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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi new to forum please go gentle...we have a moral dilemma regarding hotel cost, single guys who offer to pay we feel this is unfair on them to meet the cost so our dilemma is a moral one ...do we say sod it let the gent pay have fun and leave , or stick to our morals and treat the gent with respect and save his money.... Any couples who have same problem Any feed back would be welcome cheers B&B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we at stay in the room, we always pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we use a hotel we pay for it as we will be staying over. And we wouldn't contribute to tge cost if someone else was staying and we weren't. If the room was purely for a meet (not that we ever do that) we'd pay 50/50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a 'lone male' on here I am happy to foot the bill for a room if we agree to meet, I usually offer and am happy to do so.

If I was ASKED to do so (as you hear some stories on here) and bring wine / vodka / cigarettes etc (again based on other stories) I might take a different view.

If you would prefer to split the cost then politely and genuinely offer. If the guy refuses then I wouldn't push the matter any further - but make sure you thank him for the hospitality as it is nice for it to be recognised at least

Good luck with it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes if we where staying then we would have no worries in paying ..and would more than likely if arranged before hand go in with the cost with another couple ..but just feel uneasy with gent paying the bill himself

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

"If we use a hotel we pay for it as we will be staying over. And we wouldn't contribute to tge cost if someone else was staying and we weren't. If the room was purely for a meet (not that we ever do that) we'd pay 50/50"

^ ^ ^ this

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Unless it's a room you happen to be in anyway then share costs 50/50.

The fact you are asking this shows how you feel mutual respect and honesty is important - it makes for the very best meets. Well played

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Exactly this.

A meet is for the benefit of all involved - but why should somebody who won't be staying the night be expected to contribute?

If we were asked to meet at a hotel we wouldn't expect to pay anything.

If we'd asked someone to join us at one we'd never ask for money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^ ^ ^ this

this again

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Hi new to forum please go gentle...we have a moral dilemma regarding hotel cost, single guys who offer to pay we feel this is unfair on them to meet the cost so our dilemma is a moral one ...do we say sod it let the gent pay have fun and leave , or stick to our morals and treat the gent with respect and save his money.... Any couples who have same problem Any feed back would be welcome cheers B&B"

I think if the guy offers to pay you shouldn't feel guilty at letting him after all he will be getting a dream meet with you so its the least he can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would expect whoever is staying to pay for the room, however I would expect any single male would at least offer to contribute somehow / bring a nice bottle to show effort.

Whenever I've done hotel meets I've paid for my room, and generally couples have paid for theirs as well. It's all about the honesty and respect thing, the money is irrelevant in terms of principle, for me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wheres the moral dilemma? Offer to pay half its easy

Single men....don't offer to pay for hotel rooms to meet,people will take the complete piss out of you

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Wheres the moral dilemma? Offer to pay half its easy

Single men....don't offer to pay for hotel rooms to meet,people will take the complete piss out of you "
I was just about to post something similar, I cannot see the moral dilemma either.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I offer to pay half its only fair

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your comments ..some intresting views

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

If the hotel room is for a play meet only....we would split the cost.

If we were staying in a hotel overnight and decided to invite someone over, we wouldn't expect them to pay towards it.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

You pay for the room and get him to buy dinner or drinks.

If its a good meet and you meet again, he picks up the bill next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always split the cost of hotel rooms if it has been booked for the meet regardless of if I'm staying over or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You pay for the room and get him to buy dinner or drinks.

If its a good meet and you meet again, he picks up the bill next time."

i do that with a guy i have met a few times, we take it in turns to book and pay for the room

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