FabSwingers.com forum: Am i wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was chatting to a girl for few weeks she had athletic on her profile but no pics we exchanged number so we could arrange a meet then she sent me a pic and she was a bbw

Told her that's not what I'm looking for and she has a go saying I'm shallow!

Any thoughts on this?

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

Welcome to the world of fab! Luckily not all are like that tho so don't lose faith!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She may have been a shot putter?

Thats athletic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

True lol

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By *rs TootyWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I personally think she has a cheek having a go at you.

There are so many different types on this site that had she been honest with her profile you wouldn't have interacted with her.

As for being shallow we all like different people and types.

She obviously has an issue with herself and her weight, by misleading people she is leaving herself open to rejection and possible hurt

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Was chatting to a girl for few weeks she had athletic on her profile but no pics we exchanged number so we could arrange a meet then she sent me a pic and she was a bbw

Told her that's not what I'm looking for and she has a go saying I'm shallow!

Any thoughts on this? "

You were misled and had every right to say she was not what you are looking for. As long as you were polite in your response I don't see a problem. It would be like me having no pictures and claiming to be 25 then saying someone was shallow once they had seen that I'm clearly not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She may have been a shot putter?

Thats athletic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was just said ur not what I'm looking for,then she went into one slating me was bit pissed off as chatting for a fair while

Like u say everyone has deferent types they go for there prob loads of guy that like that each to there own

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I was just said ur not what I'm looking for,then she went into one slating me was bit pissed off as chatting for a fair while

Like u say everyone has deferent types they go for there prob loads of guy that like that each to there own "

it's wrong to be abusive to someone who has politely turned you down and she shouldn't have done it. I don't buy this shallow thing anyway, of course we're shallow we are here to meet people for sex not to form life partnerships...well most of us anyway.

If this was reversed and a man had done it to a woman there would have been all sorts of people saying it was his loss etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, she should not of put athletic on her profile.

No different if I said I am a size 8 when I am a 14, little bit of deception going on there.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't swap numbers with a view to meeting someone if no pics were exchanged first but she was wrong to go off on one like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens the other way round so why not? You were correct to point it out of you did it in a non arsey way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bring a single guy it's lot harder to find meets so u have to sometimes do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She was defo in the wrong for being abusive and deceptive.Having a preference doesnt make yiu shallow. May be an idea for you to put on your profile that you dont wish to meet larger ladies as it would save them wasting your time and their own by contacting you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least you where honest with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was chatting to a girl for few weeks she had athletic on her profile but no pics we exchanged number so we could arrange a meet then she sent me a pic and she was a bbw

Told her that's not what I'm looking for and she has a go saying I'm shallow!

Any thoughts on this? "

Then again....loads of guys put straight on their profiles but have sex with transvestites

People should just be honest and upfront

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Even if she was athletic if, when you saw a photo, you weren't attracted to her, you'd still be quite within your rights to change your mind about meeting.

Heck, you don't actually need any reason to change your mind.

I'd insist on seeing photos before exchanging numbers, personally.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Was chatting to a girl for few weeks she had athletic on her profile but no pics we exchanged number so we could arrange a meet then she sent me a pic and she was a bbw

Told her that's not what I'm looking for and she has a go saying I'm shallow!

Any thoughts on this?

Then again....loads of guys put straight on their profiles but have sex with transvestites

People should just be honest and upfront

Plenty of guys put athletic or average when there photos say different too. I think that's more delusion than dishonesty though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally wouldn't be bothered if a woman put athlete and when we meet she was a bbw, its just a shag in the end its not like u gonna get married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was chatting to a girl for few weeks she had athletic on her profile but no pics we exchanged number so we could arrange a meet then she sent me a pic and she was a bbw

Told her that's not what I'm looking for and she has a go saying I'm shallow!

Any thoughts on this?

Then again....loads of guys put straight on their profiles but have sex with transvestites

People should just be honest and upfront

Plenty of guys put athletic or average when there photos say different too. I think that's more delusion than dishonesty though! "

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

There photos?

WTF?

Did I type that?

NURSE!!!

THEIR photos.

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Oh dear, so it's not just those terrible single guys who tell porkies?

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

she was wrong to mislead you she obviously thought you would get to like her then spring it on you very wrong of her

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

For me, swinging is about honesty. I'd be pretty miffed if someone said they were something and turned out not to be!

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By *bacusMan
over a year ago

Walton on Thames

Aww! Does this mean I should stop telling women I have 2 cocks?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There photos?

WTF?

Did I type that?

NURSE!!!

THEIR photos.

Unforgivable - you're fired

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

I had exactly the same experience a month or so ago, described herself as 'athletic' but the pictures she eventually sent were of a very large woman. I don't know what she expected but I told she has to be honest with herself as well as other people, she did not reply after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why we insist on pics early on, if your not attracted to the person it's better to deal with it early on.

On the lying part she was well out of order, there are lots and lots of BBW admirers so hiding it is going to make it hard for her to have a meet where she feels comfortable and not fair on the men in question

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"I had exactly the same experience a month or so ago, described herself as 'athletic' but the pictures she eventually sent were of a very large woman. I don't know what she expected but I told she has to be honest with herself as well as other people, she did not reply after that. "

maybe she was sitting down too long chatting to you and put weight on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys do this all the time too. They even have public pics of their bellies yet list themselves as Athletic. Body dismorphia seems to be on the rise...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the perfect thread for saying... wait for it........... I got a 6pack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is the perfect thread for saying... wait for it........... I got a 6pack

Ive got a 12 pack in the fridge....£7.99 in Home Bargains

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"Was chatting to a girl for few weeks she had athletic on her profile but no pics we exchanged number so we could arrange a meet then she sent me a pic and she was a bbw

Told her that's not what I'm looking for and she has a go saying I'm shallow!

Any thoughts on this? "

She was wrong and should have been upfront. However I love a BBW so send her my way mate lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

One of the first and most difficult lessons we learned when we started swinging was never to go too far with messaging before seeing a photo. Some people have fragile self esteem and will read all sorts into a no thank you once they've sent a photo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is the perfect thread for saying... wait for it........... I got a 6pack

Ive got a 12 pack in the fridge....£7.99 in Home Bargains

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lol nice, the party is at urs tonight during the celeb bb launch show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same happened to me, said she was athletic and was built like a Russian shot putter,

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"This is the perfect thread for saying... wait for it........... I got a 6pack

Ive got a 12 pack in the fridge....£7.99 in Home Bargains

lol nice, the party is at urs tonight during the celeb bb launch show

long as you have haribo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is the perfect thread for saying... wait for it........... I got a 6pack

Ive got a 12 pack in the fridge....£7.99 in Home Bargains

lol nice, the party is at urs tonight during the celeb bb launch show

long as you have haribo

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Yes I got the haribo supply here, for all

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