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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After a while of being on the forums you start to notice that a few people never have anything positive to say. Lately I've noticed a few that seem prone to writing comments that are almost always darkly cynical or just deeply negative. I'm sure some people have got their opinions on me and the drivel I write lol So please... let's not make this personal Also I haven't written this thread with anyone in mind so please don't get paranoid that I'm talking about you.

I just wanted to write this thread to say... if you've only been saying negative stuff or darkly cynical stuff lately... why not try changing things up and seeking out a thread you can be helpful or positive on.

Not trying to rock any boats... just trying to act as a reminder that a life lived positively is a life worth living

p.s. if you refuse to be positive I will have you lined up and shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But all the popcorn will go to waste

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if there was no balance, it would be sickly sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have nothing good to say I just skip the thread and move onto another one that intrests me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying nothing,

Me and guns don't get on,

But Women seem to like bullets,

Staying positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im positive I have tea and cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was lovely and rosey all the time it would get a tad boring, not everyone can agree to disagree! But that's just called a difference of opinion, I don't like to see personal attacks in the forums they are uncalled for, but it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now the best point the op made was ..... The drivel he comes out with !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if there was no balance, it would be sickly sweet "

And what one person finds 'negative' depending on context others may agree wholeheartedly with

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Now the best point the op made was ..... The drivel he comes out with ! "

Right that does it! I'm getting the firing squad ready

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now the best point the op made was ..... The drivel he comes out with !

Right that does it! I'm getting the firing squad ready "

For moi ?

I am innocent , I like fluffy rabbits and blue skies , golden sand and all things bright and beautiful !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if there was no balance, it would be sickly sweet

And what one person finds 'negative' depending on context others may agree wholeheartedly with "

I've gotta admit I agree with this too. I didn't feel like writing one of those "lets all be positive" threads precisely for that reason. I just thought that if you're someone who's only been posting negative stuff for a while it might be time for a change

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Now the best point the op made was ..... The drivel he comes out with !

Right that does it! I'm getting the firing squad ready

For moi ?

I am innocent , I like fluffy rabbits and blue skies , golden sand and all things bright and beautiful !"

Awww in that case I'll don my "give a stranger a hug" t-shirt and give you a lovely big hug lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if there was no balance, it would be sickly sweet

And what one person finds 'negative' depending on context others may agree wholeheartedly with

I've gotta admit I agree with this too. I didn't feel like writing one of those "lets all be positive" threads precisely for that reason. I just thought that if you're someone who's only been posting negative stuff for a while it might be time for a change "

See my last post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was hoping for Beer, What a bloody stupid thread this is

Gimped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter what forum you go on there will ALWAYS be a certain number of keyboard warriors whose soul purpose in being there is to try to put others down or piss on everybody elses bonfire in some vain attempt to big themselves up. They are the same people who wont say boo to a goose in the real world. Eventually you just learn to ignore their comments and move onto the next one because they aint worth the time it takes to read their posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now the best point the op made was ..... The drivel he comes out with !

Right that does it! I'm getting the firing squad ready

For moi ?

I am innocent , I like fluffy rabbits and blue skies , golden sand and all things bright and beautiful !

Awww in that case I'll don my "give a stranger a hug" t-shirt and give you a lovely big hug lol "

Runs away screaming ........

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Ah, it's nice to see everyone getting on so well. You bunch of bastards!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Pink and fluffy!

I just think it's nice to be nice. I don't come here for abuse or for people to be mean to me. I go to work for that!

I'm happy to give as good as I get in terms of banter, it's not easy to tell tone when reading text cause you're missing _xpressions and body language but you can be sure that I'm never intentionally mean but I am painfully honest and maybe sarcastic at times but it's never with malice. Life is simply too short.

If I think you're an arsehole, I generally just ignore you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ah, it's nice to see everyone getting on so well. You bunch of bastards! "

Oh why don't you just fuck off!

Btw.. would you like to go on a date?

.

(fingers crossed... that chat up line usually works for me)

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I should hasten to add that was my idea of a joke... please don't fuck off Ligeia... you're lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if there was no balance, it would be sickly sweet "

Yes and boring.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I can be dark, I can be cynical but I'm not sure if I have managed darkly cynical.

Must. Try. Harder.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pink and fluffy!

