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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

A fab friend has just admitted he's shown my friends only pictures to a woman living in my city!

I know it happens and it's the risk we all take but really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's so indiscreet and a betrayal of trust. Unacceptable!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

That happened to me too. When confronted, said person couldn't see what he'd done wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where's my tin of spinach? Are they fucking stupid? Who does that?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Read it once before - it is one of the biggest 'crimes' on fab in my book. Id report someone who did it, as they could cause people alot of grief. Out of order!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I can't understand the stupidity and selfishness of people who can't respect the wishes of others.

Did he want you to be involved with her or was he showing what he'd had ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very poor form.

He would no longer be friends of ours

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

I have flipped my shit at him and he told me he didn't show my face.

I know we don't have control over this but I was surprised he admitted to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's terrible what he's done, what do you feel he was trying to gain by telling you?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

It's poor form. I got very annoyed when I discovered I was pillow talk for a previous meet and his next. He also went through my friends list and messaged someone on there to say he'd played, and did she fancy a threesum with him and me without my knowledge. Raging didn't come close!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Happened to me. A local guy I sort of knew from years ago contacted me on here and was arranging a meet. That weekend I was at a bar and his best friend was there. He started making comments about my private pics. I live in a small town so once word gets about it spreads like wildfire. Fortunately the friend (who's my best mates brother) agreed to keep quiet and stop with the comments but I messaged the guy I was meant to be meeting told him he was a cunt and blocked him straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know its s risk we take but if its someone I've seen or not ,i would have a go and block .I wouldn't dream of showing anyone someone else's pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not on at all and I feel he has earned a block from you.

I've had guys send me pics of women and couples they are friends with from their private galleries before . Also non-fab pics.

I don't see it as them trusting me but betraying the trust of said "friends".

My response has always been that I should not be seeing them, since we are not friends. Also that they would probably do the same with my pics. Of course, the first thing I ask is whether the people in the pics know and are happy for me - who they don't know or "know" to be seeing them. You can imagine the baffled looks I receive *eyeroll

Results - Friend request not accepted and meet of any sort not happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he must be pretty stupid to have told you, it probably happens a lot but we just don't hear about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More worryingly there's a website that guys are using to post photos of women on, taken from here POF and FB mainly, and videos that they've made! I've looked thru it and seen pics from here on it hence we have hidden most and made private even more of ours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone I had a social meet with showed me private pictures of someone on his friends list. Told him he really shouldn't be doing that and he just laughed and shrugged. He was deleted as soon as I got home.

Another man I'd met 18 months ago under different profiles discussed our meet with someone else fairly recently. I was furious to say the least so he got a message with a piece of my mind and has now joined my exclusive blocked list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is really out of order. I don't understand the mentality of someone doing that. He must have known you would be annoyed. I would block him.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's another version of bragging down the pub any bloke with an ounce of respect or discretion wouldn't do it. I find myself saying this more often lately but what is wrong with people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmmm..,,not good form at all.

did he say why he did it, not that it makes it acceptable but at least you might see where he was coming from?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Bad form

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have punched him in the throat. It's one of my pet hates....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More worryingly there's a website that guys are using to post photos of women on, taken from here POF and FB mainly, and videos that they've made! I've looked thru it and seen pics from here on it hence we have hidden most and made private even more of ours"

fuck this sccares me slightly

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"A fab friend has just admitted he's shown my friends only pictures to a woman living in my city!

I know it happens and it's the risk we all take but really?"

so wrong, would definitely feel a little betrayed and angry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fab friend has just admitted he's shown my friends only pictures to a woman living in my city!

I know it happens and it's the risk we all take but really?"

Block him

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London.

What an utter shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's another version of bragging down the pub any bloke with an ounce of respect or discretion wouldn't do it. I find myself saying this more often lately but what is wrong with people! "

its what men do, always have always will.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale


"It's another version of bragging down the pub any bloke with an ounce of respect or discretion wouldn't do it. I find myself saying this more often lately but what is wrong with people!

its what men do, always have always will. "

some not all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's another version of bragging down the pub any bloke with an ounce of respect or discretion wouldn't do it. I find myself saying this more often lately but what is wrong with people!

its what men do, always have always will. "

As always you forgot the important word. It's what "SOME" men do.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Agreed. Any kind of sharing of personal information or photos is an act of trust in the person with whom you're sharing. Betraying that trust is utterly crappy.


"its what men do, always have always will. "

WTF?!...

Some, perhaps, but by no means all or even most... when are we going to get beyond this kind of man-bashing around here?... why must every conversation be lowered by such misandry?.. it's almost as crappy.

