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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having a discussion on another thread and thought I'd move on from there before I get booted!

Someone made the generalization that 99% of the guys who say they cannot accommodate on here do so because they are married. Other people disagree with it being this high, I however totally agree.

Over the years when I have put up the meet flag it is very very rare to find someone who will accommodate. And we are not just talking openly bi guys here, as the countless threads on the subject attest, a lot say they are straight men who claim not to be looking for TVs contact me. Thinking back over my years on the scene I can only think of a couple of men who have accommodated outwith a hotel, at their home. Or even offered.

Many guys even say they can accommodate but when you push them on the subject it turns out to be while the Mrs is at work, and usually daytimes or odd times. So I'd say 99% is about right.

Now I'm not saying the whole cheating married men thing is wrong. Most of the guys I've met are married and that's fine. But it's something I've thought about a lot as it's becoming increasingly difficult to meet anyone up here for this very reason. And for all the horrible and phobic generalizations we see on here sometimes, I'd say "99% of men who say they can't accommodate do so because they are married" is actually spot on.

Any thoughts, other than "don't tar all us genuine single men with the same brush blah blah blah"?

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

In this day of age you probably find more relationships breaking down, that along with money being tight etc, you may just find more single men have housemates.

That might be one reason, I used to houseshare and thus, couldnt accomodate then.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"In this day of age you probably find more relationships breaking down, that along with money being tight etc, you may just find more single men have housemates.

That might be one reason, I used to houseshare and thus, couldnt accomodate then."

Agree, many singles are living at home with parents until well into their 30's now, as they simply cannot afford to get a foot on the housing ladder. Or as you pointed out don't have a place of their own and flatshare or houseshare with others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In this day of age you probably find more relationships breaking down, that along with money being tight etc, you may just find more single men have housemates.

That might be one reason, I used to houseshare and thus, couldnt accomodate then."

Partly I guess, particularly if the guy is a closet bi. You wouldn't want a 6'5 tranny coming round! But if you were straight, what, you're not allowed a girlfriend or to bring someone back from the pub because you house share?

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"In this day of age you probably find more relationships breaking down, that along with money being tight etc, you may just find more single men have housemates.

That might be one reason, I used to houseshare and thus, couldnt accomodate then.

Partly I guess, particularly if the guy is a closet bi. You wouldn't want a 6'5 tranny coming round! But if you were straight, what, you're not allowed a girlfriend or to bring someone back from the pub because you house share? "

I'd rather get a hotel room than do that.

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By *ambslass48Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough

I get slated for being a single woman who can't accom because I have large extended family living here

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"In this day of age you probably find more relationships breaking down, that along with money being tight etc, you may just find more single men have housemates.

That might be one reason, I used to houseshare and thus, couldnt accomodate then.

Partly I guess, particularly if the guy is a closet bi. You wouldn't want a 6'5 tranny coming round! But if you were straight, what, you're not allowed a girlfriend or to bring someone back from the pub because you house share? "

Well yeah, everyone has differn't circumstances. Im not going to go into mine but it wouldnt do me any favours if I was seen to 'Sleep Around' for want of a better word. That just me being a Singleton.

I don't see myself as a Swinger, its not something that appeals to me, but say I was. How do I explain that one to housemates, instead of them seeing a Girl leave the next morning, they also see her Husband for eg.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In this day of age you probably find more relationships breaking down, that along with money being tight etc, you may just find more single men have housemates.

That might be one reason, I used to houseshare and thus, couldnt accomodate then.

Partly I guess, particularly if the guy is a closet bi. You wouldn't want a 6'5 tranny coming round! But if you were straight, what, you're not allowed a girlfriend or to bring someone back from the pub because you house share?

I'd rather get a hotel room than do that."

And that is exactly the reason I know some married guys use the House share excuse.

It's easy to use and has a touch of sensitivity about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the vast majority of people here are guilty of sweeping generalisations.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I do love a sweeping statement, I live with family and cannot accom, my ex partner had his children living with him and could not acom and to be honest I wouldn't want to take a sex partner back home, I would rather go to a hotel where you can lock the door and not worry about your kids/parent/flat mate hearing you in the next room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been on and off fab for years in all that time ive only met 1 guy that accoms everytime.

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By *ay2571Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I can accom, but I prefer not to for a couple of reasons.

1) my home is my home. I find the side of me that plays is not the same as that that has a home/ looks after his flat. I suppose it's my space and I'm precious about thoeses I share it with. Vinilla girl friend in the past have complained that we very rarly go back to mine.

2) I feel more in control at someone else's, because I can leave when I want to. Unless of course they lock the door.

