FabSwingers.com forum: Who knows you're on a swingers site?

By *nvictus OP Man
over a year ago

Beeston

Obviously we are all fairly certain you are, but who knows in the vanilla world?

For me it's my ex-wife - she's my best mate and we tell each other all sorts of stuff

My last 2 girlfriends also knew something about it, but never wanted to know details (I always hide my profile when I'm in a relationship, before you ask).

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nobody. Not one single person.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

As far as we know....nobody!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told three of my best friends on a night out when we were all d*unk - but they all think I went to a club once or twice then stopped! They were avidly curious!! Xx

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

My 2 best mates both know, ones catholic but she's very open minded. My aunt knows, I'm very close to her and she's a total hippy in her outlook. I knew I'd be ok telling those 3. Wouldn't trust my sister as we're always falling out plus she's very conservative. She's only ever slept with people she's had a long term relationship with. Last night out she revealed she's never had a one night stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister knows as does 3 close friends in work....and of course my man, as this is how I met him!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

My daughter, two or three friends, and several workmates (cos they're on here too!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend who I also work with aswell as 2 other girls I work with all know im on here.. they think it's great as I'm single and not harming anyone and love to hear my exploits haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best girlfriend, she's the one I tell if I'm having a 121 ect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my nilla friends. All my work colleagues (including management). All my previous work mates up to directors. My sister. Some of my fab friends families. In fact I haven't hidden it from anyone. Why should I be ashamed of my chosen way of life! It's legal and harmless.

In previous job I introduced two customers to fab. One was for a while a FB. A couple of work colleagues joined fab (both ladies)

It is part of my life, part of my personality, part of me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Most of my nilla friends. All my work colleagues (including management). All my previous work mates up to directors. My sister. Some of my fab friends families. In fact I haven't hidden it from anyone. Why should I be ashamed of my chosen way of life! It's legal and harmless.

In previous job I introduced two customers to fab. One was for a while a FB. A couple of work colleagues joined fab (both ladies)

It is part of my life, part of my personality, part of me."

Its not a case of being ashamed, none of our friends or family know anything about our sex life. I guess they assume we have sex but they don't need the details really.

I do think that single people are wise to have at least one friend who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my friends knows and she's fascinated by it. Wasn't very surprised either, wonder why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure, quite a few of our friends know that we lead an unconventional lifestyle, none know the specifics so doubt anyone knows what sites we use.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

One of my sister knows as she was my safety person. I told a few select friends....then some more found out after a friend borrowed my phone and I hadn't logged out of fab

No dramas from it though

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By *cd and scruffCouple
over a year ago

Rochester

my partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not on a swinger's site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friend, she browses now and then

Her

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Those persons who need to.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just me! I know .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend who I told whilst d*unk, her reaction surprised me in a good way so I kinda wished I just told her sooner!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm not on a swinger's site.

Do you know I could have sworn you were. My mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Obviously we are all fairly certain you are, but who knows in the vanilla world?

For me it's my ex-wife - she's my best mate and we tell each other all sorts of stuff

My last 2 girlfriends also knew something about it, but never wanted to know details (I always hide my profile when I'm in a relationship, before you ask)."

I love it so who are you trying to get the message across to?

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By *ittykate84Woman
over a year ago

CHESTER

Nobody I am extremely private I dont really share much with anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best friend who I told whilst d*unk, her reaction surprised me in a good way so I kinda wished I just told her sooner!"

Has she joined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best friend who I told whilst d*unk, her reaction surprised me in a good way so I kinda wished I just told her sooner!

Has she joined

No although she wants to try a club with me! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best friend who I told whilst d*unk, her reaction surprised me in a good way so I kinda wished I just told her sooner!

Has she joined

No although she wants to try a club with me! Lol"

Lol let me know when

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not on a swinger's site.

Do you know I could have sworn you were. My mistake

It was just someone that looked like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not on a swinger's site.

Do you know I could have sworn you were. My mistake

It was just someone that looked like me.

Hmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not told anyone although considered telling my best pal.

Paul has told his best friend

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I have a few close friends who know but most think I am on a chat/dating site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 12 people know. 6 are workmates. my boss was really sweet yesterday before I left work, as id been asked to go out one day this week, she called me back before I left, I thought it was work-related but she said to me to be careful when I meet as she worries about me.