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"Agreed. Any kind of sharing of personal information or photos is an act of trust in the person with whom you're sharing. Betraying that trust is utterly crappy.

its what men do, always have always will.

WTF?!...

Some, perhaps, but by no means all or even most... when are we going to get beyond this kind of man-bashing around here?... why must every conversation be lowered by such misandry?.. it's almost as crappy."

We talked and resolved the issue.

Kop, I dislike misandry as much as I dislike misogyny and I bet that holds true for most of the regular posters here, men and women. My men friends here are a cracking bunch, some of whom are friends outside of this malarky.

In fact, it took swinging for me to have men friends for the first time in my life and I love them all!

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

What a charming Gentleman

I was messaged at the weekend by a couple who I had never met or spoken to in any way but we have a mutual friend outside of Fab. In this message he said 'oh the Mrs thought that you are Nicky ****' and used my full name

To say that I wasn't happy about this is a massive understatement.

Why do people think that it is acceptable to pass on others personal details, pictures or what happens in the bedroom

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I had the same happen to me not too long ago. I was furious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think people realise that this isn't facebook,twitter, or instagram where picture sharing is the norm

Ive had this happen a while back,the guy told me him and his mate are looking at my pics,hes not on fab but would I like to meet him?

Fuck off wankstain....block!

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"Agreed. Any kind of sharing of personal information or photos is an act of trust in the person with whom you're sharing. Betraying that trust is utterly crappy.

its what men do, always have always will.

WTF?!...

Some, perhaps, but by no means all or even most... when are we going to get beyond this kind of man-bashing around here?... why must every conversation be lowered by such misandry?.. it's almost as crappy.

We talked and resolved the issue.

Kop, I dislike misandry as much as I dislike misogyny and I bet that holds true for most of the regular posters here, men and women. My men friends here are a cracking bunch, some of whom are friends outside of this malarky.

In fact, it took swinging for me to have men friends for the first time in my life and I love them all!"

I hope you didn't think I was taking issue with your OP - I don't think for a moment that you're a misandrist and you were quite right to have been upset by someone sharing your photos. I'd be very upset too.

What irked me was another's suggestion that, as a man, it's what I do and will always will do - a sweeping, reductive sexist statement if ever there was one. It just depresses me that seemingly every conversation here has at least one post expressing that sort of sexism and that it still seems to be accepted as a self-evident truth by so many.

I understand very well that your're more enlightened than that and I'm sorry if I gave the impression it was your view too... and I'm glad you've resolved things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I thought anyone was showing my private fist pics to others I would block immediately and the wrath of fisticlese would be upon them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you share things with people you hardly know then be prepared for them to be shared again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I will never have face pix on my friends pix.

Anyone can download friends pix..

I regularly cull the few on there.

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

Kop! Don't fret, I was agreeing with you over the 'all men do that' comment. All men don't do that as we 'all' well know.

See what I did there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried replying privately but can't, I'll tell you the name if you pm us, it's full of photos and videos tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you share things with people you hardly know then be prepared for them to be shared again"

Frankly, when sharing pics with anyone on this site, no matter how frugally its done, you're essentially pouring your 'trust'into someone you don't actually know. Seems a bit odd to do that, IMHO. I accept that people I hadn't intended will find out I'm on this site, I simply mitigate the risk as much as I can and accept that risk for the reality that it is. The truth is, meet or not, noone on this site who isn't a genuine friend or family owes you anything beyond common courtesy. Some would argue that sharing your pics violates that bit the truth is that the concept of common courtesy is subjective and means different things to different people.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I can imagine a few of us doing reverse image searches on pics now, to see that they havent been posted on other sites. Best form is to only share some pics with 'friends' imo and to possibly degrade the quality of the pics youre using, so that they have diminished interest for others.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"If you share things with people you hardly know then be prepared for them to be shared again

Frankly, when sharing pics with anyone on this site, no matter how frugally its done, you're essentially pouring your 'trust'into someone you don't actually know. Seems a bit odd to do that, IMHO. I accept that people I hadn't intended will find out I'm on this site, I simply mitigate the risk as much as I can and accept that risk for the reality that it is. The truth is, meet or not, noone on this site who isn't a genuine friend or family owes you anything beyond common courtesy. Some would argue that sharing your pics violates that bit the truth is that the concept of common courtesy is subjective and means different things to different people. "

Assessing the risk, mitigating against it and making it clear that it isn't acceptable when someone breaches your trust is about all I think you can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fab friend has just admitted he's shown my friends only pictures to a woman living in my city!

I know it happens and it's the risk we all take but really?"

It is the risk you take but only a sad twat is disrespectful of betrays trust in my book.

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