3) I'm not overly keen on letting some nutter know where I live

Or that's more than 2. But there are lots of reasons other than being married.

But what would the internet be without sweeping statements.

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By *hrissie1961Woman
over a year ago

dumfries and galloway

I dont accommodate, not because I am married, but because I choose not too.

My personal life is no ones business but mine. I declare my status, therefore giving people the choice to contact me or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's be honest, there are a lot of (outwardly) charming, good looking, fit, gentlemanly single men on here (i.e. generally very desirable as 'boyfriend material') at or around the age most would normally be married.

Now of course, some may be divorced, widowed, estranged, others genuinely single either actively looking for miss / mr right or in no rush to find her / him, but (and here's the sweeping generalisation bit!) I'd expect a high percentage (not quite sure it's 99% though) that will either be married or attached but passing themselves off as single.

Probably a very high percentage using this forum right now and no doubt some of those that are usually incandescent with rage at people being "unfaithful" are doing so themselves but using this disgust as a tool to try and mask their own infidelity.

There you go, I've made my own sweeping generalisations and I'm guessing I'm probably right!

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Having a discussion on another thread and thought I'd move on from there before I get booted!

Someone made the generalization that 99% of the guys who say they cannot accommodate on here do so because they are married. Other people disagree with it being this high, I however totally agree.

Over the years when I have put up the meet flag it is very very rare to find someone who will accommodate. And we are not just talking openly bi guys here, as the countless threads on the subject attest, a lot say they are straight men who claim not to be looking for TVs contact me. Thinking back over my years on the scene I can only think of a couple of men who have accommodated outwith a hotel, at their home. Or even offered.

Many guys even say they can accommodate but when you push them on the subject it turns out to be while the Mrs is at work, and usually daytimes or odd times. So I'd say 99% is about right.

Now I'm not saying the whole cheating married men thing is wrong. Most of the guys I've met are married and that's fine. But it's something I've thought about a lot as it's becoming increasingly difficult to meet anyone up here for this very reason. And for all the horrible and phobic generalizations we see on here sometimes, I'd say "99% of men who say they can't accommodate do so because they are married" is actually spot on.

Any thoughts, other than "don't tar all us genuine single men with the same brush blah blah blah"?"

From your logic am I correct to conclude you are married ? You are a single guy and your profile says you don't accommodate ?

It's a sweeping generalisation as you actually have very little verifiable data to give any percentage and maintain credibility

At best surely you can only say

A high percentage of men I personaly encounter are unable to accommodate and of those I have discovered a high proportion are attached

It's very personaly subjective , for example your cock may be drawn to cheating men ? And it seems you have a suspicion they are not telling the truth as apposed to hard data for all men that they actually are not x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I can accommodate, I used to a lot, I never will again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Let's be honest, there are a lot of (outwardly) charming, good looking, fit, gentlemanly single men on here (i.e. generally very desirable as 'boyfriend material') at or around the age most would normally be married.

Now of course, some may be divorced, widowed, estranged, others genuinely single either actively looking for miss / mr right or in no rush to find her / him, but (and here's the sweeping generalisation bit!) I'd expect a high percentage (not quite sure it's 99% though) that will either be married or attached but passing themselves off as single.

Probably a very high percentage using this forum right now and no doubt some of those that are usually incandescent with rage at people being "unfaithful" are doing so themselves but using this disgust as a tool to try and mask their own infidelity.

There you go, I've made my own sweeping generalisations and I'm guessing I'm probably right!"

I knew I'd get mainly answers from guys who felt they had to justify why they couldn't accomodate. Which is fine, I'm aware there are a myriad of reasons, but it's not an answer or any sort of justification for saying I'm wrong about my estimate. Because I'd be very surprised if any married guys are going to leap to my defence and say I'm right because it's their situation, and in the process commit fabicide.

I may be prepared to drop a few percent off that figure for arguments sake, but it's definitely high 90's.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Let's be honest, there are a lot of (outwardly) charming, good looking, fit, gentlemanly single men on here (i.e. generally very desirable as 'boyfriend material') at or around the age most would normally be married.

Now of course, some may be divorced, widowed, estranged, others genuinely single either actively looking for miss / mr right or in no rush to find her / him, but (and here's the sweeping generalisation bit!) I'd expect a high percentage (not quite sure it's 99% though) that will either be married or attached but passing themselves off as single.

Probably a very high percentage using this forum right now and no doubt some of those that are usually incandescent with rage at people being "unfaithful" are doing so themselves but using this disgust as a tool to try and mask their own infidelity.

There you go, I've made my own sweeping generalisations and I'm guessing I'm probably right!

