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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've met a few guys who either don't appeal to me and nothing happens or I've not enjoyed myself. I usually verify and try to stick to the positives, especially if they don't have verifications. However, some people on fab place a lot of creedence in verification and sometimes insist on a certain amount before they'll meet. Should I not verify if the meet was unenjoyable as I don't want to give future meets a false impression. Then again its only my opinion and the next person may love the guy! Confused :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a verification not a recommendation.

You need say no more than they turned up, was punctual and presentable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What may not be your cup of tea may well be someone else's, so if you have met someone socially or play meet then a verification maybe nice, you don't have to say much just that you met and they are genuine!

As the polks have said it's not a recommendation

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"What may not be your cup of tea may well be someone else's, so if you have met someone socially or play meet then a verification maybe nice, you don't have to say much just that you met and they are genuine!

As the polks have said it's not a recommendation "

Although it shouldn't be - it can often be.

Not right, but not wrong.

However nobody is under any obligation to leave one or should feel the need to exaggerate or treat it like a job reference.

The basics are often enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i meet someone and i didn't like them i don't verify them, if we meet and i choose not to play because they aren't my type but otherwise ok i will verify them as a social meet, if i didn't want to play because they was pushy, arrogant etc i don't verify them, if we meet and they turn me down i don't verify them as i figure they wouldn't want people knowing they met me if they didn't like me

its upto who and why you do or do not verify people

my philosophy on this is if you struggle to find something good to say about a meet best to not bother than lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have partners from all over.. Verifications are not a diary.

Don't leave one if you dont want to..

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"If i meet someone and i didn't like them i don't verify them, if we meet and i choose not to play because they aren't my type but otherwise ok i will verify them as a social meet, if i didn't want to play because they was pushy, arrogant etc i don't verify them, if we meet and they turn me down i don't verify them as i figure they wouldn't want people knowing they met me if they didn't like me

its upto who and why you do or do not verify people

my philosophy on this is if you struggle to find something good to say about a meet best to not bother than lie"

I am more than happy to verify any man who is as described in his profile and with reasonable social skills - just cos I don't fancy him doesn't mean the next woman won't.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I generally verify. On occasions I don't but as others said it is sometimes just me saying I met this guy. He looks like his pics and he turned up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have always verified, as already stated, try to look for the positives, even when they are horrid. Ie they turned up! But people hide them and then other people see they have verifications and assume they must be OK. I find it unfair that the none verified people get overlooked or blocked based on the verification system, they could be amazing guys that nobody gives the opportunity.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

A verification is just a quick note to verify that the person who owns the profile it is a real genuine person nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have always verified, as already stated, try to look for the positives, even when they are horrid. Ie they turned up! But people hide them and then other people see they have verifications and assume they must be OK. I find it unfair that the none verified people get overlooked or blocked based on the verification system, they could be amazing guys that nobody gives the opportunity."

i have met a few unverified guys, never had one let me down, to be honest verifications don't mean that much to me, i had my very first no show on here the other weekend by a guy who was pretty well verified, all because someone turned up for someone else don't mean they will for you, even verified people can be time wasters

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Genuine? Its banded around all the time... I assume all men are genuine, but do understand the need for women to prove they are genuine as there is a lot of fakes. Only doubt a man if he's stunningly gorgeous and agrees with everything I'm looking for, too good to be true springs to mind lol....even then tho I give them the benefit of the doubt. No need to cut my nose off to spite my face lmao

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think I can probably count on one hand the number of verifications I've given. They make me uncomfortable and I generally take the piss if I have to give one. I don't like the indiscretion of verifications. I don't want to know who's fucked who, if anything that would put me off. I don't read them on other people's profiles and I don't need someone to be verified to meet them. I rely on my own instincts rather than other people's. I get the point of them, I just don't hold them high on my list of must haves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I can probably count on one hand the number of verifications I've given. They make me uncomfortable and I generally take the piss if I have to give one. I don't like the indiscretion of verifications. I don't want to know who's fucked who, if anything that would put me off. I don't read them on other people's profiles and I don't need someone to be verified to meet them. I rely on my own instincts rather than other people's. I get the point of them, I just don't hold them high on my list of must haves. "

This is how everyone should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a verification not a recommendation.

