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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

almost and still no meets, that has been how long since i last saw a naked woman and i am so horny and ready to meet anyone but no one wants to know, but i want to meet and know new people, please if you can help me in this predicament then by all means message me Jxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"almost and still no meets, that has been how long since i last saw a naked woman and i am so horny and ready to meet anyone but no one wants to know, but i want to meet and know new people, please if you can help me in this predicament then by all means message me Jxxx"

Nothing wrong with your profile.....But it says you have met a couple ???

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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

yes i did meet a couple last year since then i havent met anyone and i have tried very hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes i did meet a couple last year since then i havent met anyone and i have tried very hard"

Then you must be doing something wrong,when you message people..to turn them of meeting....

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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

i dont message anymore, i wink instead to show my interest, as my messages were getting me nowhere but blocked status instead so yes i must be doing something wrong but i have no idea what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont message anymore, i wink instead to show my interest, as my messages were getting me nowhere but blocked status instead so yes i must be doing something wrong but i have no idea what"

dont wink..make an effort and send a message..

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I would suggest you delete and start again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Begging for a meet on forums isn't going to help I am guessing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this is a Swingers site but depending on how needy you are then there are always escort sites if you're desperate for sex.

I know that's a lot more clinical and of course costly, but at least you know exactly what you'll get?

Anyway, good luck. I hope your luck changes soon but I doubt if winks alone will do the trick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"almost and still no meets, that has been how long since i last saw a naked woman and i am so horny and ready to meet anyone but no one wants to know, but i want to meet and know new people, please if you can help me in this predicament then by all means message me Jxxx"

I've had a brief scan through your profile and noticed a couple of things that would put us off meeting you: You can rarely accommodate (we would assume you aren't single) The fact you are open to bareback is also a MASSIVE red flag to us....and lastly you say you can't really travel because you're skint!!

And FYI....Too many torso pics that are all pretty much the same!!

Hope this helps. Juicy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"almost and still no meets, that has been how long since i last saw a naked woman and i am so horny and ready to meet anyone but no one wants to know, but i want to meet and know new people, please if you can help me in this predicament then by all means message me Jxxx

I've had a brief scan through your profile and noticed a couple of things that would put us off meeting you: You can rarely accommodate (we would assume you aren't single) The fact you are open to bareback is also a MASSIVE red flag to us....and lastly you say you can't really travel because you're skint!!

And FYI....Too many torso pics that are all pretty much the same!!

Hope this helps. Juicy "

Why would someone's financial situation put you off?

...however, in terms of not being able to accommodate and not being able to travel, it does limit you severely OP to very local meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"....and lastly you say you can't really travel because you're skint!!

Why would someone's financial situation put you off?"

Someones financial situation is irrelevant....my point was he can't accomm or travel??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you are just sending winks (which many people ignore) and you complain that you aren't getting any meets. For the amount of effort that you are putting in I'd say you are getting what you deserve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"almost and still no meets, that has been how long since i last saw a naked woman and i am so horny and ready to meet anyone but no one wants to know, but i want to meet and know new people, please if you can help me in this predicament then by all means message me Jxxx"

That's a bit desperate, swinging is the only sex you get.

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

Op you can rarely accommodate and currently can't travel........how do you expect to get a meet? What are you expecting, a teenage style fumble in the local park?

This alone will put the majority of people off......the bareback thing will take care of the rest

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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

i actually forgot about those things to be honest as when i put that bit in there about the no money bit i was on a suspension from the jobcentre for actually looking for work i can travel now and i will endeavor to change my profile. i will also take down the bareback thing if that offends people too much aswell

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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

i have updated a few bits of my profile now. and when i done those bits last time i was kind of in a dark place in my mind. what kinds of pics would you suggest i make to change the incongruousness of my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try having a look at what "socials" are nearest to you. A good way of meeting people

