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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

her child are part of what makes her who she is after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it wouldn't bother me

I may assume she was in a relationship yes.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

No, it wouldn't put me off at all.

That said, I have a child of my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, yes and yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X"

No it wouldn't put me off,

But I would like to have children myself so she would have to want more,

And I probable would assume she had a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never put Mr S off and i had 3 terrible teenagers

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By *eesidechrisMan
over a year ago

stockton

It wouldn't put me off but I would be nervous about approaching her in case she had a boyfriend

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X

No it wouldn't put me off,

But I would like to have children myself so she would have to want more,

And I probable would assume she had a partner "

That's a good point. I Definitely don't want more. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X"
in some of my experience it puts guys off! They don't always say right away. They always know what to say to make themselves look good. Or get a shag!

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X in some of my experience it puts guys off! They don't always say right away. They always know what to say to make themselves look good. Or get a shag!"

Haha I'm well clued up with bullshitters now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No and yes.

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By *ravelling repMan
over a year ago

in a hotel near you

Im the other way round im a single dad so people assume im in a relationship !

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I guess the only thing that would phase me is when you introduced each other to your respective nippers.

I reckon I'd probably have more in common with a woman who had children anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not really...but I'd like her to have one with me...if we got that serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X in some of my experience it puts guys off! They don't always say right away. They always know what to say to make themselves look good. Or get a shag!

Haha I'm well clued up with bullshitters now "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im the other way round im a single dad so people assume im in a relationship ! "
hats off to the single dads! It's fucking hard work isn't it!

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"I guess the only thing that would phase me is when you introduced each other to your respective nippers.

I reckon I'd probably have more in common with a woman who had children anyway. "

Going off topic slightly that's a mighty fine pair of thighs you've got there

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I guess the only thing that would phase me is when you introduced each other to your respective nippers.

I reckon I'd probably have more in common with a woman who had children anyway.

Going off topic slightly that's a mighty fine pair of thighs you've got there "

Thankyou

I grew 'em myself...

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"not really...but I'd like her to have one with me...if we got that serious"

That's another thing I suppose. A guy around the same age with no kids will maybe want one whereas I'm done and def 100% don't want another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing that might put me off is if she is having issues with the father that would cause problems with the relationship

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"I guess the only thing that would phase me is when you introduced each other to your respective nippers.

I reckon I'd probably have more in common with a woman who had children anyway.

Going off topic slightly that's a mighty fine pair of thighs you've got there

Thankyou

I grew 'em myself..."

Ah home grown are always the best. Maybe I'll just have one more perv..errrr I mean look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing that might put me off is if she is having issues with the father that would cause problems with the relationship "
that puts me off with guys and their ex girlfriend or wives too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing that might put me off is if she is having issues with the father that would cause problems with the relationship "

Surely if you like the lady and think enough of your relationship then you'd support her with any issues with the child's father.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a 5 year relationship with a woman with a kid he now calls me dad and I feel proud to call him my son,we had a boy of our own 2 and I take them both when I see them, when anybody asks me if I have kids I delay say I've got 2!

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

To be honest.... I wouldn't get involved with a guy who had kids..

Been there, done that... never again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im the other way round im a single dad so people assume im in a relationship ! hats off to the single dads! It's fucking hard work isn't it! "

What's hard work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not really...but I'd like her to have one with me...if we got that serious

That's another thing I suppose. A guy around the same age with no kids will maybe want one whereas I'm done and def 100% don't want another "

think how beautiful theyd look...

taking after me though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im the other way round im a single dad so people assume im in a relationship ! hats off to the single dads! It's fucking hard work isn't it!

What's hard work?"
being a single parent is hard work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest.... I wouldn't get involved with a guy who had kids..

Been there, done that... never again!"
I don't think I would either

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I guess the only thing that would phase me is when you introduced each other to your respective nippers.

I reckon I'd probably have more in common with a woman who had children anyway.

