FabSwingers.com forum: What the bleedin hell would you do?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My heads going mental about what took place not so many hours ago!....to cut a long story short, my mate owns a boozer in hitchin, we had a lock in himself me and a lady, it weren't long before we all were cracking on and playing around which was fucking awesome for all of us. But during the moment my mate who I know is bi started without me knowing had hold of my hampton and I freaked out which automaticaly made me flop! Then during a timeout when he went for a piss the female made a coment about how he had whispered to her that he would love my cock in his mouth. Sorry if this don't make any sense but once I knew that it weren't just her hands playing with me I was lost about what the hell I should do? So to some this up my question is, fellas what would your reaction be? And women does a situation like that turn you on? And to be honest with ya all I've never ever felt that uncomfortable before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he crossed a boundary. I would have a conversation with him about it. Hope he apologies and respects your friendship.

then move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a straight fem, and if I were playing with, say a couple where the fem is bi, I too would freak out if she made advances at me.

If your mate really is a mate, then I believe you should have a word with him about the incident, and that you value him as a friend, however, you do not wish to play with him etc...

Difficult one, as one could easily loose a friend by being honest!

Good luck!

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By *unflowersWoman
over a year ago

exeter

If something makes you uncomfortable, then don't do it!

Personally I find it quite exciting to see oral sex between men in the MMF scenario, but each to their own.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Cut a long story short....your bi mate targetted you during a MFM.

Are you confused because you liked it, or confused because you don't know how to communicate with him?

If the former - relax and go with it. If the latter - nobody here can teach you to speak English, you just have to tell him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was bang outta order

Im bi and would not even dream of touching a male unless invited even if i was pissed outa me head

However i suggest you have a quiet word with him and categorically state that its not your scene and you would be grateful if he kept his hands to himself should the situation arise again

I wouldn't let it spoil a good friendship thou

And has for not being able ta get ya head round it

Chalk it up ta experience and move on xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never been in the situation, but i've had numerous gay men flirt and try it on with me for some reason. i just tell them that i'm not interested in that kind of thing and apologise. i don't know if your mate is the same as, but some men really can't take a hint though. but i'm too nice and it takes a lot for me to break, years in one case, and tell them more firmly and bluntly that i don't want what they want to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cut a long story short....your bi mate targetted you during a MFM.

Are you confused because you liked it, or confused because you don't know how to communicate with him?

If the former - relax and go with it. If the latter - nobody here can teach you to speak English, you just have to tell him. "

I like people who don't bull shit about...

...what he said!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ceeman75 , if you enjoyed it more than you thought, if you believe you may enjoy it more than you expected, then speak with him, arrange another session but lay down exactly where the boundaries lie.

If you in no way, shape or form enjoyed it then speak with him and tell him he was out of line, that he let your friendship down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No way am I confused about if I liked it,I totally didn't it. Unexpected things do happen during situations like mmf's, but I do agree with the replies and think he's taken the piss really,

Cheers you lot for taking the time to anwser by the way you've definetly reasured me that what I was thinking about after it all happened was correct

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By *unterslickCouple
over a year ago

tullamore

i think if the males here were to be honest in most mmf situations there is always the odd touch or bump,now wether we mean it or not,its completely unacceptable for a bi guy or girl to go that far,its happened me before and while the fem went to toilet i explained to the male that it was not on,and if he couldnt keep his hands to him and the fem then just leave,we continued,but its not always the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having known full well that your pal was bi and NOT telling him outright to lay off, I think you invited the situation you now find yourself in. If he wasn't sure how you'd react then perhaps you're not a close friends as you thought you were. Maybe he thought you had a reasonable outlook on life and would either be ok with it or you'd tell him outright - AND AT THE TIME IT HAPPENED - to leave it out.

You say you 'freaked out' - does that mean you shouted at him or just froze mentally not knowing what to do?

I guess there's a good lesson you've learned here and that is: If you know a guy is bisexual then make sure he knows you aren't before any action takes place.

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