FabSwingers.com forum: Can a girl have loving with her kink?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Here's a chance to share whether you prefer just kink and kink alone, or are you open to the odd cuddle? Do you feel that the cuddle with your kink opens a different kind of intimacy that you don't want to engage? Or are you in such a space that you enjoy and don't mind the closeness x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like kinky cuddling and kissing

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm HUGE on kissing and cuddling, but not in some overly needy kind of way. Sex for me isn't about power and dominance, it's about affection and appreciation x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I never used to cuddle anyone but I'm getting better at it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like kinky cuddling and kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like kinky cuddling and kissing

xx"

xx back at ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me."

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm HUGE on kissing and cuddling, but not in some overly needy kind of way. Sex for me isn't about power and dominance, it's about affection and appreciation x"

That's a refreshing answer, thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x"

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was Lola one of the kinks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like kinky cuddling and kissing

xx"

Its all good. Love to start slow and sensual and build up to kinky

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex"

Oooooh okayyy

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex"

No Fab isn't for my kink, or softer side.

I'm not one of those women who wouldn't kiss on a meet, but neither would I feel right lying cuddled up for ages. Thats what I see my boyfriend for (he's fully aware I am on here, and happy to ok if anyone needs)

This is for some extra fun, no strings sex, and the thrill of someone new.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex"

So what's the difference between NSA and FWB, if any? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy my kinks and its always nice to share the intimacy of a kiss and a cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I explain in my profile that Im affectionate, but not a bunny boiler. I love to cuddle and kiss, like to be stroked, touched, hugged and petted and am very touchy-feely. I dont see it as anything but what it is.. intimate physical contact. I dont see it as "needy"

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

If you cannot be gentle, there is little point in you being rough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

No Fab isn't for my kink, or softer side.

This is for some extra fun, no strings sex, and the thrill of someone new."

Thank you dahling for explaining. I understand now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was Lola one of the kinks?"

I thought she went off with the dedicated follower of fashion??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

So what's the difference between NSA and FWB, if any? x"

FWBs are a bit stringier than NSA in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I explain in my profile that Im affectionate, but not a bunny boiler. I love to cuddle and kiss, like to be stroked, touched, hugged and petted and am very touchy-feely. I dont see it as anything but what it is.. intimate physical contact. I dont see it as "needy"

My point exactly. You summed that up quite nicely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm HUGE on kissing and cuddling, but not in some overly needy kind of way. Sex for me isn't about power and dominance, it's about affection and appreciation x

That's a refreshing answer, thank you x"

We're not all testosterone fuelled sex maniacs us under 40s you know

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

So what's the difference between NSA and FWB, if any? x"

For me a FWB is someone you are friends with - first and foremost, and the benefits part is just a bonus.

A FB is someone where you see them more than once or twice, but its just sex

And NSA is no strings - no promises, no guarantees of anything other than sex.

But I was actually told I have a very cold view of sex and relationships so I'm maybe not the one to ask (I have never been in love, so cannot comment if that affects anything about it, and don't seem to have the womanly crushes a lot of my friends go through - my friends call me the ice queen lol)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

So what's the difference between NSA and FWB, if any? x

FWBs are a bit stringier than NSA in my opinion

"Stringier"? What's that? x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I enjoy my kinks and its always nice to share the intimacy of a kiss and a cuddle

Mmmm Mr Kinky Fuckery

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you cannot be gentle, there is little point in you being rough. "

Wow, I love that

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

So what's the difference between NSA and FWB, if any? x

FWBs are a bit stringier than NSA in my opinion

"Stringier"? What's that? x"

I suspect it might mean comes with more strings/expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

So what's the difference between NSA and FWB, if any? x

FWBs are a bit stringier than NSA in my opinion

"Stringier"? What's that? x"
Ladybee described the differences perfectly imo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was Lola one of the kinks?

