FabSwingers.com forum: question?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Iv been single for some time and I recently started to think about the amount of women iv slept with in the last 4 years and the simple fact that I couldnt answer my own question made me start questioning why im the way I am?

Why do I go from girl to girl, am I completely unable to have a serious relationship, why do I not seem to want what others around me want, will I end up alone, will I one day wake up and want to settle down, am I normal, am I really happy with what I'm doing......

I can't answer any of these questions and don't expect a answer from you guys, but I am wondering if anyone else is like me? Or anyone ever stops and questions there life and if they should change things?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

100% although for me its iv wanted but can't work it out. Women is a weird creature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

same but sometimes the feeling changes.

having no children of my own is an issue , when thinking about settling..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Commitment, previous painful relationships, its fun fucking around be but three possibilities. Relationships require you not to be selfish if honest and it stops a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok. So you're asking yourself these questions, and the tone seems to indicate youve already begun to answer them yourself,but you aren't really in the mindset to accept your own conclusions....

I'm on here chasing that sweet upward spiral of sexual joy and fulfillment, but is that the spiral that you're on? Or is yours going the other way? And is this you talking? Or your desires? Or more likely, your fears?

Society drums into us expectations of what is 'normal'. Meet, marry, monogamy, family... But did you know that human beings are not hard wired for monogamy.... So you could argue that these societal imposed 'norms' are cruel and unnatural.

Just sayin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok. So you're asking yourself these questions, and the tone seems to indicate youve already begun to answer them yourself,but you aren't really in the mindset to accept your own conclusions....

Just sayin. "

Yeah I guess the fact that I'm asking myself questions indicate that I might need to change, but at the same time I don't feel particularly unhappy, Im just wondering if What I'm doing is right or maybe I need a break from it all, and even if I could stop if I wanted to. I don't want a relationship but at the same time I'm not sure I want to keep meeting girls for brief periods either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"same but sometimes the feeling changes.

having no children of my own is an issue , when thinking about settling.."

Why is having no children of your own a issue? You mean you don't want children or that most women you meet have kids?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well ethics is basically the right/wrong argument. Meta ethics takes the discussion to what is right and what is wrong. Why do we have the concepts we do? Why are you askin yourself if what you're doing is right? Does it feel wrong? Does it make you feel unhappy? Are you satisfied? If you like this lifestyle would it be a reach to find a like minded partner to share it with? Or would a partner of the same mindset create jealousy/possessiveness/insecurity?

Love the psych major

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never looking for long term but have stumbled across it x this thread has really made me think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"same but sometimes the feeling changes.

having no children of my own is an issue , when thinking about settling..

Why is having no children of your own a issue? You mean you don't want children or that most women you meet have kids?"

I'm sure I'd want kids some day I meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"same but sometimes the feeling changes.

having no children of my own is an issue , when thinking about settling..

Why is having no children of your own a issue? You mean you don't want children or that most women you meet have kids?

I'm sure I'd want kids some day I meant"
mr .....

trust me better with a puppy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well ethics is basically the right/wrong argument. Meta ethics takes the discussion to what is right and what is wrong. Why do we have the concepts we do? Why are you askin yourself if what you're doing is right? Does it feel wrong? Does it make you feel unhappy? Are you satisfied? If you like this lifestyle would it be a reach to find a like minded partner to share it with? Or would a partner of the same mindset create jealousy/possessiveness/insecurity?

Love the psych major

I don't feel unhappy, I wonder if I could be happier. I am wondering what will happen as I get older if I stay doing what I'm doing. I wonder why im different to most of society. Maybe I'm just a weird lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never looking for long term but have stumbled across it x this thread has really made me think x "

I hope that's a good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"same but sometimes the feeling changes.

having no children of my own is an issue , when thinking about settling..

Why is having no children of your own a issue? You mean you don't want children or that most women you meet have kids?

I'm sure I'd want kids some day I meant mr .....

trust me better with a puppy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never looking for long term but have stumbled across it x this thread has really made me think x

I hope that's a good thing

It's just made me realise that I have options x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me an the girls were discussing stuff like this the other night and we came to the conclusion that we are all just our own little piece of weird. So welcome to our society. It's fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Me an the girls were discussing stuff like this the other night and we came to the conclusion that we are all just our own little piece of weird. So welcome to our society. It's fun

Your right it is fun, I'm just not sure it's a long term plan for me.

Maybe I should take a break and do a 40 day and 40 night no sex rule wile I reflect on my life cause it's possible that women are just a distraction iv made.... Who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really its all about timing & chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really its all about timing & chemistry. "

Certainly is x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a man thing isn't it. To go around sowing your seed (all be it into a condom). You will probably meet the girl of your dreams soon and it will all just stop as it won't be important to you anymore.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a man thing isn't it. To go around sowing your seed (all be it into a condom). You will probably meet the girl of your dreams soon and it will all just stop as it won't be important to you anymore. "

I think it is a man thing to an extent but I have started to wonder if I have a problem or if it might do me some good to take a step back and reflect on my life and where it's going ect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carry on doing what your doing, having a laugh, until you find the right one to settle with.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv been single for some time and I recently started to think about the amount of women iv slept with in the last 4 years and the simple fact that I couldnt answer my own question made me start questioning why im the way I am?

