FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried a gentle reminder.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't send one, don't worry, some do some don't.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?"
I've sent veris to some one and they show them but havent given one back..for fear of upsetting others bit strange but that's life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?"

I had that problem and 5 days later they sent me a gorgeous Veri......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?

I had that problem and 5 days later they sent me a gorgeous Veri......

This definitely happens!

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I have a few veris that I haven't caught up with...gonna do it on hols next week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?"

You don't have your veri's on show so what difference does it make?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to us with a single guy, he also tried hitting in Vera too!! Should be able to take your veris off of someone we think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This happened to us with a single guy, he also tried hitting in Vera too!! Should be able to take your veris off of someone we think"

You can by blocking them

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"This happened to us with a single guy, he also tried hitting in Vera too!! Should be able to take your veris off of someone we think"

You can! If you block, they disappear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?

You don't have your veri's on show so what difference does it make?"

Good point. I tend not to bother writing a veri for people that don't display any as it really doesn't serve any purpose really does it?

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?"

I had the same problem and after I sent them a gentle reminder I got a load of abuse back so I blocked them so they could not show my verification.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?

You don't have your veri's on show so what difference does it make?"

We have the verification summery..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?

You don't have your veri's on show so what difference does it make?

Good point. I tend not to bother writing a veri for people that don't display any as it really doesn't serve any purpose really does it?"

not really no, what's the point in sitting down and thinking of something nice to say for them to not even show it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?

You don't have your veri's on show so what difference does it make?

We have the verification summery.."

A verification summary is only relevant if people are interested in how many meets/cams you have had, it doesn't distinguish between social and play meets so no telling how many of each you have had.

Not getting a verification from someone is only an issue if you allow it to be. If it is an issue then ask them politely to verifiy you back or remove the one you left them by blocking them.

Personally, I only use verifications as a means of establishing that people are who they say they are which is the purpose for which they were originally intended. I don't read other peoples verifications, I prefer to make my own judgement about someone based on our interaction than what others thought of them.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?

You don't have your veri's on show so what difference does it make?

We have the verification summery.."

Why stress if you don't show verification no one is going to read it...

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

why would you expect someone to spend time writing a verification for someone who hides veris ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?"
you're not wrong. Height of bad manners in my opinion

Sarah x

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?"
. Always think that verifications are a bit meaningless. So no need to be annoyed .

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?. Always think that verifications are a bit meaningless. So no need to be annoyed ."

So you prefer to just not have any?

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Send a gentle reminder saying you are pleased they are showing your verification and if they can do the same for you and make it light hearted by saying you can't wait to read it lol x

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Did they ask you to verify them ?

If you choose to verify someone then that is YOUR choice to do so. There are a no grantees they will reciprocate , and nothing to say your entitled to one . I have meets and some verify and others don't. Totally their choice and makes zero odds to me.

If this is such an importance then make that requirement clear on your profile .people are the a wear of the expectation. Or don't verify anyone unless they sent a verification first.

End of the day it's purely a means to show you've had meets on site not something worth stressing over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me a few times and I do think it is rude, because if I get a verification from someone, I always make sure I do theirs before I display it. However, as has been said, it is their choice to do one back which I accept, but if they don't want to take the time to verify back then don't display the one you get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did they ask you to verify them ?

If this is such an importance then make that requirement clear on your profile .people are the a wear of the expectation. Or don't verify anyone unless they sent a verification first.

End of the day it's purely a means to show you've had meets on site not something worth stressing over "

so very true well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually offer a Veri - and see what response I get. If they say they will do one back, then I submit mine. No g'tee - and everyone has a free choice.

To Veri, or not to Veri, that is the question....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Send a gentle reminder saying you are pleased they are showing your verification and if they can do the same for you and make it light hearted by saying you can't wait to read it lol x"

someone gave me this advice before and it worked.

I do think tho if they are showing yours then it's only polite to reciprocate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should never give to receive

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"You should never give to receive

Bollox!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"why would you expect someone to spend time writing a verification for someone who hides veris ?"

We dont hide them..just dont have to show them, but isn't it just good manners to return the favour??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?. Always think that verifications are a bit meaningless. So no need to be annoyed .

So you prefer to just not have any?"

Prefer to at least have one returned than not have the choice to show it!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Am I wrong to be annoyed that we verified someone & they have it on show but havn't sent us one?. Always think that verifications are a bit meaningless. So no need to be annoyed .

So you prefer to just not have any?

Prefer to at least have one returned than not have the choice to show it!"

That comment wasn't directed at you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did they ask you to verify them ?

If this is such an importance then make that requirement clear on your profile .people are the a wear of the expectation. Or don't verify anyone unless they sent a verification first.

End of the day it's purely a means to show

you've had meets on site not something

worth stressing over "

No..didnt ask but was happy to show it..really is just good swinging manners

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Send a gentle reminder saying you are pleased they are showing your verification and if they can do the same for you and make it light hearted by saying you can't wait to read it lol x

someone gave me this advice before and it worked.

I do think tho if they are showing yours then

it's only polite to reciprocate. "

My thorghts exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should never give to receive

Really?!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

after the green tick and one or two verifications, they become meaningless.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked for a verification once. He'd forgotten he'd fucked me (it'd been a while since we'd met). Never asking anyone again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should never give to receive

Really?!

Yes really

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

New Cross

I think its rude not to verify. Whether its play or social you have the choice to show.If they are happy to show yours, ask if they have forgotten about you in a jokey way.

