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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How much would you write to someone you've never messaged before? I don't write long messages and get very few replies. However I do try to make what I do write a bit fun and interesting and avoid the standard 'hi' or 'wanna shag...' type of messages.

I would love to know what types of messages actually get a response.

Also, is there a length or type of message you will respond to? Will you only open messages from people you've spoken to in forums or on cam only?

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

For me personally the length doesn't matter, as long as it is well wrote and makes me giggle.

However, I always read profiles before I open a message and yours puts a lot of barriers in the way before I even read your message.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My messages vary in their length depending on how much I'm saying. What I say depends on who I message and for what reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me personally, a message shouldn't be longer than the profile, a paragraph is quite sufficient, read the profile and use something from it in your message. Expect to have your message read and deleted, most people check out the profile first, if doesn't catch ones eye then the message will get deleted as will the message. Patience is needed in abundance so just keep plodding on and use the forums, chat rooms if you want to get yourself known

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me personally the length doesn't matter, as long as it is well wrote and makes me giggle.

However, I always read profiles before I open a message and yours puts a lot of barriers in the way before I even read your message."

I can see what one of them is, but I've that onthere to at least be honest to others here rather than say I've got permission.

Would anything else put you off? I don't get the impression it's usually anything to do with my profile because most haven't looked at it before reading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me personally the length doesn't matter, as long as it is well wrote and makes me giggle.

However, I always read profiles before I open a message and yours puts a lot of barriers in the way before I even read your message."

I agree with this

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some people are in 'stealth mode' so you can't see if they have looked at your profile or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me personally the length doesn't matter, as long as it is well wrote and makes me giggle.

However, I always read profiles before I open a message and yours puts a lot of barriers in the way before I even read your message.

I agree with this "

I know I won't fit into what everyone wants but if the language I used different and said looking for discreet fun should that actually make a difference? I'm assuming that if you don't like meeting with someone who is attached it shouldn't matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me personally the length doesn't matter, as long as it is well wrote and makes me giggle.

However, I always read profiles before I open a message and yours puts a lot of barriers in the way before I even read your message."

This for me too.

I reply to all messages even if it is a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people are in 'stealth mode' so you can't see if they have looked at your profile or not. "

Makes me wonder if I'm in stealth mode but don't realise it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm starting to think the profile is the problem. Unfortunately it also makes me think I might be better off not being honest.

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By *hoe_nixCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I don't respond to one liners but answer all other messages even if its to say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm starting to think the profile is the problem. Unfortunately it also makes me think I might be better off not being honest. "

Stick to being honest but read that first paragraph out loud to yourself.

It dosen't read well and doesn't actually say you are playing with your partners consent. Just that it doesn't involve 'her' atm.

Good luck the rest is fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still goes unread n deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never do a one liner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll respond to a simple 'hi' if the profile is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It should be as long as a sky+ remote

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Don't forget some people prefer girth over length in messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't forget some people prefer girth over length in messages."

never mind the quality feel the width

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