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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

At one point or another we all get the feeling of being stuck in a rut and begin to feel low/suffocated.

So my question is; how do you guys go about getting back on track? Is it drastic changes like a new job/partner or something small?

Do you tackle it head on or find something else to distract you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pack up and move on .. But that's just me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I pack up and move on .. But that's just me "

That's currently my main option. Up and out

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I felt like that recently as our social life has been terrible for the last few months. It has just felt like everything has just been about work, work and more work.Oh and paying the bills.

We have had very little free time together.

Now made some small changes here and there and have been making sure that we allocate time just for ourselves.

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By *ellowmaleMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"I pack up and move on .. But that's just me "

That has tended to be my solution as well, drastic at times, not for all but has worked for me

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"At one point or another we all get the feeling of being stuck in a rut and begin to feel low/suffocated.

So my question is; how do you guys go about getting back on track? Is it drastic changes like a new job/partner or something small?

Do you tackle it head on or find something else to distract you?"

Don't know my rut just gets worse my sons cancer has just come back

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At one point or another we all get the feeling of being stuck in a rut and begin to feel low/suffocated.

So my question is; how do you guys go about getting back on track? Is it drastic changes like a new job/partner or something small?

Do you tackle it head on or find something else to distract you?

Don't know my rut just gets worse my sons cancer has just come back "

I'm sorry... that's not an easy place to be *hugs*

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"At one point or another we all get the feeling of being stuck in a rut and begin to feel low/suffocated.

So my question is; how do you guys go about getting back on track? Is it drastic changes like a new job/partner or something small?

Do you tackle it head on or find something else to distract you?

Don't know my rut just gets worse my sons cancer has just come back

I'm sorry... that's not an easy place to be *hugs*"

Thanks

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

My life is falling in round my ears at the moment. I'm trying to keep my sense of humour and deal with one thing at a time. It's all fixable but I continue to learn long hard lessons about the people I've let into my life. I'm currently withdrawing from everyone, hiding out in here with strangers to keep myself sane.

My problems aren't first world issues. They're not major to anyone else but me and they are fixable. I'm just emotional and hurt and sad and trying to fix myself without interference. Apparently withdrawing makes me self absorbed. That makes me question the people I've chosen to be friends with. This makes me sad all over again. It's a vicious circle of sadness and it makes me want to hibernate.

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"My life is falling in round my ears at the moment. I'm trying to keep my sense of humour and deal with one thing at a time. It's all fixable but I continue to learn long hard lessons about the people I've let into my life. I'm currently withdrawing from everyone, hiding out in here with strangers to keep myself sane.

My problems aren't first world issues. They're not major to anyone else but me and they are fixable. I'm just emotional and hurt and sad and trying to fix myself without interference. Apparently withdrawing makes me self absorbed. That makes me question the people I've chosen to be friends with. This makes me sad all over again. It's a vicious circle of sadness and it makes me want to hibernate.

"

You must keep your sense of humour at all times it has always helped me through some very tough times in the past. Unfortunately I see humour in most things in life but you must keep smiling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My life is falling in round my ears at the moment. I'm trying to keep my sense of humour and deal with one thing at a time. It's all fixable but I continue to learn long hard lessons about the people I've let into my life. I'm currently withdrawing from everyone, hiding out in here with strangers to keep myself sane.

My problems aren't first world issues. They're not major to anyone else but me and they are fixable. I'm just emotional and hurt and sad and trying to fix myself without interference. Apparently withdrawing makes me self absorbed. That makes me question the people I've chosen to be friends with. This makes me sad all over again. It's a vicious circle of sadness and it makes me want to hibernate.

"

Self reflection (to me) is important. just try not to overdo it. Hope things improve DG

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"At one point or another we all get the feeling of being stuck in a rut and begin to feel low/suffocated.

So my question is; how do you guys go about getting back on track? Is it drastic changes like a new job/partner or something small?

Do you tackle it head on or find something else to distract you?

Don't know my rut just gets worse my sons cancer has just come back "

Thoughts with you. I can't even begin to comprehend what you and your family are going through.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I subscribe to the the saying.

If you walk down the same path, you get to the same place.

The only change? The ruts get deeper.

Being flexible and reframing (looking at the positive outcomes) has helped me.