Going off topic slightly that's a mighty fine pair of thighs you've got there

Thankyou

I grew 'em myself...

Ah home grown are always the best. Maybe I'll just have one more perv..errrr I mean look "

Thats what photos are for!

I'm rather a fan of your bum, myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X in some of my experience it puts guys off! They don't always say right away. They always know what to say to make themselves look good. Or get a shag!"

I know what you mean,me personally I always talk about my kids they are the best thing that could happen to anybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a 5 year relationship with a woman with a kid he now calls me dad and I feel proud to call him my son,we had a boy of our own 2 and I take them both when I see them, when anybody asks me if I have kids I delay say I've got 2! "

Not delay lol meant to say always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing that might put me off is if she is having issues with the father that would cause problems with the relationship

Surely if you like the lady and think enough of your relationship then you'd support her with any issues with the child's father."

That's why I said it might put me off,

How much I/we liked each other and the type of situation with the ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X in some of my experience it puts guys off! They don't always say right away. They always know what to say to make themselves look good. Or get a shag!

I know what you mean,me personally I always talk about my kids they are the best thing that could happen to anybody "
don't get me wrong there are some great guys out there who would be more than happy to get involved (like you) I personally wouldn't want mine to call anyone else dad though.

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"I guess the only thing that would phase me is when you introduced each other to your respective nippers.

I reckon I'd probably have more in common with a woman who had children anyway.

Going off topic slightly that's a mighty fine pair of thighs you've got there

Thankyou

I grew 'em myself...

Ah home grown are always the best. Maybe I'll just have one more perv..errrr I mean look

Thats what photos are for!

I'm rather a fan of your bum, myself..."

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X in some of my experience it puts guys off! They don't always say right away. They always know what to say to make themselves look good. Or get a shag!

I know what you mean,me personally I always talk about my kids they are the best thing that could happen to anybody don't get me wrong there are some great guys out there who would be more than happy to get involved (like you) I personally wouldn't want mine to call anyone else dad though. "

I wouldn't want mine to call anyone else 'mum' either, to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X in some of my experience it puts guys off! They don't always say right away. They always know what to say to make themselves look good. Or get a shag!

I know what you mean,me personally I always talk about my kids they are the best thing that could happen to anybody don't get me wrong there are some great guys out there who would be more than happy to get involved (like you) I personally wouldn't want mine to call anyone else dad though. "

To be fair his real dad is not interested if he was he wouldn't see me as his dad tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id actually be drawn to a man who had a child as he can relate to the struggles i have.. even if it all started out as friends it could be just fun days at the park etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X in some of my experience it puts guys off! They don't always say right away. They always know what to say to make themselves look good. Or get a shag!

I know what you mean,me personally I always talk about my kids they are the best thing that could happen to anybody don't get me wrong there are some great guys out there who would be more than happy to get involved (like you) I personally wouldn't want mine to call anyone else dad though.

I wouldn't want mine to call anyone else 'mum' either, to be fair. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This might be a slightly tongue in cheek way of looking at it, but dating a woman who already had a child would not put me off at all. Depending on the age of the child most of the sleepless nights baby feeds might be finished, so most of the hard work is done LoL.

The child is part of who you are, love you love the family. No I would not make a move on a yummy mummy in case she was in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X in some of my experience it puts guys off! They don't always say right away. They always know what to say to make themselves look good. Or get a shag!

I know what you mean,me personally I always talk about my kids they are the best thing that could happen to anybody don't get me wrong there are some great guys out there who would be more than happy to get involved (like you) I personally wouldn't want mine to call anyone else dad though.

I wouldn't want mine to call anyone else 'mum' either, to be fair. "

I suppose there is different _ircumstances for each person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This might be a slightly tongue in cheek way of looking at it, but dating a woman who already had a child would not put me off at all. Depending on the age of the child most of the sleepless nights baby feeds might be finished, so most of the hard work is done LoL.

