Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
Back to forum list |
Back to The Lounge |
Jump to newest |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"A lot of Men and women believe that sexting is as harmful to a relationship as cheating, according to a new study looking at how people define infidelity. They was on about this on This Morning TV. I was thinking if I was just married found out other half doing this I would have been so upset and seen it as some sort of cheating in a way . " Yeah it's cheating. Trust issues I guess | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"A lot of Men and women believe that sexting is as harmful to a relationship as cheating, according to a new study looking at how people define infidelity. They was on about this on This Morning TV. I was thinking if I was just married found out other half doing this I would have been so upset and seen it as some sort of cheating in a way . " Definitely cheating. Being in a relationship involves two people.It's a partnership. If one is doing something without the other one knowing - they're being duplicitous. Sarah x | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Something I saw on twitter a little while ago which I agree with completely is: "Cheating isn't always kissing, touching or flirting. If you've got to delete text messages so your partner won't see them, you're already there."" | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Personally I see no harm so long as they don't meet, it's just text messaging, it wouldn't bother me if I had a partner and I found out he was texting someone else, it's just fantasy isn't it " Pretty much that - people look at porn, sort of the same thing. Like one of those webcam room thingies. If your partner or whatnot knows about it, yeah - probably fine. If not... Not cool. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Personally I see no harm so long as they don't meet, it's just text messaging, it wouldn't bother me if I had a partner and I found out he was texting someone else, it's just fantasy isn't it Pretty much that - people look at porn, sort of the same thing. Like one of those webcam room thingies. If your partner or whatnot knows about it, yeah - probably fine. If not... Not cool. " Porn? How does porn equate to sexting without a partner's knowledge lol | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Something I saw on twitter a little while ago which I agree with completely is: "Cheating isn't always kissing, touching or flirting. If you've got to delete text messages so your partner won't see them, you're already there."" THIS /\ | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Personally I see no harm so long as they don't meet, it's just text messaging, it wouldn't bother me if I had a partner and I found out he was texting someone else, it's just fantasy isn't it Pretty much that - people look at porn, sort of the same thing. Like one of those webcam room thingies. If your partner or whatnot knows about it, yeah - probably fine. If not... Not cool. " You don't think it's ok to watch porn without your partners knowledge? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Personally I see no harm so long as they don't meet, it's just text messaging, it wouldn't bother me if I had a partner and I found out he was texting someone else, it's just fantasy isn't it Pretty much that - people look at porn, sort of the same thing. Like one of those webcam room thingies. If your partner or whatnot knows about it, yeah - probably fine. If not... Not cool. You don't think it's ok to watch porn without your partners knowledge? " It's fine, but it's better if they KNOW you watch porn I found. I spoke to my girl about it and she said "Well, yeah because to a degree a girl could think you prefer porn over them / me". - But shes fine with it, and totally gets it. It's a discussion worth having to see how your other half feels I think. Some girls are bothered by it, but a lot aren't. ; ) | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I don't see sexting as cheating at all i think the only reason someone would get upset over this is because they confronted with the fact their partner now has to look else where for sexual thrills " or the fact they weren't open about being dissatisfied before moving on? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I don't see sexting as cheating at all i think the only reason someone would get upset over this is because they confronted with the fact their partner now has to look else where for sexual thrills or the fact they weren't open about being dissatisfied before moving on?" True but how many relationship truly have no secrets? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I don't see sexting as cheating at all i think the only reason someone would get upset over this is because they confronted with the fact their partner now has to look else where for sexual thrills or the fact they weren't open about being dissatisfied before moving on? True but how many relationship truly have no secrets?" I'm sure some do.This is about what's classed as a betrayal. You can only class something as a betrayal or cheating once you know about it. Sexting is fine. As long as it isn't kept a secret | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Something I saw on twitter a little while ago which I agree with completely is: "Cheating isn't always kissing, touching or flirting. If you've got to delete text messages so your partner won't see them, you're already there."" | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Something I saw on twitter a little while ago which I agree with completely is: "Cheating isn't always kissing, touching or flirting. If you've got to delete text messages so your partner won't see them, you're already there."" This for me. I would have no issues with my partner going through my phone as there is nothing on there I wouldnt want him to see. