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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How long does it take to get over the heart break of a child leaving home?? My son left for uni a week ago and I am crying daily. I can't bare it.

I am so proud of him and know that it is the best thing for him, but my selfishness just wants him to come home. I haven't told him this of course and would never ask him to give up his dreams.

I just want to stop feeling so sad about it. I know he will be home at Christmas and then Easter but it doesn't seem to help

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

empty nest horrible isn't it it gets easier

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

You must be very proud of him and him, you.

let him soar......

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It's good to let them grow up and encourage them to be independent.

You'll get over it when he comes home and treats home like a fully serviced hotel and starts getting on your nerves.

I was talking to some friends going through exactly the same thing and ones that went through it last year.

It's a big change but you will get through it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

SW1A1AA

My son left home at 16, he told me 6 months in advance and it was a very difficult time but he didn't like living in a quiet little town. After he left it took another three months then I got two kittens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My children leaving home for uni didn't break my heart, it swelled with pride and love for my fledgling adults leaving the nest.

They are adults now with their own lives, one goes off to Australia in a few months to further his career. I can feel sad for me or be happy for them. As said previously, you take them as far as you can then let them fly and soar ...... they always come back to you anyway. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was sort of glad when my son was leaving home but I did cry when we helped him move out because I was so worried about him and because he was going to be living a long way from us.

it felt like a berevment.

anyway nothing bad happened to him so I need not of worried, and he has had to move back in with us now anyway.

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By *rnyashellcplCouple
over a year ago

Haydock

Mr Hrnyashellcpl, My daughter has just left for uni n iam gutted, she is my youngest n she has lived with me since she was 5, iam not embarrassed to say I sobbed like a baby but miss her like mad, don't know wen u get used to it

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Enjoy your freedom and enjoy having them back in the house at holidays.

My mum looked into the cost of hiring a JCB to dig a moat when I went to Uni

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be proud, he will go away, a boy,and come home a man

Her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think I have to accept it will take a little time. At the moment I can't even bring myself to talk to him on the phone it's too upsetting. It will get better I know. Thank you for all your support. I keep thinking people will tell me I am just being stupid and need to pull myself together.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

He might come back yet, I did 'temporily' 5 years ago

I hope you can come to terms with it soon and then you can enjoy seeing him spread his wings and live his life.

He flies with his own wings now.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

You will have to put up a strong front, he is the one away from you, his home, his long term friends and in a strange new world wondering if he will settle in, make new pals and deal with his studies. .

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"You will have to put up a strong front, he is the one away from you, his home, his long term friends and in a strange new world wondering if he will settle in, make new pals and deal with his studies. .

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Exactly. These first two terms are crucial to making a success of the transition and doing well at Uni. Everything has changed and home is the place of safety to run to if it gets too much.

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

I left home at 18 - I'm pretty sure it took me about 7 mins to get over it x

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