FabSwingers.com forum: Not anyone's type is soul destroying

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Only ever get your not my type off people and starting to find it a tad soul destroying. Pretty thick skin but would be nice to find people that think I am there type for a change. Surly I'm not that bad !!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

But I thought you'd met loads of women who weren't as sexually adventurous as you so you must be someone's type for them to have met you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I'm sure you were just complaining that all the girls you meet aren't kinky enough??

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Ever thought its maybe attitude as you have no pics showing...?

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

Hard to know if your my type when your profile doesn't give to much away!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Na not met them they all just chat to me then say I'm not there type.

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By *edheadsruleCouple
over a year ago

lancashire

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You have seen my pictures ! I'm lost

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

With one line and no pics, it's hard to come to any conclusion, hun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Smily face to you to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Had pictures and more than one line. Tried it all if I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had pictures and more than one line. Tried it all if I'm honest."

Socials, clubs?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just got a email and no thank you instead of your not my type haha. She was polite about it though I guess. Still hard to take.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Girl said she would take me to a social but then bailed out and blanked me. Must be the girls from my area or something who knows.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

If you read the profiles I think you may get further when you message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Girl said she would take me to a social but then bailed out and blanked me. Must be the girls from my area or something who knows."

You're a big boy, I'm sure you can go on your own!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount you bang on about your recent strap on purchases puts me off without even having seen a picture

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I try to I really do. Depressing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't blame starting to think I'm a freak myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After all the threads about cock pics with random objects being ridiculous, do you think your cock/pepsi bottle avatar is gonna help give the right impression??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After all the threads about cock pics with random objects being ridiculous, do you think your cock/pepsi bottle avatar is gonna help give the right impression??"

And its not even a real one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on mate its not rocket science . They have 100s of guys to choose from and all they see when they look at your profile is . 2 lines of text . No pics. And the fact you will meet anyone from the age of 18 to 99 . Would you message you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a piss take surely?

The name 'towielad' implies to me that you think of yourself as a bit of a Joey Essex type?

Joey Essex = Thick as pig shit = My worst nightmare = 'Sorry you're not my type' lol

Maybe people have the same train of thought as me haha?

Or it could just be your crap profile, who knows

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Girl said she would take me to a social but then bailed out and blanked me. Must be the girls from my area or something who knows.

You're a big boy, I'm sure you can go on your own!"

If you're that adventurous do you really need your hand holding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Towielad, you should revel in the fact that you are not many peoples' type. If you keep a count, you just might turn out to be one in a million and then realise that sites like this aren't YOUR type

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't think anything will help. Feel like topping myself at the mo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only ever get your not my type off people and starting to find it a tad soul destroying. Pretty thick skin but would be nice to find people that think I am there type for a change. Surly I'm not that bad !!!"

Had that many a times mate. Don't take it to heart, you can't change who you are.

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By *lintessential1Man
over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

I can empathise mate, I know it can be soul destroying, but the folks on here are right, work on your profile and add a couple of pics, try not to take it so seriously as well, you'll get there eventually if you persevere

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Had the face pictures and all the text before. Really didn't help.

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By *lintessential1Man
over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

"Had the face pictures and all the text before. Really didn't help."

it helps even less not having anything at all...just try and be patient and not expect anything too quickly...most of us blokes are all in the same boat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You right I'm not the smartest guy unfortunately I can't help that. Sorry if I'm not your type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had the face pictures and all the text before. Really didn't help."

Get yourself known by going to socials. I think there is one in Essex coming up, look in the meets and events section.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had the face pictures and all the text before. Really didn't help."

why did you delete them? Did you think an empty profile will attract more women?

What keeps bugging me is: if you cannot meet in the lifestyle, go back to the vanilla life!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Honestly tried it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly tried it all."

So no one floated your boat at social meets then?

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

been on here over a year, no pics, one sentence profile.

if you can't be bothered to sell yourself, why the hell would anyone else be bothered to look?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone is always somebody's type.

Yo're simply looking in the wrong place.

Relax, deep breaths and let the universe provide....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Like I've said had face pictures and all that. Do tend to send them out aswell.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Had to explain I guess fella. Maybe just unlucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One line profile description and no pics.

Not exactly doing yourself any favours young man.

Your profile as it currently stands shows a lack of effort.

If you're not prepared to put the effort in on your profile, the ladies will be thinking that you won't put the effort in with them.

You have to consider that the ladies tend to read between the lines.

What does your profile say about you that you're not saying in words.

I'm guessing, from your post regarding replies, that you are in fact messaging the ladies.

Chances are they will look at your profile BEFORE they read your message.

If your profile doesn't get them interested in you, then it really isn't going to matter what you've written in your message - as it's unlikely it will even be read.