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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

i have noticed they (the socials) are quite distant from me and with me not knowing how to drive (and i never wanted to) it does pose a quandary to me. also just for the record i dont do escorts, it goes against my honor to pay for it.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"i actually forgot about those things to be honest as when i put that bit in there about the no money bit i was on a suspension from the jobcentre for actually looking for work i can travel now and i will endeavor to change my profile. i will also take down the bareback thing if that offends people too much aswell"

It offends me more you've removed you bareback. Leaving it in shows you are honest in what you want and allows others to make a judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another look at me, begging post. Put some effort in like other people do who get meets. Few things. Profile pics are a bit dark. Skint and can't accommodate often! so you want people to come pick you up take you to theirs have sex then drop you off again. Really! You also mention you did bareback! Well that's finished your chances for loads of people. And you also mention your banned from job centre for looking for a job? Also asking what pics to put on.

Your profile needs to sell you and what you could bring to someone and (harsh as it might sound) yours makes you sound a bit like an unemployed guy who wants to be picked up fucked then dropped off and who has unprotected sex.

Now if you read your own profile would you be arranging a meet?

Sorry if you think it's a big dig at you but it must be about the nine millionth thread about this look at my profile and tell me what's wrong. If you really need to ask then you must already know the answer.

Loads of single guys on here get meets and it's because they have decent profiles and put some leg work into selling themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd delete the face pic..and do a better one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So surely you can explore other avenues to get a shag. Like a night out or going down the pub.

Don't just rely on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i actually forgot about those things to be honest as when i put that bit in there about the no money bit i was on a suspension from the jobcentre for actually looking for work i can travel now and i will endeavor to change my profile. i will also take down the bareback thing if that offends people too much aswell

It offends me more you've removed you bareback. Leaving it in shows you are honest in what you want and allows others to make a judgement. "

THIS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has all been said before!

Honesty, selling yourself, putting effort into messages, not relying on winks.

One other observation is that elements of your profile do come across as "I will be whatever you want me to be".

Be you!

If you play bareback, be honest about it. Some people only play bareback. (No judgement implied, just an observation).

We all have dry spells, send every message as an opportunity to chat with a new friend, if play happens it is an added bonus.

I also appreciate that some members will only communicate if they intend to meet, whilst others love to chat and if all goes well a meet may follow.

Finally, try the Marmite approved Friday Look At Me Thread. Satisfaction Guaranteed - That's the Marmite Promise*

*The Marmite Promise has no legal standing. Promises of untold success are wildly exaggerated.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Personally I think it's also down to the desperate for sex threads that I seem to see fairly often from you. A desperate guy is a huge turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear! My advice would be to increase the positivity and ditch the desperation. Maybe use the forum to engage in a variety of topics and not simply use every post as an opportunity to bemoan your lack of meets.

Also, the very dark pics could go...they're not discernable.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Use of the net is better to supplement real world stuff. If swinging was just. Online for the group of people who find it hardest then it's deciding to climb Everest without rope.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Have a look at Obifox's post on the 'Improve Fab' thread.

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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft


"Another look at me, begging post. Put some effort in like other people do who get meets. Few things. Profile pics are a bit dark. Skint and can't accommodate often! so you want people to come pick you up take you to theirs have sex then drop you off again. Really! You also mention you did bareback! Well that's finished your chances for loads of people. And you also mention your banned from job centre for looking for a job? Also asking what pics to put on.

Your profile needs to sell you and what you could bring to someone and (harsh as it might sound) yours makes you sound a bit like an unemployed guy who wants to be picked up fucked then dropped off and who has unprotected sex.

Now if you read your own profile would you be arranging a meet?

Sorry if you think it's a big dig at you but it must be about the nine millionth thread about this look at my profile and tell me what's wrong. If you really need to ask then you must already know the answer.

Loads of single guys on here get meets and it's because they have decent profiles and put some leg work into selling themselves.