I knew I'd get mainly answers from guys who felt they had to justify why they couldn't accomodate. Which is fine, I'm aware there are a myriad of reasons, but it's not an answer or any sort of justification for saying I'm wrong about my estimate. Because I'd be very surprised if any married guys are going to leap to my defence and say I'm right because it's their situation, and in the process commit fabicide.

I may be prepared to drop a few percent off that figure for arguments sake, but it's definitely high 90's."

No but my reply was xxx

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Let's be honest, there are a lot of (outwardly) charming, good looking, fit, gentlemanly single men on here (i.e. generally very desirable as 'boyfriend material') at or around the age most would normally be married.

Now of course, some may be divorced, widowed, estranged, others genuinely single either actively looking for miss / mr right or in no rush to find her / him, but (and here's the sweeping generalisation bit!) I'd expect a high percentage (not quite sure it's 99% though) that will either be married or attached but passing themselves off as single.

Probably a very high percentage using this forum right now and no doubt some of those that are usually incandescent with rage at people being "unfaithful" are doing so themselves but using this disgust as a tool to try and mask their own infidelity.

There you go, I've made my own sweeping generalisations and I'm guessing I'm probably right!

I knew I'd get mainly answers from guys who felt they had to justify why they couldn't accomodate. Which is fine, I'm aware there are a myriad of reasons, but it's not an answer or any sort of justification for saying I'm wrong about my estimate. Because I'd be very surprised if any married guys are going to leap to my defence and say I'm right because it's their situation, and in the process commit fabicide.

I may be prepared to drop a few percent off that figure for arguments sake, but it's definitely high 90's."

Just to clarify, not that it makes any difference, I can accomodate.

I was just trying to answer your questions.

Why did you ask them anyway?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

You might be right but you just don't have the data to support it only your personal experience and the odd forum rant x

For a start I'm guessing you may only be discussing men north of the border ? That's a small minority of men x

Here is a fact over 40 percent of men in Scotland voted for a regime that would not benifit Scotland , I cannot however tell you what 40 percent will be wrong

Be careful how you use statistics if you don't understand them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I asked because I was just interested in the generalisation I saw, particularly as it was one which I think for once had legs. Bourne out by personal experience.

And to answer Taoist if you take my personal experience as a base, and a pretty good cross section of the male membership in this area have contacted me, then that figure is definitely high 90's. And that's the basis of all polls isn't it? A small cross section to determine the wider picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's already been said but I suspect many people, men and women, don't accomodate for reasons of privacy.

neighbours always seem to know who is visiting and the last thing anyone wants is a previous meet just turning up unannounced.

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By *ay2571Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

65% of statistics are made up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked because I was just interested in the generalisation I saw, particularly as it was one which I think for once had legs. Bourne out by personal experience.

And to answer Taoist if you take my personal experience as a base, and a pretty good cross section of the male membership in this area have contacted me, then that figure is definitely high 90's. And that's the basis of all polls isn't it? A small cross section to determine the wider picture. "

I my general experience in the midlands area too so i based on my experience, think the OPs theory holds some weight

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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago

Greensburg

Based on our personal experiences, we do agree that it SEEMS like that high of a percentage. In reality, I do not think it could be that high. Definitely some legit reasons out there, but it can be difficult to tell lies from legitimate reasons, so it leaves us in a tight spot when choosing people to meet with.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

It depends what age group. Most of the younger guys are indeed sharing. I would say a larger proportion of the over forty crowd may well be attached. I try to only talk to people who can accomm anyway.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Lots of women and couples can't accommodate either....but it is only the men who get accused of lying about something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can't accommodate does this mean we are married too lol

With all due respect Jodie lovely as you are I wonder how many change to cannot accommodate before messaging you,they may want to have sex with you but they wouldn't want even a convincing t.v. rocking up to their house shit world as it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im not inviting relative strangers into my home

would rather it be a mutually set location that neither of us live in

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"im not inviting relative strangers into my home

would rather it be a mutually set location that neither of us live in"

But you are a man...you are not allowed to want to feel safe !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You might be right but you just don't have the data to support it only your personal experience and the odd forum rant x

For a start I'm guessing you may only be discussing men north of the border ? That's a small minority of men x

Here is a fact over 40 percent of men in Scotland voted for a regime that would not benifit Scotland , I cannot however tell you what 40 percent will be wrong

Be careful how you use statistics if you don't understand them "

No, I had a profile when I lived in Norfolk also. Was the same there.