The child is part of who you are, love you love the family. No I would not make a move on a yummy mummy in case she was in a relationship."
I always thought when my child was young young no one would be interested because of the age, but I'm finding my child being 15 puts guys off too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This might be a slightly tongue in cheek way of looking at it, but dating a woman who already had a child would not put me off at all. Depending on the age of the child most of the sleepless nights baby feeds might be finished, so most of the hard work is done LoL.

The child is part of who you are, love you love the family. No I would not make a move on a yummy mummy in case she was in a relationship. I always thought when my child was young young no one would be interested because of the age, but I'm finding my child being 15 puts guys off too. "

Maybe trying to win round a teenager is hard work tho, my mum got a new partner when I was 18 and my sister was 14 and she gave him a hard time but I stuck it out now him and my sister are really close

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This might be a slightly tongue in cheek way of looking at it, but dating a woman who already had a child would not put me off at all. Depending on the age of the child most of the sleepless nights baby feeds might be finished, so most of the hard work is done LoL.

The child is part of who you are, love you love the family. No I would not make a move on a yummy mummy in case she was in a relationship. I always thought when my child was young young no one would be interested because of the age, but I'm finding my child being 15 puts guys off too.

Maybe trying to win round a teenager is hard work tho, my mum got a new partner when I was 18 and my sister was 14 and she gave him a hard time but I stuck it out now him and my sister are really close"
he would never cause problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This might be a slightly tongue in cheek way of looking at it, but dating a woman who already had a child would not put me off at all. Depending on the age of the child most of the sleepless nights baby feeds might be finished, so most of the hard work is done LoL.

The child is part of who you are, love you love the family. No I would not make a move on a yummy mummy in case she was in a relationship. I always thought when my child was young young no one would be interested because of the age, but I'm finding my child being 15 puts guys off too.

Maybe trying to win round a teenager is hard work tho, my mum got a new partner when I was 18 and my sister was 14 and she gave him a hard time but I stuck it out now him and my sister are really close he would never cause problems "

Who would never cause problems??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This might be a slightly tongue in cheek way of looking at it, but dating a woman who already had a child would not put me off at all. Depending on the age of the child most of the sleepless nights baby feeds might be finished, so most of the hard work is done LoL.

The child is part of who you are, love you love the family. No I would not make a move on a yummy mummy in case she was in a relationship. I always thought when my child was young young no one would be interested because of the age, but I'm finding my child being 15 puts guys off too.

Maybe trying to win round a teenager is hard work tho, my mum got a new partner when I was 18 and my sister was 14 and she gave him a hard time but I stuck it out now him and my sister are really close he would never cause problems

Who would never cause problems??"
my teenager

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By *ircumMan
over a year ago

Eastham Wirral


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X"

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By *ircumMan
over a year ago

Eastham Wirral

If I didn't have kids no but got my own kids 2 worry about

And do people make moved in the street ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This might be a slightly tongue in cheek way of looking at it, but dating a woman who already had a child would not put me off at all. Depending on the age of the child most of the sleepless nights baby feeds might be finished, so most of the hard work is done LoL.

The child is part of who you are, love you love the family. No I would not make a move on a yummy mummy in case she was in a relationship. I always thought when my child was young young no one would be interested because of the age, but I'm finding my child being 15 puts guys off too.

Maybe trying to win round a teenager is hard work tho, my mum got a new partner when I was 18 and my sister was 14 and she gave him a hard time but I stuck it out now him and my sister are really close he would never cause problems

Who would never cause problems?? my teenager"

If having a teenager puts him off then he's not right for u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This might be a slightly tongue in cheek way of looking at it, but dating a woman who already had a child would not put me off at all. Depending on the age of the child most of the sleepless nights baby feeds might be finished, so most of the hard work is done LoL.