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"if they are being turned on by someone else id be hurt" The thing is, people are turned on in lots of different ways by different people. Different people bring different things. I've absolutely no issue with that. Love, trust and respect is something different. If you're in a relationship, do everything together, have boundaries and promise to abide by them, and promise to be open and honest if you've changed your mind about anything, then go against that by being secretive about something - it's a betrayal | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"if they are being turned on by someone else id be hurtThe thing is, people are turned on in lots of different ways by different people. Different people bring different things. I've absolutely no issue with that. Love, trust and respect is something different. If you're in a relationship, do everything together, have boundaries and promise to abide by them, and promise to be open and honest if you've changed your mind about anything, then go against that by being secretive about something - it's a betrayal" | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So most of you are saying its as good as sleeping with them" No,but it's a betrayal of trust. It's fine if it's known they are doing it and it's open for each other to see but if it's a secretive thing then that's wrong. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So most of you are saying its as good as sleeping with them No,but it's a betrayal of trust. It's fine if it's known they are doing it and it's open for each other to see but if it's a secretive thing then that's wrong. " That sums it up for me too. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Sexting is interacting sexually with another out of your relationship. Porn is not. In my opinion if it's something you haven't agreed is ok then it's not." | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So most of you are saying its as good as sleeping with them No,but it's a betrayal of trust. It's fine if it's known they are doing it and it's open for each other to see but if it's a secretive thing then that's wrong. " its all points on a spectrum for me. As partners in a relationship, you agree where things fit on that scale and also where you and your partner draw the line regarding actions and openness about those actions. Some operate a don't ask don't tell, some do first, talk later, some ask permission. There are as many spectrums as there are couples. Where tne problem lies is when the 2 people in a relationship are workingto different spectrums... My take on it is, as someone posted earlier, if it's something you have to hide from your partner, clearly, you're working on different spectrums...I'd see it as a shared intimacy that is a step too far...bizarrely, as some might see it, I'd rather the Monkey fucked someone than took them out, wined and dined them, that's too far along the intimacy line for me. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So most of you are saying its as good as sleeping with them No,but it's a betrayal of trust. It's fine if it's known they are doing it and it's open for each other to see but if it's a secretive thing then that's wrong. " This | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Personally I see no harm so long as they don't meet, it's just text messaging, it wouldn't bother me if I had a partner and I found out he was texting someone else, it's just fantasy isn't it " Sorry I've got to disagree....for starters, fantasy is the antecedent to behaviour....it's why most of us are on Fab....to act out our fantasies! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Personally I see no harm so long as they don't meet, it's just text messaging, it wouldn't bother me if I had a partner and I found out he was texting someone else, it's just fantasy isn't it Sorry I've got to disagree....for starters, fantasy is the antecedent to behaviour....it's why most of us are on Fab....to act out our fantasies! " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I don't see sexting as cheating at all i think the only reason someone would get upset over this is because they confronted with the fact their partner now has to look else where for sexual thrills " and that isn't a reason to get upset??! I'm single but if I had a girlfriend who was 'sexting' some other bloke I'd go through the roof! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Something I saw on twitter a little while ago which I agree with completely is: "Cheating isn't always kissing, touching or flirting. If you've got to delete text messages so your partner won't see them, you're already there."" 100% agree with this!! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I don't see sexting as cheating at all i think the only reason someone would get upset over this is because they confronted with the fact their partner now has to look else where for sexual thrills and that isn't a reason to get upset??! I'm single but if I had a girlfriend who was 'sexting' some other bloke I'd go through the roof!" then it just goes to show how we are all different because it wold not bother me at all | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Sexting is interacting sexually with another out of your relationship. Porn is not. In my opinion if it's something you haven't agreed is ok then it's not. " My ex wife hated porn never mind sexting. She felt it was like cheating. As one other post says, it left her thinking I'd rather be with those I was watching rather than her. Which definitely wasn't the case. And now I'm divorced. Lol. My mistake was thinking porn meant nothing. Not to her!!! If I'd been sexting, she'd have cut my balls off first, then divorced me. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I don't see sexting as cheating at all i think the only reason someone would get upset over this is because they confronted with the fact their partner now has to look else where for sexual thrills and that isn't a reason to get upset??! I'm single but if I had a girlfriend who was 'sexting' some other bloke I'd go through the roof! then it just goes to show how we are all different because it wold not bother me at all" I find that hard to believe but okay.. