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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Ok I am not expecting miracle's here and most forum users will know how to conduct themselves on here, women can also answer, but after being on here for so long and maybe it is the lack of clubs etc in Scotland and therefore means single guys have no idea what it is all about.....

Does a 2 line profile serve you well?

Does a 1 line message get you the response you desire?

If not...have you changed your response/profile if and when it has been pointed out?

I'm just curious about how men conduct themselves in different parts of the UK from up here? There is a distinct lack of respect for the female counterpart (obviously just my opinion) My thoughts are because there is a lack of clubs etc, men here think we are just here to be picked up no matter what we are looking for?

I don't mean this to be an anti men thread I am genuinely interested if say the midlands etc (with their numerous clubs) show a different culture?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never sent a onliner messages nor been told if I needed to change anything on my profile.

However if it was suggested that it would be a good idea, say if my profile or approach wasn't up to par, I would then change that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something I have ever done, nor ever would. My profile is a decent length. My messages are specific and polite when I bother to contact anyone. That's speaking, as you ask about guys in the midlands. I've had plenty success as my verifications show.

But to answer the rest of your question....most guys seem to fit your pattern. They are Nobs, dreamers and no hopers. That's why so many of them are here on the forums moaning about their lack of success!

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By *a-ra-ra-boom-de-ayCouple
over a year ago

Wish it was the Algarve! Aberdeenshire

Foxy get your finger of the send button! You need to come see us at he social we are organising. I promise it will be fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you might imagine, I've got the opposite problem... my mails tend to sprawl on to epic "war and peace" proportions lol

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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Foxy get your finger of the send button! You need to come see us at he social we are organising. I promise it will be fun!"

I only pressed it once I swear!

Have you received the messages I have from guys up here? Do I want to meet them in real life? Convince me lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I sometimes give profile advice. It's almost invariably to men. They don't often take ANY advice given. They liv in all parts of the country. Especially Hove.

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By *a-ra-ra-boom-de-ayCouple
over a year ago

Wish it was the Algarve! Aberdeenshire


"Foxy get your finger of the send button! You need to come see us at he social we are organising. I promise it will be fun!

I only pressed it once I swear!

Have you received the messages I have from guys up here? Do I want to meet them in real life? Convince me lol "

We are going to be there, whats to convince, I mean come on!

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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Foxy get your finger of the send button! You need to come see us at he social we are organising. I promise it will be fun!

I only pressed it once I swear!

Have you received the messages I have from guys up here? Do I want to meet them in real life? Convince me lol

We are going to be there, whats to convince, I mean come on! "

Ok, convince me by PM as I refuse to post in the Scotland room lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I am not expecting miracle's here and most forum users will know how to conduct themselves on here, women can also answer, but after being on here for so long and maybe it is the lack of clubs etc in Scotland and therefore means single guys have no idea what it is all about.....

Does a 2 line profile serve you well?

Does a 1 line message get you the response you desire?

If not...have you changed your response/profile if and when it has been pointed out?

I'm just curious about how men conduct themselves in different parts of the UK from up here? There is a distinct lack of respect for the female counterpart (obviously just my opinion) My thoughts are because there is a lack of clubs etc, men here think we are just here to be picked up no matter what we are looking for?

I don't mean this to be an anti men thread I am genuinely interested if say the midlands etc (with their numerous clubs) show a different culture?

"

I would imagine it's the same, it just seems more acute to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you take a look at my profile, I think my answer should be quite obvious.

No, I don't think a 2 line profile text or a 1 line message is likely to get anyone very far.

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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Ok I am not expecting miracle's here and most forum users will know how to conduct themselves on here, women can also answer, but after being on here for so long and maybe it is the lack of clubs etc in Scotland and therefore means single guys have no idea what it is all about.....

Does a 2 line profile serve you well?

Does a 1 line message get you the response you desire?

If not...have you changed your response/profile if and when it has been pointed out?

I'm just curious about how men conduct themselves in different parts of the UK from up here? There is a distinct lack of respect for the female counterpart (obviously just my opinion) My thoughts are because there is a lack of clubs etc, men here think we are just here to be picked up no matter what we are looking for?

