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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just need some advice after a nasty message earlier.

A new member contacted me, complaining I shouldn't be on here if i wasn't meeting anyone new. I shouldn't have to explain myself but found I did. He got very abusive, in the end calling me fat old ugly, I need to go to a gym etc...

I did report him but he sent a final message saying, oh my god I see you in the shop, we live in the same village!! Then promptly delegated his account.

Do you think he really does know me and what are the chances he will tell people???

Thank you for any help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I meant deleted

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I'd not worry at all - what an idiot! Z

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I've had this a few times. It's just to try to scare you. If he really knew you, why would he not have said sooner? Try not to let it worry you x

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you


"I meant deleted "
the last msg was probably meant to wind you up,what an utter arse(not you him)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a troll. Ignore & move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm delegating responsibility to a couple of heavies to go and knock on his door, sounds about right

I reckon he's just a wind up merchant, try not to worry about it

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Yes... no... may be... yes... no... I have no idea.

But I trust you have learnt to just ignore such things early on before they get under your skin..... and leave you looking over your should for the foreseeable future.

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By *uttyjonnMan
over a year ago

SEA

Don't worry - people get very brave behind the keyboard - sounds a bit of a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meant deleted "

did he see a face pic of you ?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Nah, he was just being mean knowing you would worry.

Although if you see anyone looking at you knowingly you'll know its him and can knee him in the nads for being a complete berk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One word. Arsehole!!!

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By *ittykate84Woman
over a year ago

CHESTER

Some men can get very defensive when facing rejection!

Its very hard not to take it personally as we are still humans and have feelings but be safe in the knowledge he is probably ugly with a tiny dick which is why he has to attack you!

Even if he does live in the same village should he tell anyone he outs himself as being/been on it.. Or just say he is unhinged and crazy to people and you think he may need sectioning x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U dont need to explain to anyone why or what your doing or not doing...You've maybe knocked him back and hes pissed about it lol......try not let it bother you tho.....x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I meant deleted

did he see a face pic of you ? "

Only the bottom half I didn't have any place pics on show

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"Just need some advice after a nasty message earlier.

A new member contacted me, complaining I shouldn't be on here if i wasn't meeting anyone new. I shouldn't have to explain myself but found I did. He got very abusive, in the end calling me fat old ugly, I need to go to a gym etc...

I did report him but he sent a final message saying, oh my god I see you in the shop, we live in the same village!! Then promptly delegated his account.

Do you think he really does know me and what are the chances he will tell people???

Thank you for any help "

Hun what that person do was out of order. Going forward report, block, delete.

He doesn't know you....How could he when he never saw your face.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Did you have face pics on your account? If so, I'd maybe make them private for a while, if not, forget about it, there's probably no way he could know you. Don't ever explain yourself any further than you're comfortable with and at first sign of arsiness, block the buggers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I meant face, sorry auto text.

Thank you for the advice, I think it's best to put it out of my mind, I just worry as I work with kids and can't have my private life come out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be worth changing your location to something slightly less specific

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It might be worth changing your location to something slightly less specific"

That's a really good idea thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just need some advice after a nasty message earlier.

A new member contacted me, complaining I shouldn't be on here if i wasn't meeting anyone new. I shouldn't have to explain myself but found I did. He got very abusive, in the end calling me fat old ugly, I need to go to a gym etc...

I did report him but he sent a final message saying, oh my god I see you in the shop, we live in the same village!! Then promptly delegated his account.

Do you think he really does know me and what are the chances he will tell people???

Thank you for any help "

Who knows I would have thought he would have said he knew you if he did. We get lots of threads on here from people saying they recognise people and most are excited and intent on saying hello not saying people shouldn't be here so its more than likely he doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report at the first sign of abuse and block, keep your face pics private and don't put key personal details on your profile.

Trolls want one thing, to be in control. They set out to make you doubtful and paranoid, so the important thing is to be in control of your own matters and the situation at hand, even if it just means blocking.

Women seem to have that as a full-time job here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I did report, and he deleted his account before I could block, he had only joined today too.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

May be just to be sure, you should wear a Burka when nipping out to Londis on the High Street.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meant deleted

did he see a face pic of you ?