The child is part of who you are, love you love the family. No I would not make a move on a yummy mummy in case she was in a relationship. I always thought when my child was young young no one would be interested because of the age, but I'm finding my child being 15 puts guys off too.

Maybe trying to win round a teenager is hard work tho, my mum got a new partner when I was 18 and my sister was 14 and she gave him a hard time but I stuck it out now him and my sister are really close he would never cause problems

Who would never cause problems?? my teenager

If having a teenager puts him off then he's not right for u "
for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X"

Doesn't bother me in the slightest. I'm a single father of three, you can't imagine how difficult it can be in my position to find the right person.

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By *uttyjonnMan
over a year ago

SEA

for me no and no

but words are very easy - it depends on the lady and siblings - its takes hard work and commitment - but can be well worth the effort - but it can be tough. Guys have to understand you can become a 2nd class citizen

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By *ussexLukeMan
over a year ago

Newhaven

Have dated a couple of single mums, even lived with one and treated her beautiful little girl like she was one of my own.

When we split it was heart breaking because I lost not just a partner but a family.

But it wouldn't pit me off dating a single mum again.

It's about the person and your connection, not whether they have children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have dated a couple of single mums, even lived with one and treated her beautiful little girl like she was one of my own.

When we split it was heart breaking because I lost not just a partner but a family.

But it wouldn't pit me off dating a single mum again.

It's about the person and your connection, not whether they have children. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thy come as a package take the woman u take the kids on

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X"

My OH had 2 sons when we met never put me off. Also I have had relationships with women in past who had kids. Not off putting infact shows they are likely to be balanced and caring ppl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X

My OH had 2 sons when we met never put me off. Also I have had relationships with women in past who had kids. Not off putting infact shows they are likely to be balanced and caring ppl x"
I've come across some very unbalanced and uncaring single mums.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield


"I had a 5 year relationship with a woman with a kid he now calls me dad and I feel proud to call him my son,we had a boy of our own 2 and I take them both when I see them, when anybody asks me if I have kids I delay say I've got 2! "

Well done mate I'm the same with OH youngest he is my boy and always will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It thusly depends thusly on thusly whatever thusly makes thusly me thusly look thusly more thusly intelligent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a 5 year relationship with a woman with a kid he now calls me dad and I feel proud to call him my son,we had a boy of our own 2 and I take them both when I see them, when anybody asks me if I have kids I delay say I've got 2!

Well done mate I'm the same with OH youngest he is my boy and always will be"

Cheers m8

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By *ornyandwellhungMan
over a year ago

belfast


"not really...but I'd like her to have one with me...if we got that serious

That's another thing I suppose. A guy around the same age with no kids will maybe want one whereas I'm done and def 100% don't want another "

How about just one more? Go on, you will, you will, you will.

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By *ornyandwellhungMan
over a year ago

belfast


"not really...but I'd like her to have one with me...if we got that serious

That's another thing I suppose. A guy around the same age with no kids will maybe want one whereas I'm done and def 100% don't want another "

How about just one more? Go on, you will, you will, you will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to a child being such a big part of a persons life id prefer to meet him/her sooner rather than later so i can grasp the whole family picture.

Could fall for a man easily but the reality is it wouldnt be just him in the long term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no.

I used to see a woman who had a toddler so it didn't put me off.

Would I approach a woman with a child? No. I'd assume she was still with the father. No reason to think otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no an no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess the only thing that would phase me is when you introduced each other to your respective nippers.

I reckon I'd probably have more in common with a woman who had children anyway.

Going off topic slightly that's a mighty fine pair of thighs you've got there "

Mmmm I have to agree with you there.

Very nice indeed.

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes and no.

I used to see a woman who had a toddler so it didn't put me off.

Would I approach a woman with a child? No. I'd assume she was still with the father. No reason to think otherwise. "

I see all the mums when I take the wee man to the soft play and I always wonder if they are single! I try and get my boy to play near them too lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X"

In this day and age it would be a factor that would put many off I certainly wouldn't actively seek someone with young children and yes I would assume and not make a move.