That and getting lost in different walks of life and making things happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My life is falling in round my ears at the moment. I'm trying to keep my sense of humour and deal with one thing at a time. It's all fixable but I continue to learn long hard lessons about the people I've let into my life. I'm currently withdrawing from everyone, hiding out in here with strangers to keep myself sane.

My problems aren't first world issues. They're not major to anyone else but me and they are fixable. I'm just emotional and hurt and sad and trying to fix myself without interference. Apparently withdrawing makes me self absorbed. That makes me question the people I've chosen to be friends with. This makes me sad all over again. It's a vicious circle of sadness and it makes me want to hibernate.

"

Someone once told me that if a "friend" doesn't bring anything positive (smiles when you're down, shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with, a rant buddy etc) then bin them. Cut ties and you'll feel lighter.

I did just that and you be surprises at how much more positive you feel.

Then when that burden goes you can concentrate on understanding your emotional needs and find a path to attain them.

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"At one point or another we all get the feeling of being stuck in a rut and begin to feel low/suffocated.

So my question is; how do you guys go about getting back on track? Is it drastic changes like a new job/partner or something small?

Do you tackle it head on or find something else to distract you?

Don't know my rut just gets worse my sons cancer has just come back

Thoughts with you. I can't even begin to comprehend what you and your family are going through."

Thanks very much xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My life is falling in round my ears at the moment. I'm trying to keep my sense of humour and deal with one thing at a time. It's all fixable but I continue to learn long hard lessons about the people I've let into my life. I'm currently withdrawing from everyone, hiding out in here with strangers to keep myself sane.

My problems aren't first world issues. They're not major to anyone else but me and they are fixable. I'm just emotional and hurt and sad and trying to fix myself without interference. Apparently withdrawing makes me self absorbed. That makes me question the people I've chosen to be friends with. This makes me sad all over again. It's a vicious circle of sadness and it makes me want to hibernate.

Someone once told me that if a "friend" doesn't bring anything positive (smiles when you're down, shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with, a rant buddy etc) then bin them. Cut ties and you'll feel lighter.

I did just that and you be surprises at how much more positive you feel.

Then when that burden goes you can concentrate on understanding your emotional needs and find a path to attain them. "

Think that can be summed up by this quote I like.....

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My life is falling in round my ears at the moment. I'm trying to keep my sense of humour and deal with one thing at a time. It's all fixable but I continue to learn long hard lessons about the people I've let into my life. I'm currently withdrawing from everyone, hiding out in here with strangers to keep myself sane.

My problems aren't first world issues. They're not major to anyone else but me and they are fixable. I'm just emotional and hurt and sad and trying to fix myself without interference. Apparently withdrawing makes me self absorbed. That makes me question the people I've chosen to be friends with. This makes me sad all over again. It's a vicious circle of sadness and it makes me want to hibernate.

Someone once told me that if a "friend" doesn't bring anything positive (smiles when you're down, shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with, a rant buddy etc) then bin them. Cut ties and you'll feel lighter.

I did just that and you be surprises at how much more positive you feel.

Then when that burden goes you can concentrate on understanding your emotional needs and find a path to attain them.

Think that can be summed up by this quote I like.....

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.

"

I agree

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Thank you. Some days I wish my heart was smaller, then it wouldn't get squished so badly. People disappoint me more often than they don't. I'll be okay. Soon. Just not today.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My life is falling in round my ears at the moment. I'm trying to keep my sense of humour and deal with one thing at a time. It's all fixable but I continue to learn long hard lessons about the people I've let into my life. I'm currently withdrawing from everyone, hiding out in here with strangers to keep myself sane.

My problems aren't first world issues. They're not major to anyone else but me and they are fixable. I'm just emotional and hurt and sad and trying to fix myself without interference. Apparently withdrawing makes me self absorbed. That makes me question the people I've chosen to be friends with. This makes me sad all over again. It's a vicious circle of sadness and it makes me want to hibernate.

Someone once told me that if a "friend" doesn't bring anything positive (smiles when you're down, shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with, a rant buddy etc) then bin them. Cut ties and you'll feel lighter.

I did just that and you be surprises at how much more positive you feel.

Then when that burden goes you can concentrate on understanding your emotional needs and find a path to attain them.