Only the bottom half I didn't have any place pics on show "
Well if you walk around topless in the village i wouldnt worry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you go to the shop with your boobs out (you're only public pic... Which can still be seen even though you're hidden) I wouldn't worry too much. Sounds like he was just being a twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what a sad sad little man... I suspect behind the keyboard Don Juan's like himself will be back here, with a different profile.

If he happens to live near you, he probably doesn't have the nerve to front up to you. Cowardly, trollish behavior. I doub't he would follow up on his threat xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"May be just to be sure, you should wear a Burka when nipping out to Londis on the High Street."

Lol thank you for making me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meant deleted

did he see a face pic of you ?

Only the bottom half I didn't have any place pics on show Well unless you walk around topless in the village i wouldnt worry about it"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unless you go to the shop with your boobs out (you're only public pic... Which can still be seen even though you're hidden) I wouldn't worry too much. Sounds like he was just being a twat "

I feel happy enough to un hide now, just only the 1 pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No he don't op, he is just trolling you, click on the message and click block so he cant reply more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I meant deleted

did he see a face pic of you ?

Only the bottom half I didn't have any place pics on show Well if you walk around topless in the village i wouldnt worry about it"

I'm not that brave

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No he don't op, he is just trolling you, click on the message and click block so he cant reply more."

He deleted his account straight after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meant deleted

did he see a face pic of you ?

Only the bottom half I didn't have any place pics on show Well if you walk around topless in the village i wouldnt worry about it

I'm not that brave "
you should be. Im licking my lips. You have a fine pair

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I meant deleted

did he see a face pic of you ?

Only the bottom half I didn't have any place pics on show Well if you walk around topless in the village i wouldnt worry about it

I'm not that brave you should be. Im licking my lips. You have a fine pair "

Blush... Why thank you, your a little hottie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meant deleted

did he see a face pic of you ?

Only the bottom half I didn't have any place pics on show Well if you walk around topless in the village i wouldnt worry about it

I'm not that brave you should be. Im licking my lips. You have a fine pair

Blush... Why thank you, your a little hottie "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I meant deleted

did he see a face pic of you ?

Only the bottom half I didn't have any place pics on show Well if you walk around topless in the village i wouldnt worry about it

I'm not that brave you should be. Im licking my lips. You have a fine pair

Blush... Why thank you, your a little hottie "

Hee hee

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Just need some advice after a nasty message earlier.

A new member contacted me, complaining I shouldn't be on here if i wasn't meeting anyone new. I shouldn't have to explain myself but found I did. He got very abusive, in the end calling me fat old ugly, I need to go to a gym etc...

I did report him but he sent a final message saying, oh my god I see you in the shop, we live in the same village!! Then promptly delegated his account.

Do you think he really does know me and what are the chances he will tell people???

Thank you for any help "

He's probably trawling sites to abuse women on. In the old days he would be randomly phoning women to abuse. He's a sad little misogynist who only wants to exert power over women because he's either impotent or has a tiny 'shroom.

Forget and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No he don't op, he is just trolling you, click on the message and click block so he cant reply more.

He deleted his account straight after "
Ah yes he did there, that's good he left to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just need some advice after a nasty message earlier.

A new member contacted me, complaining I shouldn't be on here if i wasn't meeting anyone new. I shouldn't have to explain myself but found I did. He got very abusive, in the end calling me fat old ugly, I need to go to a gym etc...

I did report him but he sent a final message saying, oh my god I see you in the shop, we live in the same village!! Then promptly delegated his account.

Do you think he really does know me and what are the chances he will tell people???

Thank you for any help

He's probably trawling sites to abuse women on. In the old days he would be randomly phoning women to abuse. He's a sad little misogynist who only wants to exert power over women because he's either impotent or has a tiny 'shroom.

Forget and move on."

Thank you

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By *ranthamThroatMan
over a year ago

Grantham.


"I did report, and he deleted his account before I could block, he had only joined today too. "

As you don't have face picture showing, ignore his stupidity, block new members, maybe single guys too, and choose those you wish to message, good luck

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"It might be worth changing your location to something slightly less specific

That's a really good idea thank you x"

If I can get YeOldeWitchDoc to budge over a bit, there should be room in Cloud Cuckoo Land

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