Give them a week, then block if no veri and your pissed off still .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But have you reminded them that they haven't sent you one? I have honestly forgotten to leave them in the past....I don't like writing them on my phone as it takes too long and by the time I get to my laptop I do forget that I haven't done it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had problems in the past with potential meets and just general people from the site messaging and annoying my veris asking about me. So to that end I choose not to show veri's but I still expect them, why wouldnt I?

To say you dont send veris if they dont display them is a little silly,at the end of the day, all your doing in a veri is confirming that person is who he/she say they are, and that you have meet or seen on cam.

Sometimes people put too much info in veris if you ask me..... Anyway, if someone asks me to show veris I will, but as a general rule I keep them hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the Op. It's polite behavior to reciprocate. A gentle reminder is the best approach.

That said, maybe they didn't enjoy the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had problems in the past with potential meets and just general people from the site messaging and annoying my veris asking about me. So to that end I choose not to show veri's but I still expect them, why wouldnt I?

Sometimes people put too much info in veris if you ask me..... Anyway, if someone asks me to show veris I will, but as a general rule I keep them hidden. "

i agree that all you are doing in a verification is confirming someone is who they say they are but if you don't show them how are you doing that?

I've met loads of people who have not verified me i meet people for good adult fun if they don't verify you so what, you still got what you came here forn

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think its rude not to verify. Whether its play or social you have the choice to show.If they are happy to show yours, ask if they have forgotten about you in a jokey way.

Give them a week, then block if no veri and your pissed off still .

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

There are a few men on this thread that I wouldn't mind getting a verification from

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with the Op. It's polite behavior to reciprocate. A gentle reminder is the best approach.

That said, maybe they didn't enjoy the meet. "

Maybe..but then why display the one we sent them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a few men on this thread that I wouldn't mind getting a verification from

Are you on heat today or something lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a few men on this thread that I wouldn't mind getting a verification from

Do you give them back?

hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But have you reminded them???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What our feeling on people you meet who don't verify you but mail you after a few days asking for one

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"Send a gentle reminder saying you are pleased they are showing your verification and if they can do the same for you and make it light hearted by saying you can't wait to read it lol x

someone gave me this advice before and it worked.

I do think tho if they are showing yours then it's only polite to reciprocate. "

Its definitely polite to do one if you are willing to show theirs. Lots of people do not show them which is fair enough too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regardless of whether you show yours or not,I think its a bit cheeky to display one thats been given but not to give one back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone asked for a verification and been told "no you are not worthy"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They may just have forgotten! I've done it in the past.......

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"There are a few men on this thread that I wouldn't mind getting a verification from

Do you give them back?

hahaha"

I do indeed...I'm nice like that

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"There are a few men on this thread that I wouldn't mind getting a verification from

Are you on heat today or something lol"

I'm like a single bloke that can't get any on here today...

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

"Regardless of whether you show yours or not,I think its a bit cheeky to display one thats been given but not to give one back"

Totally agree unless either party has a specific reason but it's not good fabs etiquette.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone asked for a verification and been told "no you are not worthy"

no but I did meet a guy once who kept pestering me for a verification, I didn't enjoy the meet so didn't want to send one but in the end I did send him one saying exactly what I thought of him, surprisingly he didn't show it but his status still showed he had one meets verification!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe they intend to and just haven't got round to it yet....it sometimes takes me a while....

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

I'm guilty of having missed people after a m&g and hadn't realised! I was really glad when I got a pm from one that wondered why I hadn't returned one as we had got on so well.i was mortified and thankfully they knew it wasn't deliberate as we chat on the forums no end which is why they pmd to ask .I would never have realised otherwise tbh so I would just ask very nicely if was there a reason.. Some people don't seem to do them but I think that's a little rude personally..

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've verified people and they haven't shown the verification. I don't sit in the corner and cry my eyes out I just assume they either don't like the verifications or they don't want people to know that they have met me...who knows the people of fab can be a mystery at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use to feel that way when come on this site,I thought its polite to give one back.i use to think oh shit they didn't like me or they thought I were crap lol

I generally verify everybody I meet as I choose to, I never ask for one and really don't worry if they don't do one now

I've seen many of mine go up and not had a return verification, out of those many I've seen again still no verification, some have become fb's and still never left one.Its up to the individual, some even say thankyou and say there do one for me, I don't worry when I don't see it.

All I say is don't take offence it doesn't mean they haven't enjoyed your company, its just what happens at times here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone asked for a verification and been told "no you are not worthy"

Ive been asked for them but have said no before now,its all in the asking really,when im told it'll look good on their profile I tend to think piss off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But have you reminded them???"

Yes ..messaged them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Regardless of whether you show yours or not,I think its a bit cheeky to display one thats been given but not to give one back"

Exactly

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Regardless of whether you show yours or not,I think its a bit cheeky to display one thats been given but not to give one back

Exactly"

sorry but you keep going on about manners and "a cheek to show verification " .but they never asked you to do it lol. If someone sent you a pic in their mail which you never asked for and then just exspected one of you ,would you thinks that's fair ??

I personally think it's a cheek and rude to send a verification and thinking just because you did that you are entitled to force the other person to verify you! Had they asked you for the verification then I'd agree that's cheeky not to reciprocate. But they never , Was there any conversation about you expecting a verifications ? If you demand to be verified after a meet then best to set that clearly on your profile .Then if people don't wish to verify don't have to meet you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone who said to me she does not like verifications giving or receiving.

She now has over 20

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