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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

my 13 and 11 yr old have just been to their dad wedding ....am i apperantly are in the wrong for buying them a present and card to take with them .The present was something the kids wanted to get them and card was only signed by them .So just asking what other people will have done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who has said you are wrong?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think you did the right thing...

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

How can the kids not buy something for their Dad's wedding ??

You did the right thing. Good for you xx

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I think you've done the right thing for your children and that's the only thing that matters

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines

Kids buying a gift for their dad - can only be right in my _iew

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

unless it was a DIY Divorce Kit

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I would think it would be wrong if a child went to a parents wedding and didn't take a card & present.

Was it their father / step mother who commented or a friend/family member?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kids buying a gift for their dad - can only be right in my _iew"

Yep I'm going with this opinion too

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

It depends on the present.

Something thoughtful by the kids = right.

A voodoo doll for new wife = wrong. Funny, but wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

their dad had a right moan saying i was intruding on their day ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

it was an burner with scented melts and tea lights ....nothing than i would say could be offensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"their dad had a right moan saying i was intruding on their day ..."

I don't understand how his children getting him and his new wife a card and present means you have intruded on their day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was there Dad I would have been well impressed that they had a present for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"their dad had a right moan saying i was intruding on their day ..."

Ask him for it back and never send him a birthday/xmas or fathers day gift from the kids again, that's what id do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless there's more to this story than we know I'd say ignore him ~ you've done the right thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i personally think if i hadnt bought anything i be in the wrong .....he lefted me to be with her ....i dont buy fathers day or birthday as i had them return to me ......but this time they wanted to give him something ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"their dad had a right moan saying i was intruding on their day ..."

How does the dad know it was from you?

I would just ignore him and move on with your life

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you can look at your kids in the eyes knowing you tried to do the right thing......

that is all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"their dad had a right moan saying i was intruding on their day ...

How does the dad know it was from you?

I would just ignore him and move on with your life "

Me too, sound like he's just trying to upset you and seems he's doing a good job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you can look at your kids in the eyes knowing you tried to do the right thing......

that is all that matters."

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You did the right thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my 13 and 11 yr old have just been to their dad wedding ....am i apperantly are in the wrong for buying them a present and card to take with them .The present was something the kids wanted to get them and card was only signed by them .So just asking what other people will have done "

Your right I would of done the same. It's still there father so what's the problem

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

How small minded the dad is

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By *allmann68Man
over a year ago

London

ALl seems reasonable, unlike him. Just accept there's some people you can't please bitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should be celebrating the fact that he's married someone else, he sounds like a total prick

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I wouldnt react to him ..your children will have been happy that they had a card and gift for him ...thats all that matters

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Damned if you do and damned if you don't .Think it says more about him than anyone else .Leave him to stew as hhe'll realise what an arse it portrays him to be .

As folks have said ..you did the right thing for your kids that's all that matters

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

He sounds like a right nice bloke...

you did the right thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If his own kids came give their dad a card on his wedding day, all he Thinks about is his new wife.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your children's happiness is what counted on the day , I'm sure they were much happier taking a present ,you were doing the decent thing as a parent well done x

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By *az_1976Man
over a year ago

Peterborough/Huntingdon

"their dad had a right moan saying i was intruding on their day ..."

Their dad is being an arse. It's a gift from his kids not necessarily you

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"i personally think if i hadnt bought anything i be in the wrong .....he lefted me to be with her ....i dont buy fathers day or birthday as i had them return to me ......but this time they wanted to give him something ...."

Wow he sounds nasty.

I never got my ex anything from the kids when he remarried. I would have if they asked though but they never. Even birthday ect I don't get anything unless they specifically ask.

I think it very ignorant fir him to refuse a gift from his children because you bought it.

Next time tell them no and say why.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

cannot see anything wrong with what you have done!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm gonna guess there's a lot more to this than we're being told.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

That seems an over reaction to a simple present from his kids....so I am going to say I think there is more to it

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Did the present emit a loud and suspicious ticking noise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to fuck right off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

End of the day you did what was amicable and set the rite example for you children if he chooses to bitch and moan about a gift from his children then he's the one that ends up looking like a Pratt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure your kids are ok, that they are not upset and they understand they did nothing wrong.

Then just fuck the mind games off. You ain't gonna win, so don't play the game.

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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago

East Manchester

So how else were his children going to buy him a present? they get their money from mum not from a job where they earn their own money.

Sounds like an absolute pillock, and he has feelings of guilt for abandoning his kids, their present probably made him feel like the absolute Ba***rd he is, but he couldn't have a go at them so he chose you instead.

He should be more of an adult and keep things in perspective, if the kids want to send something to their dad then let them, don't upset them by getting them to take sides in an argument between you and him.

Take the moral high ground and say nothing, they will discover what he is by themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he has returned things you have bought in the past I would guess you had a good idea he would be the same with this. In hindsight maybe it wasn't a good idea and you know from now on just not to bother.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

tell him it was a thank you present for his wife lol

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