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over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X in some of my experience it puts guys off! They don't always say right away. They always know what to say to make themselves look good. Or get a shag!

Haha I'm well clued up with bullshitters now "

Haha loved this your games up to those who bs to get sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess the only thing that would phase me is when you introduced each other to your respective nippers.

I reckon I'd probably have more in common with a woman who had children anyway. "

This is so true i have met with someone who also has kids so fully understands when i cant get out but your right if you have kids you do have so much more in common whereas ones that dont just assume you will let them in your house even with your kids in the house which is a big no no im constantly asked by some men to let them in anyway so if they dont listen they get blocked simples x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X"

Pretty much a deal breaker. I'm a shit boyfriend and while I'm willing to put an adult in that situation, a child wouldn't/couldn't understand that I'm likely to be a future ex

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"If I didn't have kids no but got my own kids 2 worry about

And do people make moved in the street ha"

I didn't mean in the street, I meant in a pub or whatever but they might of seen you previously in town with your little one so know you have kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't affect nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum was widowed at a young age. I'm very grateful that my step father was never put off by the fact she had two ,nearly teenagers, when they met. He treated us like his own daughters and although they were both young enough to have had another child together, they didn't. They had one of the happiest marriages I've ever seen.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I'm obviously not a single guy but am going to answer anyway, because I'm like that!

A man having a child, whether he has full custody or not, wouldn't put me off dating him.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

No it wouldnt put me of they would be part of the package,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a single mum when I got with a guy and my daughter was 3.

Didnt bother him we been married 5 years and my daughter is 14 and we have to other children

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Having brought up someone elses kid for 12 yrs with little or no reward emotionally I am very very very reluctant to do it again.

If I met a lady who was on the swme wavelength parentally then maybe but they are not common. But once you have had 1000 'shes my kid' or 'you are not my dad' altercations, it gets you punch d*unk.

As it happens I met and fell for one recently but 3 kids under 12 was just too much for me. Selfish but I know I have reached a wall on this.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

three grown up kidscof my own .. and a grandad .. but not put off meeting a single mum .. its just the way life is now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a single dad so I can relate with the hard work part. Some woman don't like men with kids I have mine full time and work so finding time to meet is hard work hence this site. The other subject if someone walked past I liked the look off yeah I would stop and talk what's the worse could happen xxx

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over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X"

id think the opposite and assume there was a good chance she was now single and wouldnt stop me making a move as my ex wife already had 2kids but if anything it was me who was flattered to have a really attractive woman, 7 years younger than me and wanted to share her lovely little family with me...which is now a family with four kids and mum is happy in her new r/ship.

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over a year ago


"My mum was widowed at a young age. I'm very grateful that my step father was never put off by the fact she had two ,nearly teenagers, when they met. He treated us like his own daughters and although they were both young enough to have had another child together, they didn't. They had one of the happiest marriages I've ever seen. "

This is nice to hear x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not have any dramas walking up to someone and starting a conversation xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have issues being a single mum finding any time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X in some of my experience it puts guys off! They don't always say right away. They always know what to say to make themselves look good. Or get a shag!

I know what you mean,me personally I always talk about my kids they are the best thing that could happen to anybody don't get me wrong there are some great guys out there who would be more than happy to get involved (like you) I personally wouldn't want mine to call anyone else dad though.

I wouldn't want mine to call anyone else 'mum' either, to be fair. "

Mine are adults now but I wouldn't want this either on both counts

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Single moms need loveing to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No a woman having a child would not put me off but I would weigh up the situation for a lot longer before starting one.

I would not try and pick up a woman that had kids with her

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

I didn't mean Chatting her up if she was with her kids, I meant if you recognised her from maybe the shops or out and about as having a kid but then saw her on a night out with friends etc

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over a year ago


"I didn't mean Chatting her up if she was with her kids, I meant if you recognised her from maybe the shops or out and about as having a kid but then saw her on a night out with friends etc "

I have done with people I've recognised from POF and Tinder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having brought up someone elses kid for 12 yrs with little or no reward emotionally I am very very very reluctant to do it again.

