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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You'd think being a swinger for a while I'd be able to make', the next move', can I? Can I he'll!!!! I'm confident is so much of my life but when it comes to ... I like you , you have said you both like me.. And then stalemate!! I never make the next move!!! So now come on help me out here people- how do I make the next move after meeting a couple I really like..

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"You'd think being a swinger for a while I'd be able to make', the next move', can I? Can I he'll!!!! I'm confident is so much of my life but when it comes to ... I like you , you have said you both like me.. And then stalemate!! I never make the next move!!! So now come on help me out here people- how do I make the next move after meeting a couple I really like.. "

do you mean at the messaging stage or after meeting face to face?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Set aside a weekend that you're free - and tell them so. Put the ball firmly in their court.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You'd think being a swinger for a while I'd be able to make', the next move', can I? Can I he'll!!!! I'm confident is so much of my life but when it comes to ... I like you , you have said you both like me.. And then stalemate!! I never make the next move!!! So now come on help me out here people- how do I make the next move after meeting a couple I really like..

do you mean at the messaging stage or after

meeting face to face?"

Sorry I didn't explain myself fully, it's after a face to face meeting that went wonderfully, - had a great time buy now I'm in no- mans land...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Set aside a weekend that you're free - and tell them so. Put the ball firmly in their court.

Good luck. "

Would you do this in text or pm? It's so silly but I've never had or wanted to make the next move - but I do now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Set aside a weekend that you're free - and tell them so. Put the ball firmly in their court.

Good luck.

Would you do this in text or pm? It's so silly but I've never had or wanted to make the next move - but I do now... "

Either on MSN/chat or, if you can't get hold of them, in an email. You don't have to come across as desperate etc, just say something along the lines of, "Hey, I felt we got on really well and if are happy to take things further then so am I!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..they may be thinking you're not interested in them sexually and that would be such a tragedy if you both thought that and never took things further. At least if you make the initial move they can either accept or decline but you'll all know where you stand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Set aside a weekend that you're free - and tell them so. Put the ball firmly in their court.

Good luck.

Would you do this in text or pm? It's so silly but I've never had or wanted to make the next move - but I do now...

Either on MSN/chat or, if you can't get hold of them, in an email. You don't have to come across as desperate etc, just say something alon

g the lines of, "Hey, I felt we got on really well

and if are happy to take things further then so am

I!""

Thank you I have taken your advice xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"..they may be thinking you're not interested in them sexually and that would be such a tragedy if you both thought that and never took things further. At least if you make the initial move they can either accept or decline but you'll all know where you stand. "

I had never considered they were waiting for me- I always assumes the 'couple' would approace the single. But I have taken your advice and contacted them, at least now they know my side xx

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"..they may be thinking you're not interested in them sexually and that would be such a tragedy if you both thought that and never took things further. At least if you make the initial move they can either accept or decline but you'll all know where you stand.

I had never considered they were waiting for me- I always assumes the 'couple' would approace the single. But I have taken your advice and contacted them, at least now they know my side xx"

Good for you!

What's the worst that can happen... OK, they brush you off... but at least you know and you'll live.

However, if you got the vibe from them it is most unlikely.

The whole point of this place is to find people you want to make a sexual connection with.... it won't be a shock to them... it will more likely be a nice suprise or pleasant reassurance that they also got it right.

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