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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

How are you expected to get verified if most people will only meet/talk too verified people??

I have had conversations with quite a few women and I've made it clear that I'm happy to meet for a social, in a public place without the expectation of anything further happening!!!

Running out of ideas now!!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Go to socials, go on cam on.the chat rooms,go to clubs etc

Lots of ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to an organised social meet, there are generally plenty these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials socials socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've gone off saying go to an organised social after seeing some that then limit the amount of guys that can go.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"I've gone off saying go to an organised social after seeing some that then limit the amount of guys that can go. "

That's why we changed location back in June x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I've gone off saying go to an organised social after seeing some that then limit the amount of guys that can go. "

Go to one that doesn't limit lol

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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

I've not seen any organised social meets in my area

And my phone won't allow me to can on here either. Clubs interest me but still a bit shy to just turn up to one on my own for the first time

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I've not seen any organised social meets in my area

And my phone won't allow me to can on here either. Clubs interest me but still a bit shy to just turn up to one on my own for the first time "

Have you looked at the meets and events section on the forums?

Quite a lot happen in clubs so two birds with one stone

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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Like I said though, not seen any of these social group meets in my area unfortunately

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Ah I see...this is one of those ask for advice but put barriers up to all the advice given type threads

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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Yes Evie, I check them most days. As I said with clubs, I would rather attend one with somebody I know for my first time.

All I'm asking is for a social meet in public, just a coffee or something ha ha

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Like I said though, not seen any of these social group meets in my area unfortunately "

Start your own Blackburn social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advice isn't useful if it isn't useful advice

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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

No Evie, it's one of those posts were you ask for advice dependant on your personal situation. I'm just relaying my situation to the kind people offering their advice rather than dismissing them or ignoring them.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Like I said though, not seen any of these social group meets in my area unfortunately

Start your own Blackburn social. "

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Yes Evie, I check them most days. As I said with clubs, I would rather attend one with somebody I know for my first time.

All I'm asking is for a social meet in public, just a coffee or something ha ha "

There is an organised social in Wakefield on 27th.September, that's only about an hour and half away. Depends how much effort you are willing to put in i guess

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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"Advice isn't useful if it isn't useful advice"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Advice isn't useful if it isn't useful advice"

I think my advice was reasonably useful.

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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"Like I said though, not seen any of these social group meets in my area unfortunately

Start your own Blackburn social. "
Good point, maybe when I build up more confidence I could do that. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No Evie, it's one of those posts were you ask for advice dependant on your personal situation. I'm just relaying my situation to the kind people offering their advice rather than dismissing them or ignoring them. "
there are socials going on all over the north west every week. Maybe you need to look further the the end of the street you live in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have many options now OP. Keep looking for someone who will meet men with no verifications. I've met them,they do exist. It could be a long slog for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amour in Manchester has a social on a Sunday. Chorley on a Thurs. You have to make an effort be that travel outside your own town, go to a social by yourself. Swinging won't just come to you. YOU have to make the effort or you will just turn into another whiny guy.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't give a shit about verifications. I have a mind of my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice isn't useful if it isn't useful advice

I think my advice was reasonably useful. "

Hang on. I'll have a read

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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Yes, fair point. I am willing to travel outside of my own town. Might be time to bite the bullet and attend a club...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice isn't useful if it isn't useful advice

I think my advice was reasonably useful.

Hang on. I'll have a read "

Do you think people would go to a social organised by someone who isn't verified? Good advice if it works

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Like I said though, not seen any of these social group meets in my area unfortunately

Start your own Blackburn social. Good point, maybe when I build up more confidence I could do that. Thanks. "

You don't need much confidence to type a social meet request up for a social in a pub on a Saturday night in October. Choose a pub and a time and boom. Job done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah I see...this is one of those ask for advice but put barriers up to all the advice given type threads "

That was my impression too

OP you possibly need to adapt more of a 'can do' attitude. Don't kid yourself this site is easy for single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice isn't useful if it isn't useful advice

I think my advice was reasonably useful.

Hang on. I'll have a read

Do you think people would go to a social organised by someone who isn't verified? Good advice if it works "

I don't think it would work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just looked at the meets section, several socials advertised in Preston Bolton, Blackpool and other places in the coming weeks.

Or would you prefer everyone knocking on your door with gilt edged invites?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I think some people on here come across as being very rude and not helpful at all.

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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"Sometimes I think some people on here come across as being very rude and not helpful at all. "

my thoughts exactly. Some helpful, some patronising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No Evie, it's one of those posts were you ask for advice dependant on your personal situation. I'm just relaying my situation to the kind people offering their advice rather than dismissing them or ignoring them. "

OP it does come across as if you are dismissing the advice. Might be worth considering that you are asking for advice as an unverified male and those giving it are in the main well verified and have been on the scene for some time. There are only so many ways to make swinging work as a single male. The answers on this thread are pretty standard and maybe you need to look at changing your situation to meet the suggested solutions

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Sometimes I think some people on here come across as being very rude and not helpful at all. "

And your advice has been....?

