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"Not what im gettin at and no offence but thats whats wrong it is yes socail side of things but that does involve meeting even if just social its a swingers site end of the day sorry about the rant but whats the point being on this site if your not gonna meet waste of time " I do meet, I have sex - with people from this site | |||
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"I don't think the site has laws about how many people you must meet in a year to prove you are a swinger.....more a use it how you want to kind of site....plenty of people on here meet - you just need to hook up with those and don't let the ones who choose not to bother you - it's fun here " Your right thankyou just sometimes it winds people up gettin messed about but thankyou again i do agree with you | |||
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"I rarely meet for sex on here, I attend socials and sometimes have parties and meet up with great friends...if sex is included in that then that is an added bonus. Trouble is people can be so judgemental in the ways others should use this site. You do what you feel right and allows others to do the same...that way we can all live in fab harmony. " But you do meet xx | |||
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"And just to say i dont mean meet up for sex there is the social side that people meet and just find if your not gonna meet even social whats the point " Because some that use this site don't want to meet for whatever reason...they like to look at pictures and use chat or the forums...some use this site as a form of escapism from their life in the real world. | |||
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"And just to say i dont mean meet up for sex there is the social side that people meet and just find if your not gonna meet even social whats the point " Why are you annoyed about this? | |||
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"Since I've been here I've used the forums for a bit of banter and had a few entertaining PMs, all good fun. But I joined primarily to hopefully meet people too, and I've been more successful in a couple of months on here than in years on other sites, so it does work! The social banter can lead to more " | |||
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"I don't think the site has laws about how many people you must meet in a year to prove you are a swinger.....more a use it how you want to kind of site....plenty of people on here meet - you just need to hook up with those and don't let the ones who choose not to bother you - it's fun here Your right thankyou just sometimes it winds people up gettin messed about but thankyou again i do agree with you " Because someone chooses not to meet doesn't mean they are messing anyone around. Messing people around means they are messing people around, and people who do meet others can do that too. | |||
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"Im not meeting at the moment because im pregnant didnt realise that discreditted my right to be classed as a swinger and use the site. " Congratulations | |||
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"Im not meeting at the moment because im pregnant didnt realise that discreditted my right to be classed as a swinger and use the site. Congratulations " | |||
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"Is it me but people are using site more like facebook than a swingers site ? " Some do. Some don't. Easy to find the ones you want. | |||
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"OP I do see your _iew point. I know you are not referring to those who are simply not meeting for a while, or much, but will start meeting again eventually. But as long as those not meeting (like me) are not leading anyone on with false expectations, I don't see the issue. Myself, I used to meet, I met someone special, now I only see him. It may change in the future, but it will probably not. But for almost a year I have not been meeting. I have hidden my profile so I don't come up in searches and have all the filters on as well. I don't really want any messages from anyone I don't know. I have been to a few socials previously and like to keep in touch with people. Also I just add a wee comment to the forums every now and again. " Thankyou and im not gettin at anyone whos genuine hope your both happy xx | |||
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"Since I've been here I've used the forums for a bit of banter and had a few entertaining PMs, all good fun. But I joined primarily to hopefully meet people too, and I've been more successful in a couple of months on here than in years on other sites, so it does work! The social banter can lead to more " I agree I have found some lovely people here in the forums and a few of them I have met sexually.....it's an easy way to get to know someone, you get a feel for their personality and when you click it's all good | |||
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"OP I do see your _iew point. I know you are not referring to those who are simply not meeting for a while, or much, but will start meeting again eventually. But as long as those not meeting (like me) are not leading anyone on with false expectations, I don't see the issue. Myself, I used to meet, I met someone special, now I only see him. It may change in the future, but it will probably not. But for almost a year I have not been meeting. I have hidden my profile so I don't come up in searches and have all the filters on as well. I don't really want any messages from anyone I don't know. I have been to a few socials previously and like to keep in touch with people. Also I just add a wee comment to the forums every now and again. Thankyou and im not gettin at anyone whos genuine hope your both happy xx" Why have you taken it as your duty to 'get at' people who don't suit your criteria? | |||
