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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondered as it never happens! Well, to me anyways!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do,its nice to find what you want instead of waiting for it to come to you

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Yes, I have and I do. I find it a good way to actually contact people who I think I'd like to spend time with, rather than being reactive.

But then, my whole life I try to be proactive to bring about what I like and want in it.

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By *uppy ConquerorMan
over a year ago

dundee

Think they do, but only at 3am on a Sunday morning. It normally goes something like this "Shag now?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So at least there are some nice ladies like yourselves out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

funnily enough if iget any messages from a lady first im very wary! id think its fake or deffo up to summat lol dunno why!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea I do as I'd rather go looking for what I want than wait for it to land in my lap and I get delete and no reply too just like you guys

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By *preadMyWingsWoman
over a year ago

London

I do but only to my special ones here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do but only to my special ones here "

That's still a nice thing though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"funnily enough if iget any messages from a lady first im very wary! id think its fake or deffo up to summat lol dunno why! "

Ive had that impression from some of the guys ive messaged,they behave so cynically I give up bothering and move on to someone else

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"funnily enough if iget any messages from a lady first im very wary! id think its fake or deffo up to summat lol dunno why!

Ive had that impression from some of the guys ive messaged,they behave so cynically I give up bothering and move on to someone else "

That is a tricky one! If the girl has professional pics done too even if genuine still a part of you thinks fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to. Got deleted no repjy, so I dont anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep always message first.. no good sitting around waiting for it to come to me it's never gonna happen

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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

I did this evening. I've done it a few times to be fair, and the results are pleasing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just delete them if I do.

Two can play that little game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never message first but have winked on the odd occasion but that is few and far between... Has to be something that really stands out for me to do that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"funnily enough if iget any messages from a lady first im very wary! id think its fake or deffo up to summat lol dunno why!

Ive had that impression from some of the guys ive messaged,they behave so cynically I give up bothering and move on to someone else

That is a tricky one! If the girl has professional pics done too even if genuine still a part of you thinks fake "

You do what you feel comfortable with,if you think fake then don't respond

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who deletes you ladies in here, are they mental men??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do sometimes if I really like what I see or they grab my interest on forums or in chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

iswaiting patiently for first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"funnily enough if iget any messages from a lady first im very wary! id think its fake or deffo up to summat lol dunno why!

Ive had that impression from some of the guys ive messaged,they behave so cynically I give up bothering and move on to someone else "
never give up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never message first but have winked on the odd occasion but that is few and far between... Has to be something that really stands out for me to do that... "

Sent you a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope never. Not that confident! I did sent a couple of winks on my last profile which amounted to nothing, but that's it I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope never. Not that confident! I did sent a couple of winks on my last profile which amounted to nothing, but that's it I'm afraid."

Nice legs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope never. Not that confident! I did sent a couple of winks on my last profile which amounted to nothing, but that's it I'm afraid.

Nice legs. "

thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope never. Not that confident! I did sent a couple of winks on my last profile which amounted to nothing, but that's it I'm afraid.

Nice legs.

thanks! "

And a very well written profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope never. Not that confident! I did sent a couple of winks on my last profile which amounted to nothing, but that's it I'm afraid.

Nice legs.

thanks!

And a very well written profile. "

lol thanks X 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope never. Not that confident! I did sent a couple of winks on my last profile which amounted to nothing, but that's it I'm afraid.

Nice legs.

thanks!

And a very well written profile.

lol thanks X 2 "

The profile covers everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message & Wink guys 1st all the time. in fact the best meets I've had were with guys I messaged 1st......

I don't however make the 1st mice when I'm in a club, I'll happily have an MMF in a public room with an audience, but I'm weirdly shy when it comes to asking a guy to play....go figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope never. Not that confident! I did sent a couple of winks on my last profile which amounted to nothing, but that's it I'm afraid.

Nice legs.

thanks! "

Had to have a perv lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope never. Not that confident! I did sent a couple of winks on my last profile which amounted to nothing, but that's it I'm afraid.

Nice legs.

thanks!

And a very well written profile.

lol thanks X 2 "

Can't message you. I am 365 days too old lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I lack confidence and wouldn't want messages laughed at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do as I am the one usually online not S he just pops in now and again.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

not hardly ever get one from a lady .. only quite a strange exchange once

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I can confirm that some ladies do..,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I do When I'm looking for new blood or if someone takes my fancy. I don't sit here waiting to be contacted and then whine that no suitable guys ever message me. ...Life is too short

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

dont think anyone would consider me as new blood .. or new anything lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly all my friends messaged me first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send "outs" so all mine are "ins" it does happen!

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By *U1966Man
over a year ago

Devon


"I don't send "outs" so all mine are "ins" it does happen!"

Likewise always wait till i am contacted more than happy with results

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never receive pm's. Just never get them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I do When I'm looking for new blood or if someone takes my fancy. I don't sit here waiting to be contacted and then whine that no suitable guys ever message me. ...Life is too short "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do - much easier than waiting for the type of guys you want to meet to find you. It's a nightmare though, so many male profiles to look through.... Wish fab had better search filters like other sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been messaged first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few new good ones on here in my area but too young for me

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I do sometimes, but often get enough messages not to need to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do,its nice to find what you want instead of waiting for it to come to you "

this

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

So thats what I'm doing wrong!! I shall commence searching and start messaging immediately!!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

When I was looking I used to do it all the time and most of my meets were people that Id messaged first.

As the others have said Id much rather look for what I want rather than sit around waiting to see what Im offered.

And yes, messages would be deleted, ignored and turned down just the same as everyone else.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I rarely meet anyone who messages me. I know what I like so I generally poke the ones who interest me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I rarely meet anyone who messages me. I know what I like so I generally poke the ones who interest me. "

You do have a long profile, I hope I can meet some criteria x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do but, unsure if I'm classed as a lady!

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

I'm wondering how to start my messages...is 'fancy a fuck' acceptable??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm wondering how to start my messages...is 'fancy a fuck' acceptable?? "

Oh yersss

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

I daren't risk getting blocked haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I daren't risk getting blocked haha "

Don't get blocked, just take it to my private vault xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do - much easier than waiting for the type of guys you want to meet to find you. It's a nightmare though, so many male profiles to look through.... Wish fab had better search filters like other sites "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has winked or looked at me loada then I will message them, or if they have an interesting fourm post

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I have had a couple of meets with ladies who have pm'd me on the back of a forum post. This is a good thing as I don't send preemptive messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had a message off a woman or couple. Its always been me first. However i do have a few stalkers who look at me regularly, but due to their privacy settings i cant acknowledge them with the 1 or 2 i may be interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get lots

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