I have the exact same situation. I tried dating a bloke a few months back and it felt all wrong I just wanted to get back on here. I believe I will meet someone but it'll just happen and they'll knock on socks off and ill be like "what's fab"

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I question everything all the time. The day I stop doing that I'll wonder what's wrong with me.

As it is, I'm afraid of commitment. Just out of a long term relationship and I have no urge to do that again. In fact, I currently can't be arsed to meet anyone, casual or otherwise so I'm wanking a lot instead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Carry on doing what your doing, having a laugh, until you find the right one to settle with.

Her"

yeah iv done this for approx 4 years and as much as I like it in one way I also think it might be time for me to do something else

I think I'm getting bored

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I question everything all the time. The day I stop doing that I'll wonder what's wrong with me.

I guess that's partly the reason I am the way I am, I did the relationship thing before and then turned into a cold bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Carry on doing what your doing, having a laugh, until you find the right one to settle with.

Her

yeah iv done this for approx 4 years and as much as I like it in one way I also think it might be time for me to do something else

I think I'm getting bored "
I see yes

happy hunting

Her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Carry on doing what your doing, having a laugh, until you find the right one to settle with.

Her

yeah iv done this for approx 4 years and as much as I like it in one way I also think it might be time for me to do something else

I think I'm getting bored I see yes

happy hunting

Her"

thanks, I think that's just it though.... No more hunting for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my sister had a boyfriend when she was young who was very generous, she was a feminist and dumped him only now she is in her sixties she regrets it because she hasn't got anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"my sister had a boyfriend when she was young who was very generous, she was a feminist and dumped him only now she is in her sixties she regrets it because she hasn't got anyone."

Thank you, that applies to me how?

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a break and find a new hobby

Life is what you make of it and if you feel like something is missing, find it! Whether that be person, activity or just a bit of time to work things out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Take a break and find a new hobby

Life is what you make of it and if you feel like something is missing, find it! Whether that be person, activity or just a bit of time to work things out.

I did this a wile ago and disappeared to south America for 8 months ended up sleeping with even more women lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take a break and find a new hobby

Life is what you make of it and if you feel like something is missing, find it! Whether that be person, activity or just a bit of time to work things out.

I did this a wile ago and disappeared to south America for 8 months ended up sleeping with even more women lol"

Woops! Chastity??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Take a break and find a new hobby

Life is what you make of it and if you feel like something is missing, find it! Whether that be person, activity or just a bit of time to work things out.

I did this a wile ago and disappeared to south America for 8 months ended up sleeping with even more women lol

Woops! Chastity??"

That could be a option yes lol

You can you look after the key for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take a break and find a new hobby

Life is what you make of it and if you feel like something is missing, find it! Whether that be person, activity or just a bit of time to work things out.

I did this a wile ago and disappeared to south America for 8 months ended up sleeping with even more women lol

Woops! Chastity??

That could be a option yes lol

You can you look after the key for me

I'll warn you first! I lose everything!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Take a break and find a new hobby

Life is what you make of it and if you feel like something is missing, find it! Whether that be person, activity or just a bit of time to work things out.

I did this a wile ago and disappeared to south America for 8 months ended up sleeping with even more women lol

Woops! Chastity??

That could be a option yes lol

You can you look after the key for me

I'll warn you first! I lose everything!

I will warn you I will probably try fucking you until it's locked up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take a break and find a new hobby

Life is what you make of it and if you feel like something is missing, find it! Whether that be person, activity or just a bit of time to work things out.

I did this a wile ago and disappeared to south America for 8 months ended up sleeping with even more women lol

Woops! Chastity??

That could be a option yes lol

You can you look after the key for me

I'll warn you first! I lose everything!

I will warn you I will probably try fucking you until it's locked up"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well the right person has not been in your life . You will know when, As you will move heaven and earth to be with that person and all this will be boring as you have been here got the T shirt same old thing its sex with no feeling sex with no ties, Sex just for fun not love .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well the right person has not been in your life . You will know when, As you will move heaven and earth to be with that person and all this will be boring as you have been here got the T shirt same old thing its sex with no feeling sex with no ties, Sex just for fun not love ."

Be honest I don't hang around long enough to find out who the person is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest I don't hang around long enough to find out who the person is. "
But when it comes you will know and you can do very little about it . Its nothing to do with hanging around after . lol It could come when shopping in Tesco or just going for a beer , lol XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a step back from fab for a while

Then re evaluate what you want out of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take a step back from fab for a while

Then re evaluate what you want out of life "
yes makes people see things clear stepping back your right .

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