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"Since I've been here I've used the forums for a bit of banter and had a few entertaining PMs, all good fun. But I joined primarily to hopefully meet people too, and I've been more successful in a couple of months on here than in years on other sites, so it does work! The social banter can lead to more I agree I have found some lovely people here in the forums and a few of them I have met sexually.....it's an easy way to get to know someone, you get a feel for their personality and when you click it's all good " Yes i agree | |||
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"How do you know people aren't meeting? They may be on the site but meeting at clubs? They may have regular friends they meet without feeling the need to leave repeat verifications? They may be meeting and simply be putting 'not meeting' to deter incoming mail. Unless you've asked every site member - you'll never actually know! Besides - there still seems to be plenty that are meeting given the number of meet requests, organised parties and club ads. So why does the choice of others really matter? Their choice. Their decision. Their business! None of which impact anyone but themselves! A" | |||
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"Im not meeting at the moment because im pregnant didnt realise that discreditted my right to be classed as a swinger and use the site. Congratulations " Thank you | |||
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"And just to say i dont mean meet up for sex there is the social side that people meet and just find if your not gonna meet even social whats the point " We only meet someone socially if we are thinking of having sex with that person and more often than not on the same day.... so for us it would be pointless and wasting everyones time to socialise with someone just to say cya. I think it is much better to meet when people are ready to swing. | |||
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"And just to say i dont mean meet up for sex there is the social side that people meet and just find if your not gonna meet even social whats the point " We'd love to meet more - but life gets in the way - work, child/dog sitting needs, money!! You said earlier it 'winds you up'? Why let it? If others aren't meeting how does that impact you? Plus - I suspect many use 'not meeting' in a similar way to an 'out of office' notification on an email response. It may be temporary due to circumstances at the time. It's really not worth getting wound up about. A | |||
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"Is it me but people are using site more like facebook than a swingers site ? " if they are then that's up to them surely..? it doesn't appear that its affecting your own way of using the site so why worry..? | |||
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"Has it not crossed your mind that in swinging people make some very good friends, friends that cross into the vanilla world too? Just because we may choose not to meet should we not come here and enjoy the company of our friends? In the same way, it's like saying just because I no longer drink alcohol then I should no longer go to the pub with my friends just because I now drink ." | |||
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"Is it me but people are using site more like facebook than a swingers site ? " I have enough meets to know that its not..perhaps its time to change how you play. | |||
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"Is it me but people are using site more like facebook than a swingers site ? " So is fab your whole swinging world? The biggest moaners in the swinging world are internet swingers! There is a real world out there where you actually meet face to face and not through an internet connection. There are many people who use fab merely as a way of keeping in touch with those they have met at parties, clubs and socials and shock horror don't use it to meet. Your obviously not happy about the lack of meets your having otherwise you wouldn't have posted this. Try a club or a social and before you say it's your choice what you do re read your origional post. It is about choice. | |||
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"Nowhere in the rules does it say people can't use the site for purely social reasons!" that's true! I use it for social reasons as well as meeting. I haven't met in a while, does that mean in the eyes of the OP I shouldn't be allowed to log on? Why are there forums if we aren't to use the site socially? | |||
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"And just to say i dont mean meet up for sex there is the social side that people meet and just find if your not gonna meet even social whats the point We'd love to meet more - but life gets in the way - work, child/dog sitting needs, money!! You said earlier it 'winds you up'? Why let it? If others aren't meeting how does that impact you? Plus - I suspect many use 'not meeting' in a similar way to an 'out of office' notification on an email response. It may be temporary due to circumstances at the time. It's really not worth getting wound up about. A" Totally agree with you. | |||
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"We are currently not meeting as we can not accommodate while its half term. Unless there are some men that can accommodate when I can free up some time. But that won't happen so coming on the site and chatting to men and hopefully arrange something for when kids go back. This is how we use the site at this present time, im not going to stay signed out while not meeting. Im free to come and go as I please. Her " | |||
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"Has it not crossed your mind that in swinging people make some very good friends, friends that cross into the vanilla world too? Just because we may choose not to meet should we not come here and enjoy the company of our friends? In the same way, it's like saying just because I no longer drink alcohol then I should no longer go to the pub with my friends just because I now drink ." Good point!! I meet a lot of guys from here - mostly single ones - and have amazing sex - but i've also had a ball with the fun and social side - made some amazing friends and LOVE the forums and the whole scene. If I fall in love with a guy who doesn't want to swing, I'd still embrace the social side hun. Xxx | |||