I just think it's nice to be nice. I don't come here for abuse or for people to be mean to me. I go to work for that!

I'm happy to give as good as I get in terms of banter, it's not easy to tell tone when reading text cause you're missing _xpressions and body language but you can be sure that I'm never intentionally mean but I am painfully honest and maybe sarcastic at times but it's never with malice. Life is simply too short.

If I think you're an arsehole, I generally just ignore you. "

There you go again... completely ignoring me... why is that?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Ah, it's nice to see everyone getting on so well. You bunch of bastards!

Oh why don't you just fuck off!

Btw.. would you like to go on a date?

.

(fingers crossed... that chat up line usually works for me)

.

I should hasten to add that was my idea of a joke... please don't fuck off Ligeia... you're lovely "

Thank you. All is forgiven. And I take back my previous negative comment! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the forum goes through highs and lows just like life. Ive noticed that one day it can be buzzing with life and positivity and the following day it's in the doldrums. Other days it just balances itself out.

I'm almost never negative on here as I have a positive outlook on life but appreciate the dark side of human nature. There's no use fighting it as if it isn't part of all of us. Better to embrace it and see if there's an opportunity to transform a negative into something more positive.

Failing that just resort to childish or toilet humour At least that's what I do...probably too frequently

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In that case... I fart in your general direction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In that case... I fart in your general direction "

I fart back to you, sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is an issue with text, as one person can write a post in a joking way, but many readers can read it as being nasty or sarcastic.

You can write negative comments, but do they have to be personal negative comments though.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

My blood type = B possitive .... And i will continue to skip along contently, and share my rainbow farts to all around me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so positive I attractive various metallic objects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is an issue with text, as one person can write a post in a joking way, but many readers can read it as being nasty or sarcastic.

You can write negative comments, but do they have to be personal negative comments though."

Agree.

If everything was sickly sweet all the time it would be boring. Differences of opinion are good. We need the the negative whining people as much as the sweetie ones, for balance.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Is this the thread where we can tell people to fuck right off and once they get there, to carry on fucking off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been away a few years I was thinking it was a lot more positive than before. Loads more fights back then, plus couple of agent provocateurs don't seem to be around anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a fine line between cynicism and realism, but often there it's more of the latter in the former than people are often comfortable in admitting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having been away a few years I was thinking it was a lot more positive than before. Loads more fights back then, plus couple of agent provocateurs don't seem to be around anymore."

I was just moaning about people who moan on here... and pointing the finger at people who point their fingers at people... and being negative about all those negative people who post negative comments about people. As for all those darkly cynical people? Myself? I'm darkly cynical about them.

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**Irony Alert - Irony Alert**

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"

There you go again... completely ignoring me... why is that? "

Did you say something interesting? Where about?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

im not posting anything on this thread ..... oh bugger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been away a few years I was thinking it was a lot more positive than before. Loads more fights back then, plus couple of agent provocateurs don't seem to be around anymore."

There was a thread bumped fairly recently that was several years old. Most of the posters were UNLOS or not ones I recognise as current forumites and it was a horrible read.

I must admit I think that the mods do a ffantastic job with keeping the heated thread's from turning into abusive ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back from the dentist it didn't hurt and everything went well,

Nice shinny healthy teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been away a few years I was thinking it was a lot more positive than before. Loads more fights back then, plus couple of agent provocateurs don't seem to be around anymore.

There was a thread bumped fairly recently that was several years old. Most of the posters were UNLOS or not ones I recognise as current forumites and it was a horrible read.

I must admit I think that the mods do a ffantastic job with keeping the heated thread's from turning into abusive ones"

Was asuming that to be the case. Some of your fights with wishy got pretty brutal. Point of my post was to say it looks a more positive place from the perspective I have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been away a few years I was thinking it was a lot more positive than before. Loads more fights back then, plus couple of agent provocateurs don't seem to be around anymore.

There was a thread bumped fairly recently that was several years old. Most of the posters were UNLOS or not ones I recognise as current forumites and it was a horrible read.

I must admit I think that the mods do a ffantastic job with keeping the heated thread's from turning into abusive ones

Was asuming that to be the case. Some of your fights with wishy got pretty brutal. Point of my post was to say it looks a more positive place from the perspective I have."

I miss Wishy. A fantastic starring partner and though we never agreed on anything someone I'd have loved to share a beer with.