I could modify my generalisation to say that 99% of men who cannot accommodate that are open about wanting to meet TV's are married, based on my observation. But since as I already said, there is a big crossover category from the closet guys who like TVs, then the site percentage as a whole goes right up.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

The figure probably is fairly high at a guess, but there are those who genuinely can't.

I house share with family and my young son stays over half the week - no way can I bring lots of different women home every few weeks. A few of the couples and women I've met have become friends on Facebook now and can see I'm genuine about that, but how do you prove it? Do I need a confirmation letter from my ex-wife and last 2 girlfriends? A note from my mum? Lol!

It basically comes down to trust and them following their instincts, not much I can do about that but try and be open and honest with them.

What I do resent is the abuse you get from some people in messages, I've been called a liar, cheat and a dick recently just because people _assume_ I'm attatched because I can't accomodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can't accommodate does this mean we are married too lol

With all due respect Jodie lovely as you are I wonder how many change to cannot accommodate before messaging you,they may want to have sex with you but they wouldn't want even a convincing t.v. rocking up to their house shit world as it is "

Going by my number of meets/fun in club to verification ratio I think you might be right.

Us tgirls might blow your mind, along with your load, but not many want the world to know. Can't say I blame them really. Even I don't understand why I do this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

probably just as many say they can accommodate when they mean they will book a hotel room - swings and roundabouts - take or leave it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc "

As others have said, it's not just men that don't accom, many couples and females prefer not to as well. This is for many reasons, they're married, they have kids or other family there, they don't want curtain twitching neighbours seeing them entertain different people every night, whatever...

In my opinion it's best to be upfront about all things, my profile clearly states my domestic situation and the reason I can't accom at home (hotels etc are good) and people can take it or leave it as they see fit

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc

As others have said, it's not just men that don't accom, many couples and females prefer not to as well. This is for many reasons, they're married, they have kids or other family there, they don't want curtain twitching neighbours seeing them entertain different people every night, whatever...

In my opinion it's best to be upfront about all things, my profile clearly states my domestic situation and the reason I can't accom at home (hotels etc are good) and people can take it or leave it as they see fit"

I agree with this as well. A lot of my meets are 40-somethings with kids too, so we meet in clubs or hotels.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lots of women and couples can't accommodate either....but it is only the men who get accused of lying about something.

"

But I'm not accusing anyone of anything, and as I said the majority of men I've met have been married. I know there are valid reasons why some people can't/won't accomodate. Men get accused of lying a lot because they are the biggest category on the site by far, and of that category the largest amount them are timewasters/pain in the arse/unreliable/fantasists (choose your adjective). When people say the minority give the majority a bad name, I'd confidently say it's the other way round. The majority of bad un's giving the minority a bad name for one reason or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can't accommodate does this mean we are married too lol

With all due respect Jodie lovely as you are I wonder how many change to cannot accommodate before messaging you,they may want to have sex with you but they wouldn't want even a convincing t.v. rocking up to their house shit world as it is

Going by my number of meets/fun in club to verification ratio I think you might be right.

Us tgirls might blow your mind, along with your load, but not many want the world to know. Can't say I blame them really. Even I don't understand why I do this "

Don't knock yourself some don't have the confidence yet but that may change in the future.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Lots of women and couples can't accommodate either....but it is only the men who get accused of lying about something.

But I'm not accusing anyone of anything. Men get accused of lying a lot because they are the biggest category on the site by far, and of that category the largest amount them are timewasters/pain in the arse/unreliable/fantasists (choose your adjective). . "

And yet you are not accusing men of anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty of you about too we are looking forward to a girls and gurls party soon and I'm sure some will show up already glamed up, Mo loves having fun with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc

As others have said, it's not just men that don't accom, many couples and females prefer not to as well. This is for many reasons, they're married, they have kids or other family there, they don't want curtain twitching neighbours seeing them entertain different people every night, whatever...

In my opinion it's best to be upfront about all things, my profile clearly states my domestic situation and the reason I can't accom at home (hotels etc are good) and people can take it or leave it as they see fit"

I can only provide my examples relating to men as I only wish to meet men.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

It's across the board both men and women can't accommodate....it's the fact of living in 2014 some can't afford to live on their own, some lives with kids etc and on some occasions live with their partners.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" The majority of bad un's giving the minority a bad name for one reason or another. "

Bad un's. Now there IS a sweeping generalisation

Until you've walked in their shoes etc ...

Anyway that's a whole different debate and one I'm not getting in to!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lots of women and couples can't accommodate either....but it is only the men who get accused of lying about something.

But I'm not accusing anyone of anything. Men get accused of lying a lot because they are the biggest category on the site by far, and of that category the largest amount them are timewasters/pain in the arse/unreliable/fantasists (choose your adjective). .

