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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondering why it take so long for members to reply to there mail ive got one over a year we started chatting now it stop thats a year ago...Burton xx

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

If you don't look at your sent box, and concentrate on your inbox, you'll find your experience here a lot more fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they decided they didn't wish to speak to you?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My rule is if they don't reply after 7 days, delete and block, just so you don't message them again down the line, some people have too many messages to reply to all of them and don't like saying no thanks so they just leave the message in their inbox.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"If you don't look at your sent box, and concentrate on your inbox, you'll find your experience here a lot more fun.

"

Is waiting for red to mail me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what if they have gone away or not been on? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what if they have gone away or not been on? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive always been told to be polite and nice to everyone on site just quick message wud be nice saying no thank you ...Burton xxx

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"But what if they have gone away or not been on? X"

Good point....I often go quiet especially if busy in the office

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Just wondering why it take so long for members to reply to there mail ive got one over a year we started chatting now it stop thats a year ago...Burton xx"

Slow typing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive always been told to be polite and nice to everyone on site just quick message wud be nice saying no thank you ...Burton xxx"

From the FAQ's

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you keep a message that's been unread for a year or more? For us it's 7 days and then delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't look at your sent box, and concentrate on your inbox, you'll find your experience here a lot more fun.

"

Well that depends, I find there are plenty of unread messages in my sent box but if I look at my inbox ... * Tumble * ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering why it take so long for members to reply to there mail ive got one over a year we started chatting now it stop thats a year ago...Burton xx"

Hmm, maybe I'm not awake yet, or maybe it's poor grammar, but I didn't fully understand this.

Got one what over a year?

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"Ive always been told to be polite and nice to everyone on site just quick message wud be nice saying no thank you ...Burton xxx"

nothing to do with been polite or nice, they simply arent interested, suck it up and move on, no one owes you a reply, no reply is your answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Deleted it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't believe you kept interest in them!

Move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg, I wouldn't wait over a year for a reply, I'm to inpatient

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Just wondering why it take so long for members to reply to there mail ive got one over a year we started chatting now it stop thats a year ago...Burton xx"

it's often said that you need patience patience and more patience on here fella, I think you're the winner of that award

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't look at your sent box, and concentrate on your inbox, you'll find your experience here a lot more fun.

"
People complaining about delays in getting back to them is a turn off it would be a thanks and goodbye for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deleted it now "

I bet the weight of the world has been lifted off your shoulders now right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you have been waiting for a reply for a year? Bloody hell there is patience and then again there is being deluded! Think it's safe to say the reply isnt coming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering why it take so long for members to reply to there mail ive got one over a year we started chatting now it stop thats a year ago...Burton xx"

Why not message them and ask them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering why it take so long for members to reply to there mail ive got one over a year we started chatting now it stop thats a year ago...Burton xx"

Waiting over a year for a reply, I guess you're a glass half full kind of guy.

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By *lligator3Man
over a year ago

Dundee

Maybe they lost the use of there fingers after a marathon track n field button bash session on their Atari entertainment system.

...I bet you never even considered it! Pfft!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering why it take so long for members to reply to there mail ive got one over a year we started chatting now it stop thats a year ago...Burton xx

Waiting over a year for a reply, I guess you're a glass half full kind of guy."

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"Just wondering why it take so long for members to reply to there mail ive got one over a year we started chatting now it stop thats a year ago...Burton xx"
. Keep things simple and just assume that no reply means no. Why should people be expected to reply to a stranger ?. A bit pointless replying if the answer is no.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Ive always been told to be polite and nice to everyone on site just quick message wud be nice saying no thank you ...Burton xxx"

The only rule is to always be polite - the rest is down to individual style and preference.

As everyone has differing personal lives, with families. Jobs and travel thrown in to add complexity, the only more certain thing is that contact initiators are likely more motivated.

If we assume others have the best intentions then any polite response is great, even if slow.

The beauty of fab is that we are all different. If one is needing others then best practice is probably to persist with many attempts at a large number of prospective matches and to keep focused on that. We will never all respond in the same way or with the same speed - it's how life is.

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By *emon tart Double creamCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Don't check your sent emails to see if they have been read.

Sometimes I send that many messages in an evening, I don't remember them when I reply until I've re-read their profile.

Don't stress about no replies...they are helping in that you have one less to contact

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