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"Not what im gettin at and no offence but thats whats wrong it is yes socail side of things but that does involve meeting even if just social its a swingers site end of the day sorry about the rant but whats the point being on this site if your not gonna meet waste of time " And who's time are they wasting exactly? Is it yours? Surely if they've been on a while with no veris from a meet why are you contemplating mailing them? As that's wasting your own time. And if they want to waste their own time on here by chatting only and not having physical meets or socials then that's up to them. They are hardly stopping you getting on are they? I think if admin wants to cut down on annoying site members then personally they should delete anyone using the G word! Trouble is half the site would get deleted instantly | |||
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"Is it me but people are using site more like facebook than a swingers site ? " Some people use the site just for the cam rooms or to exchange pics. As long as they are honest and upfront about it and aren't trying to mislead people, can't see the problem. We haven't been meeting regularly for a year or so now. It's not a case of not wanting too, more about finding the time with work shifts or needing sitters, health issues etc. Real life often has a habit of getting in the way.... Everytime we think normal services will resume, something comes along and postpones our plans! | |||
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"Is it me but people are using site more like facebook than a swingers site ? Some people use the site just for the cam rooms or to exchange pics. As long as they are honest and upfront about it and aren't trying to mislead people, can't see the problem. We haven't been meeting regularly for a year or so now. It's not a case of not wanting too, more about finding the time with work shifts or needing sitters, health issues etc. Real life often has a habit of getting in the way.... Everytime we think normal services will resume, something comes along and postpones our plans! " who cares..I like wanking at ur pics | |||
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"Is it me but people are using site more like facebook than a swingers site ? Some people use the site just for the cam rooms or to exchange pics. As long as they are honest and upfront about it and aren't trying to mislead people, can't see the problem. We haven't been meeting regularly for a year or so now. It's not a case of not wanting too, more about finding the time with work shifts or needing sitters, health issues etc. Real life often has a habit of getting in the way.... Everytime we think normal services will resume, something comes along and postpones our plans! who cares..I like wanking at ur pics " I know, you message me every morning to tell me so. | |||
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"Is it me but people are using site more like facebook than a swingers site ? " we are in the not meeting camp due to having just bought a house and an 8 week old dachshund. Still talk to friends and use the forum Life priorities come first | |||
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"We only meet very occasionally, haven't met at all this year, but I can kinda see where OP is coming from. Maybe the site could have a 'not meeting' option on profiles so you can avoid them showing up in searches. Not necessarily for those who aren't meeting in the next few weeks or so but more for those who have no intention of meeting. " But surely if you're clear in your profile text people would read it and not message asking to meet? Hang on - I just spotted the major flaw in that sentence!! A | |||
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"We only meet very occasionally, haven't met at all this year, but I can kinda see where OP is coming from. Maybe the site could have a 'not meeting' option on profiles so you can avoid them showing up in searches. Not necessarily for those who aren't meeting in the next few weeks or so but more for those who have no intention of meeting. But surely if you're clear in your profile text people would read it and not message asking to meet? Hang on - I just spotted the major flaw in that sentence!! A" Yep the reading part is a problem Being able to exclude them from the search would be handy though and save time. Ultimately anything that enhances the site functionality has to be a good thing. | |||
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"We only meet very occasionally, haven't met at all this year, but I can kinda see where OP is coming from. Maybe the site could have a 'not meeting' option on profiles so you can avoid them showing up in searches. Not necessarily for those who aren't meeting in the next few weeks or so but more for those who have no intention of meeting. But surely if you're clear in your profile text people would read it and not message asking to meet? Hang on - I just spotted the major flaw in that sentence!! A Yep the reading part is a problem Being able to exclude them from the search would be handy though and save time. Ultimately anything that enhances the site functionality has to be a good thing." We find it useful NOT having such a system - as it lets us know who hasn't bothered reading! It's an effective filter in itself!! A | |||
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"I'm not meeting at present due to some real life things and having an op booked at the end of the month. However, I do have quite a few friends on here that I chat to and use the forums too. My profile is clear that I am not meeting, and my age filter is set to 98-99 years old, so I think that keeps me out of most searches!" mmm at 99..I'd lick u oot x | |||