I thought she went off with the dedicated follower of fashion??"

hahaha niiiiice xXx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

So what's the difference between NSA and FWB, if any? x

FWBs are a bit stringier than NSA in my opinion

"Stringier"? What's that? x Ladybee described the differences perfectly imo"

She really did x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

So what's the difference between NSA and FWB, if any? x

FWBs are a bit stringier than NSA in my opinion

"Stringier"? What's that? x

I suspect it might mean comes with more strings/expectations.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

So what's the difference between NSA and FWB, if any? x

FWBs are a bit stringier than NSA in my opinion

"Stringier"? What's that? x

I suspect it might mean comes with more strings/expectations.

Ooooh. I see. Well I think the words FWB at times gets used without really knowing what it really stands for/means then

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

So what's the difference between NSA and FWB, if any? x

FWBs are a bit stringier than NSA in my opinion

"Stringier"? What's that? x Ladybee described the differences perfectly imo"

And mine.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Ooooh. I see. Well I think the words FWB at times gets used without really knowing what it really stands for/means then

I guess for some, different definitions make them feel better.

I have a friend who was previously on here, and every meet whether a one off or a few meets in her thoughts was a FWB - because she refused to see them as just a fuck (pardon my bluntness) even though a few of them she met very quickly. Whereas my meets are probably closer to FWB, but I keep my barriers up - I prefer repeats, but don't really let anyone very close.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I enjoy my kinks and its always nice to share the intimacy of a kiss and a cuddle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The person who shares my kinky side is also the one I share my softer, more gentle side with.

On fab, its not kink or the gentle side. Its NSA and something in a different category for me.

So ladybee are you saying that when it's NSA, then no cuddling, as in no softer side...not sure I understand x

I don't think she uses Fab for her kink either. Just NSA sex

So what's the difference between NSA and FWB, if any? x

For me a FWB is someone you are friends with - first and foremost, and the benefits part is just a bonus.

A FB is someone where you see them more than once or twice, but its just sex

And NSA is no strings - no promises, no guarantees of anything other than sex.

Ladybee, thank you for saying how it is, I appreciate that. Perhaps it's linked to certain hormones as well, our genetic make up... Also I feel, in my opinion, it's about where we are in our lives, how much baggage is being held onto or not and where you are in your own personal journey. If one is solid and grounded in your life it gives one a certain maturity/outlook x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here's a chance to share whether you prefer just kink and kink alone, or are you open to the odd cuddle? Do you feel that the cuddle with your kink opens a different kind of intimacy that you don't want to engage? Or are you in such a space that you enjoy and don't mind the closeness x"

During kinky play cuddling would bring me out of my sub headspace so wouldn't be right for me... However after a kinky session being held whilst I 'come down' from that space is a great comfort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of curiosity, what is the appeal of 'kinky' sex exactly, that's removed from affectionate sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just out of curiosity, what is the appeal of 'kinky' sex exactly, that's removed from affectionate sex?"

In my experience it isn't removed from affection. I can't unlock my kinky dude without a great deal of respect and affection for that specific person. It's displayed in a different way, i would say.

I know some people who only do kinky sex, some who only do vanilla. I seem to be greedy because i like both. Only kink would bore me as much as only vanilla can bore.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Just out of curiosity, what is the appeal of 'kinky' sex exactly, that's removed from affectionate sex?"

For me, there is no appeal. That is why my kinky and my soft side are retained for one person. You cannot appreciate one without the other in my mind. But I cannot comfortably give up my kinky side without trust, hence its not what I use fab for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just out of curiosity, what is the appeal of 'kinky' sex exactly, that's removed from affectionate sex?

In my experience it isn't removed from affection. I can't unlock my kinky dude without a great deal of respect and affection for that specific person. It's displayed in a different way, i would say.

I know some people who only do kinky sex, some who only do vanilla. I seem to be greedy because i like both. Only kink would bore me as much as only vanilla can bore. "

dude should read side. I hate this phone. Sorry.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Just out of curiosity, what is the appeal of 'kinky' sex exactly, that's removed from affectionate sex?

In my experience it isn't removed from affection. I can't unlock my kinky dude without a great deal of respect and affection for that specific person. It's displayed in a different way, i would say.