I think people have been very helpful on here to be honest. At least 3 options were given yet each one has been poopooed by the op. It certainly does seem like the.only answer he wanted is people change their minds and meet un verified people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people take time to give what they see as helpful advice, they don't like to see it thrown back at them by what could be perceived to be (emphasis on perceived) whining lazy newbie that thinks it will all be handed to them on a plate.

I have found several socials close enough for you to visit, why couldn't you have done that instead of moaning?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I think some people on here come across as being very rude and not helpful at all.

And your advice has been....?

I think people have been very helpful on here to be honest. At least 3 options were given yet each one has been poopooed by the op. It certainly does seem like the.only answer he wanted is people change their minds and meet un verified people. "

I haven't given any

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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Didn't mean to come across as moaning/whinging. Just a question. Thanks to everyone for the replies and advice, it's all taken on board. Have a good weekend.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

He also asked the same question 7 weeks ago and got similar answers.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Sometimes I think some people on here come across as being very rude and not helpful at all.

And your advice has been....?

I think people have been very helpful on here to be honest. At least 3 options were given yet each one has been poopooed by the op. It certainly does seem like the.only answer he wanted is people change their minds and meet un verified people.

I haven't given any "

I know

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Going to a club on your own is no hardship. I've found everyone is friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path! "

He hasn't said he's not keen,just that he hasn't seen any advertised. We just found him some

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'll make another suggestion then, go on cam and chat to someone and get a cam veri

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's Friday people... chill out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll make another suggestion then, go on cam and chat to someone and get a cam veri "

Omg really we , well most of us know what will be said if he does that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path!

He hasn't said he's not keen,just that he hasn't seen any advertised. We just found him some "

Use the green arrow its pretty evident a social is not his first choice. I wasn't on about you its the ones who always cum the you must follow advice brigade there is a difference between suggestions and browbeating the single male which the forums are getting a reputation for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

come along to 1 of cupids party days or nights hun and you will meet lots of sexy peeps n make new friends n they will them verify you

they are having an all day/night party today if your free x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't give a shit about verifications. I have a mind of my own. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps several people suggested the same thing as it is a quick way to get verified but then the same advice was given 7 weeks ago when th OP asked the same question.

OP don't get hung up on verifications they don't actually improve your meet prospects. Concentrate on social skills to make your messages interesting and get conversations rolling. Join in here on the forums or in chat rooms. Oh and check out some of the many socials happening in the north west, I notice from you previous thread that discretion is a must have thing for you, so nearby towns would probably suit you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path! "

He actually said there were no socials nearby when in fact there are several.

There are many people in the world that ask questions, don't like the answers so ask the questions over and over again in the hope that the answer will miraculously change for them.

The OP comes across as one of these people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path!

He actually said there were no socials nearby when in fact there are several.

There are many people in the world that ask questions, don't like the answers so ask the questions over and over again in the hope that the answer will miraculously change for them.

The OP comes across as one of these people. "

What like you come across as a bully?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path!

He actually said there were no socials nearby when in fact there are several.

There are many people in the world that ask questions, don't like the answers so ask the questions over and over again in the hope that the answer will miraculously change for them.

The OP comes across as one of these people.

What like you come across as a bully?"

Not interested in your opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path!

He actually said there were no socials nearby when in fact there are several.

There are many people in the world that ask questions, don't like the answers so ask the questions over and over again in the hope that the answer will miraculously change for them.

The OP comes across as one of these people.

What like you come across as a bully?

Not interested in your opinion"

Then why quote me in the first place you just made yourself look a fool posting that! And you still come across as a bully!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path!

He actually said there were no socials nearby when in fact there are several.

There are many people in the world that ask questions, don't like the answers so ask the questions over and over again in the hope that the answer will miraculously change for them.

The OP comes across as one of these people.

What like you come across as a bully?

Not interested in your opinion

Then why quote me in the first place you just made yourself look a fool posting that! And you still come across as a bully!"

I quoted you just you would know that I really don't give a toss about your opinion. If you have trouble with understanding that statement, that is not my problem and furthermore, I really couldn't care less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path!

He actually said there were no socials nearby when in fact there are several.

There are many people in the world that ask questions, don't like the answers so ask the questions over and over again in the hope that the answer will miraculously change for them.

The OP comes across as one of these people.

What like you come across as a bully?

Not interested in your opinion

Then why quote me in the first place you just made yourself look a fool posting that! And you still come across as a bully!

I quoted you just you would know that I really don't give a toss about your opinion. If you have trouble with understanding that statement, that is not my problem and furthermore, I really couldn't care less. "

No you don't like the truth being pointed out you like to pick on bey you dislike how you appear being pointed out which is typical of a person who bullies.

“Maybe you need to look further the the end of the street you live in.”

“Or would you prefer everyone knocking on your door with gilt edged invites?”

“why couldn't you have done that instead of moaning”

Sarcastic remarks like this are only put up by people who are trying to look big by putting others down and its pretty sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path!

He actually said there were no socials nearby when in fact there are several.

There are many people in the world that ask questions, don't like the answers so ask the questions over and over again in the hope that the answer will miraculously change for them.

