FabSwingers.com forum: Hurt through sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have had two large men, not at the same time, who have fingered me and have left me very sore. I have not been able to meet with other men for a few days until it has healed. Why do large men think it's a turn on to go at it like a bull in a China shop? It isn't a turn on. Then they lie on the bed and expect to be sucked. Well, I won't be meeting with anymore large men. Anyone else experience the same treatment?

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Being rough with their hands is not solely a trait of large men. If anyone doesn't pay attention to how you prefer to be touched then you should stop play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's just large men that over use their fingers!

But if it hurt why didn't you ask them to stop? If you were making the right noises they probably thought you were enjoying it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost a toy inside an ex gf. No physical pain for me.......not nice to see her cry through pain of getting it out!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It's easy enough to ask someone to be more gentle or to stop them and do something else.

I don't think rough behaviour is limited to any particular group of men, or even just to men. I've heard stories about women being none too gentle at times too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being rough with their hands is not solely a trait of large men. If anyone doesn't pay attention to how you prefer to be touched then you should stop play."

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

I'm sure it's not just large men just daft men. There are some women that are a bit brutal with cocks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Actually, I agree with your comments. But at the time, it wasn't hurting me not until after they had left.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have heard a few stories when women stick their teeth in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And welcome to the forums OP!

The only advice I can give you is to learn to communicate with your meets

tell them how and where you liked to be touched!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I'm sure it's not just large men just daft men. There are some women that are a bit brutal with cocks"

I have quite a narrow mouth and have to be really careful to try to avoid accidental teeth scraping. It's not at all easy with the guys who won't relax and let me do the work and insist on trying to thrust or push my head.

That's so annoying and tends to result in the cessation of the bj.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh I hate that too when men thrust their cocks in my mouth or push my head down and try to get down my throat, don't they know I could gag and die.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Some guys just get a little over excited in the heat of the moment, if you don't like what anyone is doing you should say, or maybe give them the hint that you like the gentle touch before they even start, its good to talk

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Id have been annoyed that someone could be so insistent on giving injury not pleasure. Op - is there something that is especially important about them being big. Was it hung huge, overweight, massive muscles and frame? If it was hung dick, maybe stretching and bashing is how they think, stupidly, thats how we are best prepared for tunnel slamming. If it was someone who was very heavy, was their weight and getting squashed part of the problem? Id be very wary of new meets and pre-notify them that sensitive 'handling' is essential.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You are not sussing each other out enough before meeting.

They want a porn doll that just gets banged and makes them feel animalistic and powerful and you want to be treated like flesh and blood - that can still be hard and animal like but unfortunately unless men experience things down their throat or up their arses they have no way of knowing that it really hurts if they are inexperienced.

Try listening to them... those that use crude pornlike phrases or sound like they are talking about a rug, punch bag or bread dough when talking about handling women can't be expected to have the slightest idea of what things feel like.

Mind you - the women that meet with them expecting a little bit of caressing and stroking have to take part of the blame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women can be just as bad. During a d*unken fumble with an ex she decided to use a hairbrush on me. God I regretted that the next morning.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Women can be just as bad. During a d*unken fumble with an ex she decided to use a hairbrush on me. God I regretted that the next morning."

Did it make your hair go all static? I hate it when that happens to mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women can be just as bad. During a d*unken fumble with an ex she decided to use a hairbrush on me. God I regretted that the next morning."

Are you bald then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women can be just as bad. During a d*unken fumble with an ex she decided to use a hairbrush on me. God I regretted that the next morning.

Did it make your hair go all static? I hate it when that happens to mine

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No but I did have a nice combover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clear communication from the onset and during can prevent this.

I also think guys believing what they see on porn and thinking it works.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

and avoid those with usernames like cunt-smasher etc

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've been hurt before. He never called me afterwards, or left a verification or sent me the pics he took....

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I've been hurt before. He never called me afterwards, or left a verification or sent me the pics he took....

The bastid

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have had two large men, not at the same time, who have fingered me and have left me very sore. I have not been able to meet with other men for a few days until it has healed. Why do large men think it's a turn on to go at it like a bull in a China shop? It isn't a turn on. Then they lie on the bed and expect to be sucked. Well, I won't be meeting with anymore large men. Anyone else experience the same treatment?"

do you use lube? Sometimes a little extra help can avoid soreness

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"I've been hurt before. He never called me afterwards, or left a verification or sent me the pics he took....

Men can be such beasts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its what they know but don't understandgentle is always better and slow and gentle always works for me make it eenjoyable

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The first guy that hurt me, I was lying on the bed and he laid over me to do a 69. He was large in build and his balls nearly suffocated me and I had trouble breathing until I told him to stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first guy that hurt me, I was lying on the bed and he laid over me to do a 69. He was large in build and his balls nearly suffocated me and I had trouble breathing until I told him to stop."

You should have told him at the time time a manner that would have got him to move to a more comfortable position why didn't you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and avoid those with usernames like cunt-smasher etc

That made tea actually come out of my nose!!'

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By *parkybunnyCouple
over a year ago

Zurich. NOT London.

I have stopped play because I was being hurt, I asked several times for the bloke in question to be a little more gentle, but to no avail. Play was stopped. I may have mentioned to a few men that they could do with manicures too, snaggy nails hurt!

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By *otswoldMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I have had two large men, not at the same time, who have fingered me and have left me very sore ... "

Perhaps the size of their fingernails?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"I have had two large men, not at the same time, who have fingered me and have left me very sore ...

Perhaps the size of their fingernails? "

I hope they weren't wearing boxing gloves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact these men hurt you has nothing to do with their physical size, but has to do with them being inconsiderate, inexperienced, selfish or simply didn't care

Did you tell them to stop at as they were hurting you, and if necessary stop play?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"And welcome to the forums OP!

The only advice I can give you is to learn to communicate with your meets

tell them how and where you liked to be touched! "

Big

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had smaller men be to rough

I go off the boil then!!! Gentle please!!!

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By *anglefootedMan
over a year ago

northampton

It's your body! Take control and don't be shy to ask to be touched/penetrated in a way that's good for you too. I have had guys ask before meets if I like tender sensual sex or hard animalistic sex, as generally they want you to have a good time too.

If you are bruised by hard penetration from a 'well equipped' guy my advice would be to take control in a girl-on-top position so you can control the depth more. Tell him he's a big boy and he needs to be gentle with you!

I was at a club once when a woman was surrounded by men all playing with her, one apparently got a little too vigorous or deep and she let rip with 'I'm not a fooking glove puppet!' Which made me laugh! The guy wasn't offended, so speak up!

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