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as ive said in my updated profile, no longer skint, i dont mind bareback but i will always place safe with my abundance of unused condoms that i have on me and at home. i would like to clarify that i definitely WOULD NOT ask anybody to come and pick me up, fuck then drop me off, that is rude and i would definitely not expect that from anyone, thats their call not mine. i was just saying that its been almost 1 year since i last saw and felt any flesh except for my own. regarding pics i dont really know what to do with them, i thought they were okay but it seems that you nice people are very unsure of them thats why i asked for your advice and im not great at taking them and currently i have got long hair which is a bit rowdy at the minute and a beautiful goatee (in my eyes) that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol. Now you sound like shaggy from scooby doo. If you don't update pics and profile you won't get meets. Proof is in the pudding. You are not getting meets at the moment and people can only go of YOUR profile.

So if it's not working then its about as much use as using a fork to eat soup.

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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

i will update my pics, im just unsure what to take to be honest, profile writing is done though (i hope for the last time)

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"i will update my pics, im just unsure what to take to be honest, profile writing is done though (i hope for the last time) "

From what I have seen of this thread, and others you have posted, you seem to be highly selective in which pieces of advice you take on board, and flout your ongoing and long-term deprivation with lashings of self-pity, which is deeply unattractive and off-putting.

You seem to find writing and taking photographs to be a grinding chore, and your profile is still riddled with contradictions such as: "Bareback can be accomodated with me but i will always play safe with an abundance of condoms that i have."

How does that work?

...and you describe yourself as "sexually active" which you are at pains to point out in all your postings that you most certainly are not.

It still needs a lot of work and some clear and positive thinking...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i will update my pics, im just unsure what to take to be honest, profile writing is done though (i hope for the last time)

From what I have seen of this thread, and others you have posted, you seem to be highly selective in which pieces of advice you take on board, and flout your ongoing and long-term deprivation with lashings of self-pity, which is deeply unattractive and off-putting.

You seem to find writing and taking photographs to be a grinding chore, and your profile is still riddled with contradictions such as: "Bareback can be accomodated with me but i will always play safe with an abundance of condoms that i have."

How does that work?

...and you describe yourself as "sexually active" which you are at pains to point out in all your postings that you most certainly are not.

It still needs a lot of work and some clear and positive thinking... "

all of what you said went through my mind as i read the thread - very contradictory profile he has

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"i will update my pics, im just unsure what to take to be honest, profile writing is done though (i hope for the last time)

From what I have seen of this thread, and others you have posted, you seem to be highly selective in which pieces of advice you take on board, and flout your ongoing and long-term deprivation with lashings of self-pity, which is deeply unattractive and off-putting.

You seem to find writing and taking photographs to be a grinding chore, and your profile is still riddled with contradictions such as: "Bareback can be accomodated with me but i will always play safe with an abundance of condoms that i have."

How does that work?

...and you describe yourself as "sexually active" which you are at pains to point out in all your postings that you most certainly are not.

It still needs a lot of work and some clear and positive thinking... "

Not just me then!

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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

well it sounds perfectly normal to me but my mind has always been a bit screwy. i am till sexually active but i have had very little in my lifetime i should say, less than ten encounters about 6 or 7 since i came of age, thats why i dont know what to say or do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wheres my partner in crime that always slaps hand on head with me

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"i will update my pics, im just unsure what to take to be honest, profile writing is done though (i hope for the last time)

From what I have seen of this thread, and others you have posted, you seem to be highly selective in which pieces of advice you take on board, and flout your ongoing and long-term deprivation with lashings of self-pity, which is deeply unattractive and off-putting.

You seem to find writing and taking photographs to be a grinding chore, and your profile is still riddled with contradictions such as: "Bareback can be accomodated with me but i will always play safe with an abundance of condoms that i have."

How does that work?

...and you describe yourself as "sexually active" which you are at pains to point out in all your postings that you most certainly are not.

It still needs a lot of work and some clear and positive thinking...

