FabSwingers.com forum: Wonder if anyone hear could help

By *unchmonster OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Well not having the best of times recently I will try and be as short as possible but a long situation

I met this girl 3 years ago after 2 months or so found I found out she was pregnant not to me but her ex she knew way before

I decided to stay and not run as I had the choice to leave seen out the last 6 months of the pregnancy feeding her massages helping apply creams and lotions was all very enjoyable and I will never regret that

After baby was born my jealousy of the farther grew as he was still around and I could never take away a farther right to be a farther is just not in me at all so are relationship fell apart

She evidentially got back with him

We met each other for a bit of fun a couple of times after this but was understood was only fun

Recently we started to become closer again after some time of not seeing each other about 18 months or so

As I do love her and allways will

She said she had split with her ex and started to get close to me again

Then till recently about a month ago I figuered out that she was a working girl and went down there and found out first had after she told me she was just a receptionist in a brothle bit I'm not stupid and figuered it all out

Part of me could live with this wish she didn't work in a brothle as there dirty and sleezy if she was escort or webcam girl I think I would be more comfortable with it this way but that's not hear nor there

I am a secret to half her life as I'm not aloud to text or call her in case her exes finds out it's me then he might leave his daughter and I don't want that as I love that little girl even tho she not mine and probs cause a lot of shit for her

Now I find out 1 week ago that she's pregs and it could be 1 if four people me two splits at work and u quessed it her ex

Don't know why she didn't take the pill after the plots but I know she has wanted another kid for sometime now so maybe that's why

She says she is getting a termination weather that happens we will see

What hurts the most is she keeps lying took me 3 days to find out that she had slept with her ex as I knew she was hiding something she keeps lying about all sorts of things and she knows I hate it as the truth allways comes out

And if course she went back with her ex

I suppose what I need to see is where do I stand in all this

She not even said sorry for sleeping with her ex and hurting me am I just a joke or a tool to make her ex jel or am I over thinking things

Her ex don't know about her job he stupid

Any comments or questions or advice greatly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are in a very difficult position with this situation , I understand you have feelings for the girl , but she has shown her true colours to you once already , when she got back with her x . If I was you , I would remove myself from the equation completely and step back and take a look at the facts here . She is working in a brothel where she is servicing clients and obviously she has fucked some of them bare , if she can point out 2 as a possible daddy , now that kind of revalation alone... for me would be the straw that broke the camels back . If I were you , I would presume that ANYONE could be the father of her child .The girl is messed up for sure , she sounds like she hasnt got a clue what she actually wants and whether you factor into her plans . For now , step back and do nothing and see what other information surfaces .

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By *unchmonster OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Thanks MOF

Firstly she says she don't do bare but had splits with a couple I know when they where as she told me when they happened the situation is much more complex tbh but I was dragging on a bit lol

I may well have to take a back seat as ur not the first to say it

Also she is allways saying she doesn't know what she wants

Remember she has a kid too shouldn't this be her priority not money or effects ? The reason she dose what she dose is cuz " she wants her to have nice things " but I said in response to this

What u think ur child whould prefer when they are 18

100k in a savings account

Or a mum who is alive as the health risk must be high

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By *unchmonster OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, personally I'd stay well clear!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Do you really need advice on this? A lying prostitute with some other blokes kid?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Steer well clear is my advice mate, that's a huge can of worms to sort out. I feel that she has no "love" for you, just a desire not to be alone..hope you make the right decision for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry if you to come a singers site and trying explain the unexplainable then there something wrong.

But in honesty it don't matter what we say your gona go back with her

Plus you was shaggin her behind someone's back so you reap what you sow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus you put yourself on the don't go anywhere near board

But take it to Jeremy kyle you'll get £250

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She sounds a right catch .Marry her But seriously . When.you say your hurt . Maybe you should ask her Ex how hurt he was when you was shagging her behind his back .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very simple rule in life. People thar bring drama and stress in to my life aren't welcome. Seriously ger rid of her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't call her, you are a secret sunshine.

