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Meeting people in 'real life' who don't meet the requirements you have for meeting people on fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As we see on profiles here, sometimes people (should specify, not all people but some) have demands for how the people they meet should look e.g. Athletic body/curvy body, tattoos and piercings, penis size/breast size etc...

My question is, are those requirements you have when you meet people who aren't swingers? Like, say you met someone while out and about one day, and you go on a date then you go back home with them and are about to have sex when you see that they don't have the body you specify on the site or they don't have tattoos/piercings or they have a smaller penis/breasts than you ask for on here etc...

Do you continue to see them and it doesn't really matter? and the requirements you have on here are just to fulfill a 'fantasy' so to speak. Or are the requirements you have on here, the same requirements you have off the site too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

For some this is about getting specifically what they want.

I don't have a particular type in terms of looks or body shape but I am attracted to some personality traits. Those remain the same whether here or in real life. The difference is that here I don't have pheromones to help me and so a picture or a way of writing might put me off meeting someone that I would get on with if I met them socially outside of a Fab context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely your comparing treating someone as an object, versus treating them as a person?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't have any requirements like that on my profile, the only thing all my meets have in common is that they've been nice decent, respectful guys.

So I'd just go with the flow in real life.

Personality would win the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely your comparing treating someone as an object, versus treating them as a person?

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Lots of people do that, so it's a fair question.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

When you have the ability to choose the things you like, why wouldn't you?

I don't have a type physically... previous relationships have been with all sorts, none of whom have been similar in appearance.

I think the common denominator for me is humour and sharp wit. Intelligence is important for me. He wouldn't have to be brain of Britain but I want someone cleverer than me so I can learn stuff. Geeky. I guess if I have a type, it's that.

Someone has to light a spark for me mentally or I'm going to struggle to make a connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My requirements are the same on fab as outside. Attraction, to me, isn't about Body type alone. Messages, and the mandatory social meet first fill in the rest of the puzzle around the body type. On fab or off, if I'm not feeling it, it ain't happening.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

we aren't here to form any sort of life partnership with anyone so although we like to get along with the people we meet and would never have sex with someone we didn't have some sort of connection with we both have certain physical characteristics that we appreciate.

When we started out A said to me that I could have any type of man I wanted (obviously they would have to want me too lol) tall, short, blonde, dark, slim, ripped etc. and to an extent that's how I view it.

So for me it's like going out to eat, I enjoy all types of cuisine its just that some evenings I fancy one type more than another and most evenings I enjoy eating at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For some this is about getting specifically what they want.

I don't have a particular type in terms of looks or body shape but I am attracted to some personality traits. Those remain the same whether here or in real life. The difference is that here I don't have pheromones to help me and so a picture or a way of writing might put me off meeting someone that I would get on with if I met them socially outside of a Fab context."

People should be forced to read this post carefully when they join Fab You summed up some important truths beautifully Lickety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here I am looking for an Adonis, real life, I will go for Stavros with intelligence, caring nature, wit, humour, loyalty etc. He must have an average sized cock though and not be hung like a hamster otherwise it just ain't gonna work.

I'm just kidding, no smaller than a Degu!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On here I am looking for an Adonis, real life, I will go for Stavros with intelligence, caring nature, wit, humour, loyalty etc. He must have an average sized cock though and not be hung like a hamster otherwise it just ain't gonna work.

I'm just kidding, no smaller than a Degu!!!"

Stavros like Harry Enfield?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I cant answer for others who have tight defined specifics, but only for myself. I do know that some types of people will likely never interest me though. At the opposite end of the spectrum are types of people that do. I aim to find and meet those who fall into the latter range. There is nothing wrong if someone has a much tighter needs specification, if they are able to fulfil that and are satisfied. Meeting randomly in the flesh can mean that someone's personality is more to the fore, and so supplements them physically - more easily than via 2d web sites. If someone has lots of choice, knows what they want then leave them to it - their life and not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On here I am looking for an Adonis, real life, I will go for Stavros with intelligence, caring nature, wit, humour, loyalty etc. He must have an average sized cock though and not be hung like a hamster otherwise it just ain't gonna work.

I'm just kidding, no smaller than a Degu!!!

Stavros like Harry Enfield? "

No, like Stavros Flatley x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

As others have said, I don't have any specific type that I go for. If there is a connection, then all is good.

There are things you can find out about people by interacting with them on line that you wouldn't necessarily find out by meeting them in the flesh, and also vice versa.

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