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why wont they send me a Veri when it was a good night

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They must have been ashamed as I am a lot older

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Maybe it was a good night for you, but not them?

Maybe they just haven't gotten round to it yet?

Maybe you'd be better off asking them? As they're the only ones that will know the answer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they didn't think it was a good night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

did you send one?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol....im a shit shag lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people don't always send them. I've had a few guys not send one over the years. I always send one but am not overly bothered if I don't get one in return and I'll never ask. If its a first veri I think its a bit off to not send one but its not compulsory.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I sent them one yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people dont bother with them. Did you ask for one? Being asked back is better than getting a veri on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I asked for one ...twice and they said they would ...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Yeah I asked for one ...twice and they said they would ... "

If someone asked me more than once I wouldnt bother to be honest. It's like they are more interested in the very than the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I asked for one ...twice and they said they would ... "
how long ago ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

3 days jj

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never assume....anything, ask questions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For the record it was important to me as it was my first full swap Veri and my previous very was just a social meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people dont bother with them. Did you ask for one? Being asked back is better than getting a veri on here."

Exactly. Why so stuck on veris. Chill. Relax. If all had a good time. ..then cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not compulsory to send someone a veri'.

If you've not received one, there could be so many reasons for them not doing. You've asked them the question, just sit back and wait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 days jj"
only 3 days that comes across as a little needy, give them chance, not everyone lives their life on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain OP.

I met a verified couple a few weeks back when I was still awaiting my first veri, thought it went very well, they said they'd verify but never did

It's their prerogative I guess, it is frustrating but veri's are optional.

Keep at it and the veri's will come - good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im laughing as ive obviously took it as a personal rejection....I need to get out more lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im laughing as ive obviously took it as a personal rejection....I need to get out more lol "

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

No, it need not be a rejection, I had one meet who forgot to verify and he's been repeatedly trying to get me to meet again for months. Some people just aren't into them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of single men here are often ostracised for not having verifications. Yet when they ask for one it's an issue? How many more double standard obstacles do we need to jump through?

I wonder what the opinion would be if a woman asked this question?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"A lot of single men here are often ostracised for not having verifications. Yet when they ask for one it's an issue? How many more double standard obstacles do we need to jump through?

I wonder what the opinion would be if a woman asked this question?"

They'd just get lots of desperate men saying 'ah baby, you're so hot! Meet me and I'll verify you straight away!!' lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've verified people who haven't returned the veri, it's always typically socials. I think it's because I'm already verified, the people are always nice so I'm sure it's nothing personal.

Don't worry about what you can't change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of single men here are often ostracised for not having verifications. Yet when they ask for one it's an issue? How many more double standard obstacles do we need to jump through?

I wonder what the opinion would be if a woman asked this question?

They'd just get lots of desperate men saying 'ah baby, you're so hot! Meet me and I'll verify you straight away!!' lol"

Fancy a shag?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's what im going on about ....Good point E jay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you send a veri and they display it on their profile then it's bad form from them not to return the favour.

I suppose if they don't show it then the feeling might not have been mutual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have one veri, so I wouldn't worry about it. Most people can see beyond veri's and would still meet you. My first ever Fab meet, neither of us was verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will veri people unless I met them at a social event and didn't like them and didnt want my name on their profiile.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Some people dont bother with them. Did you ask for one? Being asked back is better than getting a veri on here.

Exactly. Why so stuck on veris. Chill. Relax. If all had a good time. ..then cool."

Because for some people veri's are important and they won't even entertain speaking to someone if they don't have one.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"A lot of single men here are often ostracised for not having verifications. Yet when they ask for one it's an issue? How many more double standard obstacles do we need to jump through?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also have had meets with no verifications..I wouldn't worry..maybe they haven't had time..either way at least you have a good time..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having had experience of being nagged and guilt tripped into verifying someone when I've not got round to doing there's yet I can see it from the couple's side. If someone asked me twice in 3 days and I was getting round to it I wouldn't move as fast to do it. Not great at being nagged to be honest!

