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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

you can go first with pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards. "

You're being lucky enough to be invited to join a couple in a very intimate thing. You play by their rules or you don't play generally. Why should you be entitled to first dibs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's lack of communication... On both parts... If that's not your thing you need to tell them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some sort of discussion beforehand?

Have to say I play along the lines of guest gets the arse seduced off of him first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never happens with our guests

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm pretty flexible and easy going, but I would draw the line at the first to roll a double 6 gets to go first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Personally I am put off especially if the guy cums inside her. I understand its an intimate thing but like the topic says, it's etiquette. I turn up fresh n clean and expect the same and certainly would not expect to go down on a woman thats had cum inside her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do discuss this all the time. The last time this happened, the hubby gave me a 10 minute debrief on how she likes to be turned on with a lot of foreplay and then when we start playing, he has first go. I was just gobsmacked lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Now that's something you should mention in your pre-meet chats

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Will emphasize the next time. But for now, I've just been put off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards.

You're being lucky enough to be invited to join a couple in a very intimate thing. You play by their rules or you don't play generally. Why should you be entitled to first dibs?"

Lucky? Is that what couples really think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I am put off especially if the guy cums inside her. I understand its an intimate thing but like the topic says, it's etiquette. I turn up fresh n clean and expect the same and certainly would not expect to go down on a woman thats had cum inside her"

I would have thought couples keep the intimacy for when they are alone. Bit of an eye opener this thread

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards.

You're being lucky enough to be invited to join a couple in a very intimate thing. You play by their rules or you don't play generally. Why should you be entitled to first dibs?

Lucky? Is that what couples really think? "

Seems so.

I view it the other way round, personally.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards.

You're being lucky enough to be invited to join a couple in a very intimate thing. You play by their rules or you don't play generally. Why should you be entitled to first dibs?

Lucky? Is that what couples really think?

Seems so.

I view it the other way round, personally. "

We view it as a level playing field.

We're as lucky as they are - there's certainly no pecking order.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't consider a guy to be 'lucky' to join in, we're all in the same boat so to speak and all lucky!

As for who 'goes first' I think I misunderstood slightly, I can understand the point made now but there are ways around it without this becoming a problem.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Being the inquisitive bitch that I am.... Does one assume from your posts,that bare back is the norm for you? and is this generally ( from your experience) the norm for cuckold set ups ? Including the 'clean up after' ... Genuine question!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards.

You're being lucky enough to be invited to join a couple in a very intimate thing. You play by their rules or you don't play generally. Why should you be entitled to first dibs?

Lucky? Is that what couples really think?

Seems so.

I view it the other way round, personally.

We view it as a level playing field.

We're as lucky as they are - there's certainly no pecking order.

A"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards.

You're being lucky enough to be invited to join a couple in a very intimate thing. You play by their rules or you don't play generally. Why should you be entitled to first dibs?

Lucky? Is that what couples really think? "

Not all couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards.

You're being lucky enough to be invited to join a couple in a very intimate thing. You play by their rules or you don't play generally. Why should you be entitled to first dibs?"

Good grief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being the inquisitive bitch that I am.... Does one assume from your posts,that bare back is the norm for you? and is this generally ( from your experience) the norm for cuckold set ups ? Including the 'clean up after' ... Genuine question! "

I think what the OP is getting at is that where Hubby goes first in the Wife that he does not 'bag it and bin it' and (if the signle guy is using a condom or not) the good Lady be 'full up' and that this is the offputting factor for him.

It would also seem to be a barrier to the gentlemen performing oral on the lady as well, possibly due to the fact that the OP does not like his ladies with a 'fondant center'

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Being the inquisitive bitch that I am.... Does one assume from your posts,that bare back is the norm for you? and is this generally ( from your experience) the norm for cuckold set ups ? Including the 'clean up after' ... Genuine question!

I think what the OP is getting at is that where Hubby goes first in the Wife that he does not 'bag it and bin it' and (if the signle guy is using a condom or not) the good Lady be 'full up' and that this is the offputting factor for him.

It would also seem to be a barrier to the gentlemen performing oral on the lady as well, possibly due to the fact that the OP does not like his ladies with a 'fondant center'"

But surely this would only be an issue for someone that catered for swingers and didn't mind the husband joining in?

A

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

We aint a cuckold couple at all , anyone who joins us or who we join to have fun with, have an equal setting throughout... Like most things sexual there us gonna be levels of stuff that is acceptable for those who doing and those who wish to join n share.

Neither of us get the humiliation side of cuckhold situations, ( don't get it and not for us , but what others enjoy is up to them!) however we are led to believe that not always the case as well? So there seems to be no set rules and obvi communication is the key!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards.

You're being lucky enough to be invited to join a couple in a very intimate thing. You play by their rules or you don't play generally. Why should you be entitled to first dibs?

Lucky? Is that what couples really think?

Not all couples. "

this..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

But surely this would only be an issue for someone that catered for swingers and didn't mind the husband joining in?

A"

'Catered for swingers'? Not sure what you mean!

Is there a buffet?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"

But surely this would only be an issue for someone that catered for swingers and didn't mind the husband joining in?

A

'Catered for swingers'? Not sure what you mean!

Is there a buffet?"

I read it somewhere - can't remember exactly where?

A

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Being the inquisitive bitch that I am.... Does one assume from your posts,that bare back is the norm for you? and is this generally ( from your experience) the norm for cuckold set ups ? Including the 'clean up after' ... Genuine question!