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I don't see sexting as cheating at all i think the only reason someone would get upset over this is because they confronted with the fact their partner now has to look else where for sexual thrills and that isn't a reason to get upset??! I'm single but if I had a girlfriend who was 'sexting' some other bloke I'd go through the roof!" some people are just plain greedy and cannot be faithful regardless of whether they are getting all the sex they could possibly have at home too | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I don't see sexting as cheating at all i think the only reason someone would get upset over this is because they confronted with the fact their partner now has to look else where for sexual thrills and that isn't a reason to get upset??! I'm single but if I had a girlfriend who was 'sexting' some other bloke I'd go through the roof! then it just goes to show how we are all different because it wold not bother me at all I find that hard to believe but okay.." Why? Do you think everyone is of the same mind set? I can assure you 100% if my partner was texting other women it would not bother me at all, I've never been the jealous type, to be honest I think that's why I have spent so long single because my lack of being bothers leaves men thinking I don't care, which I do I just can't be bothered falling out over things so I let they pass, to me texting another women wouldn't be worth falling out over, it's just a text | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"suppose it depends if theyre actually acting on it " now that's a different story, if I found out the guy I was with was meeting who they was sexting I wouldn't be so laid back about it | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"suppose it depends if theyre actually acting on it now that's a different story, if I found out the guy I was with was meeting who they was sexting I wouldn't be so laid back about it " I'm not trying to be picky believe me, just genuinely find your approach interesting. Can I ask if you have ever been cheated on? Obviously, I appreciate that you may not want to answer me x | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"suppose it depends if theyre actually acting on it now that's a different story, if I found out the guy I was with was meeting who they was sexting I wouldn't be so laid back about it I'm not trying to be picky believe me, just genuinely find your approach interesting. Can I ask if you have ever been cheated on? Obviously, I appreciate that you may not want to answer me x" Yes my husband left me for a woman we used to meet off here | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"suppose it depends if theyre actually acting on it now that's a different story, if I found out the guy I was with was meeting who they was sexting I wouldn't be so laid back about it I'm not trying to be picky believe me, just genuinely find your approach interesting. Can I ask if you have ever been cheated on? Obviously, I appreciate that you may not want to answer me x Yes my husband left me for a woman we used to meet off here" I'm sorry to hear that and am even more interested in your approach. I wish I could feel like you do. I still have major trust issues 10 years on from my ex and not sure I could ever overcome them and securing would be a huge issue for me x | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"If it is being hidden from the partner then yes I consider it cheating." | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I'm afraid this is making for rather uncomfortable reading. I never chat by phone or text with anyone, but I do have rather flirtatious friendships with some ladies on this site. I hope that they see our chats as friendly fun, and not me cheating, but obviously, I'm probably trying to put it in a sugar coated box, that way I can deal with it better. " Its what your partner thinks, not the person you are chatting with that counts. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I'm afraid this is making for rather uncomfortable reading. I never chat by phone or text with anyone, but I do have rather flirtatious friendships with some ladies on this site. I hope that they see our chats as friendly fun, and not me cheating, but obviously, I'm probably trying to put it in a sugar coated box, that way I can deal with it better. Its what your partner thinks, not the person you are chatting with that counts. " Regrettably that is very true, and the regret is that I find myself putting myself in this position. I suppose that everyone has their reasons for what they do, and not all of us seem to follow the right path. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"not sure but it is fucking boring " absolutely...mind numbing... | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Something I saw on twitter a little while ago which I agree with completely is: "Cheating isn't always kissing, touching or flirting. If you've got to delete text messages so your partner won't see them, you're already there." Agree... do it on here where both partners can see x 100% agree with this!!" | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"not sure but it is fucking boring " i agree, I don't get the fascination | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"A lot of Men and women believe that sexting is as harmful to a relationship as cheating, according to a new study looking at how people define infidelity. They was on about this on This Morning TV. I was thinking if I was just married found out other half doing this I would have been so upset and seen it as some sort of cheating in a way . Yeah it's cheating. Trust issues I guess" | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Something I saw on twitter a little while ago which I agree with completely is: "Cheating isn't always kissing, touching or flirting. If you've got to delete text messages so your partner won't see them, you're already there." 100% agree with this!!" And me | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Something I saw on twitter a little while ago which I agree with completely is: "Cheating isn't always kissing, touching or flirting. If you've got to delete text messages so your partner won't see them, you're already there." 100% agree with this!! And me" S x | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Post new Message to Thread |
back to top |