FabSwingers.com forum: So... If a friends partner

By *rs Tooty OP Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Tries it on with you, not knowing you're into the swinging lifestyle, do you feel flattered?

Or feel insulted that they look at you as being.... 'Easy'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tries it on with you, not knowing you're into the swinging lifestyle, do you feel flattered?

Or feel insulted that they look at you as being.... 'Easy'

Had to smile at this...know exactly what you mean but I find this lifestyle has given me a newfound confidence about myself which I think guys/people notice. Nothing about looking or thinking you're easy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would feel that ~ they should know better than to try it on with their partners friend...!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Tries it on with you, not knowing you're into the swinging lifestyle, do you feel flattered?

Or feel insulted that they look at you as being.... 'Easy'

feel insulted that they would think I would betray a friend and disgust that they would sink so low as to try it themselves.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I'd feel annoyed that s/he has put me in a position to have to hide something from my friend.

Sometimes lines get blurred with people you know well or spend a lot of time with as there is an intimacy to that. I don't think it means being easy or about being flattered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be disgusted if a friends partner tried it on with me, regardless if they had knowledge of my swinging hobby.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Tries it on with you, not knowing you're into the swinging lifestyle, do you feel flattered?

Or feel insulted that they look at you as being.... 'Easy'

feel insulted that they would think I would betray a friend and disgust that they would sink so low as to try it themselves."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The lifestyle has little to do with it, because (assuming) you friend & their partner is not in the lifestyle.

Its just exactly what it looks like - your friends other half being an asshat.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Tries it on with you, not knowing you're into the swinging lifestyle, do you feel flattered?

Or feel insulted that they look at you as being.... 'Easy'

do you feel that if they knew you were into the swinging lifestyle it would make a difference?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I would feel that ~ they should know better than to try it on with their partners friend...!!"

This! I wouldn't consider whether I was flattered or insulted. I'd think my friend had picked an utter knobend and I'd tell her he made a pass at me. I'm painfully honest because I know for a fact that I'd want to know if the tables were turned.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

This has happened to me, and they were left in no uncertain terms that a friendship that stretched back more than 20 yrs was not going to be compromised for the sake of a quick shag behind ma mate's back

Thankfully he dumped her a month or so later

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I would feel that ~ they should know better than to try it on with their partners friend...!!

Not everyone does want to know though. They may "know" but choose not to know.

I am very aware of situations where this has happened and the female friend blamed the woman and not her partner.

As to feeling that one is thought of as easy then that's as much about what one thinks of oneself at the time.

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By *rs Tooty OP Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Thank you sweet x

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By *rs Tooty OP Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

To an extent mixed replies.. Been interesting to see them. He is a knob...

I think had they known I was in the lifestyle they would feel that I was 'open' to his 'cheating'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would feel that ~ they should know better than to try it on with their partners friend...!!"

I wouldn't think it made me seem 'easy'! The other person is the one with the problem, not me.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I would feel that ~ they should know better than to try it on with their partners friend...!!

Not everyone does want to know though. They may "know" but choose not to know.

I am very aware of situations where this has happened and the female friend blamed the woman and not her partner.

As to feeling that one is thought of as easy then that's as much about what one thinks of oneself at the time.

Yup... I can only speak for how I feel. I would absolutely trust my friendship.

I'm with my best mate now and I asked her what she'd want me to do in that situation. There was no hesitation when she said that she'd want me to tell her.

Then we talked about how some women wouldn't want that, both able to recall examples. Definitely not for me to bury my head.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"To an extent mixed replies.. Been interesting to see them. He is a knob...

I think had they known I was in the lifestyle they would feel that I was 'open' to his 'cheating' "

So did she know? I don't understand.

Why on earth would the fact that you're a swinger make you any more likely to have sex with any old Tom, Dick or Harry?

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By *rs Tooty OP Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"To an extent mixed replies.. Been interesting to see them. He is a knob...

I think had they known I was in the lifestyle they would feel that I was 'open' to his 'cheating'

So did she know? I don't understand.

Why on earth would the fact that you're a swinger make you any more likely to have sex with any old Tom, Dick or Harry? "

She didn't know.

It certainly comes across from people I chat to that being 'open' about sex makes you open to sleeping with married/attached people

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"To an extent mixed replies.. Been interesting to see them. He is a knob...