Think that can be summed up by this quote I like.....

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.

"

Well, that's far easier to say

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract


"My life is falling in round my ears at the moment. I'm trying to keep my sense of humour and deal with one thing at a time. It's all fixable but I continue to learn long hard lessons about the people I've let into my life. I'm currently withdrawing from everyone, hiding out in here with strangers to keep myself sane.

My problems aren't first world issues. They're not major to anyone else but me and they are fixable. I'm just emotional and hurt and sad and trying to fix myself without interference. Apparently withdrawing makes me self absorbed. That makes me question the people I've chosen to be friends with. This makes me sad all over again. It's a vicious circle of sadness and it makes me want to hibernate.

"
hugs to you gal i not know you but know how you feel and know where your coming from xx

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract


"Thank you. Some days I wish my heart was smaller, then it wouldn't get squished so badly. People disappoint me more often than they don't. I'll be okay. Soon. Just not today. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At one point or another we all get the feeling of being stuck in a rut and begin to feel low/suffocated.

So my question is; how do you guys go about getting back on track? Is it drastic changes like a new job/partner or something small?

Do you tackle it head on or find something else to distract you?"

I bake or clean the house it gets me motivated me in a better frame of mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit over the last 2yrs we have had more than one occasion.

We got made redundant from the military so our whole lifestyle changed. We had to make massive cuts due to a drop in wages.

So now we don't have the social life we used to have and we have had to get used to the idea of settling in one location.

So we have our moments of feeling low the best fix for this is being thankful for what we do have. Family time, no being away from home for long periods. And being able to talk face to face everyday.

It's the little things that make you happy big changes won't always work and if your feeling low often the problems will be with you no matter what. Either confront them or find a way to live with them. Life's never perfect but it's all we have it's to short to spend worrying about what we cannot control,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get PHYSICAL. You need an endorphin rush on a daily basis. Have goals. Write them down. Practise good thinking. Have a good if you're so inclined. I could go on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My life is falling in round my ears at the moment. I'm trying to keep my sense of humour and deal with one thing at a time. It's all fixable but I continue to learn long hard lessons about the people I've let into my life. I'm currently withdrawing from everyone, hiding out in here with strangers to keep myself sane.

My problems aren't first world issues. They're not major to anyone else but me and they are fixable. I'm just emotional and hurt and sad and trying to fix myself without interference. Apparently withdrawing makes me self absorbed. That makes me question the people I've chosen to be friends with. This makes me sad all over again. It's a vicious circle of sadness and it makes me want to hibernate.

"

this is exactly me. *hug*

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"At one point or another we all get the feeling of being stuck in a rut and begin to feel low/suffocated.

So my question is; how do you guys go about getting back on track? Is it drastic changes like a new job/partner or something small?

Do you tackle it head on or find something else to distract you?

I bake or clean the house it gets me motivated me in a better frame of mind."

Can you please bake me a chocolate cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PMA (positive mental attitude) in life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get PHYSICAL. You need an endorphin rush on a daily basis. Have goals. Write them down. Practise good thinking. Have a good if you're so inclined. I could go on... "

Feel free to go on. Think everyone loves a bit of positive inspiration

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"PMA (positive mental attitude) in life."

This is more for when that positive mental attitude waivers...which is entirely natural

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My life is falling in round my ears at the moment. I'm trying to keep my sense of humour and deal with one thing at a time. It's all fixable but I continue to learn long hard lessons about the people I've let into my life. I'm currently withdrawing from everyone, hiding out in here with strangers to keep myself sane.

My problems aren't first world issues. They're not major to anyone else but me and they are fixable. I'm just emotional and hurt and sad and trying to fix myself without interference. Apparently withdrawing makes me self absorbed. That makes me question the people I've chosen to be friends with. This makes me sad all over again. It's a vicious circle of sadness and it makes me want to hibernate.

Someone once told me that if a "friend" doesn't bring anything positive (smiles when you're down, shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with, a rant buddy etc) then bin them. Cut ties and you'll feel lighter.

I did just that and you be surprises at how much more positive you feel.

Then when that burden goes you can concentrate on understanding your emotional needs and find a path to attain them.

Think that can be summed up by this quote I like.....

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.

Well, that's far easier to say"

It does roll quite well

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