And yet you are not accusing men of anything "

Actually no, I've not made a single accusation. I've made a couple of generalisations. And the one you've quoted, tell me you've never looked through your inbox and thought something similar?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc "

Well, it is the sweeping generalisation thread, I guess!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc

Well, it is the sweeping generalisation thread, I guess!!! "

Feel free to add your own! Mix it up.

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By *ust MonicaWoman
over a year ago

CAMBRIDGESHIRE

I can accommodate but choose not to. This is my home. My private life. Sex is just sex so would prefer to meet in a hotel

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Lots of women and couples can't accommodate either....but it is only the men who get accused of lying about something.

But I'm not accusing anyone of anything. Men get accused of lying a lot because they are the biggest category on the site by far, and of that category the largest amount them are timewasters/pain in the arse/unreliable/fantasists (choose your adjective). .

And yet you are not accusing men of anything

Actually no, I've not made a single accusation. I've made a couple of generalisations. And the one you've quoted, tell me you've never looked through your inbox and thought something similar?"

Yes of course I have. BUT, I don't assume that 99% of men who can't accommodate are attached

What I am suggesting is...there are too many assumptions by a lot of people about single males.

Not many seem to question us couples or single females with the same issues but single men have to justify a hell of a lot to a lot of people..... be that. why they don't accommodate/ do socials/ meet when fingers are clicked etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I had my own place I did bring a few girls back after a night out and also offered to accom for a small window, but my situation has changed and I can't due to having housemates.

However now I'm a bit wiser if I'd never met before the first would be neutral ground - you learn from mistakes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of women and couples can't accommodate either....but it is only the men who get accused of lying about something.

But I'm not accusing anyone of anything. Men get accused of lying a lot because they are the biggest category on the site by far, and of that category the largest amount them are timewasters/pain in the arse/unreliable/fantasists (choose your adjective). .

And yet you are not accusing men of anything

Actually no, I've not made a single accusation. I've made a couple of generalisations. And the one you've quoted, tell me you've never looked through your inbox and thought something similar?

Yes of course I have. BUT, I don't assume that 99% of men who can't accommodate are attached

What I am suggesting is...there are too many assumptions by a lot of people about single males.

Not many seem to question us couples or single females with the same issues but single men have to justify a hell of a lot to a lot of people..... be that. why they don't accommodate/ do socials/ meet when fingers are clicked etc etc "

I agree with this to an extent but from my own personal experience (which is all I can go on) a lot of men also seem to expect women to let them come round to their home at the click of their fingers. I've also lost count of the times I've been asked late at night "can't you just pop out for an hour?" Or "can you leave your kid with someone for an hour?".

I am sure there are lots of women and couples who are just as bad.

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

I have can accomodste on my profile , which is true , but not at the drop of a hat as I am a single parent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc

Well, it is the sweeping generalisation thread, I guess!!!

Feel free to add your own! Mix it up.

"

Okay........

When I lived on my own in the city, I couldn't/wouldn't accommodate, but now that I live in the country I can/will;

It's quite difficult in the city to offer an explanation to my neighbours about the flock of sheep entering my property at night!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lots of women and couples can't accommodate either....but it is only the men who get accused of lying about something.

But I'm not accusing anyone of anything. Men get accused of lying a lot because they are the biggest category on the site by far, and of that category the largest amount them are timewasters/pain in the arse/unreliable/fantasists (choose your adjective). .

And yet you are not accusing men of anything

Actually no, I've not made a single accusation. I've made a couple of generalisations. And the one you've quoted, tell me you've never looked through your inbox and thought something similar?

Yes of course I have. BUT, I don't assume that 99% of men who can't accommodate are attached

What I am suggesting is...there are too many assumptions by a lot of people about single males.

Not many seem to question us couples or single females with the same issues but single men have to justify a hell of a lot to a lot of people..... be that. why they don't accommodate/ do socials/ meet when fingers are clicked etc etc "

But is this not all down to the massive amount of men on the site? And as I said the fact that the majority spoil it for the minority, so much so that people feel they have to give them a hard time to out the chaff. Now I'm not saying it's right at all, but single bi-women for example, their marital status/living arrangements are either not questioned or cared about the way a man's is because of their perceived rarity. Another one won't be along in a minute if you fuck up, whereas your inbox will be full again in a moment if you look for guys.

I assume the massive disparity in numbers is down to one simple thing. That simple thing being men. And the fact that the dick rules the head.

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By *avebi48Man
over a year ago

Lordswood


"

Feel free to add your own! Mix it up.

"

was a period I couldn't as my daughter was staying here but do now should I feel comfortable. Overlooking front doors makes discretion a must.