Even with an outstanding profile and a good range of pictures, it can be difficult for some of us to get meets - there are just so many of us single guys on here, compared to the number of women - and when they're bombarded with hundreds of messages daily, they're going to skip past any that haven't made an effort with their profile.

As for hiding your pics because they 'didn't do you any favours'- that's a rather defeatist attitude. And completely the wrong approach.

Are you expecting women to meet you without having seen you?

This site is mostly about people meeting for sex (Yes, I accept that there's more to swinging than that, but for the purposes of this discussion...) and physical attraction plays a significant part.

All these claims by women about a good sense of humour being more important, frankly, I think are nonsense - how many great looking women do you see on the arm of a fat , ugly chap who just happens to be funny! OK, i'm being a bit extreme, but 'fab' isn't about finding someone for a relationship and so the 'rules' are different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I've said had face pictures and all that. Do tend to send them out aswell."
You may be there type in looks . But then they will go to your profile and see nothing that excites them.So it may not be your pics putting them off . Its the fact if you cant be bothered to make a effort . Why would they want too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't know what to say I really don't. I tried putting the right thing in my profile.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Lets just say there is someone who has replied to you had the same type of thread previously and has now taken on board the advice given!

So as I say to every one else:

Effort in = effort out!

If your profile is lazy, don't expect much back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay positive, don't expect anything from this site other than a few cheap pervy thrills from ogling the profiles and a few good laughs on the forums.

Always be polite and good humoured, be prepared to send a lot of messages and have none returned. And, once in every awhile you'll find someone that you click with and you'll have fun - it won't happen often but it'll be worth it!

It may be a very well worn out cliché on here but it's all about quality over quantity and, of course, perseverance!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am trying to at the mo

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Honestly tried it all."

You're ignoring and dismissing advice.

I don't believe you at all but if you really feel you've tried everything then honestly, you may as well give up.

This looks like you're hoping for someone to give you a sympathy shag. That's unlikely to happen and it's not doing much for how you come across.

Would you really want a fuck just because someone felt sorry for you?

If you put the effort you've made complaining into your profile, messages, making friends and going to socials, you would almost certainly have more luck.

That's my final advice because this is going round in circles and is negative and boring. Take it or leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you really want a fuck just because someone felt sorry for you?

Where do it sign up for these....?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you work that one out when I have just changed my picture and profile !!!!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Would you really want a fuck just because someone felt sorry for you?

Where do it sign up for these....?

My inbox?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile seems ok to me now(didn't see it before), nothing that would put me off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Profile seems ok to me now(didn't see it before), nothing that would put me off

Thank you and to you to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you really want a fuck just because someone felt sorry for you?

Where do it sign up for these....?

My inbox?

Can't inbox you !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could be my type,

, if you'd drop the towie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you really want a fuck just because someone felt sorry for you?

Where do it sign up for these....?

My inbox?

Can't inbox you !!!"

Hmmmm, can go in my box any day luvvie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you really want a fuck just because someone felt sorry for you?

Where do it sign up for these....?

My inbox?

Can't inbox you !!!

I'm straight I'm afraid but did cheer me up haha

Hmmmm, can go in my box any day luvvie. "

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Don't think anything will help. Feel like topping myself at the mo."

Dude, don't even think it. Look at the poor sod next to you in your avatar pic. It looks at though he's seriously considering chucking himself over da edge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think anything will help. Feel like topping myself at the mo.

Dude, don't even think it. Look at the poor sod next to you in your avatar pic. It looks at though he's seriously considering chucking himself over da edge

Strewth, how psychic are you? How did you know the other guy was his only meet to date?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Amusingly, Towie, m'lad....if you look at your avatar photo upside down, the cloud formation above your head looks like a huge cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Amusingly, Towie, m'lad....if you look at your avatar photo upside down, the cloud formation above your head looks like a huge cock

Rotated 90 deg to the right looks better still.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty thick skin but would be nice to find people that think I am there type for a change. "

^that will only happen when you message someone and you are THEIR type.

You are you. don't be ashamed of being YOU...but also, don't expect "I totally want to fuck you" to be the default response when you message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Girl said she would take me to a social but then bailed out and blanked me. Must be the girls from my area or something who knows."

you don't need a woman to go with you, grow some balls and go on you're own!

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

If it's always while you're chatting, could you perhaps be saying things that they find off putting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not everyones cup of tea, neither is Gimp, it is called life

Her

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Amusingly, Towie, m'lad....if you look at your avatar photo upside down, the cloud formation above your head looks like a huge cock

Rotated 90 deg to the right looks better still. "

I often see them upside down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think anything will help. Feel like topping myself at the mo."

feel like topping yourself???? jesus christ!! you're on a swingers site! there are millions of people on here, women can take their pick and just because a few people have said no to meeting you doesn't mean you can think about topping yourself.

you're not as thick skinned as you think you are

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