I was really touched as shes a tough little welsh woman, but she was genuinely meaning it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend knows, as when i was meeting she was my safety net when i went on a meet, in case i needed an "emergency" phone call for escape, or just simply for if anything went wrong in a bad way tgeres was someone to tell the police my last whereabouts, you never know what to expect of anyone you hardly know in the real world or online

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Most people know we do due to newspapers, our jobs etc but everyone is fine about it and never disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody, as far as I know... That's probably a fair few people less than actually do know

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

nobody knows ,never told my sister even in my previous life ,as not sure she would understand it all ,she has only ever been with her hubby,

however my ex told his brother we even played with him once (my ex idea not mine) and a mate he worked with and yep you,ve guessed it ex wanted to arrange a meet with him

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Nobody. Not one single person."

Ditto!

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By *orkmalewithPAMan
over a year ago

York

Just a coupe of people in Town that work near me that are on here as well (York is a small place!) We just say hi in passing and thats it as we are all looking for different things... apart from that just one friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have told a few friends that i have been in threesomes with couples. and that some i met off the internet. i tell them other sites, like do my wife .com or pof!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A handful of close friends and my ex (who I'm still close to and met on a similar site)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends and some close work collegues. I dont hide it but I dont shout about it either

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my therapist,my social worker the police and the guard outside my cell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only the paparazzi and Jeremy Kyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only the paparazzi and Jeremy Kyle "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just about everyone that is close to me does.. I don't shout it from the roof tops but i am not embarrassed about being on here or what i do... And i like to share my experiences with them ( without divulging anyone else's identity of course ) so my mum, my kids, friends and work colleagues... I have refrained from telling the post man and my hair dresser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The two main girls i work with know im on hear, one thinks its dreadful and cant believe i do this and the other, when i was on my own always made me tell her if i was meeting anyone and wanted all the details

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

My best friend, and my (fairly recent) ex. They are my back up for meets.

I don't see the need for anyone else to know. I am doing them no harm... and I do not discuss my bank balance, toilet habits, my voting preference or my sex life - some things are meant to remain private.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"Only the paparazzi and Jeremy Kyle "

Paparazzi are bad enough but not Jeremy Kyle lol...thought he only handled asbo's.

We did get invited on Trisha and Kilroy Silk but polity said no.

When we ended up in the newspapers yonks ago we thought thats our life ended yet surprisingly it worked the other way.

Vanilla people are just as fascinated about naughty goings on as we (swingers) are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just about everyone that is close to me does.. I don't shout it from the roof tops but i am not embarrassed about being on here or what i do... And i like to share my experiences with them ( without divulging anyone else's identity of course ) so my mum, my kids, friends and work colleagues... I have refrained from telling the post man and my hair dresser

Kids?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

The same people that know about the rest of my sex life...none. It would be no bigger if it came out as they know what I'm like but I feel no need to broadcast it.

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By *smCouple
over a year ago

Liskeard

One of daughters knows, she's ok with it, other daughter doesn't have the same mindset. My best friend, her hubby, two lovely guy friends know, we spent a lovely d*unk evening comparing fab to grinder lol.

My brother in law knows, has know for ages as late hubby wanted to make sure I had a trusted friend to ask as my phone safety net. And he is now on the site himself . Lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My neighbour thinks its hilarious. A few other close friends

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"My neighbour thinks its hilarious. A few other close friends"

Always nice having good neighbours lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend and my Sister. Both for safety reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids?

long story.. it was my bitter ex that told my mum and my kids

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.

May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of very close friends and my ex who I am great mates with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only my husband who i met via another swingers site and a guy at work also knows cus i met him on another swinging site too lol

Other than that its only people i have met who know i am a swinger

im not ashamed about it thou but i dont tell family friends and work mates other stuff about my life either !

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.

May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!!

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I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some friends and a supportive neighbor that I've known for years - I've kept things a bit vague with family as I don't fancy sharing my meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.

May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!!

I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour"

i didn't assume or cross reference it to anyone.. I merely said i wasn't ashamed..just because you don't divulge your private life to others that's your business but i did not say you were ashamed because you don't... Nor do i discuss it because i want an accolade.. Im obviously generally more open and can't keep my mouth shut as i know all my friends bowel habits as well as i know my own.. We must talk some shit!!