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

We verify every new person we meet especially guys. I know it can be diffucult for singles and veris help. We don't always veri the friends we have met on here because it would get ridiculous verifying every week or two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris are not everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Veris are not everything"

That's true enough but when you read in the forums that people won't meet unverified single men then it becomes more so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Veris are not everything

That's true enough but when you read in the forums that people won't meet unverified single men then it becomes more so."

My point exactly thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God help us when veris become more important than the meet its self, sounds like a meet is an ego massage, forget veris and enjoy the event

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Seeing as single blokes have the hardest time on here and I for instance would not meet someone unverified, I feel your pain. Best thing is to get to some socials etc to make the connections for further play.

I too think its bad form to show veris but not actually veri the other person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They must have been ashamed as I am a lot older

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i doubt anyone who was ashamed to be associated with you would meet you, some people just don't care about verifications

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yahoo ...finally got the Veri...thanks for all the replies.

It was important to me as I am new here...Faith restored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good to hear! Sometimes it's worth being patient. Good things come to those who wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yahoo ...finally got the Veri...thanks for all the replies.

It was important to me as I am new here...Faith restored "

And when they read this and how you bitched about them not doing one they may resent doing one.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

You can stop moaning now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only another 198 to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all send out veris. I meet few that don't either, its just sex after all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only another 198 to go "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of single men here are often ostracised for not having verifications. Yet when they ask for one it's an issue? How many more double standard obstacles do we need to jump through?

I wonder what the opinion would be if a woman asked this question?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They must have been ashamed as I am a lot older

i doubt anyone who was ashamed to be associated with you would meet you, some people just don't care about verifications"

We agree with this

Once you're verified I can't really see the point in someone else telling us you are genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some like a little privacy. Not everyone wants their meets publicly displayed. Be greatful that they met you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder what the opinion would be if a woman asked this question?"

It would be all nice one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yahoo ...finally got the Veri...thanks for all the replies.

It was important to me as I am new here...Faith restored

And when they read this and how you bitched about them not doing one they may resent doing one. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They must have been ashamed as I am a lot older

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Because some like to keep it all to themselves and don't wish others to know here. I don't do them a lot even if my friends.

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By *om DawnCouple
over a year ago

Medway

What does the verification say - 'this blokes a bit needy and a god help you if you don't give him a verification - avoid!'

We try and be honest without offending people with ours - one couple begged us for a verification all we could say is we met them and they exist - instead of saying the poor girl is crapping herself and he's forcing her to do it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a woman who lived near me look up everyone I had meet saying she knew me . And I had not a clue who she was and only new as they told me at the time she was mailing them. Now I will not show a lot here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What does the verification say - 'this blokes a bit needy and a god help you if you don't give him a verification - avoid!'

We try and be honest without offending people with ours - one couple begged us for a verification all we could say is we met them and they exist - instead of saying the poor girl is crapping herself and he's forcing her to do it ! "

I appreciate all comments ...even where you have written the Veri for me....but in reality it was nothing like that.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"A lot of single men here are often ostracised for not having verifications. Yet when they ask for one it's an issue? How many more double standard obstacles do we need to jump through?

I wonder what the opinion would be if a woman asked this question?"

and when men have too many verifications it also sometimes becomes an issue for others, men can't seem to win what ever they do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A lot of single men here are often ostracised for not having verifications. Yet when they ask for one it's an issue? How many more double standard obstacles do we need to jump through?

I wonder what the opinion would be if a woman asked this question?

and when men have too many verifications it also sometimes becomes an issue for others, men can't seem to win what ever they do."

I Have the Veri and im Happy.

Its all very well for those who have veris but if you haven't got one butits important to those who require one that you have one.

Most people have missed the point that it was my first very with swap with a couple ....I wasn't complaining just cos I wanted just any very...I just wanted the first very....Comprendez ha phew.

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