small things! xx

I'm not taking it to heart and I've no innocence to steal, just annoyed me at the dishonesty of it all"

My point was there's no need to feel annoyed or indeed feel anything at all.

His intentions.....not yours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The point is that women on here don't want to feel like "any holes a goal!"

And all the men that are married attached are making us feel just like that!

And I'm sorry massive assumption but most of you are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, the animal kingdom is a wonderful place, where chameleons and deception and peacock tails lurk off of the beaten path - the path that Grandma told you to walk. Sex and lies and the thrill of the chase - must be hard to be a sexy woman on this site.

I don't have that problem, I have a virtual chastity belt

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If someone lies to get whatever they want in life.... Why take it to heart?

Don't worry about small things! xx

I'm not taking it to heart and I've no innocence to steal, just annoyed me at the dishonesty of it all

My point was there's no need to feel annoyed or indeed feel anything at all.

His intentions.....not yours! "

But he lied to her in order to get her to have sex with him...is she supposed to feel nothing at all about that? It does involve her.

I know that people lie to each other in order to get what they want all the time but once you've involved someone else in your lie it doesn't just involve the liar in my opinion.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If someone lies to get whatever they want in life.... Why take it to heart?

Don't worry about small things! xx

I'm not taking it to heart and I've no innocence to steal, just annoyed me at the dishonesty of it all

My point was there's no need to feel annoyed or indeed feel anything at all.

His intentions.....not yours!

But he lied to her in order to get her to have sex with him...is she supposed to feel nothing at all about that? It does involve her.

I know that people lie to each other in order to get what they want all the time but once you've involved someone else in your lie it doesn't just involve the liar in my opinion. "

thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone lies to get whatever they want in life.... Why take it to heart?

Don't worry about small things! xx

I'm not taking it to heart and I've no innocence to steal, just annoyed me at the dishonesty of it all

My point was there's no need to feel annoyed or indeed feel anything at all.

His intentions.....not yours!

But he lied to her in order to get her to have sex with him...is she supposed to feel nothing at all about that? It does involve her.

I know that people lie to each other in order to get what they want all the time but once you've involved someone else in your lie it doesn't just involve the liar in my opinion. "

People do bad things to others! Your probably never going to be able to stop other people from doing that! Though you can learn from bad experience's so to not put your self in that position again.

However, when bad things do happen to you. YOU can change the way you think, feel and react towards them. Life is full of making mountains out of molehills. Just be mindful of what your doing to YOURSELF. What others do you have no control over.

All u was saying!!! Sorry if I pissed you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to apply a lot of salt to many things on here. Compliments, measurements and especially verifications (which lately seem to be getting more and more ridiculous, gushing and descriptive!)

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Anyone got tequila to go with the salt.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If someone lies to get whatever they want in life.... Why take it to heart?

Don't worry about small things! xx

I'm not taking it to heart and I've no innocence to steal, just annoyed me at the dishonesty of it all

My point was there's no need to feel annoyed or indeed feel anything at all.

His intentions.....not yours!

But he lied to her in order to get her to have sex with him...is she supposed to feel nothing at all about that? It does involve her.

I know that people lie to each other in order to get what they want all the time but once you've involved someone else in your lie it doesn't just involve the liar in my opinion.

People do bad things to others! Your probably never going to be able to stop other people from doing that! Though you can learn from bad experience's so to not put your self in that position again.

All u was saying!!! Sorry if I pissed you"

You didn't piss me. I'm just putting my _iew forward, its not the same as yours that's all.

I understand the theory behind what you're saying but I don't subscribe to the theory that in order to be happy we have to change how we react to people all the time. I know that sometimes its necessary but I think in some cases it just give others an excuse to carry on behaving badly.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"You have to apply a lot of salt to many things on here. Compliments, measurements and especially verifications (which lately seem to be getting more and more ridiculous, gushing and descriptive!)

God ain't that the truth.

I've read a set of verifications recently that are so glowing in their praise of other people we feel we couldn't possibly live up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to apply a lot of salt to many things on here. Compliments, measurements and especially verifications (which lately seem to be getting more and more ridiculous, gushing and descriptive!)

God ain't that the truth.

I've read a set of verifications recently that are so glowing in their praise of other people we feel we couldn't possibly live up to them."

I read one earlier that actually made me laugh out loud. And not want to meet that person because it was so over the top he has either made a fake profile and written it himself or should at the very least have been embarrassed by it!

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