The OP comes across as one of these people.

What like you come across as a bully?

Not interested in your opinion

Then why quote me in the first place you just made yourself look a fool posting that! And you still come across as a bully!"
Sadly some people think they have a right to try to belittle others.

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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path!

He actually said there were no socials nearby when in fact there are several.

There are many people in the world that ask questions, don't like the answers so ask the questions over and over again in the hope that the answer will miraculously change for them.

The OP comes across as one of these people.

What like you come across as a bully?

Not interested in your opinion

Then why quote me in the first place you just made yourself look a fool posting that! And you still come across as a bully!

I quoted you just you would know that I really don't give a toss about your opinion. If you have trouble with understanding that statement, that is not my problem and furthermore, I really couldn't care less.

No you don't like the truth being pointed out you like to pick on bey you dislike how you appear being pointed out which is typical of a person who bullies.

“Maybe you need to look further the the end of the street you live in.”

“Or would you prefer everyone knocking on your door with gilt edged invites?”

“why couldn't you have done that instead of moaning”

Sarcastic remarks like this are only put up by people who are trying to look big by putting others down and its pretty sad.

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By *rA_123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path!

He actually said there were no socials nearby when in fact there are several.

There are many people in the world that ask questions, don't like the answers so ask the questions over and over again in the hope that the answer will miraculously change for them.

The OP comes across as one of these people.

What like you come across as a bully?

Not interested in your opinion

Then why quote me in the first place you just made yourself look a fool posting that! And you still come across as a bully!

I quoted you just you would know that I really don't give a toss about your opinion. If you have trouble with understanding that statement, that is not my problem and furthermore, I really couldn't care less.

No you don't like the truth being pointed out you like to pick on bey you dislike how you appear being pointed out which is typical of a person who bullies.

“Maybe you need to look further the the end of the street you live in.”

“Or would you prefer everyone knocking on your door with gilt edged invites?”

“why couldn't you have done that instead of moaning”

Sarcastic remarks like this are only put up by people who are trying to look big by putting others down and its pretty sad.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"How are you expected to get verified if most people will only meet/talk too verified people??

I have had conversations with quite a few women and I've made it clear that I'm happy to meet for a social, in a public place without the expectation of anything further happening!!!

Running out of ideas now!!! "

Do you suggest a social meeting fairly early on in the conversation or wait a while and try to get to know the person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I wanted your opinion I would have asked for it, I didn't.

If the OP hadn't discounted everyone's advice out of hand and sprouted codswallop about there being no socials nearby when there clearly are, he may not have got the sarcastic comments that he did. It's not the first time he has asked the question and not the first time he has been given advice. Most of which has been repeated by several posters over different threads.

Everyone has the right to their own opinion, even you. But I for one am not interested in it or your opinions of me or any other member of this site.

That goes for everyone else too. There are too many diverse personalities in this world for everyone to get along and I for one ain't interested in trying.

You don't like what I have to say? Fine, I don't have a problem with that and as I have already said, I don't care either.

At this point I would normally add have a nice day, purely for sarcastic reasons but today I won't because I don't have to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy isn't keen on a social so stop trying to force him that way! People have a right to choose not do do what they are told to on here so why keep pushing the point over and over it is starting to look like another bullying thread. It only takes one person to suggest something not everyone and definitely not to go over and over down the same path!

He actually said there were no socials nearby when in fact there are several.

There are many people in the world that ask questions, don't like the answers so ask the questions over and over again in the hope that the answer will miraculously change for them.

The OP comes across as one of these people.

What like you come across as a bully?"

So a bully is someone that gives their opinion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I wanted your opinion I would have asked for it, I didn't.

If the OP hadn't discounted everyone's advice out of hand and sprouted codswallop about there being no socials nearby when there clearly are, he may not have got the sarcastic comments that he did. It's not the first time he has asked the question and not the first time he has been given advice. Most of which has been repeated by several posters over different threads.

Everyone has the right to their own opinion, even you. But I for one am not interested in it or your opinions of me or any other member of this site.

That goes for everyone else too. There are too many diverse personalities in this world for everyone to get along and I for one ain't interested in trying.

You don't like what I have to say? Fine, I don't have a problem with that and as I have already said, I don't care either.

At this point I would normally add have a nice day, purely for sarcastic reasons but today I won't because I don't have to. "

What point are you trying to prove?

I can see the guy asked for advice I can see people have given it. In all honesty reading the thread the sarcastic element hasn't helped can I ask what the reason an intention for adding it was as like others have said it doesn't convey as friendly to a relative new poster.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

To the OP....some advice was given, if you don't like that advice you don't have to take it.

If you want more intimate socials then that is up to you, not everyone can walk into a social or club on their ow....maybe get chatting to people who use socials or clubs and see if they mind you going in with them? Or use the forum and chat rooms as a way of getting yourself noticed.

Either way, welcome to the forum and good luck.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Maybe time to shut this now.

If people are going to post, can you remember that if a subject pisses you off...ie someone asking for advice, then ignore the thread and let the people who know all advice won't be taken to post instead.

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