If I met a lady who was on the swme wavelength parentally then maybe but they are not common. But once you have had 1000 'shes my kid' or 'you are not my dad' altercations, it gets you punch d*unk.

As it happens I met and fell for one recently but 3 kids under 12 was just too much for me. Selfish but I know I have reached a wall on this. "
having things said like to me would grate on me eventually too! You're not alone

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over a year ago


"I didn't mean Chatting her up if she was with her kids, I meant if you recognised her from maybe the shops or out and about as having a kid but then saw her on a night out with friends etc "

id be thinking i hope she has an overnight babysitter??? just in case she likes the idea of being approached by me and now wants to see my record collection...which is in my bedroom

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"Having brought up someone elses kid for 12 yrs with little or no reward emotionally I am very very very reluctant to do it again.

If I met a lady who was on the swme wavelength parentally then maybe but they are not common. But once you have had 1000 'shes my kid' or 'you are not my dad' altercations, it gets you punch d*unk.

As it happens I met and fell for one recently but 3 kids under 12 was just too much for me. Selfish but I know I have reached a wall on this. having things said like to me would grate on me eventually too! You're not alone "

Thank you. In the end I was so ostracised in my own homethat now, 20 mths on I do not miss them one bit.

If people ask why I am not looking to settle down I just say 'didnt like it'. Massive understatement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having brought up someone elses kid for 12 yrs with little or no reward emotionally I am very very very reluctant to do it again.

If I met a lady who was on the swme wavelength parentally then maybe but they are not common. But once you have had 1000 'shes my kid' or 'you are not my dad' altercations, it gets you punch d*unk.

As it happens I met and fell for one recently but 3 kids under 12 was just too much for me. Selfish but I know I have reached a wall on this. having things said like to me would grate on me eventually too! You're not alone

Thank you. In the end I was so ostracised in my own homethat now, 20 mths on I do not miss them one bit.

If people ask why I am not looking to settle down I just say 'didnt like it'. Massive understatement. "

well i must be really lucky cos i never once had the "youre not my dad" moan and after 6 years divorced the eldest lad 23 still calls now and then and still calls me dad!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X"

No not at all I brought another mans child up from the age of 1 . I consider her just as much a daughter as my biological ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all you single guys.

If you were looking for a relationship would the fact that someone had a young child put you off??

Also if you saw a woman out and about that you thought looked nice and knew she had a kid would you assume she was in a relationship and therefore not make a move?? X"

Me jason does not date or would ever date a woman with kids who are not grown up , I spent 15 years bringing my son up , I have done my bit in keeping the population going

I like my freedom , to stay away from home, go on holiday etc . I want to enjoy my life. If I want to take kids out I can do the grand kids

Most importantly I only have a two seater car /van and motorcycle

It's my lifestyle choice , just as others won't date smokers, marrieds etc etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think it dose put men off , I am very protective of my children and don't want them thinking my has yet another new boyfriend , my last partner was of 5 mths and let him meet my children a few timea , days out ect and out of the blue told me he can't handle the children but he dose like me a lot, I was left heart broken and the children asking when they will see him again , I put it down to the care free life and getting scared , I may bewrong , has put me off ffuture partners

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over a year ago


"I didn't mean Chatting her up if she was with her kids, I meant if you recognised her from maybe the shops or out and about as having a kid but then saw her on a night out with friends etc "

No way , see my previous post .

Would be friendly etc , but she will not get a go on me

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over a year ago


"I didn't mean Chatting her up if she was with her kids, I meant if you recognised her from maybe the shops or out and about as having a kid but then saw her on a night out with friends etc "

I misread the original post depends on the situation and how pissed I was

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