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"I think its more to do with low self esteem and needing an ego boost than real body dysmorphia I have a friend who was hospitalised because of that,her life was a living hell,I wouldn't apply the same diagnosis to the women in here " I think the opening post shows a lack of understanding of body dysmorphia and confuses it with attention seeking | |||
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"I think its more to do with low self esteem and needing an ego boost than real body dysmorphia I have a friend who was hospitalised because of that,her life was a living hell,I wouldn't apply the same diagnosis to the women in here " | |||
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"Can be a serious condition leading to malnutrition and anorexia xx" Yes, its horrendous for the people suffering from it as well as their loved ones, I will echo what others have put, mostly on here its women with low self esteem requiring an ego boost. | |||
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"I think there are a lot of swingers with very low self esteem." Thats pretty much a requirement | |||
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"For me it's a simple choice. I can let my insecurities hold me back or I can just say fuck it and go and have some fun! The mind is much more attractive than the body. " Totally agree. The mind is the largest sexual organ! | |||
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"For me it's a simple choice. I can let my insecurities hold me back or I can just say fuck it and go and have some fun! The mind is much more attractive than the body. Totally agree. The mind is the largest sexual organ! I agree ...and my mind tells me I'm fucking gorgeous !! ...so I'll go with that lol " | |||
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"Well im just obviously thick...because i dont even know what Dismor..dysnorf...dysmorp...dysmorfia..dysmorph...oh whatever the bloody word is.... " When you look in the mirror.... Do you see your true reflection or something hideous x You're not thick x you could find out if you wanted to x | |||
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"I think there are a lot of swingers with very low self esteem. Thats pretty much a requirement" I know people often equate the two but I don't agree at least for me personally. I think I am liberated sexually and I don't feel I have self esteem issues. | |||
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"Ive recently gone from being size 10 to size 12/14 and sometimes look at my rolls and think I could feed more then jesus did at the last supper. But when I look at the pictures me and my hubby take for fab I feel sexy! Women should embrace their curves it makes us all the more sexy! " I'm similar, I look at other more in shape girls, and feel envious. However, when I'm in bed with someone, I almost completely forget about my insecurities. Maybe I should spend all my time in bed! | |||
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"There's more dysmorphia (read lying) amongst the men on this site. The amount "Athletic" guys who are nowhere near athletic is astounding." Amen to that!!!!!!!!! lol | |||
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"There's more dysmorphia (read lying) amongst the men on this site. The amount "Athletic" guys who are nowhere near athletic is astounding." I hate my body. It's no where near what I want it to be. I'm not the weight I desire yet and I'm not big enough for my liking either. It's the reason why I selected slim. As that's what I see in the mirror, a skinny guy This isn't a look at me post at all by the way. It's simply how I feel | |||
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"There's more dysmorphia (read lying) amongst the men on this site. The amount "Athletic" guys who are nowhere near athletic is astounding. I hate my body. It's no where near what I want it to be. I'm not the weight I desire yet and I'm not big enough for my liking either. It's the reason why I selected slim. As that's what I see in the mirror, a skinny guy This isn't a look at me post at all by the way. It's simply how I feel " You've a great body! | |||
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"There's more dysmorphia (read lying) amongst the men on this site. The amount "Athletic" guys who are nowhere near athletic is astounding. I hate my body. It's no where near what I want it to be. I'm not the weight I desire yet and I'm not big enough for my liking either. It's the reason why I selected slim. As that's what I see in the mirror, a skinny guy This isn't a look at me post at all by the way. It's simply how I feel " Well you've got me looking! | |||
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"For someone who hates his body you have enough pics of it on here..." And? Lots of women hate their body to and they still have photos of them. Just because people like it. Doesn't mean I don't went to improve it | |||
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"For someone who hates his body you have enough pics of it on here... And? Lots of women hate their body to and they still have photos of them. Just because people like it. Doesn't mean I don't went to improve it " If you didn't have any, you wouldn't get any meets either. You can't win... | |||