I know some people who only do kinky sex, some who only do vanilla. I seem to be greedy because i like both. Only kink would bore me as much as only vanilla can bore.

dude should read side. I hate this phone. Sorry. "

I was quite liking the mental image of a wee kinky dude...

I had him caged and bound and everything...

(I maybe have an overactive imagination at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just out of curiosity, what is the appeal of 'kinky' sex exactly, that's removed from affectionate sex?

In my experience it isn't removed from affection. I can't unlock my kinky dude without a great deal of respect and affection for that specific person. It's displayed in a different way, i would say.

I know some people who only do kinky sex, some who only do vanilla. I seem to be greedy because i like both. Only kink would bore me as much as only vanilla can bore.

dude should read side. I hate this phone. Sorry.

I was quite liking the mental image of a wee kinky dude...

I had him caged and bound and everything...

(I maybe have an overactive imagination at times

Lol! It's a good mental image and i nearly didn't correct the post because of it but......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just out of curiosity, what is the appeal of 'kinky' sex exactly, that's removed from affectionate sex?"

Not sure as for me there is still affection, it's just shown differently. There's still passion shown, just the caresses aren't as gentle... I just don't think being tied up and cuddled would have the same effect though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I enjoy my kinks and its always nice to share the intimacy of a kiss and a cuddle

Very much so..... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you cannot be gentle, there is little point in you being rough. "

Love this comment xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm HUGE on kissing and cuddling, but not in some overly needy kind of way. Sex for me isn't about power and dominance, it's about affection and appreciation x"
. Agree totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is the most intimate part of any love making and the afterglow cuddle

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

awww even the kinkiest kinkster needs a cuddle now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good sex for me involves lots of things......kissing and cuddling included

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuddles aren't for meets. Cuddles are for relationships.

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By *U1966Man
over a year ago

Devon

Enjoy the kinky but kissing and cuddling all part of the enjoyment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cuddles aren't for meets. Cuddles are for relationships. "

Lets agree to disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do whatever feels right at the time! Personally, it's kink and then cuddle for me. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Kissing is the most intimate part of any love making and the afterglow cuddle"

Love that xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just do whatever feels right at the time! Personally, it's kink and then cuddle for me. X"

Yes sir

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just do whatever feels right at the time! Personally, it's kink and then cuddle for me. X"

Yes sir

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cuddles aren't for meets. Cuddles are for relationships. "

I find that this depends where you are in your life. I haven't had a relationship so to speak for going on 8 years. Am getting kinkier and kinkier as time goes by...but happen to miss cuddles in quite a big way xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"awww even the kinkiest kinkster needs a cuddle now and then "

= xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in kissing and cuddling as part of the whole package, intimacy is one of the many eroticisms involved in kink.

I think though that it's possible to confuse intimate physicality with emotional connection which can be destructive so lines need to be established before contact begins.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I believe in kissing and cuddling as part of the whole package, intimacy is one of the many eroticisms involved in kink.

I think though that it's possible to confuse intimate physicality with emotional connection which can be destructive so lines need to be established before contact begins.

You hit the nail smack bang centre on the head. That has been my point all along is that some don't like the cuddle because it's associated with emotions. Just would appreciate someone grounded enough to give cuddles because they're not afraid...x

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Was Lola one of the kinks?"

I thought Lola was a show girl

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By *uttyjonnMan
over a year ago

SEA

"Was Lola one of the kinks?

I thought Lola was a show girl

a show girl - oh - I always thought she was a shy girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe in kissing and cuddling as part of the whole package, intimacy is one of the many eroticisms involved in kink.

I think though that it's possible to confuse intimate physicality with emotional connection which can be destructive so lines need to be established before contact begins.

Glad you agree

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Was Lola one of the kinks?

I thought Lola was a show girl

a show girl - oh - I always thought she was a shy girl

She can't be too shy shaking her stuff on a stage every night

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

For me kissing and affection is a must, it keeps the momentum going and bedsides even the best doms will stroke and caress you after a good spanking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cuddles aren't for meets. Cuddles are for relationships.

Lets agree to disagree."

Apologies.... I meant in my opinion, for me.

I don't disagree with anyone that's into cuddling. Happy for them.

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