You need say no more than they turned up, was punctual and presentable.

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Exactly.. Its not Trip advisor. You're verifying they are who they say they are, that they are around about the age/size they say they are, and that they turn up! I.E. They are everything they say they are more or less factually, and havent missed the wooden leg/lung machine out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have better ways than veris to find out if I like someone and only do social veris now. Like DG I'm not concerned with who shagged who nor do I want my own sex life publicised. I think it's nice to have a few veris from people I really care about though. They are a nice reminder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can verify but not write anything. Guess If I got one that said not alot or nothing I could draw a conclusion that I'd been a bit crap

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I will not leave a verification if I really did not enjoy meeting someone, though I will always leave one for a newbie, that's only fair. I will always be honest, but try to be kind about them even if it was not the best meet, some are nervous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you can verify but not write anything. Guess If I got one that said not alot or nothing I could draw a conclusion that I'd been a bit crap "

i was looking at a guys profile once, he had one verification that simply said...met this guy

not sure why but i read that as they met, she didn't like, he pestered her for a veri, she didn't know what to say good about him so put that to shut him up

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I think you can verify but not write anything. Guess If I got one that said not alot or nothing I could draw a conclusion that I'd been a bit crap "

This is another reason I don't like them.

If you're vague in your verification then the person assumes they were shit. They might have been in my view, but they might not be for the next person. Only the next person sees a shit verification and they decide not to meet them after all.

I don't listen to film reviews either. What one person thinks of as rubbish might be right up my street.

A little green tick is quite sufficient if there has to be a system. Details are unnecessary.

In my opinion.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most of us are wise enough to read between the lines. A veri tells me that someone is a real person, has met someone and not too much more. I tend to skip the porno script bit, but would notice if I thought that something was clear by omission. If you also skip stating that you look forward to your next shag then it hints it was not everything you would need for bliss. Adding stuff like good communication before the meet, punctuality, cleanliness is useful. Avoiding anything about sexual performance, living up to his claims is helpful. If someone is absolutely to be avoided by anyone, even if without veris, then perhaps either dont or state the absolute minimum 'had social meet'. Maybe rod people have a special code that is like marking a cross on a door, during the black death, but that would be a little cruel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have better ways than veris to find out if I like someone and only do social veris now. Like DG I'm not concerned with who shagged who nor do I want my own sex life publicised. I think it's nice to have a few veris from people I really care about though. They are a nice reminder "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've met a few guys who either don't appeal to me and nothing happens or I've not enjoyed myself. I usually verify and try to stick to the positives, especially if they don't have verifications. However, some people on fab place a lot of creedence in verification and sometimes insist on a certain amount before they'll meet. Should I not verify if the meet was unenjoyable as I don't want to give future meets a false impression. Then again its only my opinion and the next person may love the guy! Confused :/"

Be honest if you can't be honest don't variety its your reputation in question too.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The other thing about a veri, which I'd forgotten, is that the user can show as verified, but they can hide the veri. So even if it's a guarded confirmation that they live and turn up, and nothing else is said by omission, that veri could still mean that the user is helped substantially by it being provided.

So, I'm not sure what I'd do - I'd probably offer to help give the user some advice but not give a veri.

It's important to remember that as long as we respect others, adhere to fab rules, there aren't any conditions that you have to follow, such as always giving veris etc. I've refused when I've felt uncomfortable about something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've met a few guys who either don't appeal to me and nothing happens or I've not enjoyed myself. I usually verify and try to stick to the positives, especially if they don't have verifications. However, some people on fab place a lot of creedence in verification and sometimes insist on a certain amount before they'll meet. Should I not verify if the meet was unenjoyable as I don't want to give future meets a false impression. Then again its only my opinion and the next person may love the guy! Confused :/

Be honest if you can't be honest don't variety its your reputation in question too."
If you can't be honest you can't also be nice you just don't give one.

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