FabSwingers.com forum: dont know what to do

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last night I got a.message apparently from someone I work with.

They knew what my mobile ended in, hardly anyone on here has it..

Said they would tell my bosses.I was on here

And sort of tried to blackmail.into having sex with them while at work so they wouldn't tell.

Was brave and told them no.

Unsure of what to do..

Should I.report them?

Had this before on another profile when they claimed.to be a member of family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not quite sure how they have worked out it is you, unless you used to have public photos. If the messages were via here I would report and block them. As for him black mailing you, so pleased you stood up to him.

Not sure what else to suggest Hun. Just hope he drops off the face of the earth x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont give in to blackmail. If they messahed you on here then they too have as much to lose as you. Ignore them.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Keep the messages and remind him that this is your private life, if he persists threaten to go the police. You don't have to carry it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont back down your not do anything wrong, if it carrys on go to the police. Ppl can work out who u are we have had it happen to us but it they didnt threaten us, thank god. Just be really careful in the future. Hope it works out ok in the end chick x

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

"Keep the messages and remind him that this is your private life, if he persists threaten to go the police. You don't have to carry it out."

Agreed!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you know who it is and feel up to it then report this person to your boss yourself. Asking you to have sex at work (using threats) will be looked down on by management.

Horrible situation, I would personally expose this creep and not feel ashamed of my promiscuity, at least mine is consenting his/hers is tantamount to rape.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"If you know who it is and feel up to it then report this person to your boss yourself. Asking you to have sex at work (using threats) will be looked down on by management.

Horrible situation, I would personally expose this creep and not feel ashamed of my promiscuity, at least mine is consenting his/hers is tantamount to rape."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep all the messages

Tell him you're taking them to the police

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak to your HR department.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day what can this person really do seeing as they are on here also?, I get that it is not the nicest thing to happen to someone but you have nothing to be ashamed of stand by your guns they will back off.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

As many others have said, report to HR at work, blackmail is a nasty thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on your job I suppose - it shouldn't matter what you do in your private life as long as its not illegal . If you have a good relationship with your boss I'd tell him/her I wouldn't be bothered if anyone in my staff admitted to this or much else unless it affected their work performance . Be strong - they're weak if they have to resort to this . You'll come out on top

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Police love a blackmail case. They should be very supportive if it comes down to it

It also ticks a few boxes on their target list (not that that should make any difference)

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

as others have said... if you have a good relationship with your boss, I would tell them... and I would keep all the messages..... as like others have said, the police take a very dim view to blackmail

you could look at it like this... if the person really carried out that threat.. the first thing i'd ask as a boss would be ".... and you know this because?" so if they looked dimley on your activities (which they wont because it is your private life) he is going to look a lot worse for sending you that message.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But if he tells your bosses about you being here then he'll have to say he's on here, therefore outing himself.

People are dumb and stupid at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't even speak to my boss id go straight to the police

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone.. I won't be telling my boss even if I had a good relationship with them. One of.my closest friends found out I was on here and hasn't seen.or.spoke to me since. Yes I know it's my.private life some.people just judge.. I'm in work today so I hope it's runs smoothly like normal.

I didn't keep.messages I have some saved but being a site supporter only saves so.many. they haven't sent me any more.message since last night when they signed off with see you soon. Just scary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admin will have a record of all the messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not quite sure how they have worked out it is you, unless you used to have public photos. If the messages were via here I would report and block them. As for him black mailing you, so pleased you stood up to him.

Not sure what else to suggest Hun. Just hope he drops off the face of the earth x"

I had some.public pics. But put everything to.private. he had apparently taken screen shots then said he hadn't

hadnt. Just hope he hasn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Admin will have a record of all the messages"

John will they.. Will bare that in mind if any more happens. Thanks hun

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

If you no longer have room to save messages you could always take a screenshot of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How dumb is he?? Surely if he exposed you to your boss then would he not be exposing himself? ?? If he let people know he saw your profile then he's letting them know he's got his own profile. Well done for not letting him get to you

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I had some.public pics. But put everything to.private. he had apparently taken screen shots then said he hadn't

hadnt. Just hope he hasn't."

to see any pics on the site you have to sign up to be a member.... so he can't claim to have just come across your profile under the guise of "research"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main thing is to try not to let it get to you.

Big hug on its way to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How dumb is he?? Surely if he exposed you to your boss then would he not be exposing himself? ?? If he let people know he saw your profile then he's letting them know he's got his own profile. Well done for not letting him get to you"

Well he's got to me a little bit. Just trying to rise above it. Hope nothing. Comes. Of it

Last thing I want is to be talk.of the store I work.in

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had some.public pics. But put everything to.private. he had apparently taken screen shots then said he hadn't

hadnt. Just hope he hasn't.

to see any pics on the site you have to sign up to be a member.... so he can't claim to have just come across your profile under the guise of "research""

Aye this is true

But how do I.know he won't print of and leave for.my manager.. there fore he's not admitting he's on here. My mind was in.overdrive last night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somebody who apparently works with me has threatened to tell everyone I'm on this site just because I knocked him back after he was very rude to me. I feel your anxiety. I am going to ignore them and ride it out. You must do whatever you feel most comfortable with but remember that bullies usually get what they deserve xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Keep the messages and remind him that this is your private life, if he persists threaten to go the police. You don't have to carry it out.