I think had they known I was in the lifestyle they would feel that I was 'open' to his 'cheating'

So did she know? I don't understand.

Why on earth would the fact that you're a swinger make you any more likely to have sex with any old Tom, Dick or Harry?

She didn't know.

It certainly comes across from people I chat to that being 'open' about sex makes you open to sleeping with married/attached people"

I got mixed up when you said "had they known" sorry.

I suppose some people do think that women who swing will have sex with anyone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheaters are cheaters.

It's little to do with this or any lifestyle.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I would not take interest shown as meaning someone sees me as something other than interesting. Id find it distasteful if it was from a friends partner, done secretively and my loyalty would be to my friend, not satisfying lust. Id hope others would treat me with the same respect, if I had a matching relationship. You can find sex easily but friends are worth more than their weight in gold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I suppose some people do think that women who swing will have sex with anyone...

I have seen one or two people like that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

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I suppose some people do think that women who swing will have sex with anyone...

I have seen one or two people like that.

me too swingers and non swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think others have answered this question better but I just wanted to echo what someone else said near the beginning... which is that I personally feel that since coming onto Fab and really rethinking the whole 'sex' thing... that I've become a lot more engaged and flirtatious with others. So if someone came on to me I'd probably imagine it was because I'm just giving off those signs now anyway... so they're just picking them up. I don't think that makes me 'easy', as I still reserve the right to refuse any situation I don't want to get into, but it does make me more 'open' and seemingly 'available'

I can't really comment on your situation as I don't know how you come across as a person... but I just thought I'd add this comment about myself in case it resonated with anyone else out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have, I found it a joke to be honest.

Thinking I would trash on my mate, to some a fuck is worth more than what is real.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think others have answered this question better but I just wanted to echo what someone else said near the beginning... which is that I personally feel that since coming onto Fab and really rethinking the whole 'sex' thing... that I've become a lot more engaged and flirtatious with others. So if someone came on to me I'd probably imagine it was because I'm just giving off those signs now anyway... so they're just picking them up. I don't think that makes me 'easy', as I still reserve the right to refuse any situation I don't want to get into, but it does make me more 'open' and seemingly 'available'

I can't really comment on your situation as I don't know how you come across as a person... but I just thought I'd add this comment about myself in case it resonated with anyone else out there

Fair point- it's like people who are open to having a relationship when they previously weren't. They are more friendly/ smiley and people will react to that and be more friendly in return. Whereas in the past they may have been more guarded and their body language would have shown that.

(I'm not saying that people who want a relationship are easy... or those that don't want a relationship are grumpy..!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just had a bacon baguette.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just had a bacon baguette."

Bit late for that isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just had a bacon baguette.

Bit late for that isn't it?"

NEVER!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just had a bacon baguette."
You will get heartburn

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just had a bacon baguette.You will get heartburn

Her"

Worth it!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Would never happen with any of my friends partners.( Or visa versa) We are all old school, where unwritten rules are still adhered to ... Being swingers does not make us have values and morals of a mutant sewer rat ... At all

wheather they knew of that or not

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I just had a bacon baguette."

Ketchup or HP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just had a bacon baguette.

Ketchup or HP?

TK of course.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I just had a bacon baguette.

Ketchup or HP?

TK of course. "

Wrongun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would feel angry, and sorry for my friend.

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By *rs Tooty OP Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think that a man may well look at a woman as being... 'Up for anything' if they knew she was on a site for sex..

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd feel concerned that they'd think I'd stoop so low.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Tries it on with you, not knowing you're into the swinging lifestyle, do you feel flattered?

Or feel insulted that they look at you as being.... 'Easy'

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Neither, I would be well pissed off that they would put me in such a position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tries it on with you, not knowing you're into the swinging lifestyle, do you feel flattered?

Or feel insulted that they look at you as being.... 'Easy'

Its all down to one thing.........is she fit as fuck?

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

INSULTED.....

Under the circumstances you describe,it is never a compliment..

He has no respect for you ..or for your friend..

He wouldn`t even understand that tho..God knows how many other women the sleaze bag tries it on with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"INSULTED.....

Under the circumstances you describe,it is never a compliment..

He has no respect for you ..or for your friend..

He wouldn`t even understand that tho..God knows how many other women the sleaze bag tries it on with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that a man may well look at a woman as being... 'Up for anything' if they knew she was on a site for sex.."

Many people think like that.

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