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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ladies, in your opinion is winking from a single male worth it? To some it may come across as lazy, but to others it's indicating interest without wanting to pester. Educate me please x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only click the link to my Winks to delete them. I only pay attention to my inbox.

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I like a wink and then if I'm interested I'll send thanks and a chat will be initiated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind em, they're flattering to receive. And we like sending then as a cheeky icebreaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never respond to winks because I'm never sure if a guy has winked me cause he likes me or if he's just mass winked every woman on here in hope someone will reply and I don't want to be that someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a wink and then if I'm interested I'll send thanks and a chat will be initiated. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at winks and just mass delete

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I never look at winks, says on my profile not to bother. But I guess many don't bother to read that either.

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

We like winks, receiving and sending as an ice breaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a wink and then if I'm interested I'll send thanks and a chat will be initiated. "

Same.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton


"I like a wink and then if I'm interested I'll send thanks and a chat will be initiated. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at winks, says on my profile not to bother. But I guess many don't bother to read that either."

That's why I never wink at you

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Ladies, in your opinion is winking from a single male worth it? To some it may come across as lazy, but to others it's indicating interest without wanting to pester. Educate me please x"

It depends how good the avatar is - I will glance over the winks and cherry pick I'm afraid, a message is more likely to get a response. A fab is more likely to get a view actually - because I have to click on the name to see anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take offence to someone winking at me, take it as someone showing they are interested, some guys out there are terrified of full blown first contact with single females as when take time to type a message gets deleted without reading! X

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

I use winks to show interest in people sometimes, and have ended up meeting a few off the back of sending a wink to begin with. I see winks as a positive thing for the site to utilise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink from a good profile is better than a rubbish message from a rubbish profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at winks and just mass delete "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a site tool so there to be used. I've not used it much but don't mind people who used it towards me.

An introduction is an introduction how ever big or small. If it leads anywhere that's another thing. All down to personal preferences I guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only click the link to my Winks to delete them. I only pay attention to my inbox. "

never take any notice of them to be honest x

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"I never look at winks, says on my profile not to bother. But I guess many don't bother to read that either.

That's why I never wink at you "

lol Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only click the link to my Winks to delete them. I only pay attention to my inbox. "

I sent you a wink about 4 weeks ago, 21pions, to indicate that I was interested.

I use winks to indicate interest, for much the same reasons as OP has indicated.

If I receive a wink back, I then follow up with a message.

However, I don't always initiate contact with a wink, and will sometimes begin with a message.

I probably sent a wink instead of a message in your case because you are 30-40 miles away and I was unsure if (as you state you travel but do not accommodate) if you would be willing to travel that distance for a meet.

I'm trying to rely less on winks now in any case.

One question though. Would I be wasting my time messaging you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A wink from a good profile is better than a rubbish message from a rubbish profile"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can please some of the people some of the time etc etc. there isn't a one size fits all...

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"A wink from a good profile is better than a rubbish message from a rubbish profile"

I think this is perfect sense I also suggest mass deleting winks is a blunt, prejudgemental and shortsighted approach.

I'd suggest it is ignorant to assume or prejudge any person only based upon them sending a wink ? It wrongly assumes zero people who may send a wink will ever be a compatible sexual companion , and on a site where moaning about suitable men is common place ignoring some due to arbitrary baseless prejudgement could absolutely result in missing a subtle hidden gem x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you send a message the recipient is going to look at your profile before replying (if indeed they bother to read the message.)

It is for this reason I send winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fab is more likely to get a view actually - because I have to click on the name to see anything."

Fabbed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can please some of the people some of the time etc etc. there isn't a one size fits all..."

You would think so but most of the women close to me are so up their own arses it is unreal peeps on the forums however are much more down to earth and actually bother to reply to winks and messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women wink. . Men message. . That's the general law !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, in your opinion is winking from a single male worth it? To some it may come across as lazy, but to others it's indicating interest without wanting to pester. Educate me please x"

Do what you feel is right a wink is less intrusive but easier to ignore.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all for your responses. The jury is out, but in favour of winking as a polite way of showing interest. I'll continue as is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One question though. Would I be wasting my time messaging you? "

I'm guessing my typo on your username hasn't helped.

I meant 26pions

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I don't mind receiving winks they make me smile, however I don't send them I've always thought that if a profile interests me enough to contact them then two or three minutes of my time to compose a message is worthwhile

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By *ussypussWoman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo


"I like a wink and then if I'm interested I'll send thanks and a chat will be initiated. "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always reply to a wink even if its just to say thanks all part of the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a wink and then if I'm interested I'll send thanks and a chat will be initiated. "

+1

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By *exine xCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"A wink from a good profile is better than a rubbish message from a rubbish profile"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actively welcome winks and PMs. Both are rare, but both make me happy (even venomous rants, ha)

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