FabSwingers.com forum: First Meet!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everyone, we have our first meet tonight with a couple with have known a while, we have been for drinks with them before but never had a sexual meet as of yet. Is it normal to feel anxious and scared? What should I expect or is their anything I can do to calm me down a bit? Thanks Nancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerves are natural but as long as the conversation flows thinks will go well. Maybe a drink but not too many will help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I was thinking of having a few drinks to calm my nerves. The OH isn't nervous at all and is telling me i'm being stupid! Im very nervous thou!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just be yourself and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adrenaline is good, will give you a buzz! A bit like a first date or kiss lol.

As long as you're sure you want to do this and are doing it willingly, I'm sure once the ice is broken you'll have a wicked time!

For me the excitement / nerves is half the fun!

Take care and have a brilliant time! Hope it goes well!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you, will take on your advice and let you know how it goes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Adrenaline is good, will give you a buzz! A bit like a first date or kiss lol.

As long as you're sure you want to do this and are doing it willingly, I'm sure once the ice is broken you'll have a wicked time!

For me the excitement / nerves is half the fun!

Take care and have a brilliant time! Hope it goes well!"

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We still get very nervous.

Don't overdo do it on the drink and just be yourself.

If you've got to the stage of having a meet you're doing something right.

Good luck and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We still get very nervous.

Don't overdo do it on the drink and just be yourself.

If you've got to the stage of having a meet you're doing something right.

Good luck and enjoy

on the not over doing the drink.

Nerves most get them its part of the anticipation. Be friendly open and hope it goes well for you.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

When that nervous excitement isn't there, for me it's time to stop.

Don't drink too many for Dutch courage... nothing sexy about a pissed up meet.

And have fun! The fact that you've already met socially and are moving forward should help settle the nerves but hang onto the anticipation... it's the best feeling.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Oh. Good Luck with all! Think really its all part of the buzz and excitment! You have met before so that bit outta the way! Go with the flow! Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the nerves and the butterflies in the tummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a great time and remember, they may be feeling the same sense of anticipation and nerves as you are.

No meet will take things any faster than the least confident member wants to and full swap is something to be worked up to, not something you have to dive right into on play meet one. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I was thinking of having a few drinks to calm my nerves. The OH isn't nervous at all and is telling me i'm being stupid! Im very nervous thou!"

I know it's probably just a figure of speech but he should be supporting you and not dismissing your concerns as stupid

Nerves are natural. And to me an essential part of any meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I was thinking of having a few drinks to calm my nerves. The OH isn't nervous at all and is telling me i'm being stupid! Im very nervous thou!

I know it's probably just a figure of speech but he should be supporting you and not dismissing your concerns as stupid

Nerves are natural. And to me an essential part of any meet"

It's not stupid to be nervous. Someone said similar to me once and it pissed me right off. Pretty much everyone gets nervous. Good luck OP.

One last bit of advice- don't do anything you're not totally happy with. It's better to wish you'd done something... than regret doing something you didn't want to. x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Just relax and enjoy yourself. Don't tell them you normally bury bodies in the garden, though, as they may not see the funny side.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Yes I was thinking of having a few drinks to calm my nerves. The OH isn't nervous at all and is telling me i'm being stupid! Im very nervous thou!

I know it's probably just a figure of speech but he should be supporting you and not dismissing your concerns as stupid

Nerves are natural. And to me an essential part of any meet

It's not stupid to be nervous. Someone said similar to me once and it pissed me right off. Pretty much everyone gets nervous. Good luck OP.

One last bit of advice- don't do anything you're not totally happy with. It's better to wish you'd done something... than regret doing something you didn't want to. x"

Especially to the last paragraph.

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