Proberly heading for more pain, back up a bit, and find someone than can respect and give you more than that.

Her

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You stand nowhere with this woman. Back away, find someone else, and be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gimps top tip.

Get yourself to the Knob Doctor, Then see a Head Doctor on the way to a Monastery because your not gonna be getting none on here after the Ladies read this

Gimp

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

All I can say is more fool you.

The girl is proper playing you.

Be done with her and move on

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

To be honest honey I think the chances of a happy ending to this one are slim to none!! You need to walk away or this pattern could go on for years getting more and more entangled. You're young, there are plenty more fish - go find one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not going to take any advice off this thread because you'd already have acted in your best interests if you were going to.

Love hurts and you're going to feel a lot more pain. When she finally gets rid of you remember this, there really are plenty of fish in the sea and the pain won't last forever.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Walk away....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not pass go do not collect £200

Shut the box clear away the crap and throw it in the fire and never play this game again

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By *unchmonster OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Thank you all

As you are all saying pretty much the same thing I would like to add a few things that may have been over looked

1 I was told by her she had split with her ex before I had sex with her

2 I have know her for a very long time and I cant allow her to keep going down this same path if not for her then her child

3 how can I walk away now if there's a chance she has my child? I simply can't

Any working girls about as I would like to get any opinion from someone in the industry as I believe options atom are one sided

If u wanna pm do so instead of writing on hear

Thanks again fabbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May sound blunt mate but why you asking for advice when you have obviously made up your mind to stick with her . No matter what we say

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By *ittykate84Woman
over a year ago

CHESTER

Honestly walk away, if she is a prostitute tell social services for the sake of the child!

If you and her ex were having unprotected sex with her then who else was if she can lie so much she will lie about that!

Get yourself tested at the GUM clinic asap!

Just walk away dont contact her, yes you love the child but simple truth is she isnt yours and its up to her family to look out for her!

Just walk away and dont look back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away but if she decides to keep the child and it turns out to be yours then be there for the child. Set up a bank acct for the child, and only give things for the child. Do not give money. Wait until the CSA get involved and get a DNA. Then see what money they want from you.

Be strong. You are no more than a secret. A punter that doesn't pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice would be to get out pronto.

If she goes through with the pregnancy, get a paternity test done to find out if you are the father or not.

If it turns out that you are, then you will have responsibilities and the child will have a right to have a relationship with you.

Someone else has already suggested getting in touch with Social Services if she is a prostitute as there are child safety issues here.

For some reason, you feel it is your responsibility to protect her from herself.

It isn't, and she's already demonstrated that she has no respect for herself, and isn't about to wake up to the reality that is her life.

She certainly has none for you.

Why are you making someone a priority who only considers you an option?

While she continues with her current lifestyle she is not only putting herself and even her child at risk, but she is also putting you at risk.

You may indeed think the world of her child, but this child is not your responsibility.

What are you going to do if in six months time she informs you that she has HIV?

This woman is playing you because she knows she can

As for 'fab', I think you've kissed goodbye to any prospects of getting a meet on here.

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By *anxfrankMan
over a year ago

isle of man

Keep the fook away mate she sounds like trouble if she is lying to you time after time she anit gonna change and you anit gonna change her. WALK AWAY don't look back. My ex did the same to me many times but like a dick I took her back took me a long time to figure out she was fucking 7 blokes behind my back too, the minute I went to work she had some else in our bed and loved everything about her, in the end I cut my losses and never looked back since. Goosd luck mate.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I'm not going to rush in and criticise this female as:

a) You only share what you want to share about her.

b) You are on here.

And to be honest I'm a bit sceptical as why you are asking for Prostitutes to PM you to give relationship advice.

Relationships with any real foundation involve trust.

Ask yourself these questions:

1 - On a scale of 1-10 how much trust do you want there to be in a relationship?

2 - On a scale of 1-10 how much trust is there between you and this female?

If the later is equal to or higher than the former - bingo!

If the former is higher than the later... well work that out for yourself.

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