On a different note, what do you reckon on the percentage of "straight" guys being just that? Seem to get loads of meet requests from them and "won't meet smoker" straight guys too

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Lots of women and couples can't accommodate either....but it is only the men who get accused of lying about something.

But I'm not accusing anyone of anything. Men get accused of lying a lot because they are the biggest category on the site by far, and of that category the largest amount them are timewasters/pain in the arse/unreliable/fantasists (choose your adjective). .

And yet you are not accusing men of anything

Actually no, I've not made a single accusation. I've made a couple of generalisations. And the one you've quoted, tell me you've never looked through your inbox and thought something similar?

Yes of course I have. BUT, I don't assume that 99% of men who can't accommodate are attached

What I am suggesting is...there are too many assumptions by a lot of people about single males.

Not many seem to question us couples or single females with the same issues but single men have to justify a hell of a lot to a lot of people..... be that. why they don't accommodate/ do socials/ meet when fingers are clicked etc etc

But is this not all down to the massive amount of men on the site?.

"

If I am honest I would say no to that.

I would imagine if there were an equal amount of males/females and couples on the site they would still be the ones getting the hard time.

Don't get me wrong, we try and out attached people too with our own ways of doing it and I am sure of one person our ing out didn't work on...but I still think sometimes the men get a much harder time than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to totally agree and in my experience

Mostly when I ask why it usually comes out there married or attached

my reason I have can't accom up is I can only on times when children not home

before I have any comments lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to totally agree and in my experience

Mostly when I ask why it usually comes out there married or attached

my reason I have can't accom up is I can only on times when children not home

before I have any comments lol x "

Aaaaaaaaaaagh, - that age old excuse, eh!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No excuse I'm totally single and love accommodating

wish the bloody grown-up kids would either stay or go!!!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It doesn't matter to me either way I choose to meet at my house in the evenings but I get a fair proportion of guys asking me to theirs.

Op can you accommodate? If so what's the problem? Does it actually matter where you meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lots of women and couples can't accommodate either....but it is only the men who get accused of lying about something.

But I'm not accusing anyone of anything. Men get accused of lying a lot because they are the biggest category on the site by far, and of that category the largest amount them are timewasters/pain in the arse/unreliable/fantasists (choose your adjective). .

And yet you are not accusing men of anything

Actually no, I've not made a single accusation. I've made a couple of generalisations. And the one you've quoted, tell me you've never looked through your inbox and thought something similar?

Yes of course I have. BUT, I don't assume that 99% of men who can't accommodate are attached

What I am suggesting is...there are too many assumptions by a lot of people about single males.

Not many seem to question us couples or single females with the same issues but single men have to justify a hell of a lot to a lot of people..... be that. why they don't accommodate/ do socials/ meet when fingers are clicked etc etc

But is this not all down to the massive amount of men on the site?.

If I am honest I would say no to that.

I would imagine if there were an equal amount of males/females and couples on the site they would still be the ones getting the hard time.

Don't get me wrong, we try and out attached people too with our own ways of doing it and I am sure of one person our ing out didn't work on...but I still think sometimes the men get a much harder time than others "

But again, the reason they tend to bend truth or just outright lie has to be due to the numbers. Kind of darwinian process. They have to try and get an edge over the competition by making themselves seem more desirable over other potential mates.

As for your own ing process, if you're sure one guy got through, what are the odds that at least one more did but you just don't know?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It doesn't matter to me either way I choose to meet at my house in the evenings but I get a fair proportion of guys asking me to theirs.

Op can you accommodate? If so what's the problem? Does it actually matter where you meet

"

I can, but never on a first meet and never for quickies. I put I can't as otherwise it's always assumed I will.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It doesn't matter to me either way I choose to meet at my house in the evenings but I get a fair proportion of guys asking me to theirs.

Op can you accommodate? If so what's the problem? Does it actually matter where you meet

I can, but never on a first meet and never for quickies. I put I can't as otherwise it's always assumed I will. "
how do you know other guys aren't putting no for the same reasons

?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It doesn't matter to me either way I choose to meet at my house in the evenings but I get a fair proportion of guys asking me to theirs.

Op can you accommodate? If so what's the problem? Does it actually matter where you meet

I can, but never on a first meet and never for quickies. I put I can't as otherwise it's always assumed I will. how do you know other guys aren't putting no for the same reasons

?"

Because If they say they can't accomodate I ask why. And if they can accomodate I ask what times are best? The answer in both cases, 99% of the time, has involved a wife!