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By *ilthydirtyfuckersCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

There are people on here that just want to slag profiles off or start arguments. The question is how many members is that scaring away from the forums . My guess is an awful lot . We think more could be done to clamp down on people who respond to OPs in an agressive , cyniical or un neccesarily critical manner .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way is just to ignore them,

They will get bored and move on to another site eventually

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Having been away a few years I was thinking it was a lot more positive than before. Loads more fights back then, plus couple of agent provocateurs don't seem to be around anymore.

There was a thread bumped fairly recently that was several years old. Most of the posters were UNLOS or not ones I recognise as current forumites and it was a horrible read.

I must admit I think that the mods do a ffantastic job with keeping the heated thread's from turning into abusive ones

Was asuming that to be the case. Some of your fights with wishy got pretty brutal. Point of my post was to say it looks a more positive place from the perspective I have.

I miss Wishy. A fantastic starring partner and though we never agreed on anything someone I'd have loved to share a beer with. "

Starring partner

A good mass debater.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always positive, unless I'm being negative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

probs why i don't post as much these days,, i've been around a while and spot things and yeah i o think negatively,, i really don't buy this happy happy lets be positive all the time crap.. it just aint my cup of tea.

i do have self control (hense lack of posting) but sometimes i will voice an opinion thats not in tune with others.. why should i have to fence sit. I also believe it depends on how things are written.. doesnt have to be aggressive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been away a few years I was thinking it was a lot more positive than before. Loads more fights back then, plus couple of agent provocateurs don't seem to be around anymore.

There was a thread bumped fairly recently that was several years old. Most of the posters were UNLOS or not ones I recognise as current forumites and it was a horrible read.

I must admit I think that the mods do a ffantastic job with keeping the heated thread's from turning into abusive ones

Was asuming that to be the case. Some of your fights with wishy got pretty brutal. Point of my post was to say it looks a more positive place from the perspective I have.

I miss Wishy. A fantastic starring partner and though we never agreed on anything someone I'd have loved to share a beer with. "

The man liked a scrap

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Having been away a few years I was thinking it was a lot more positive than before. Loads more fights back then, plus couple of agent provocateurs don't seem to be around anymore.

There was a thread bumped fairly recently that was several years old. Most of the posters were UNLOS or not ones I recognise as current forumites and it was a horrible read.

I must admit I think that the mods do a ffantastic job with keeping the heated thread's from turning into abusive ones

Was asuming that to be the case. Some of your fights with wishy got pretty brutal. Point of my post was to say it looks a more positive place from the perspective I have.

I miss Wishy. A fantastic starring partner and though we never agreed on anything someone I'd have loved to share a beer with.

The man liked a scrap "

And Brussels sprouts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been away a few years I was thinking it was a lot more positive than before. Loads more fights back then, plus couple of agent provocateurs don't seem to be around anymore.

There was a thread bumped fairly recently that was several years old. Most of the posters were UNLOS or not ones I recognise as current forumites and it was a horrible read.

I must admit I think that the mods do a ffantastic job with keeping the heated thread's from turning into abusive ones

Was asuming that to be the case. Some of your fights with wishy got pretty brutal. Point of my post was to say it looks a more positive place from the perspective I have.

I miss Wishy. A fantastic starring partner and though we never agreed on anything someone I'd have loved to share a beer with.

The man liked a scrap

And Brussels sprouts.

"

and pubic hair and tear drop shaped boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been away a few years I was thinking it was a lot more positive than before. Loads more fights back then, plus couple of agent provocateurs don't seem to be around anymore.

There was a thread bumped fairly recently that was several years old. Most of the posters were UNLOS or not ones I recognise as current forumites and it was a horrible read.

I must admit I think that the mods do a ffantastic job with keeping the heated thread's from turning into abusive ones

Was asuming that to be the case. Some of your fights with wishy got pretty brutal. Point of my post was to say it looks a more positive place from the perspective I have.

I miss Wishy. A fantastic starring partner and though we never agreed on anything someone I'd have loved to share a beer with.

The man liked a scrap

And Brussels sprouts.

and pubic hair and tear drop shaped boobs "

And the story of the guy that shat on his white sifa is still far and away the funniest thing I've ever read on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I miss Wishy. A fantastic starring partner and though we never agreed on anything someone I'd have loved to share a beer with.

