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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi ladies help me out if you can, when I want to message a woman I like the look of whats the best thing to put in the first message? Tried all sorts and im not getting much joy. Give me some examples of good first messages you've had. Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I have a slice of your banana cake please? That made me laugh a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I have a slice of your banana cake please? That made me laugh a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This will be quite interesting to find out actually :0)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something different,non pervy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write the same sort of thing that you might say to a stranger in the street...

"Fancy a fuck" is not really going to impress.....

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I'm sure I saw something earlier about smashing back doors in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple of messages recently from guys asking me if I'd chop their dicks off... needless to say, for a first message it was a bit direct!

I like messages where people show they've read my profile and have similar interests. Polite but dirty. Respectfully sleazy. Good pics, not just a dick next to a Sky remote...

And the same effort put into their profile. Doesn't have to be an essay, but INTERESTING.

Good luck on here.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

A nice introduction that mentions something in my profile so I know you've read it.

And/or something really funny and witty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many factors to even begin to answer,but there is no magic formula for me

Sometimes a message just grabs me for no real reason at all

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Every woman that posts here will say something different.

You can't possibly send 1 message that will have every woman flocking like flies around shit.

Make your message representative of you, are you a jokey person, a serious person, tailor it to the profile you are sending it to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every woman that posts here will say something different. "

Yeah this is the main thing, treat people like individuals and not just potential fucks. Sometimes they'll say no and its just personal preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the lady has an interestingly worded profile , then you can pick something from it and ask questions. If you feel complimentary about their pic tell them and why. I agree with the previous messages about not mentioning sex and the like straight away on a first message. Write as if you're smiling. Attach ONLY a recent face and torso pic, clothed, being just you. End the message with 'best wishes' or done thing equally good. Be chilled. Don't brag. And don't be desperate. An interviewer can smell desperation a mile away, and so it is with finding sexual partners. It's not attractive. Wishing you well bud x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every woman that posts here will say something different.

You can't possibly send 1 message that will have every woman flocking like flies around shit.

Make your message representative of you, are you a jokey person, a serious person, tailor it to the profile you are sending it to. "

Nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont go with the "yo bitch!"...ive had that before.. ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I have a slice of your banana cake please? That made me laugh a few times "

I'd also like a slice of your banana cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure I saw something earlier about smashing back doors in "

Yeah... and you still haven't replied.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every woman that posts here will say something different.

Yeah this is the main thing, treat people like individuals and not just potential fucks. Sometimes they'll say no and its just personal preference."

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

The real irony here is that it all comes down to the face pic you send really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couple of messages recently from guys asking me if I'd chop their dicks off... needless to say, for a first message it was a bit direct!

I like messages where people show they've read my profile and have similar interests. Polite but dirty. Respectfully sleazy. Good pics, not just a dick next to a Sky remote...

And the same effort put into their profile. Doesn't have to be an essay, but INTERESTING.

Good luck on here.

"

EXACTLY couldnt have put it better.

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By *adystephanieTV/TS
over a year ago

glos

A full sentence would be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally say things like... "I would love to smell you're morning breathe" usually works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A full sentence would be nice "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A nice face pic and more then four words helps, even better is a message that shows the person has read our profile, that will normally get a reply from us even if it's a polite thanks but no thanks.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really struggle with this one myself, both on traditional dating sites and this (which I'm new to). The ability to be an outrageous direct flirt is not the issue, nor being polite and interested, but I guess it's one extreme of boring to the too direct.

I tend to send a simple nice mugshot, an introduction and I'll ask a question based om what I've read if there is actually a profile to read, but alas I'm used to deleted messages myself.

I still don't get why hello, how are you is a boring introduction, how else do you sleak to people in person, I certainly dont go up to someone shouting something random like "Muffins, I like muffins, do you like muffins" , as James May puts it you have to start with hello

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Surely there isn't one single message type? The message would be different depending on the person you message.

FYI OP I just talk about myself constantly. Usually make up shit like I used be a spaceman and stuff like that. They love it.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Have you considered describing your cock in minute detail? It's a more creative way of getting their attention than sending a cock picture

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Fancy a fuck is usually best, but be sure to put their username at the end just to personalise the msg, otherwise they'll ignore it

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By *ala.malaMan
over a year ago

poole

Millionaire fit playboy needs sexy woman for world travel and credit card management?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Millionaire fit playboy needs sexy woman for world travel and credit card management?"

Shall I send you my CV

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats what I thpught tbh lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats what I thpught tbh lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Smell your morning breath? I find that hard to believe lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The real irony here is that it all comes down to the face pic you send really "

Very true, when I send somebody elses pic I get a different response to when I send my own

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Too many factors to even begin to answer,but there is no magic formula for me

Sometimes a message just grabs me for no real reason at all "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A direct fancy a f**k question and a cock picture next to a remote should do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something that shows that my profile has been read. Not too long, just enough to whet the appetite...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im with you on that "hey hows it going?" Youd think thats with a pic should get a conversation going. In a bar I always justvgo up to a girl introduce myself and ask her her name and then the next thinh you know we're chatting works every time but not on here? Mad lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree not one break the ice message but there must be a kind of formula and ye a taylor made message but im thinking good face pic is the key now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cock pics tend to be a big no iv found. Seems dispite it being a swingers site woman still want a spatk and an attraction before they meet or chatm advantage for woman on here they got plenty to choose from so standing out is the key but how you catch there eye is what im still learning

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mmm I know its different for eveyone but womans profile tend to say "fancy a fuck" is not a good first message even if you put there name on it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate the hi how are you messages, hi what you up to? And the are you free messages. They all get deleted

Also hate the I've fabbed my fave pic messages.

I like a message that tells me a little about you and how you fit into what were looking for

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

You might want to rethink your username and change it to something a little less 'in your face' obvious too, I must admit I would find it off putting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha I can imagine but does that work no veri on your profile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't say 100% but I believe that everyone men and women combined like to feel special, so anything that is unique to the person you're messaging and tell them what you cand do for them. A generic "hi, hows you" etc is not gonna work unless you look like you walked straight out of a hugo boss advert. And sorry to say, but there are some guys on here that look like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate the hi how are you messages, hi what you up to? And the are you free messages. They all get deleted

Also hate the I've fabbed my fave pic messages.

I like a message that tells me a little about you and how you fit into what were looking for "

I often start a message with "Hi name & name, hope your well".

Is that not a good start?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99 percent of the emails will be mass deleted so its more down to luck

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Hi ladies help me out if you can, when I want to message a woman I like the look of whats the best thing to put in the first message? Tried all sorts and im not getting much joy. Give me some examples of good first messages you've had. Thanks x"

Just because you like the look of them doesnt mean the feeling must be returned they are probably just busy replying to who they like the look of

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You might want to rethink your username and change it to something a little less 'in your face' obvious too, I must admit I would find it off putting."

Ye iv had that before but not sure how to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Write the same sort of thing that you might say to a stranger in the street...

"Fancy a fuck" is not really going to impress.....

"

Ye iv tried that but "hey hows you?" Doesnt seem to work its as if woman want more. In a bar introducing yourself always seems to get a conversation going but not on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A nice introduction that mentions something in my profile so I know you've read it.

And/or something really funny and witty

"

I agree, a sense of humour goes a long way with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"99 percent of the emails will be mass deleted so its more down to luck "

Thats what iv thought frustrating cos I dont want to keep messaging someone and harsassing them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel your pain buddy, I'm naturally polite and well mannered but seem to be attracting gay men more than anything else, even though I'm straight. I'll keep plugging away and not change my approach

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