FabSwingers.com forum: Too polite?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So if I get a message from someone I will always try to respond even if its a no thanks, but what I'm getting a lot of now is why's! If I politey decline your offer to cum fuck u cos u are free today..I shouldn't have to explain futher than no thankyou! And to be questioned about why I can't or what I'm doing is just starting to really get on my nerves! I kind of refrain from your not my type etc cos this usually leads to a whole heap of abuse! So should I even bother replyin with a polite no thanks or just delete?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

reply then block, it may be easier

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land

"reply then block, it may be easier"

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what you think is best. We just delete all that we're not interested in. We rarely get abused for taking this approach. But that's when the block button comes in handy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do what you think is best. We just delete all that we're not interested in. We rarely get abused for taking this approach. But that's when the block button comes in handy. "

Yes I agree this works for me too.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Just block them once you've replied

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"So if I get a message from someone I will always try to respond even if its a no thanks, but what I'm getting a lot of now is why's! If I politey decline your offer to cum fuck u cos u are free today..I shouldn't have to explain futher than no thankyou! And to be questioned about why I can't or what I'm doing is just starting to really get on my nerves! I kind of refrain from your not my type etc cos this usually leads to a whole heap of abuse! So should I even bother replyin with a polite no thanks or just delete?

Sadly one does soon learn that deleting does avoid the comeback. I'm not sure the block facility is bottomless anyway, I think there is a limit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always getting accused of being far to polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A simple no thank you and they pester you that is so wrong a no means no a thank you is being really nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly one does soon learn that deleting does avoid the comeback. I'm not sure the block facility is bottomless anyway, I think there is a limit?

If there is a limit I haven't reached it yet and I block quite a lot....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys on here have been doing this since the dawn of rejection. I don't even say no thanks anymore, just instant block if i'm not interested. Guys get abusive on here when their ego is bruised. Just realise these people have major issues and you don't, smile and move on

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sadly one does soon learn that deleting does avoid the comeback. I'm not sure the block facility is bottomless anyway, I think there is a limit?

If there is a limit I haven't reached it yet and I block quite a lot...."
as far as I'm aware there is no limit. Never seen it written anywhere that there is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm polite too always answer eg no thankyou, if I get a why? Reply then I delete that.I really Don't feel the need to say :- you're not my type, you're 200miles away etc etc what im after is written on my profile.ive not had rudeness so works for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers guys I just feel bad blocking people. But looks like I may have too! Some people are just so rude ive even had well u do meet so why won't u meet me? Erm because I don't want too! Lol x

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I'm all for good manners, but no should mean no and there shouldn't be any comeback on that. It's sad that there many others have experienced the opposite.

Fwiw, I only message those who's profiles I've read and if there's a potential spark based on that. If my message gets deleted without a reply i don't see it as a big deal really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly ts the way SOME people are!

Sometimes politeness can be seen as a weakness and a certain type of person will bang away trying to get you to change your mind or explain yourself - which usually ends in a tirade of abuse if you take the bait.

We no longer send a no thanks because of it and I think non Neandethal guys understand that.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It's irritating when you say no. They ask how come, just out of interest, etc, you point out they live 300 miles away. Next is an offer to come to yours or meet in the middle and so on.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Come on now: do what's right for YOU! This is about YOUR enjoyment, no? You don't have to justify your decision to anyone.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I wear my heart on my sleeve too sometimes. I made the mistake once on another site to explain why and instead of taking it on the chin, all I got back was insults and accusations. I'll be blocking from now on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont feel the slightest bit guilty deleting and blocking. Its just another tool on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont feel the slightest bit guilty deleting and blocking. Its just another tool on the site."

I echo that.

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

If I send a message to a lady and get a reply I am happy it might say not interested then you respect that decision what is up with some fellas on here,all they do is make the situation a lot worse than it needs to be

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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago

Worcestershire

It's always nice to get a reply if you've taken the time to message someone. But if you get a message back saying thanks but no thanks that should be that, I don't understand why people start asking for explanations...... Which leads me to understand why so many people do just delete and block, to be honest I think I'd do the same.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Dont feel the slightest bit guilty deleting and blocking. Its just another tool on the site."

Our favourite filter!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If you reply to say no thanks, that should be it. Perhaps consider making some standard text that you can vary and try out, to see if something else works better. I rarely get asked 'Why?' these days, but used to. I prefer not to block but realise it can save everyones effort downline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After posting in here yesterday i decided to see if maybe i was being too hasty in just blocking and not replying. So i messaged back 3 guys saying "Thanks but you're not my type. Happy swinging!" . 1replied calling me a "superficial bint" who could fuck off. Another said he was "throwing me a bone" by asking coz i was "fat and ugly". The third replied nicely. So i'm back to blocking again. Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ignore if I'm not interested , if they continue to message without a reply I block .

Don't ever feel you have to justify yourself

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I say no thank you, and ignore any response to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say no thanks and thats it

Don't feel that you have to get into any sort of conversation about why not

Although the last person that did ask me why got a response along the lines of never ask a person why they don't want to meet you, you won't like the answer as it won't change anything and will probably put you in a shitty mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it simple. Delete. If he comes back with why? Block. Any guy that has to ask why you have exercised your freedom of choice is socially inept, immature, needy or all the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be chuffed to bits with a 'no thank you' after the effort I make to write a detailed and relevant message to someone.

It's so much nicer than being ignored.

If then I reply(which I only do to say thanks for responding) to find I'm blocked (never happened yet) I'd bare no ill will at all.

I'd say respond and block 100%

It's lovely!

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