The man liked a scrap

And Brussels sprouts.

and pubic hair and tear drop shaped boobs

And the story of the guy that shat on his white sifa is still far and away the funniest thing I've ever read on here"

omg yes! That was ace

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

probs why i don't post as much these days,, i've been around a while and spot things and yeah i o think negatively,, i really don't buy this happy happy lets be positive all the time crap.. it just aint my cup of tea.

i do have self control (hense lack of posting) but sometimes i will voice an opinion thats not in tune with others.. why should i have to fence sit. I also believe it depends on how things are written.. doesnt have to be aggressive grrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are people on here that just want to slag profiles off or start arguments. The question is how many members is that scaring away from the forums . My guess is an awful lot . We think more could be done to clamp down on people who respond to OPs in an agressive , cyniical or un neccesarily critical manner . "

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

Just because the opinions are not the same as yours it doesn't mean they are wrong or bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be good to say bad things

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I really enjoy a good argument, one that brings the best and the worst out of forumites. Its healthy and is a lot like 'people watching'.....what you see is whar you would get

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Its a great to balance out the saccharin sweet threads, life would be fucking boring if we all agreed with everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its a great to balance out the saccharin sweet threads, life would be fucking boring if we all agreed with everyone. "

I completely agree

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What? Did I say something wrong?

Oh ok then... I couldn't disagree more lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I could remember what I write. I'm worse than a goldfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think the forum should change and people shouldnt change. If people want to post negativity, and they themselves probably dont see it like that, then all well and good.

I have been posting on the forum for about 3 years, others on this forum have been posting for way longer. It was popular then and it remains so today. So obviously sonething is right isnt it.

I personally enjoy the diversity of people and we do need the balance to keep it as successful as its been in the past.

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By *ilthydirtyfuckersCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Its a great to balance out the saccharin sweet threads, life would be fucking boring if we all agreed with everyone. "

I agree, healthy debate is fine, but a lot of times it goes far beyond that, with people slagging off profiles, when a critique hasn't even been asked for by the OP. It's interesting that the biggest culprits of this type of behaviour never put themselves out there with an Orginal Posting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a great to balance out the saccharin sweet threads, life would be fucking boring if we all agreed with everyone.

I agree, healthy debate is fine, but a lot of times it goes far beyond that, with people slagging off profiles, when a critique hasn't even been asked for by the OP. It's interesting that the biggest culprits of this type of behaviour never put themselves out there with an Orginal Posting "

Unrequited critiquing is always jumped on by the mods.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I'm too busy taking the piss out of myself to be too dark or threatening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like pancakes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm too busy taking the piss out of myself to be too dark or threatening.

"

That's my job Positive attitude, will bring a positive experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like pancakes!"

In that case, I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like pancakes!

In that case, I don't"

I bet you'd like them if they were red!.....

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Its a great to balance out the saccharin sweet threads, life would be fucking boring if we all agreed with everyone.

I agree, healthy debate is fine, but a lot of times it goes far beyond that, with people slagging off profiles, when a critique hasn't even been asked for by the OP. It's interesting that the biggest culprits of this type of behaviour never put themselves out there with an Orginal Posting

Unrequited critiquing is always jumped on by the mods.

"
That doesn't mean it doesn't happen though doe it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like pancakes!

In that case, I don't

I bet you'd like them if they were red!....."

No one in their right mind would think blueberries were a suitable topping!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like pancakes!

In that case, I don't

I bet you'd like them if they were red!.....

No one in their right mind would think blueberries were a suitable topping! "

Depends if they own a Lady Thatcher teapot or not!...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like pancakes!

In that case, I don't

I bet you'd like them if they were red!.....

No one in their right mind would think blueberries were a suitable topping! "

I thought they were in the batter not plopped on top

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now the best point the op made was ..... The drivel he comes out with ! "

nah its a good point some folk are negative n narky,,its almost like their not getting any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have nothing to sigh and moan silently to myself if people stopped that

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"Now the best point the op made was ..... The drivel he comes out with !

nah its a good point some folk are negative n narky,,its almost like their not getting any "

mikki i like your posts, you always make me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now the best point the op made was ..... The drivel he comes out with !

nah its a good point some folk are negative n narky,,its almost like their not getting any

mikki i like your posts, you always make me smile "

awe ty, I mostly talk crap,tbh..m'wah,XXXXX

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