Not just me then! "

And me.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"wheres my partner in crime that always slaps hand on head with me "

Well in his or her absence, I'll join you in some serious hand-on-head slapping

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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

well slap away as i am what you call me a noob at all things sexual really as you can most probably tell by now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all just such a pain really...isn't it? Messages don't work so a wink will do. The pics are rubbish but your hair's a mess and the comb's in the other room. There are socials but you don't drive so you'd have to catch the bus...so there's the timetable to look up. You've changed your profile so surely to goodness that'll do for the next six years. My sympathy has run screaming out the door! Would you like us to find you someone, bring her round and take her home when you're finished? We can even choose one of your condom collection, put it on for you and plonk her on top!!! Yes, i've reached outspoken rude old lady stage. Just grow up and bloody well get on with it and stop moaning. If you're not prepared to put the effort in, you'll get hee haw out!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jinty - love it - made me laugh did tht

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The guy has changed his profile substantially so thumbs up to him.

OP: will you please keep the phrase '...an abundance of condoms...' in because it made me laugh. I'm not sure if there is a collective noun for condoms but an abundance will do nicely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy has changed his profile substantially so thumbs up to him.

OP: will you please keep the phrase '...an abundance of condoms...' in because it made me laugh. I'm not sure if there is a collective noun for condoms but an abundance will do nicely."

I think its a cornucopia of condoms....

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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

either way i have lots of them

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"either way i have lots of them"

"Bareback can be accomodated with me but i will always play safe with an abundance of condoms"

I'm still trying to work out what this means...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"....and lastly you say you can't really travel because you're sokint!!

Why would someone's financial situation put you off?

Someones financial situation is irrelevant....my point was he can't accomm or travel??"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy has changed his profile substantially so thumbs up to him.

OP: will you please keep the phrase '...an abundance of condoms...' in because it made me laugh. I'm not sure if there is a collective noun for condoms but an abundance will do nicely.

I think its a cornucopia of condoms.... "

Or in this case its a wishful thinking of condoms. Lol.

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By *yLongJourney OP   Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft


"either way i have lots of them

"Bareback can be accomodated with me but i will always play safe with an abundance of condoms"

I'm still trying to work out what this means... "

basically means i will first off play safe with condoms with everyone but i will be okay with going bareback if the other person/s so wishes to or they are allergic or dont like the use of condoms, i have heard of that before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy has changed his profile substantially so thumbs up to him.

OP: will you please keep the phrase '...an abundance of condoms...' in because it made me laugh. I'm not sure if there is a collective noun for condoms but an abundance will do nicely.

I think its a cornucopia of condoms....

Or in this case its a wishful thinking of condoms. Lol. "

quite possibly need date checking too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all just such a pain really...isn't it? Messages don't work so a wink will do. The pics are rubbish but your hair's a mess and the comb's in the other room. There are socials but you don't drive so you'd have to catch the bus...so there's the timetable to look up. You've changed your profile so surely to goodness that'll do for the next six years. My sympathy has run screaming out the door! Would you like us to find you someone, bring her round and take her home when you're finished? We can even choose one of your condom collection, put it on for you and plonk her on top!!! Yes, i've reached outspoken rude old lady stage. Just grow up and bloody well get on with it and stop moaning. If you're not prepared to put the effort in, you'll get hee haw out!!! "

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

A cupboard with a copious cornucopia of clap-protecting condoms?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"A cupboard with a copious cornucopia of clap-protecting condoms?"

Cartons of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never meet anyone who would consider bareback as an option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would never meet anyone who would consider bareback as an option "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Its all just such a pain really...isn't it? Messages don't work so a wink will do. The pics are rubbish but your hair's a mess and the comb's in the other room. There are socials but you don't drive so you'd have to catch the bus...so there's the timetable to look up. You've changed your profile so surely to goodness that'll do for the next six years. My sympathy has run screaming out the door! Would you like us to find you someone, bring her round and take her home when you're finished? We can even choose one of your condom collection, put it on for you and plonk her on top!!! Yes, i've reached outspoken rude old lady stage. Just grow up and bloody well get on with it and stop moaning. If you're not prepared to put the effort in, you'll get hee haw out!!! "

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