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"For someone who hates his body you have enough pics of it on here... And? Lots of women hate their body to and they still have photos of them. Just because people like it. Doesn't mean I don't went to improve it If you didn't have any, you wouldn't get any meets either. You can't win... " Damned if you do, damned if you don't!... the world of Fab swingers! | |||
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"For someone who hates his body you have enough pics of it on here... And? Lots of women hate their body to and they still have photos of them. Just because people like it. Doesn't mean I don't went to improve it If you didn't have any, you wouldn't get any meets either. You can't win... " Exactly. And just because compliments gave me confidence to post photos of my body doesn't mean I have zero right to dislike what I see in my self. I think that applies to a lot people | |||
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"For someone who hates his body you have enough pics of it on here... And? Lots of women hate their body to and they still have photos of them. Just because people like it. Doesn't mean I don't went to improve it If you didn't have any, you wouldn't get any meets either. You can't win... Exactly. And just because compliments gave me confidence to post photos of my body doesn't mean I have zero right to dislike what I see in my self. I think that applies to a lot people " Of course it does I hate my belly the difference between men and women is women can cover up the bits they don't like with sexy undies, I would never post a naked pic, I also never get my belly out when having sex, or my boobs if I can avoid it, I just feel more confident with them covered, but if we want meets we have to show pics even if we don't like them | |||
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"If you have body confident issues I think the most important thing to remember but also the hardest thing to accept is not everyone sees you as you see yourself " That is so true. I am happy in my stretched-by-fat skin in a way I never was when I was thin. Bodies are dynamic, changing, things and and we need to get comfortable in our heads we won't look the way we look forever. | |||
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"I think there are a lot of swingers with very low self esteem. Thats pretty much a requirement" No it isn't. Lots of people on here have no self esteem issues, they're simply not as vocal about it. Why would they be? There are a fair number of attention seekers hoping for an ego boost, nothing wrong with that but we should see much of it for what it is. | |||
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"I think there are a lot of swingers with very low self esteem. Thats pretty much a requirement" | |||
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"If you have body confident issues I think the most important thing to remember but also the hardest thing to accept is not everyone sees you as you see yourself " x | |||
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"i was one of thoes that posted about cellulite lol not because im unhappy just wondered how to try get rid without excersise as im now fed up with excersising!! i was a size 18-20 at one point i really hated the way i looked but only i could change that and didnt want or couldnt afford surgery lol so excersise and healthy eating seemed the only way forward, now im a size 10-12 and i love the way i look im now confident and happy and that was my aim x " Your last line of that is the best thing. You achieved what you wanted and should be proud x | |||
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"I see a wobbly woman every time I look in the mirror but I love what I see...it's taken a few years but I've eventually got there and I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders...the only person I want to please with my looks is myself... " | |||
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"None of us are perfect, its just some of us can see and admit our imperfections " This Most of us will have an issue/not like certain parts of our bodies. Some are just more vocal about them than others. | |||
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"I'd say 90% of the comments I read on forum posts here prove just how many people have BDD, well either that or they're just attention seeking, which is probably the more likely option of the two. Women complaining they're fat without a roll, tyre, stretch mark, ounce of cellulite on them. I'm talking like flat stomached size 12-14's generally who go on like they're a 32. I have no confidence, I'm a 24 year old with saggy tits, who hates her fucking body and sees someone the size of a house when I look in the mirror but even my BDD is mild compared to most on here. This is one of those "and I thought I was bad" threads." I just _iew them as needy attention seekers and at their pathetic natures! I struggle to believe anyone who truly had body issues would post naked, full body shots, including face of themselves! Nah...look at me, look at me more like. Easy to spot! | |||
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"I think its more to do with low self esteem and needing an ego boost than real body dysmorphia I have a friend who was hospitalised because of that,her life was a living hell,I wouldn't apply the same diagnosis to the women in here I think the opening post shows a lack of understanding of body dysmorphia and confuses it with attention seeking" There's body dysmorphia and attention seekers. I think the op is referring to the latter. There's a marked difference between an anorexic thinking they're morbidly obese, the morbidly obese thinking they're average to some of the attention seekers on here. | |||
