FabSwingers.com forum: Is swinging dysfunctional?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its probably a question that has already been asked....just a debate I often have with friends on here. I tried to have a similar debate with 'normal' world friends and response was very different and there seems to be a real gender split. Male friends think its great, female friends more negative. 'Normal' friends don't know I'm on here.

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

I would imagine some of the response from your "normal" friends might be based on the stereotypes that surround swinging ...you know the stuff, the men are all studs , the women sluts, we abduct people off the street and keep them for week long orgies - oh sorry, just drifting into fantasy land there

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"I would imagine some of the response from your "normal" friends might be based on the stereotypes that surround swinging ...you know the stuff, the men are all studs , the women sluts, we abduct people off the street and keep them for week long orgies - oh sorry, just drifting into fantasy land there

you had me going there for a minute.

cancels the Amazon order for a Maidstone A-Z map.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't stop there, I was enjoying that

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Depends on how good the Roundabout is?

We also had a "rant" as kids, brill it was.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Don't stop there, I was enjoying that

Ah ok, you wanna buy a map?, good condition.

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

you had me going there for a minute.

cancels the Amazon order for a Maidstone A-Z map.

well theres always a time to make fantasy real...apart from the abduction bit. Mind you , I was knackered after a 2 day one so I might need a night in ICU after a week !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its probably a question that has already been asked....just a debate I often have with friends on here. I tried to have a similar debate with 'normal' world friends and response was very different and there seems to be a real gender split. Male friends think its great, female friends more negative. 'Normal' friends don't know I'm on here."

Females may be more reluctant to admit they are against swinging, for fear of being viewed as 'easy/ a goer'. I talked to a couple of men about swinging in general, and they both admitted that if they knew a woman was a swinger, they would be more likely to approach them for sexy fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

define normal???

other peoples prejudices and opinions mean jack shit to me and to be honest at times my vanilla friends are shaggin more than i am and with more people!! x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"define normal???

other peoples prejudices and opinions mean jack shit to me and to be honest at times my vanilla friends are shaggin more than i am and with more people!! x"

very true! why are we the ones hiding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because of other peoples ideas and opinions of what goes on!

read any womens magazine and its all sex and how to but put it into practise and your character is assasinated! the norm of the society is still marriage and monogamy etc. i know if it came out about me i would probably lose my job because of the professional code of conduct even though my private life is exactly that, private! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"because of other peoples ideas and opinions of what goes on!

is the fact that its hidden part of the attraction?

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

Well you have to quantify normal first. And if normal exists. Diversity after all has kept the human race going 100's of years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"because of other peoples ideas and opinions of what goes on!

is the fact that its hidden part of the attraction?"

nope its convinient for me and meets a need plus like minded people together , like a golf club or some other social thing!

so whats your research on? sociological or psychological?? x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"because of other peoples ideas and opinions of what goes on!

is the fact that its hidden part of the attraction?

nope its convinient for me and meets a need plus like minded people together , like a golf club or some other social thing!

so whats your research on? sociological or psychological?? x"

No research, just a curious mind! I asked about the fact that its hidden being part of the atraction because I think it applies to me. There is this attractive woman at work who is always flirting but I've been pretty uninterested but if she was on fab I would gladly be joining to queue of hundreds of single men begging for a look in - how weird is that!

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"because of other peoples ideas and opinions of what goes on!

is the fact that its hidden part of the attraction?

nope its convinient for me and meets a need plus like minded people together , like a golf club or some other social thing!

so whats your research on? sociological or psychological?? x"

i play golf and i'm often better than par

nudge nudge wink wink, say no more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not weird just that you feel your batting above your standard, but if she was a swinger you may stand more chance, so realistically its your attitude that more the problem as you would see her as being easier! i dont mean attitude in a bad way, just your preconception of her! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"because of other peoples ideas and opinions of what goes on!

is the fact that its hidden part of the attraction?

nope its convinient for me and meets a need plus like minded people together , like a golf club or some other social thing!

so whats your research on? sociological or psychological?? x

i play golf and i'm often better than par

nudge nudge wink wink, say no more

lol!! my pre concieved ideas of golfers rules you out of the list lol cx

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"because of other peoples ideas and opinions of what goes on!

is the fact that its hidden part of the attraction?

nope its convinient for me and meets a need plus like minded people together , like a golf club or some other social thing!

so whats your research on? sociological or psychological?? x

i play golf and i'm often better than par

nudge nudge wink wink, say no more

lol!! my pre concieved ideas of golfers rules you out of the list lol cx

i assure you i am not a typical golfer

for one, being a yorkshireman, if i ain't had a 100 goes, i ain't had my monies worth

200 goes at St Andrews

best not/dare not ask if you know of any goers at St Andrews oh err

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah laine!! she the best goer in st andrews!! lol xx

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Is it too late to ask what's "dysfunctional"?

