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By *rs Tooty OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Get nervous before meets?

If you do what do you worry bout?

If you do is your biggest fear not being able to perform, your wobbly bits or is it something else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes we get nerves especially on first meets - nervous excitement more than anything and we think its a good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get very nervous before a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, nervous excitement is all part of it for me.

I don't look at my wobbly bits, to busy with my eyes on the the other person I tend not to worry about what's wobbling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but nervous excitement rather than any form of fear of performance or appearance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea I get nervous excitement. I think that's normal. Adds to the thrill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but nervous excitement rather than any form of fear of performance or appearance."

Yes, this exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i get very nervous my biggest fear is meeting someone who knocks me back, I don't have much self confidence so things like that worry me a lot, I have in the past canceled meets because I've convinced myself they won't like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said its only nervous excitement and i think thats good thing shows your looking forward to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not so much anymore I just worry about getting ready on time. I would be more worried about meeting someone who didn't have any recent verifications though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get very nervous, even on repeat meets. It's all part of the build up though. I'll probably Jack it all in if I stop getting nervous.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I get very nervous, even on repeat meets. It's all part of the build up though. I'll probably Jack it all in if I stop getting nervous. "

same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah i get very nervous my biggest fear is meeting someone who knocks me back, I don't have much self confidence so things like that worry me a lot, I have in the past canceled meets because I've convinced myself they won't like me

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I'm the same. I've started to relax more recently as I've thought , well if worst comes to the worst we'll have a chat over a coffee or a drink. If we take it no furthe nothing's really lost and if we get on , it's worth the nerves. Likes others said the nerves are all part if it too, gets your adrenalin going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get nervous about being stood up or rejected and also about performance.

Guess it is a self confidence thing really xx

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Yeah i get very nervous my biggest fear is meeting someone who knocks me back, I don't have much self confidence so things like that worry me a lot, I have in the past canceled meets because I've convinced myself they won't like me

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Not just me that's done this then.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Not really. I'm off to a party tonight and it's not raising any anxieties

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No, I just go in, rip their knickers off, give them a length and then up the road early...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even with someone I know well I get nervous. I worry about my body or that I can't please them etc etc I'm sure it's only natural tho xx

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By *r jblMan
over a year ago

from parts unknown

I'am glad to know that it's not just me who gets nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not really. For me, here will always be socials beforehand, so the play meet is far more relaxed.

Nerves kill the mood and can ruin a perfectly good evening. If you are open, honest and relaxed about expectations, wants and desires what is there to be nervous about?

Fear is the mind killer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get nervous. I worry that I don't look good, that people won't like us or we won't like them. I worry they might do something we don't like. I am a born worrier, so it's to be expected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, not really. For me, here will always be socials beforehand, so the play meet is far more relaxed.

Nerves kill the mood and can ruin a perfectly good evening. If you are open, honest and relaxed about expectations, wants and desires what is there to be nervous about?

Fear is the mind killer."

not really - the nerves usually disappear very early on into the meet - just the build up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get nervous before meets?

"

When I was meeting new people on here...no.

Never.

But then I'm not shy at all.

And usually, I know what I want to the point where I'm actually looking forward to shagging said person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get nervous,I like that though its a mini adrenaline rush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep..this exactly..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get nervous before meets?

If you do what do you worry bout?

If you do is your biggest fear not being able to perform, your wobbly bits or is it something else? "

I get awful... I have a real issue with one on one.... I can and have bailed.... Group or clubsI'm not so bad bit do not like to play alone. .

I worry about the fact in one on one I'm not confident. I Dont know how to progress from social to play.. And what To do once you have played x

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

The day I don't get that nervous frisson will be the day I'll give up. Hopefully that day is a long way off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who it is, if it's someone I have got chatting to and we have seen before, then it's excitement rather than nerves.

If it's someone new then I'm totally bricking it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All these nervous people woot!

Snap out of it!

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By *istress V in Yorks 2Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

No I don't I don't 'get' why people would get nervous...like singers who get stage fright. Get yourself comfortable in your own skin, if someone doesn't like it so what, plenty more fish in the....no, no that's another site. Plenty more fabulous people on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel excitement before meeting anyone,even men I've been seeing for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely get nervous, but it's good nervous, excited nervous rather than job inter_iew nervous. Helps get the adrenalin going

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I must be weird! I don't get nervous at all in my fab life, ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, nervous excitement is all part of it for me.

I don't look at my wobbly bits, to busy with my eyes on the the other person I tend not to worry about what's wobbling "

This exactly! .....I love that pre meet feeling. the day I don't get nervous is the day I'll stop meeting.

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