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"Can be a serious condition leading to malnutrition and anorexia xxYes, its horrendous for the people suffering from it as well as their loved ones, I will echo what others have put, mostly on here its women with low self esteem requiring an ego boost. " Exactly! | |||
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"I think there are a lot of swingers with very low self esteem." I think low self esteem is enhanced more on here. People say they like bigger or smaller, give you the chat, then bugger off or go UNLOS | |||
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"Well I for one think that I am just perfect the way I am I am the way I was meant to be and would not change a thing!" Just my opinion but, I think this way of thinking is more common in men than women.. and I for one would give anything to feel like this!! | |||
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"In my teens and early 20s I was a 12. After my marriage broke down I dropped to a small size 10 and I think I looked unhealthy. At 41 I am now a curvy, but reasonably fit, 14 with a baby belly. I love my sexy curves. I wouldn't mind being a 12 again but life is too short to diet There is too much media pressure to be thin. I'd rather be happy. " I try my hardest to gain weight, id love to be a size 10-12 but its impossible for me to achieve, although I personally think I still look good the way I am, id love to have my boobs back at a 34DD which they were when I first joined this site, but they are now a 32C which is significantly smaller, although my nipples arent as big as they used to be and I like that haha! The pressure on young girls to be thin is unreal, I even tell them they dont want to be so slim, it causes just as many hinderances as being overweight. Although im sure none of them believe that! Miss Jay | |||
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"Well, i look better with my clothes on than off. Now, what do i do about that? " Liquid latex? | |||
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"For me it's a simple choice. I can let my insecurities hold me back or I can just say fuck it and go and have some fun! The mind is much more attractive than the body. " | |||
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"I'd say 90% of the comments I read on forum posts here prove just how many people have BDD, well either that or they're just attention seeking, which is probably the more likely option of the two. Women complaining they're fat without a roll, tyre, stretch mark, ounce of cellulite on them. I'm talking like flat stomached size 12-14's generally who go on like they're a 32. I have no confidence, I'm a 24 year old with saggy tits, who hates her fucking body and sees someone the size of a house when I look in the mirror but even my BDD is mild compared to most on here. This is one of those "and I thought I was bad" threads." If one can moan all can moan that is the way I see it. I don't like the idea of only selective groups to be able to do something so its all moan or non noan. | |||
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"if they need the boost, so be it... once it wares off, they will still see the same reflection in the mirror. better to deal with the central issue and work to improve that." | |||
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"i was one of thoes that posted about cellulite lol not because im unhappy just wondered how to try get rid without excersise as im now fed up with excersising!! i was a size 18-20 at one point i really hated the way i looked but only i could change that and didnt want or couldnt afford surgery lol so excersise and healthy eating seemed the only way forward, now im a size 10-12 and i love the way i look im now confident and happy and that was my aim x Your last line of that is the best thing. You achieved what you wanted and should be proud x" i am so proud of myself with the out come..... thank you very much for you comment apriciate it | |||
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"I guess it's hard for people who feel a little apprehensive about how they look, try to deal with it but then they look at a lot of profiles on here of people who they fancy and like the look of, then they see that profile says stuff like "Must be size 6 with huge tits" or "Must have athletic body and be VWE"" You get that everywhere though, even more on dating sites. | |||
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"I'd say 90% of the comments I read on forum posts here prove just how many people have BDD, well either that or they're just attention seeking, which is probably the more likely option of the two. Women complaining they're fat without a roll, tyre, stretch mark, ounce of cellulite on them. I'm talking like flat stomached size 12-14's generally who go on like they're a 32. I have no confidence, I'm a 24 year old with saggy tits, who hates her fucking body and sees someone the size of a house when I look in the mirror but even my BDD is mild compared to most on here. This is one of those "and I thought I was bad" threads." Sorry but I don't agree with your two options. Bdd or attention seekers. I am neither of those. But my life is affected by the way I see myself. I have very low self confidence because of the way I look. I'm not even going to say what it is I don't like about myself as I'm not wanting to draw attention to myself. Everyone is different and just because you have been diagnosed with a condition it doesn't mean the rest of us are not genuinely distressed . | |||