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"yeah laine!! she the best goer in st andrews!! lol xx"

really!!!!!! well i never lol

better than playing around at Troon?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"not weird just that you feel your batting above your standard, but if she was a swinger you may stand more chance, so realistically its your attitude that more the problem as you would see her as being easier! i dont mean attitude in a bad way, just your preconception of her! x"

thats a lot of assumptions about my attitudes? i think if you asked anyone i talk to or have met on here they won't say i think women who swing are easy. i was saying its the fact that it's a bit hidden/naughty which might be the attraction. anyway i find it easier getting dates etc in non-swinging world x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i didnt mean attitude as in general, i think you got a great attitude for here i meant if u knew she was here you may have seen it easier to approach her than what you would in the normal(i use the term loosely!) world!

i suppose it would make work a lot more interestin both of you knowin each other in that sense, but no one else knowing if that makes sense! xx

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

there is also the risk that it would make work, or rather employment, short lived for at least one of them.

it's good while it lasts at work but if it goes sour, then boy does it go sour.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i didnt mean attitude as in general, i think you got a great attitude for here i meant if u knew she was here you may have seen it easier to approach her than what you would in the normal(i use the term loosely!) world!

i suppose it would make work a lot more interestin both of you knowin each other in that sense, but no one else knowing if that makes sense! xx"

Awwww, thanks xxx

I completely agree about work being more interesting if we were both on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

there is also the risk that it would make work, or rather employment, short lived for at least one of them.

it's good while it lasts at work but if it goes sour, then boy does it go sour.

very true too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well it happened to me and was ok for a while but then got very uncomfortable as it really did cross the line but i dare say in some cases it would work out ok its really no worse than an office affair! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"well it happened to me and was ok for a while but then got very uncomfortable as it really did cross the line but i dare say in some cases it would work out ok its really no worse than an office affair! xx"

I will leave that one as a fantasy for now, middle of recession probably not the best time to experiment at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of cause swinging aint dysfunctional

Its gotta be normal or i wouldn't be here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there an address available??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it's a case of fancying someone so much that you'd rather live in hope than actually ask her out and risk rejection, thus ending your hopes and fantasies about her. It's normal for men and women to feel that way, and breaking the ice with people we don't fancy as much is far easier. By saying that you if you knew she was a swinger you'd find it easier to pursue her, you're actually saying that finding some common ground on which to establish contact on a non-professional basis gives you that launch pad from which to approach her.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

There are plenty of 'dysfunctional' people on here if that counts... but I don't think that's anything to do with swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just throwing this into the mix. Who's worse the people who choose their sexual partners after carefully consideration, based on compatibility, desires and usualy after a sober meeting or the idiots who go into town get d*unk and shag anything that moves, spreading std's and creating unwanted pregnancy's.

I aint popped my swingning cherry yet nor will I till a certain person becomes available. I dont think that makes me a slag. They're the one's I see on my way to work at 5 am on a sunday morning doing the walk of shame and quite often in tears.

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By *undebigaryMan
over a year ago

dundee

"define normal???

other peoples prejudices and opinions mean jack shit to me and to be honest at times my vanilla friends are shaggin more than i am and with more people!! x

very true! why are we the ones hiding?"
In case our parents find out cos they would go fucking nuts.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how some vanilla female pals have in the past had a few one night stands after nights out etc yet are disgusted at swinging!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

One night stands one to one isn't swinging though is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One night stands one to one isn't swinging though is it? "

Correct Rugby ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeah laine!! she the best goer in st andrews!! lol xx"

You called?

xxx

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By *ouple4funnewCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

thats sonething I've been thinkg about recently

I not sure we will ever know what 'normal' human sexual behaviour is - its so contriolled by the dominant culture and social conformaties

I think if we go way back before the 6000 yerars of female suppression by male dominated religion etc we would find a much more sexually liberated society (pagan?)

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By *undebigaryMan
over a year ago

dundee

"thats sonething I've been thinkg about recently

I not sure we will ever know what 'normal' human sexual behaviour is - its so contriolled by the dominant culture and social conformaties

I think if we go way back before the 6000 yerars of female suppression by male dominated religion etc we would find a much more sexually liberated society (pagan?) "
yeh that pesky religion getting in the way of the fun.lol.mind you it didnt stop the romans.now those boys knew how to hold an orgy.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"because of other peoples ideas and opinions of what goes on!

is the fact that its hidden part of the attraction?

nope its convinient for me and meets a need plus like minded people together , like a golf club or some other social thing!

so whats your research on? sociological or psychological?? x

No not weird at all i think. I noticed a comment made by a large lady who said that in the "real" world, no-one would chat her up at all being fat lady yet on here, she has met many. I also as not so attractive never get chatted up - i work in a pub too, nothing there either, yet on here ive also many admirers, indeed the youngsters who are the abusers of me on the outside world, are messaging me on an almost daily basis, i refuse to meet them though as i know they will take one look and run away, no matter what they say on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just throwing this into the mix. Who's worse the people who choose their sexual partners after carefully consideration, based on compatibility, desires and usualy after a sober meeting or the idiots who go into town get d*unk and shag anything that moves, spreading std's and creating unwanted pregnancy's.

And how strange that they would condone us

must admit though, im very wary of a having a long verification list, especially if they were all sexual ones, it would suggest that i drop my knickers for everyone and i most certainly dont do that at all. I much prefer quality to quantity and i found to my cost, that some talk the talk but cant walk the walk

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By *ouple4funnewCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

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By *ouple4funnewCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

" yeh that pesky religion getting in the way of the fun.lol.mind you it didnt stop the romans.now those boys knew how to hold an orgy.lol"

...or the catholic clergy, there's an oversexed group getting more than their fair share ...not much fun if you're a choir boy though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"define normal???

other peoples prejudices and opinions mean jack shit to me and to be honest at times my vanilla friends are shaggin more than i am and with more people!! x

very true! why are we the ones hiding?In case our parents find out cos they would go fucking nuts.lol"

Lol, I wonder how it is till we get a forum post saying "have you ever arranged a meet only to find out that the other couple are your parents?"

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