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do you over think things?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Or focus on the wrong thing.... I've got thr worst habit of doing both these... I can also get fixated on one little detail and can get like

a dog with a bone...

If you do... How do you stop yourself?

Cali x

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By *lligator3Man
over a year ago

Dundee

Gawd....how long have you got for me to answer that.......

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Wish I knew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

Best way is not to start.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Gawd....how long have you got for me to answer that.......

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Well I'm off to bed... So please have your 5000 word reply ready for my awakening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, though i do catch myself from time to time.

Try being present if you over think a lot!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No, I used to but it can ruin good situations, relationships, events ect. Mostly I just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, I used to but it can ruin good situations, relationships, events ect. Mostly I just go with the flow"

I analyze everything and it's a proper pain in the backside.... I need to learn to just stop thinking so much... As you say it can ruin things. X

So how did you get over doing it...? did you do it for a reason ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"No, I used to but it can ruin good situations, relationships, events ect. Mostly I just go with the flow

I analyze everything and it's a proper pain in the backside.... I need to learn to just stop thinking so much... As you say it can ruin things. X

So how did you get over doing it...? did you do it for a reason ?"
CBT helped me, I used over analize everything, what if, what can go wrong ect it was ruining my day to day life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let me think about this. I'll let you know

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By *lligator3Man
over a year ago

Dundee

People are always telling me I overthink things and am paranoid....but that's just what I'd expect from them as they've always had it in for me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are always telling me I overthink things and am paranoid....but that's just what I'd expect from them as they've always had it in for me..."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, I used to but it can ruin good situations, relationships, events ect. Mostly I just go with the flow

I analyze everything and it's a proper pain in the backside.... I need to learn to just stop thinking so much... As you say it can ruin things. X

So how did you get over doing it...? did you do it for a reason ?CBT helped me, I used over analize everything, what if, what can go wrong ect it was ruining my day to day life"

That's exactly what I keep doing at the moment ... It's driving me nuts.... Think it's not great for my nearest and dearest either. I may try some cbt on myself... Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am doing It right now

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By *layfull pairingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

It helps if your a bit thick...like me...i never think bout anything much at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just said to my friend tonight,as a nation we tend to over-analyse. I don't do it now,it gives me a headache

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prozac does the job

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Not anymore, in my 20s and 30s I used to, but now I can't be arsed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do - for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it absolutely every god damn day over something....it's pretty annoying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I over analysed once, never again.

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By *mmie2014Man
over a year ago

London


"No, I used to but it can ruin good situations, relationships, events ect. Mostly I just go with the flow

I analyze everything and it's a proper pain in the backside.... I need to learn to just stop thinking so much... As you say it can ruin things. X

So how did you get over doing it...? did you do it for a reason ?"

I over analyse most things, but accept that as just part of my nature. Unfortunately, makes me less of a do-er!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Pops in, makes some notes, vanishes into the ether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or focus on the wrong thing.... I've got thr worst habit of doing both these... I can also get fixated on one little detail and can get like

a dog with a bone...

If you do... How do you stop yourself?

Cali x"

all the time

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

Would have posted sooner , but had to think it through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yez i certainly do overthink things and i also wont back down if i am right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any action right or wrong is better than inaction. If its wrong and you survive,

try something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still thinking about this one....

Yup done it today and ruined a fledgling relationship.

Also managed to scare myself shitless and depress myself by overthinking and googling when I got my results from the hospital. Need a stand by switch on my brain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it and it drives me nuts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do and things stick in my head so when I'm having a bad day they all jumble up ,there's things over time that have dented my confidence I,ve dragged myself up again ....but they are always there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Beatles had it right when they wrote "Let it be"

Thinking about the effect something is having on you or you on that something... just let it "be" what it is.

'Good' or 'bad' is just a label we put on things... let it be.

Simple.

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