And thus the circle of argument is complete!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"

As for your own ing process, if you're sure one guy got through, what are the odds that at least one more did but you just don't know? "

Who knows what the odds are...I could only guess as I don't know for sure....and unless 99% people told you they were attached then I don't see how you can come up with your figure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc

Well, it is the sweeping generalisation thread, I guess!!!

Feel free to add your own! Mix it up.

"

99% of tv's wear women's knickers.

87% of women on Fab believe the compliments they get on here.

0.001% of men on Fab get meets.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I know men who can accommodate but choose not to state it....their reasoning is they don't want any tom, dick or fanny in their home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I 100% don't care if people can accomodate or not. I'm not dial-a-shag.

We meet somewhere mutually suitable. Never at mine, never at theirs.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I know men who can accommodate but choose not to state it....their reasoning is they don't want any tom, dick or fanny in their home. "

and some you have in your home can't keep their fucking mouths closed after they have left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know men who can accommodate but choose not to state it....their reasoning is they don't want any tom, dick or fanny in their home.

and some you have in your home can't keep their fucking mouths closed after they have left "

Lock jaw?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I know men who can accommodate but choose not to state it....their reasoning is they don't want any tom, dick or fanny in their home.

and some you have in your home can't keep their fucking mouths closed after they have left

Lock jaw? "

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Anyone with any real sense, good reasoning and rational intelligence is unlikely to mass pigeon hole others based on past experience.

I've spoke/met cpls claiming to be married. On getting to know them I discover they are but not to each other. Therefore explaining why they cannot accommodate.

Does that reflect on other cpls who cannot accom for possible real reasons, does it fcuk.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I know men who can accommodate but choose not to state it....their reasoning is they don't want any tom, dick or fanny in their home.

and some you have in your home can't keep their fucking mouths closed after they have left "

Nope they certainly can't....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a few honourable exceptions above, distinct lack of the ladyeez on this thread,

Wonder why.

I've had 2 recently, both profiles saying they could accomodate - buy hey guess what - they can't.

1 fessed up- ooh didn't I tell you I was married. Duh.

The other was not married- but clearly trying to keep her shagging under the radar cos her explanation as to why in fact she couldn't accomodate, was pitiful.

Any you guys who bang in hotels ever seen a girl offer to pay half? I mean when we pay so much for the roof over our head- why waste anything from 50-100 on a hotel? Can buy a round for that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of women and couples can't accommodate either....but it is only the men who get accused of lying about something.

But I'm not accusing anyone of anything. Men get accused of lying a lot because they are the biggest category on the site by far, and of that category the largest amount them are timewasters/pain in the arse/unreliable/fantasists (choose your adjective). .

And yet you are not accusing men of anything

Actually no, I've not made a single accusation. I've made a couple of generalisations. And the one you've quoted, tell me you've never looked through your inbox and thought something similar?

Yes of course I have. BUT, I don't assume that 99% of men who can't accommodate are attached

What I am suggesting is...there are too many assumptions by a lot of people about single males.

Not many seem to question us couples or single females with the same issues but single men have to justify a hell of a lot to a lot of people..... be that. why they don't accommodate/ do socials/ meet when fingers are clicked etc etc

But is this not all down to the massive amount of men on the site? And as I said the fact that the majority spoil it for the minority, so much so that people feel they have to give them a hard time to out the chaff. Now I'm not saying it's right at all, but single bi-women for example, their marital status/living arrangements are either not questioned or cared about the way a man's is because of their perceived rarity. Another one won't be along in a minute if you fuck up, whereas your inbox will be full again in a moment if you look for guys.

I assume the massive disparity in numbers is down to one simple thing. That simple thing being men. And the fact that the dick rules the head.

"

I take it that you include yourself in that last seedling

sentence? Or, let me guess, - you so happen to be the minority 1%??????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Where to start, after having to wade through Taoists crap.

Right, if you read back I said I do accomodate. And no, due to my particular brand of gender bending, my dick does not rule my decision making processes.

So 50% of the adult population is married? So using Taoists assertation that this site accurately reflects the demographic split of the UK then it would follow that 50% of the site members from this country would be couples and of the single members it would be a 50/50 split between men and women.

But we know none of that is true, just a simple search for your area shows that this site doesn't reflect that survey. I did this in thread ages ago about the men/women ratio. Found that for (supposedly) single men and women who had been active within the last week in the Inverness area, then the ratio was 7:1. Voluptuous Virago did the same for her area and I think it was 10:1. So it does vary by area. But it's never going to be 50/50.

And I think we know that not everyone has the desire for swinging or anonymous sex. So that Guardian article so expertly copied and pasted, is irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With a few honourable exceptions above, distinct lack of the ladyeez on this thread,

Wonder why.