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"I'd say 90% of the comments I read on forum posts here prove just how many people have BDD, well either that or they're just attention seeking, which is probably the more likely option of the two. Women complaining they're fat without a roll, tyre, stretch mark, ounce of cellulite on them. I'm talking like flat stomached size 12-14's generally who go on like they're a 32. I have no confidence, I'm a 24 year old with saggy tits, who hates her fucking body and sees someone the size of a house when I look in the mirror but even my BDD is mild compared to most on here. This is one of those "and I thought I was bad" threads. Sorry but I don't agree with your two options. Bdd or attention seekers. I am neither of those. But my life is affected by the way I see myself. I have very low self confidence because of the way I look. I'm not even going to say what it is I don't like about myself as I'm not wanting to draw attention to myself. Everyone is different and just because you have been diagnosed with a condition it doesn't mean the rest of us are not genuinely distressed . " I never said it didn't. But to me you would be one of the people that needs shaking as unless you have an incredibly hideous face there's fuck all wrong with you and probably 90% of people would say the same. You have lush nips too x | |||
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"Weird weird people, I don't like complaining about my body as I have no major hang ups, I can say I like what I look like but not in a dick way... if I really did see something wrong with it I'd try to fix it asap without bringing much attention to what I'm doing. Attention seeking is the worst! There's more than a nice body to person, your attitude, the way you walk, the way you talk, the way you act out and about, the way you think, be fun..nobody likes a moany person specially when they don't do anything about it. " | |||
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"I'd say 90% of the comments I read on forum posts here prove just how many people have BDD, well either that or they're just attention seeking, which is probably the more likely option of the two. Women complaining they're fat without a roll, tyre, stretch mark, ounce of cellulite on them. I'm talking like flat stomached size 12-14's generally who go on like they're a 32. I have no confidence, I'm a 24 year old with saggy tits, who hates her fucking body and sees someone the size of a house when I look in the mirror but even my BDD is mild compared to most on here. This is one of those "and I thought I was bad" threads. Sorry but I don't agree with your two options. Bdd or attention seekers. I am neither of those. But my life is affected by the way I see myself. I have very low self confidence because of the way I look. I'm not even going to say what it is I don't like about myself as I'm not wanting to draw attention to myself. Everyone is different and just because you have been diagnosed with a condition it doesn't mean the rest of us are not genuinely distressed . I never said it didn't. But to me you would be one of the people that needs shaking as unless you have an incredibly hideous face there's fuck all wrong with you and probably 90% of people would say the same. You have lush nips too x" There is a great saying I was taught in training recently. Don't judge other peoples struggle, until you have lived THEIR struggle you cannot understand it. | |||
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"I'd say 90% of the comments I read on forum posts here prove just how many people have BDD, well either that or they're just attention seeking, which is probably the more likely option of the two. Women complaining they're fat without a roll, tyre, stretch mark, ounce of cellulite on them. I'm talking like flat stomached size 12-14's generally who go on like they're a 32. I have no confidence, I'm a 24 year old with saggy tits, who hates her fucking body and sees someone the size of a house when I look in the mirror but even my BDD is mild compared to most on here. This is one of those "and I thought I was bad" threads. Sorry but I don't agree with your two options. Bdd or attention seekers. I am neither of those. But my life is affected by the way I see myself. I have very low self confidence because of the way I look. I'm not even going to say what it is I don't like about myself as I'm not wanting to draw attention to myself. Everyone is different and just because you have been diagnosed with a condition it doesn't mean the rest of us are not genuinely distressed . I never said it didn't. But to me you would be one of the people that needs shaking as unless you have an incredibly hideous face there's fuck all wrong with you and probably 90% of people would say the same. You have lush nips too x There is a great saying I was taught in training recently. Don't judge other peoples struggle, until you have lived THEIR struggle you cannot understand it." Could say that about most forum posts/topics then as the vast majority of them must be judgemental of something which generally turns into someone. | |||
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