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By *issyyourbadWoman
over a year ago

Dorset

Everyone

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.

May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!!

I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour

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think you've quoted the wrong post, I was agreeing with mistress about not needing to tell everyone. I never quoted or mentioned you so not sure why you quoted me unless it was a mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Obviously we are all fairly certain you are, but who knows in the vanilla world?

For me it's my ex-wife - she's my best mate and we tell each other all sorts of stuff

My last 2 girlfriends also knew something about it, but never wanted to know details (I always hide my profile when I'm in a relationship, before you ask)."

A good friend who, although she doesn't understand it, wants to know that I'm as safe as possible when meeting new people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two of my friends and an ex work colleagues (he was on here too) know.....I don't discuss it with everyone but if anyone asked me I'd be honest about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.

May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!!

If anyone asked I'd deny it anyway. No-one else's business.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.

May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!!

I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour

I didn't say you did!

Several people have said they weren't ashamed as if by not sharing the personal minutiae of one's life you must be ashamed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to remind myself!

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

Nobody at all. One of the reasons I NEVER play near home

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich

I've told a few friends. Some have taken it well and some haven't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.

May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!!

I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour

I didn't say you did!

Several people have said they weren't ashamed as if by not sharing the personal minutiae of one's life you must be ashamed."

sorry my mistake.. I thought because you had posted after my comment it was directed at me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.

May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!!

I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour

think you've quoted the wrong post, I was agreeing with mistress about not needing to tell everyone. I never quoted or mentioned you so not sure why you quoted me unless it was a mistake"

it was a mistake sorry, i thought the post was directed at me so i was just replying saying i don't talk about it with my friends because i want a medal.. Im just a chatterbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of our friends know and also my son. What is the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody did till today then some not so discrete moron decided to brag to a customer (taxi driver). Said customer happens to be 1 of our best mates who is that vanilla we are convinced she's still a virgin and she definitely had no idea we were into this. Moron described us that well to her that the second she got out she called us and told us all about our night last night I'm pretty sure she knew more about last night than we ddo!!!!

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

A few close friends know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

People I have met through fabs...

I'm quite a private person anyway.

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By *nvictus OP Man
over a year ago

Beeston

Geesh... who would have thought it but I'm getting hate mail for this thread

There are some serious retreads on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Geesh... who would have thought it but I'm getting hate mail for this thread

There are some serious retreads on this site

Hate mail?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody, it's my own dirty little secret

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.

May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!!

I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour

think you've quoted the wrong post, I was agreeing with mistress about not needing to tell everyone. I never quoted or mentioned you so not sure why you quoted me unless it was a mistake

it was a mistake sorry, i thought the post was directed at me so i was just replying saying i don't talk about it with my friends because i want a medal.. Im just a chatterbox

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that's OK don't worry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People I have met through fabs...

I'm quite a private person anyway. "

Snap ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one. I have one friend who has a vague idea what I get up (he's my safety buddy) but not specifics.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Most of my mates (they've known me forever and know what a slapper I've always been)...my male office mate (it came up in convo) and a couple of workmates I used to travel in with...my parents know I "date" guys I meet on t'interweb (one meet in my local walked in as I was chatting to my Dad and Stepmum!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody. I've never told anyone friend or family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Geesh... who would have thought it but I'm getting hate mail for this thread

There are some serious retreads on this site

I seriously doubt people are giving you hate mail over a thread like this I would lay off the pills if they are making you feel that way.

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By *amesGBMan
over a year ago

Cyprus

My neighbours - they are the ones who referred me to this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few guys I work with who have a laugh about it from time to time

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By *supermenCouple (MM)
over a year ago

North London

Your mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few friends, my daughter and mother have an inkling, if they asked, I would tell them, but no need to metion anything til they do actually ask me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your mum

Oi!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non of our vanilla friends know that's we are on here or that we are swingers!

Don't see the need to tell others our business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex, my eldest, few friends and my gum clinic

its up to the individual who they tell or if want to keep it private

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By *eyondCuriousWoman
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Pretty much everyone other than family...i don't mind who knows x

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