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"We only meet very occasionally, haven't met at all this year, but I can kinda see where OP is coming from. Maybe the site could have a 'not meeting' option on profiles so you can avoid them showing up in searches. Not necessarily for those who aren't meeting in the next few weeks or so but more for those who have no intention of meeting. But surely if you're clear in your profile text people would read it and not message asking to meet? Hang on - I just spotted the major flaw in that sentence!! A Yep the reading part is a problem Being able to exclude them from the search would be handy though and save time. Ultimately anything that enhances the site functionality has to be a good thing. We find it useful NOT having such a system - as it lets us know who hasn't bothered reading! It's an effective filter in itself!! A" I've got to admit, I'm not sure I'm getting your point. It's basically saying there's no point in having any filters to ensure that people read profiles. That goes against any idea of making a website easy and convenient to use. | |||
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"We only meet very occasionally, haven't met at all this year, but I can kinda see where OP is coming from. Maybe the site could have a 'not meeting' option on profiles so you can avoid them showing up in searches. Not necessarily for those who aren't meeting in the next few weeks or so but more for those who have no intention of meeting. But surely if you're clear in your profile text people would read it and not message asking to meet? Hang on - I just spotted the major flaw in that sentence!! A Yep the reading part is a problem Being able to exclude them from the search would be handy though and save time. Ultimately anything that enhances the site functionality has to be a good thing. We find it useful NOT having such a system - as it lets us know who hasn't bothered reading! It's an effective filter in itself!! A I've got to admit, I'm not sure I'm getting your point. It's basically saying there's no point in having any filters to ensure that people read profiles. That goes against any idea of making a website easy and convenient to use." The point is - if you've clearly stated you're not meeting (short term, long term or for however long!) in your profile and people still come across you in searches, look at the pretty pictures - and message asking to meet? Then they've obviously not done to much reading - and can't complain when messages get deleted or they get blocked! Those 'not meeting' are in the minority. A site wide change really isn't necessary. A 'cultural' change where people bother to read words probably is! A | |||
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"We only meet very occasionally, haven't met at all this year, but I can kinda see where OP is coming from. Maybe the site could have a 'not meeting' option on profiles so you can avoid them showing up in searches. Not necessarily for those who aren't meeting in the next few weeks or so but more for those who have no intention of meeting. But surely if you're clear in your profile text people would read it and not message asking to meet? Hang on - I just spotted the major flaw in that sentence!! A Yep the reading part is a problem Being able to exclude them from the search would be handy though and save time. Ultimately anything that enhances the site functionality has to be a good thing. We find it useful NOT having such a system - as it lets us know who hasn't bothered reading! It's an effective filter in itself!! A I've got to admit, I'm not sure I'm getting your point. It's basically saying there's no point in having any filters to ensure that people read profiles. That goes against any idea of making a website easy and convenient to use. The point is - if you've clearly stated you're not meeting (short term, long term or for however long!) in your profile and people still come across you in searches, look at the pretty pictures - and message asking to meet? Then they've obviously not done to much reading - and can't complain when messages get deleted or they get blocked! Those 'not meeting' are in the minority. A site wide change really isn't necessary. A 'cultural' change where people bother to read words probably is! A" It doesn't need to be one or the other, it can be both. Some people have busy lives so anything that saves time can only be a good thing. | |||
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"I use this site just for the forum and plus upload loads of pics lol " Aww shag! Does that mean you wouldn't meet me if I got down on my kbees and begged ya?? | |||
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"Have message a few an no were in profiles says there not meeting But in message they do. Just take the p..." Or they were being polite in saying you weren't a person they wanted to meet, just a differnt slant on it | |||
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"Has it not crossed your mind that in swinging people make some very good friends, friends that cross into the vanilla world too? Just because we may choose not to meet should we not come here and enjoy the company of our friends? In the same way, it's like saying just because I no longer drink alcohol then I should no longer go to the pub with my friends just because I now drink ." brilliant reply! | |||
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"I use this site just for the forum and plus upload loads of pics lol Aww shag! Does that mean you wouldn't meet me if I got down on my kbees and begged ya?? " Well I would say yes if you would do that mmmm yeah | |||
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"You maybe right there but it just winds myself and other people up was chattin about it last night at a social and they all agreed i just speak my mind im genuine so people can tjink what they want about me i get to the point" How does it wind you up and how does it waste your time? unless of course you aren't reading the profile where it says not meeting and proceed to message them anyway and them get annoyed when they tell you to do one? | |||
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"Have message a few an no were in profiles says there not meeting But in message they do. Just take the p... Or they were being polite in saying you weren't a person they wanted to meet, just a differnt slant on it " | |||
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"Have message a few an no were in profiles says there not meeting But in message they do. Just take the p..." You read the profile? | |||
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