I don't mean this to be an anti men thread I am genuinely interested if say the midlands etc (with their numerous clubs) show a different culture?

I would imagine it's the same, it just seems more acute to you."

So do you agree it is a different culture where about in the country you are situated?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

*looks for "Fancy a fuck" messages and sends them randomly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get bombarded with one line messages from single guys who speak about Emily likes shes a sex toy. They get no reply.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"*looks for "Fancy a fuck" messages and sends them randomly "

Random? Really? *sigh* (deletes 47 more messages with the usual reply of 'yes, if you burn all your hats')

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"We get bombarded with one line messages from single guys who speak about Emily likes shes a sex toy. They get no reply."

Not even a 'buzz off!' ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you agree it is a different culture where about in the country you are situated? "

I'm right down south.

No, I don't think there is likely much difference although I obviousy don't know. I'm saying that it's probably just more aware to you because you are actually there. Do you think there might be a difference and if so why?

Just curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sometimes give profile advice. It's almost invariably to men. They don't often take ANY advice given. They liv in all parts of the country. Especially Hove. "

You're a Hovist aren't you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I sometimes give profile advice. It's almost invariably to men. They don't often take ANY advice given. They liv in all parts of the country. Especially Hove.

You're a Hovist aren't you "

It's cos I have half baked ideas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably not the first but......

Gizza shag!

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

I've Never sent a one line message, always read profiles and try to tailor each individual message to the profile. Someone did say once my profile was too long, so difficult to get the right balance, but i would say 2 lines in a profile is too short.

Always open to constructive criticism about my profile though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've Never sent a one line message, always read profiles and try to tailor each individual message to the profile. Someone did say once my profile was too long, so difficult to get the right balance, but i would say 2 lines in a profile is too short.

Always open to constructive criticism about my profile though.

"

It's too fucking long, dude!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would guess it doesn't matter which part of the country you are in, you would still get the type of message you, receive. Personally I always read the profile and make any message fit. Never send one line messages.

If I could turn the debate on its head....how many actually read messages sent? I often wonder if my messages are deleted without being read. Its not very often someone who I message actually views my profile. Maybe just me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know they didn't read your profile though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprisingly enough some of us manage more than two lines on a profile and read profiles before sending messages.

I'm pretty sure their must be similar guys in your neck of the woods.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know they didn't read your profile though? "

Because they didn't show up on who's looked at me. I realised after posting my previous, that my message may not have fitted their requirements, even though I have read profiles etc. Sometimes I just feel that however much effort you put into a message its just deleted out of hand. Apologies to op, not intending to take over their post!

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"How do you know they didn't read your profile though?

Because they didn't show up on who's looked at me. I realised after posting my previous, that my message may not have fitted their requirements, even though I have read profiles etc. Sometimes I just feel that however much effort you put into a message its just deleted out of hand. Apologies to op, not intending to take over their post!"

They could have looked in stealth mode, so then would not show on your "looked at me list".

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By *himaeraWoman
over a year ago

near derby.

I am in the midlands, and yes the majority of messages I get are exactly the same. It's so refreshing to see an interesting first message, and then read a good profile, that I always try to reply even if its a 'no thanks' because they don't fit what I'm looking for

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By *he TrunkMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I started chatting to a lady on here recently, she messaged saying tell me a bit more about yourself.

my reply was 4 paragraphs in total, about 14 or 15 lines of text, and she replied, sorry I haven't got time to read your essays lol!!!!

Anyone fancy a shag? I can pop round in half an hour

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"I started chatting to a lady on here recently, she messaged saying tell me a bit more about yourself.

my reply was 4 paragraphs in total, about 14 or 15 lines of text, and she replied, sorry I haven't got time to read your essays lol!!!!

Anyone fancy a shag? I can pop round in half an hour "

Sometimes you can't win whatever you do...1 line message = no good, deleted.

14 or 15 line message = too long, no good, deleted, lol.

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