I think what the OP is getting at is that where Hubby goes first in the Wife that he does not 'bag it and bin it' and (if the signle guy is using a condom or not) the good Lady be 'full up' and that this is the offputting factor for him.

It would also seem to be a barrier to the gentlemen performing oral on the lady as well, possibly due to the fact that the OP does not like his ladies with a 'fondant center'"
here is my confusion! When people say their interests are ' safe sex' where would fondant centers, sloppy 2nds call it what ya may, come into it?Also from what i have read many times ( please feel free to correct me!) some enjoy the clean up after!? And how the hubby/ partner told to clean up etc .... Then that isn't safe sex is it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Being the inquisitive bitch that I am.... Does one assume from your posts,that bare back is the norm for you? and is this generally ( from your experience) the norm for cuckold set ups ? Including the 'clean up after' ... Genuine question!

I think what the OP is getting at is that where Hubby goes first in the Wife that he does not 'bag it and bin it' and (if the signle guy is using a condom or not) the good Lady be 'full up' and that this is the offputting factor for him.

It would also seem to be a barrier to the gentlemen performing oral on the lady as well, possibly due to the fact that the OP does not like his ladies with a 'fondant center' here is my confusion! When people say their interests are ' safe sex' where would fondant centers, sloppy 2nds call it what ya may, come into it?Also from what i have read many times ( please feel free to correct me!) some enjoy the clean up after!? And how the hubby/ partner told to clean up etc .... Then that isn't safe sex is it? "

Nope! Neither is unprotected oral though and I would guess that if the husband had something contagious so would his wife?

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Being the inquisitive bitch that I am.... Does one assume from your posts,that bare back is the norm for you? and is this generally ( from your experience) the norm for cuckold set ups ? Including the 'clean up after' ... Genuine question!

I think what the OP is getting at is that where Hubby goes first in the Wife that he does not 'bag it and bin it' and (if the signle guy is using a condom or not) the good Lady be 'full up' and that this is the offputting factor for him.

It would also seem to be a barrier to the gentlemen performing oral on the lady as well, possibly due to the fact that the OP does not like his ladies with a 'fondant center' here is my confusion! When people say their interests are ' safe sex' where would fondant centers, sloppy 2nds call it what ya may, come into it?Also from what i have read many times ( please feel free to correct me!) some enjoy the clean up after!? And how the hubby/ partner told to clean up etc .... Then that isn't safe sex is it?

Nope! Neither is unprotected oral though and I would guess that if the husband had something contagious so would his wife?"
possibly! But for some who ibvi go the whole ten yards its not a concern!

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk


"

But surely this would only be an issue for someone that catered for swingers and didn't mind the husband joining in?

A

'Catered for swingers'? Not sure what you mean!

Is there a buffet?"

We always feed whom we play with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards. "

I've never thought about it but if we have a single guy round its only polite to let him get the first attention.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ebony in ivory, how did you extrapolate that I am a bb practitioner from that post?

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards.

I've never thought about it but if we have a single guy round its only polite to let him get the first attention. "

We have discussed this as a couple we both like lots of oral sex and kissing so we agreed I shouldn't cum inside her until towards the end of a meet or usually later.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Ebony in ivory, how did you extrapolate that I am a bb practitioner from that post? "
thats why i used a question mark in my post!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards. "

Maybe the guy wants to impress you t how quickly he can wiggle his hips.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only person to be offended by swinging couples' hubands who invite you to play with them and go first? As a couple, you do it raw and most times, you will cum inside her. I am put off by this. I reckon this is just out of order. At least offer me first then join in afterwards.

You're being lucky enough to be invited to join a couple in a very intimate thing. You play by their rules or you don't play generally. Why should you be entitled to first dibs?

Lucky? Is that what couples really think? "

Not this couple. I totally understand. It would just seem like common courtesy to us. A lot of men would be put off by it.

I don't consider just the invited man to be the only lucky one. The couple would also be lucky to have found a decent guy.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Being the inquisitive bitch that I am.... Does one assume from your posts,that bare back is the norm for you? and is this generally ( from your experience) the norm for cuckold set ups ? Including the 'clean up after' ... Genuine question!

I think what the OP is getting at is that where Hubby goes first in the Wife that he does not 'bag it and bin it' and (if the signle guy is using a condom or not) the good Lady be 'full up' and that this is the offputting factor for him.

It would also seem to be a barrier to the gentlemen performing oral on the lady as well, possibly due to the fact that the OP does not like his ladies with a 'fondant center'"

Fondant Center...... loving that expression xxx

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have had meets before along time ago with a couple and I have felt left out. The guy fucks his wife then not able to have penetrative sex with me. Luckily that hasn't happened to me in ages.

I have a special couple I adore dearly and that both treat me like a special lady and I adore them for that. I adore being with them both and it hits the spot every time. No one feels left out xx

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

This has opened my eyes too. Bloody hell, I have not much experience yet of proper swinging per se but I definitely felt like Great Aunt Gertrude reading this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ebony in ivory, how did you extrapolate that I am a bb practitioner from that post? thats why i used a question mark in my post! "

No it's safe sex...

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

I think its probably a case of finding the right couple and chatting beforehand to see how everyone likes things.i can see how it would be of putting tbh... I don't think I would like to be in that position ....I wouldn't go down on a girl if she had a fondant Centre ( what a great phrase lol).But that is just my personal opinion.

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