I've had 2 recently, both profiles saying they could accomodate - buy hey guess what - they can't.

1 fessed up- ooh didn't I tell you I was married. Duh.

The other was not married- but clearly trying to keep her shagging under the radar cos her explanation as to why in fact she couldn't accomodate, was pitiful.

Any you guys who bang in hotels ever seen a girl offer to pay half? I mean when we pay so much for the roof over our head- why waste anything from 50-100 on a hotel? Can buy a round for that!!"

I've paid half many a time and sometimes booked it myself. I'd rather meet in a hotel than go to some random guy's house, until I've got to know them. Obviously I don't accommodate (because I'm married) but even if I was single I wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a truth, Universally acknowledged, that all of the sexiest accents of the world are Welsh and Irish x

Generalisation, maybe, but I love it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

quite a few of the single fems we chat to say no on their profiles - when we chat and get to know them they often can just choosy who - which is fair enough and dont blame them at all -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is a truth, Universally acknowledged, that all of the sexiest accents of the world are Welsh and Irish x

Generalisation, maybe, but I love it x"

What about French?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is a truth, Universally acknowledged, that all of the sexiest accents of the world are Welsh and Irish x

Generalisation, maybe, but I love it x

What about French?"

Oui!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is a truth, Universally acknowledged, that all of the sexiest accents of the world are Welsh and Irish x

Generalisation, maybe, but I love it x

What about French?

Oui!"

Non

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can accom, but I prefer not to for a couple of reasons.

1) my home is my home. I find the side of me that plays is not the same as that that has a home/ looks after his flat. I suppose it's my space and I'm precious about thoeses I share it with. Vinilla girl friend in the past

have complained that we very rarly go back to mine.

2) I feel more in control at someone else's, because I can leave when I want to. Unless of course they lock the door.

3) I'm not overly keen on letting some nutter know where I live

Or that's more than 2. But there are lots of reasons other than being married.

But what would the internet be without sweeping statements. "

WRT to #3 that's why I prefer to do socials first. Definitely not going to get intimate with a nutter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc

Well, it is the sweeping generalisation thread, I guess!!!

Feel free to add your own! Mix it up.

99% of tv's wear women's knickers.

87% of women on Fab believe the compliments they get on here.

0.001% of men on Fab get meets.

"

Lol. My favourite post so far. Couldn't be bothered to read the epic one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I resent the idea that I would only use a hotel as I am married (though I am). I would do it just to steal the toiletries.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc

Well, it is the sweeping generalisation thread, I guess!!!

Feel free to add your own! Mix it up.

99% of tv's wear women's knickers.

87% of women on Fab believe the compliments they get on here.

0.001% of men on Fab get meets.

"

Errrr..... Surely 100% of TVs wear women's knickers? Otherwise what would be the point?

Striped Boxers, stockings and sussies.......hmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc

Well, it is the sweeping generalisation thread, I guess!!!

Feel free to add your own! Mix it up.

99% of tv's wear women's knickers.

87% of women on Fab believe the compliments they get on here.

0.001% of men on Fab get meets.

Errrr..... Surely 100% of TVs wear women's knickers? Otherwise what would be the point?

Striped Boxers, stockings and sussies.......hmmmmm "

Ah you forget the really bad gurls that go commando

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am sure there are plenty of reasons why men can't accommodate. But as I have been bitten before, unfortunately I now assume that they are married etc

Well, it is the sweeping generalisation thread, I guess!!!

Feel free to add your own! Mix it up.

99% of tv's wear women's knickers.

87% of women on Fab believe the compliments they get on here.

0.001% of men on Fab get meets.

Errrr..... Surely 100% of TVs wear women's knickers? Otherwise what would be the point?

Striped Boxers, stockings and sussies.......hmmmmm

Ah you forget the really bad gurls that go commando "

Ah the old elephants trunk swinging around under a short skirt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a good gurl. Elephant swinging isn't a good look in my book.

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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I personally prefer to meet in a club, due to the fact i live in a gated community. To get into my place you have to have some form of photo ID and something with your home address on. 99% of people don't want to give that information. And i pulled that number off a blade of grass outside my accommodation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I personally prefer to meet in a club, due to the fact i live in a gated community. To get into my place you have to have some form of photo ID and something with your home address on. 99% of people don't want to give that information. And i pulled that number off a blade of grass outside my accommodation "

Now you realise that you're not proving me wrong here?

All you're saying is that in Oakham, you are part of the 1% who cannot accommodate for reasons other than being married.

Plus it sounds like Oakham is rough as fuck.

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