Agreed!!!! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Somebody who apparently works with me has threatened to tell everyone I'm on this site just because I knocked him back after he was very rude to me. I feel your anxiety. I am going to ignore them and ride it out. You must do whatever you feel most comfortable with but remember that bullies usually get what they deserve xxx"

Thanks hun. Just not a nice.feeling

I just.Hope.nothing comes of it. Making me.feel sick at thought of it. Stomach is in knots

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Do you know exactly who this person is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had some.public pics. But put everything to.private. he had apparently taken screen shots then said he hadn't

hadnt. Just hope he hasn't.

to see any pics on the site you have to sign up to be a member.... so he can't claim to have just come across your profile under the guise of "research"

Aye this is true

But how do I.know he won't print of and leave for.my manager.. there fore he's not admitting he's on here. My mind was in.overdrive last night"

Take screen shots of his profile, get as much info as you can on him. Unfortunately the cowardly actions of someone like him. He could easily print off any profile and say it was you. He has as much to lose as you have, perhaps more so. I would trust and employ a swinger over a blackmailer. Sndcas it has bern said, he could end up outing himself. Be strong xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had some.public pics. But put everything to.private. he had apparently taken screen shots then said he hadn't

hadnt. Just hope he hasn't.

to see any pics on the site you have to sign up to be a member.... so he can't claim to have just come across your profile under the guise of "research"

Aye this is true

But how do I.know he won't print of and leave for.my manager.. there fore he's not admitting he's on here. My mind was in.overdrive last night

Sorry for poor spelling. Hard to type through red mist..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you know exactly who this person is? "

No I.don't.. they just messaged me something that could have given a piece of their id away.. they read my reply and nothing..

But I don't know how accurate their profile is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had some.public pics. But put everything to.private. he had apparently taken screen shots then said he hadn't

hadnt. Just hope he hasn't.

to see any pics on the site you have to sign up to be a member.... so he can't claim to have just come across your profile under the guise of "research"

Aye this is true

But how do I.know he won't print of and leave for.my manager.. there fore he's not admitting he's on here. My mind was in.overdrive last night

Nothing on their.profile really. A few words and no pics everything is private

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I hope that you have remembered to report their profile to Admin?

Admin will no doubt be able to retrieve deleted messages if needed for evidence of blackmail.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Plausible deniability.

It's easy if your profile doesn't identify you via text or pics.

Simple.

And as others have said - he'd be outing himself at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell work that he's Photoshop'd the pages/screenshots and that he's blackmailing you.

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By *ifornowCouple
over a year ago

East Lincs

It would be nice to see admin adding something to this thread so we can see their take on it.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i am really tempted to say if you really trust your boss... honeytrap him.... but if he is reading this... that wont work...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"i am really tempted to say if you really trust your boss... honeytrap him.... but if he is reading this... that wont work..."

actually say that.... if he is reading the thread... the amount of good advice you have been given (i.e take it to the police) should scare him shitless anyway into not taking it any further...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to the police,the snidey lowlife deserves it

Stop worrying and wondering,just take action

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Report the profile to Admin, they will deal with it if someone is making threats on the site.

If you decide to go to the Police and they wish to take it further then there is a process for the Police to request information from Admin and Admin would of course fully cooperate. Its not in the sites interest to have people making threats.

People who do this are usually just trying to provoke a reaction and upset people - dont respond to any further messages from them, block them and let Admin deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your input. I told the shady low life that it would take it to the police and since then I haven't heard a peep. Was thanks to everyone that I was able to take action and stand up to this person.

After some of the things they said today it didn't add up I reckon I have had them blocked and they used to speak to me and are trying to get me back.

Either way it work till I had words of encouragement from you lot!! Thanks

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Screen shot everything about them on here in case they delete their profile. Then tell them to get stuffed. If they try to blackmail you again let them know you have evidence of their membership and that should you end up with work diffulties because of it, then you'll make it all public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad to here that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or hear even lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No Profile, No pics

Was this man Sherlock Holmes ?

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No Profile, No pics

Was this man Sherlock Holmes ?

Gimp

I deleted my profile contents yesterday when I was angry that someone thought they could blackmail me and put all my pics to private only as I thought if he makes a new profile uses fake pics he could still see my pics. So hid them all. So no wasn't Sherlock lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Screen shot everything about them on here in case they delete their profile. Then tell them to get stuffed. If they try to blackmail you again let them know you have evidence of their membership and that should you end up with work diffulties because of it, then you'll make it all public. "

Yes will do that once I've put my tea in oven and then email it to myself so it's not on my phone incase I happen to show pics to anyone or upload stuff to Facebook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No Profile, No pics

Was this man Sherlock Holmes ?

Gimp

Point taken, I shall slap my wrist

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad it seems sorted out.

You could always think about deleting your profile and starting again, not saying you should but it's another option. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I did that last time when apparently a cousin found me on here.. And then a friend of a friend told a friend I was on here. I should have left them. But I like chatting and meeting new people. Living on mi own blows sometimes when you just want to chat to someone.

I'm just gonna ride it out and see how it goes next few weeks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No Profile, No pics

Was this man Sherlock Holmes ?

Gimp

Point taken, I shall slap my wrist

Gimp"

Was a fair questions as I don't have anything on my profile. But just wanted to hide everything after last night

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